November thread 🤞🏼🩷

[Emiily887]

Hey ladies🩷

New thread for those wanting to come over for hopefully a lucky November!!

CD 5 today, af seems to be tailing off now. How is everyone doing?

Thank you!

I'm trying to remind myself that these things can take time. I'm approaching 32 at the end of the year and can't help but feel time is running out. I also can't speak to anyone irl as feels like everyone is getting pregnant and I'm not. It turns me into a jealous person and I don't want to be!

Easier said than done, but this month I'm going to try and get on with life while just happening to ttc!

Anyway, thank you for being so welcoming

@Hopeful202592 I’m also 32, that has crossed my mind sometimes but we have plenty of time still.☺️ So many women having babies later into their 30s and I know 3 people who have had a baby at 40. My dh said to me we have options if nature mucks us around.
and i completely get it about how you feel about everyone else being pregnant. It’s a lot. And totally ok to protect yourself from that. Your feelings are valid. I feel exactly the same. My friends are still my friends but they won’t fully be able to empathise about the situation I’m in so that’s why I joined this and met these lovely ladies.

@LuxyLocket

Exactly. That's good advice from your DH. We're trying to do the same. We're taking it as a good sign we did conceive on month two (even of it ended in CP) the reality is, it can take some time. Hubby and I spent the morning doing a joint exercise and going to spend the month getting healthy and enjoying each other's company. I love this time of year too, so looking forward to build up to Christmas and catching up with friends.

How long have you been trying if you don't mind me asking?

@Hopeful202592 it sounds like you’re doing all the right things and agreed this is a lovely time of year all the festivities. So I am very similar to you. We got married in the spring so started just ‘not preventing’ then couldn’t believe it that first cycle we got pregnant. Sadly that pregnancy ended in a mc. But the silver lining is, I try to tell myself the same as you, that we did conceive, so that’s positive and that we are compatible.
this time it hasn’t happened right away, this is our 3rd cycle ttc. But in the grand scheme of things I know that’s not very long at all. So yeah. I guess, three months of properly trying?
how about you?

@LuxyLocket think this time of the year is so hard. Pumpkin photos, halloween costumes, the lead up to Christmas. I just feel overwhelmed with reminders of what we havent got. 🥲

Like you've just said it's comforting that we've got each other to share our journeys with and support each other.

I'm now CD41 🤨 no sign of AF.
I've had a headache since yesterday. Feel really off.

I'm getting some bloods taken this month - hoping they give me some answers and then perhaps I can focus on the problem rather than just guessing what's wrong. Probably come back fine and then I'll have no answers 🙈

@LuxyLocket congratulations on your wedding! We got married in summer 2023. Our timeline is very similar to yours. We stopped using protection in February but for various reasons didn't really start trying properly until April . I got pregnant in may but ended about a week after positive test. Since then we've actively tried but feel like I keep missing the day of ovulation. I haven't tracked as worried about making it too medical. I also managed to start the month eating healthily and then slope off. I'm actually going to start meal prepping and planning on a Sunday and think the meal prep is a time to be quite mindful and realx (I say from my sofa in trackies!!). I have regular and pain free periods, so taking that as a good sign.

@EagerBiscuit I understand what you mean about the reminders. I cant open instagram or FB without them. I'm trying to still enjoy the season and maybe do thongs I wouldn't be able to do in a year or sons time with a baby. It sounds like you're having a rotten time with AF. I hope you get some answers soon.

@EagerBiscuit thats very true actually. I’ve come off of socials for a bit so I don’t have to see all that. I already know that if we aren’t pregnant by Xmas I’m going to feel sad.
but the festivities will hopefully be a distraction. The constant reminder when friends all have babies is so hard. They aren’t doing anything wrong but I don’t think they entirely understand how it can feel.
Oof that’s a long cycle you must be so fed up lovely 🩷hugs.
I hope the bloods can either give some answers but if they don’t and all is clear, then maybe it’s the re assurance you need that it’ll happen. I know it’s hard though. We’re going to have a fertility mot if we get to 6 months with nothing happening.
@Hopeful202592 thank you! And congrats on your wedding too. I do have to keep reminding myself that we are newly weds and this should be a happy time as well haha it can be sad seeing what others are up to but dh and I trying to have lots of quality time together and things we couldn’t do with a baby, like go to a spa hotel.
eating well is all part of it so it’s really good you’re doing that. I know what you mean about worrying about missing ovulation. I started OPK last cycle and yes I guess it can feel a bit like ‘right let’s go’ but I know we had it spot on. It’s different for everyone isn’t it. Wishing you so much luck on your journey and baby dust for this cycle!

