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that wagons getting roomy - a TTC and waiting TTC thread

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nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 13/05/2008 20:06

ha ha no names mentioned this time

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kayzisexpecting · 21/05/2008 07:40

Take care and look after yourself. Remember we are here for you if you need us. We don't mind 'listening' to you, it's what we are here for.

tinkstryingtochill · 21/05/2008 08:18

take care nat

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nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 21/05/2008 08:27

take care NJ, we are all here for you xx

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EsmeWeatherwax · 21/05/2008 09:19

Take care NJ, have been following since last night, and thinking of you overnight.

Kays, glad ds is ok, lol, totally agree with NJ about the raisins, frequently find them whole in dd's nappy. Yuck.

Bb fingers very crossed for you!

glaskham · 21/05/2008 09:40

take care NJ, we're here for you. xxx

NatalieJane · 21/05/2008 10:14

C&P'd from the other thread:

Rang the EPU, they won't see me without a doctors referral, didn't think I'd get a GP appointment, but DH managed it, so going to the doc's at 10.50, if he refuses to send me to EPU or whatever, I am just going to go to A&E.

Why does it have to be so fucking hard?

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nobodyputsBBinthecorner · 21/05/2008 10:49

oh NJ u dont deserve this shit, its an atrocious way to treat someone who is suffering, My family planning /EPU wouldnt do that, its disgraceful x

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Squack · 21/05/2008 10:54

Just go to A&E NJ, that's what i would do.

I hope it not the worst when they see you. Hopefully they'll scan you and everything will be okay.

Good luck and we'll all be thinking of you today x

Squack · 21/05/2008 10:55

Glad ds is ok Kayz.

Mine loves raisins but doesn't seem to digest them either. His poo stinks after eating them too.

EsmeWeatherwax · 21/05/2008 11:09

for you NJ, what an awful way to treat you. I would go to A&E too, bypass doc completely.

NatalieJane · 21/05/2008 11:53

Update on other thread...

kayzisexpecting · 21/05/2008 13:25

Hi,

Sorry Nat. I hope that your A&E is more helpful. Ours wont scan you they just tell you to come back tomorrow morning to go to EPU.

Had a bad day at work. It was really busy and I have tummy ache. Plus we have no food in that I want to eat.

happynappies · 21/05/2008 13:50

Just logged in for first time today and am so sad to see what is happening NJ. I hope against hope that everything is alright - thinking of you

calsworld · 21/05/2008 14:50

NJ - left a message for you over on the other thread, needless to say I'm thinking of you - DH sens his best wishes too.

DS has gone back to nursery today! All his spots (not that there were many) have scabbed over. Had to have him inspected by the nursery nurse when he got there this morning and she said 'is that it?' in a very shocked tone! My sentiments exactly!

I came home and got in bed (about 8.30) and have been asleep until just 20 minutes ago! I knew I was tired but didn't realise quite how much! Throat is still very sore and swallowing is painful but I have to go into work tomorrow. I've got next week booked off on holiday and there's stuff that needs doing before then.

To be honest, I'll probably end up working over my holiday anyway as there's just so much needs doing and only me to do it.

On another matter entirely, I'm starting to feel optimistic about TTC again, I was really feeling like I must be doing something 'wrong' in terms of timing of GOF's etc - but we're GOFing every night from around CD11 to CD20, I'm swamped in the stuff!

So I guess its just case of keeping trying till one of the little blighters gets through eh? CD9 today so guess I need to smooth things over with DH a bit if we're going to be in with a chance this month. Have been a bit grumpy (understandable I feel ) having been cooped up for 6 days with supposedly infectious DS!

Playingthewaitinggame · 21/05/2008 15:57

Afternoon all,

Been busy today but have been lurking a bit in hope of news from Nat, I'm hope she's getting seen!

Cosmos, at your boss! I hate bosses that abuse power and make everyone feel like shit. I used to have a physco boss from hell, she just didnt like me (TBH I think she felt threatened) and made my life hell. I used to enjoy the job but hate going to work becuase of her. I had had enough, I had only been there 4 months and I just couldn't take her anymore so decided to quit. I handed my notice in but she and the MD (who was nice) talked me out of going, saying how good I was at my job etc etc and foolishly I agreed not to quit. 8 days later they sacked me for not fitting into the team . Really upset me at the time, why the hell they talked me out of quitting only to fire me the next week I just can't get my head round. I think they were afraid I would take them to an employment tribunal or something, so my making me stay and then firing me for something unrelated I had no case against them. TBH, I was better off without them and now work somewhere with a lovely team where my boss loves me, so it was there loss not mine!

