TTC after loss part 5

[Ella31]

Just continuing our old thread. I've added anyone who has asked to stay on here. As always, anyone who is trying after a loss is welcome to join and those who have been lucky since are welcome to encourage those who are still waiting for their rainbow (if you want to stay of course )

Also for the next thread, I'm going to let someone else take over creating the new one if people don't mind. I've a lot on at the moment with tests and I'm back to work in the next few weeks after my bereavement leave with my boys. So if anyone would like to take the mantle, feel free.

Im 2dpo today and have another ultrasound on Wednesday to see if follicle has burst followed by pdg blood test.

@Onthedouble123
@DonnaWhat
@moosey89
@Bellebg
@Lovedatforme
@Ncl31
@PearlCat
@LucyCL
@CadoAvo
@ThelastRolo20
@Figtree11

Oh my god, your poor friend. I'm so sorry. What a horrible world we live in sometimes.

In regards to your cold, some ppl claim it's linked to conceiving. I've fingers crossed for you.

@moosey89 Jeez! I hope you're friend is ok.

@ApplesNest Cautiously saying congratulations to you. Fingers crossed for a sticky bean xxxx

I am yes, manager of the operating department

Tentative congratulations to you and your partner.

i hope you get your BFP on your digital, please let us know.

@moosey89 I've always had a lot of congestion and endless colds in first trimester, you never know! Menthol in a steam face bath helps and is pregnancy friendly, if you are. Hope your friend is ok.
@Applesnest congratulations! So exciting

It might be a BFP digital test confirmed I’m pregnant and FRER test did too. It’s 11 months since we lost our son so maybe I’m feeling bittersweet about it considering his birthday/anniversary is fast approaching. I never thought we’d get here if I’m honest. We TTC earlier this year but was under intense stress, grief and relentless news of other pregnancies after relentless bfn’s. I think stepping away has helped and both DP and I are in a better emotional state, as well as physical.

Thank you @DonnaWhat @Ncl31 @MrsS11 for the early congrats. Maybe I’m being so protective of my emotions by not celebrating yet as I’m still cautiously moving ahead until we get a confirmation through bloods and scan.

I won’t post tests as I know how triggering they can be. Hoping there are more BFP’s to come and sending hugs to all.

@MrsS11 thank you - think it's too early to be a sign of anything unfortunately (started at 4dpo). Just want time to move quicker!

Congratulations @ApplesNest xx

Congratulations @ApplesNest xxx

Congratulations @ApplesNest x

@moosey89 that's crazy about your friend, it sounds like she was very fortunate to be ok. x

Congratulations @ApplesNest! Totally understand your guarded emotions but here's hoping this is a smooth pregnancy for you 💕 xx

Congrats @ApplesNest just logging in now.

Sorry I’ve not been on here a while. Congrats @ApplesNest

How is everyone getting on?
No news from me. Coming up to 6 weeks since last period & no sign of anything.
Coming up to a year since I got pregnant for the first time which makes me feel sad

@Figtree11 8dpo here and not feeling it this month. Just want this cycle to be over so we can try again. Whilst simultaneously being fed up of wishing my life away 🙈

I'm sorry you are having a tricky time. @Figtree11
Memories and dates can be hard. It's ok to be sad. You are allowed to not be glass half full and optimistic all the time. If you need a little time to sit with the feelings that's ok but do reach out for support. Much love 💞

I'm ok. I've started telling a few people about the miscarriage it feels like a positive step. I'm wondering if I ovulated earlier this week as I possibly had some egg white like discharge but not sure what's miscarriage related and what's normal. I hoping that if it was, I get my period quite quickly and we can start again.

I'm feeling a bit of guilt with neglecting friends so I'm trying to use some energy reconnecting with people. One tried to call just I went into my pilates class the other week. I meant to check in with him but I started miscarrying the following day so it went out of my mind. I've been joining some dots together and I think he might have quit his job so I'm trying to get a lunch time call with him later. I need to catch up with another friend who's dad is dying but I think that will be next week now as I'm not sure I have the spoons to cope with that.

@moosey89 i totally get that, I’m always wishing my life away while trying to remind myself I have a lot of other things to be thankful for & that I need to try enjoy life. Easier said than done! Bank holiday weekend though soon, and I’m going away for a few days which will hopefully help

@Superscientist thank you, I feel like on the whole I am having better days than bad days, but it just consumes my mind constantly.
I found talking to people about my MC has helped massively, people are so supportive, and I’ve seen how common it can be. I hope your period arrives soon - every day feels like a week while waiting for it to arrive!

@Figtree11 yup totally understand, I'm exactly the same! This weekend is down time for me (recovering from this cold!). Monday I'm doing a test run for my dad's wedding cake as I'm baking that for his wedding in early September. Then Thurs I'm off to see my best friend. I know I have good things in life too, but currently it's hard to focus on that. Hope you have a lovely time away x

@Figtree11 I am with you. My last proper period was mid June, first one since miscarriage which means I’ve managed one period in the 4 months since my miscarriage. Not good. I’ve just passed my pregnancy anniversary - it’s a bit better out the other side if that’s any comfort. Hope you are doing a little better today.

@moosey89 also wishing my life away - had lots of pregnancy symptoms last ten days but a big fat nothing on any of the 4 tests I did (oops) so I am hoping they were all triggered by progesterone/PMS and I’ll be getting my period soon. Touch wood I am feeling quite calm and accepting about things at the moment, although wishing I could reclaim a bit more headspace from pregnancy thoughts.

@Superscientist glad you are reconnecting with friends but please don’t feel guilty! You have been through a lot. I’ve found it easier to tell people about my miscarriages as time goes on. Hope you have something nice planned in for the weekend

@ApplesNest cautious congratulations! Hope you are doing ok

@moosey89 its hard - the only way I cope is keeping busy. I’m working from home today, but not overly busy so my thoughts are taken over with loss & TTC. I hope you have a nice weekend which will involve sampling some of that cake!

@HerbaceousPerennial i’m sorry that you are in this limbo land too with periods. I hope it isn’t long until it arrives again. The anniversary dates are tough - I was an anxious mess leading up to the due date anniversary. Then was ok. Now I’m thinking about when I first get pregnant. Then a few months after that it will be my second loss due date. It’s just relentless! I’m just tired of it all, just so desperate to be pregnant again

Egg white discharge sounds like ovulation, hopefully AF isn't too far away for you.

I'm hoping your cycle will regulate very soon. I'm sorry it's taking its time though. Nice to see you are heading away soon xx

5dpo here, nothing to report, trying not to wish time away so I can test on Tuesday 😂 got a packed long weekend planned so that should keep my mind off it. My bestie (who lives abroad) will also been home on Tuesday for a family funeral that I'll attend on Thursday. It's a sad reason to see her but I'm looking forward to seeing her and would be nice to have some good news to share 🤞🏼

I also get pangs of sadness too, there's no getting away from it sometimes but I soldier on.

Hi everyone. Unfortunately, I've had my second loss in 7 weeks. Gp phoned. She looked at all the charts, blood results, positive tests that I sent her. She thinks it looks like a low progesterone issue. She was lovely & said she'd put in an urgent referral to gynaecology for their advice. She said that if I fall pregnant then she might be able to issue progesterone under their advice if they ok it. She said they may not see me themselves after 2 losses this year as She thinks the threshold may be 3, but she's going to get back to me on what they say & we'll take it from there x

I'm sorry @EmTTC2
It sounds like your GP is on your side. I hope you get a plan for next time
My epu offer have offered me progesterone after 1 miscarriage so hopefully you can get it after 2

Be gentle with yourself x