@Hopeful202592 @LuxyLocket

Feeling like there's no escape. Maybe a social media detox is needed. Last week I felt really rubbish, this week in a much better head space. Like this is my journey. Its not all rainbows and butterflies even if it appears that way for others.

I seen this quote..

"I am happy for you
I really am
But I'm sad for me
really sad
both can be true at once"

And it reminded me that mine/our feelings are really valid. One day I'm sure we'll get our turn for the happiness we seek. 💓

Feeling better just speaking to yous 🥰

@EagerBiscuit @LuxyLocket

I always have a bit of a mourning period when AF arrives but then feel pretty good afterwards. I've also started looking at manifesting, which makes me feel a bit kooky, but I think some positive thinking can't be a bad thing. (I know there's more to it than that!)

I've realised for the last two years with house move, wedding, Job move and family stress I haven't stopped . That's probably not been optimal for conception.

Talking it out really helps. Also, easier said than done but social media is such a lie in so many ways. I work with teenagers and tell them that everyday but don't follow it myself!

Have you guys got anything nice planned for this month?

I'm looking forward to meeting up with my mum and doing a browse of quirky little shops and having lunch. I even treated myself to a diet coke and caffeine yesterday! (trying to limit caffeine at other times!)

@EagerBiscuit That quote is so beautiful and true. I completely agree. This is just part of our story. My midwife said to me ‘try not to think of it as the end but as the beginning of your journey as parents’
It definitely helps to talk and so nice to feel we are not alone in what we feel. I’m glad you’re feeling a bit better thank you for sharing how you feel. 🩷
@Hopeful202592 positive thinking definitely helps although it’s hard at times. I’m also the same as you, cutting down on caffeine, alcohol, etc eating well. But ironically the month we did get pregnant we had both been in a show, not stopped, had eaten fast food all week and I had been living on coffee and adrenaline 😂wasn’t taking any vitamins either. There seems to be no rhyme or reason to it. It’s like rolling a dice and hoping for a 6. I do keep reminding myself it isn’t a given each month and there’s only a 20% ish chance each time still even if you do everything right and are super healthy. So that makes me feel a bit better.
Those sound like lovely plans! This month we’ve got an escape room planned with friends and going to start some early Xmas shopping and wrapping presents as I always enjoy that and makes me feel productive.

@LuxyLocket

It's funny isn't it? So much is down to chance. And yes, the 20% statistic definitely helps put it into perspective.

What kind of show were you in? Sounds like some fun plans!

Hey guys, been using the clear blue fertility monitor this month & it's been saying high since day 6. I felt a niggling on Friday which was CD10 for me and I did a cheap OPK and it was positive. They've been negative since. I usually ovulate around CD15, so wondering if it's possible to ovulate early on a 28 day cycle or if it was a fluke & it's not happened yet. It's all so confusing

Hi everyone!! Hoping I conceived this month, can anyone see a line? 🤞🏼

@Justbloodylovecrisps oh yes! I know you said you’d let us know how you got on! That’s interesting and just goes to show tracking days isn’t always right! I do wonder if it’s possible to ovulate early with 28 d cycle. I’m sure it can fluctuate a couple of days each way. I’m also a 28/29 day cycle and think I’m going to be ovulating a bit earlier this cycle as high fertility on day 11 and I’ve got ewcm already. I’m using clear blue digital opk. Hoping this month is our month! 🤞🤞💕sending you all the dust!

@lilla93 i can just see something on the colour photo! 🤞How many dpo are you?