Cal - keep the optomism up, we need a bit of that at the moment on this thread!

Hi everyone else

Playingthewaitinggame · 21/05/2008 15:58

Sorry, tons of typos in that post.

calsworld · 21/05/2008 16:07

Hi playing, at all your bosses, what a load of wankers idiots!

When I left uni I went through a number of jobs working for idiots and started to think that it was me and I must be unmanageable...but have been in current job for eight years (and been through four managers in that time ) and know now that it wasn't me, it was definitly them. Amazing how shit idiots rise to the top isn't it!

I'm too emotional for my own good at work, at least I certainly have been in the past, and thats held me back a bit. But have also been put in really stressful roles, apparently cos I do a good job but I hate the pressure it puts on me. Especially when I see colleagues getting it easy and they're on the same as me, if not more.

GRRRR work - it just gets in the way of life!!

rant over

Playingthewaitinggame · 21/05/2008 16:15

Cal - everyone needs a work rant sometimes, its what keeps us sane . I know what you mean about starting to doubt yourself though, I did wonder whether I was just shit at my last job. It was a big step up for me in the fast paced world of promotional marketing, but I think to be honest that type of work just attracks manipulative sods. I've been here 2 years now and my boss thinks the sun shines out of my arse most of the time. So it obviously wasnt me!

Playingthewaitinggame · 21/05/2008 16:16

Still, I dont think you ever get over the shame of being fired, even if you know it was nothing to do with you!

lardylumps · 21/05/2008 16:37

afternoon everyone. NJ I have been thinking and praying for you all night and all day. I hope that A&E gave helped today. Remember we are all here for you when you feel ready. I hope that all is well and that it has been a false alarm.

Much love to you xxxxxxx

Cosmogirl · 21/05/2008 16:38

Hi ladies,

Good to hear it isn't just me re: evil boss.....He was such an arse and then had the cheek to tell a colleague he is not used to managing 'young girls'.....! Sexist and ageist all in one go - good work! It is just shocking how people like him remain employed. I'm sure it is just managers covering for each other. Is it so much to ask to be talked to like you aren't a piece of dirt?

Anyway, really bad week at work - if it keeps going like this I think I might say to hell with waiting until Oct/Nov.....Only sticking point is we wanted to be debt free apart from our rather hefty mortgage before trying and we are still are a few months off that.....Should I let that stop us?.....

lardylumps · 21/05/2008 16:54

No dont let that stop you cosmo, things work out ok. Dont forget you will still be working when pg up to 8 months and you may not be lucky first time.

I have a shitty boss as well and what makes it worse is I used to be his boss before I had my baby... so I think he tries to piss me off on purpose iykwim.

Playingthewaitinggame · 21/05/2008 16:57

Ah Cosmo that is the question of the moment. Its all about the debt isnt it. We are not going to be debt free (think it might take a while for that one) but we will be debt reduced enough, which is the key for me. We need to be able to comfortably afford for me to "earn" £100 a week through mat leave and after when I go back to work part time. I do not want to go back full time. I am also aware that that if I am really ill during pg and have a lot of time off sick/need to go on mat leave earlier than planned I need a contingency to cover that. It all comes down to money doesnt it. The other part of me though thinks "you'll never have enough money so go for it", "DH is going to get a payrise in Nov" and "its not going to happen straight away anyhow, so lets just do it". I'm still sticking to my guns about sept though, although we are getting slightly more careless now!

Cosmogirl · 21/05/2008 17:09

Thanks for your comments LL and Playing - really helps to get other people's perspective. The debt is fairly small and payment is manageable - should take six months or so if we are really disciplined. Just thought that in an ideal world we could be clear of it before we start a family.

I think that I definitely feel more mentally ready now than I ever have. Maybe one day I'll just know the time is right. And you are quite right LL, it could take months. Odd how in my head, we start trying in Oct/Nov and bang I'm pregnant. Maybe it should be a case of, when do you want to conceive? Well, start trying a couple of months before...

Playingthewaitinggame · 21/05/2008 17:15

I think you're right. I am working on, the earliest we can possibly afford it if the worst best should happen, but realising that it will probably take longer than that.