Evening ladies🩷

Sorry I haven’t been active - the house has been overtaken by a sickness bug and I’m trying to avoid it. Had a day of dealing with sick - lovely!! 🫠

CD 7 for me today so time to start thinking about timings shortly! Going to aim for every other day and start opks CD 11. Hoping I ovulate earlier than last month as that was giving me a lot of anxiety 😱

So many posts on this thread that I’d love to respond to individually but think I’d be here all night. It’s so lovely to see everyone supporting eachother and I’m invested in all of our journeys. Sending love to all, new and old🩷

Hey lovely!! So, from years and years of suffering with endo and tracking opk, I have learnt that you can get a peak but not ovulate and are likely to get a second peak. Keep testing incase this is the case for you 🩷
I don’t have experience with the clear blue monitor though. If it’s the same as the clear blue digital opk then it tracks estrogen too and the flashing is apparently the estrogen rise and the static is when LH rises / hits peak from what I have read xx

If I zoom in I think I can see something very very faint! Fingers crossed it’s the start of a line for you 🩷

Hi @Emiily887 oh absolutely it’s the loveliest thread isnt it 💕🩷nightmare with you sick bug in the household! Hope you can stay clear of that!
yes you’ll be entering ovulation time soon! Really hoping for an earlier ovulation for you again! 🤞🤞I’m feeling very optimistic about this cycle!

It is! I am so so glad all of you ladies joined the first one, I posted on a whim of finding a supportive bunch and got more than I could have imagined. Best thing I did because this journey can be so lonely. Even with wonderful DH’s / OH’s I don’t think they ever fully understand do they, so having a bunch of amazing women who are going through the same thing really is amazing and seeing people get their bfp gives me hope too🥹
Me too!! Last cycle was stressful to say the least!🫠
Glad you’re feeling optimistic about this one! I’m going to get some more vitamins this week, can I ask what you’re taking if you don’t mind? I’ll try anything at this point. Starting to feel very deflated being on cycle 10, especially as I’m nearing the 14 cycles it took last time and I’m really trying to fight the feeling that it’s going to take longer this time round as I need to stay positive😩

@Emiily887 I completely agree I think we’ve got so lucky with this continuous thread. Best decision I made joining yours 💕I wanted to join Mumsnet but wasn’t sure how people would be you know. Everyone is so lovely and supportive. It def can feel lonely at times.
It def gives hope and everyone has a story. You are one of my inspiration of staying on that long journey it took to have your ds.
completely understandable my lovely 10 months is a long time and prob feels like it’s never ending. I think it really needs to be normalised that it can take up to a year or a little over for most couples and they can be perfectly healthy! It’s hard when you hear of people getting pregnant first try.
so I’m taking Proceive women, and I take the omega 3 as well. Dh takes proceive man. Going to stick with it and hope it helps. I also take boots max strength co-q10 as been recommended those by friends.
taking vitamins sounds like a good plan and just makes you feel like you’re doing all you can.
keep positive. I know you will get your third baby. 💕🩵i’m going to stay invested in your journey!

Joining!👋
I'm CD4 today on my 3rd cycle trying for our second. DS was a lucky first month conception so these TTC frustrations are all knew for me! This month I'm going to track BBT, which I haven't done so far.

It’s 01.20 and just into 8dpo. I have been so emotional today and boobs on and off achey. I don’t know what made me do it but I have had lots of mucus discharge and did a OPK which was very nearly positive. Panicked me and thought I might be ovulating and that I hadn’t previously. But temps have remained high after ovulation. I am unable to BD either. The discharge was a thicker darker in colour yellowy stretchy. No idea what’s going on but Tbh I think it may be AF symptoms but it’s a wait and see situation which is driving me insane. I woke up dreaming and thought my room was on fire ! Jumped out of bed and now can’t go back to sleep. Body is playing tricks on me xxx

Morning ladies,Feeling like a prize idiot this morning 😥Unknowingly made the mistake of symptom spotting big time and convinced myself I was definitely pregnant as all the signs of previous pregnancies and just felt it (I'm normally so certain when it's worked and just feel different when I am)...BFN this morning on an early response (superdrug own brand)...not even a squinter!12DPO and AF due today, feel like I should have just waited another day until she reared her ugly head.Feeling so defeated and sad and then stupid and guilty for feeling this way as it's only our first proper cycle TTC #3 and some of you lovely ladies have been on this journey so much longer.I'll be sticking around as will be trying again later this month it would seem xx

100% agree! Oh bless you, that’s such a lovely thing to say🩷 I do think it helps
to know it can take a while for a lot of couples and I’m always happy to share my story if it helps others. You will get there and we’re all in this journey together, whatever stage we may be at 🥰
Thank you! I’m taking proceive so think I’ll get the other two this week! 🫶🏼
How are you today? X