TTC after loss part 5

[Ella31]

Just continuing our old thread. I've added anyone who has asked to stay on here. As always, anyone who is trying after a loss is welcome to join and those who have been lucky since are welcome to encourage those who are still waiting for their rainbow (if you want to stay of course )

Also for the next thread, I'm going to let someone else take over creating the new one if people don't mind. I've a lot on at the moment with tests and I'm back to work in the next few weeks after my bereavement leave with my boys. So if anyone would like to take the mantle, feel free.

Im 2dpo today and have another ultrasound on Wednesday to see if follicle has burst followed by pdg blood test.

@Onthedouble123
@DonnaWhat
@moosey89
@Bellebg
@Lovedatforme
@Ncl31
@PearlCat
@LucyCL
@CadoAvo
@ThelastRolo20
@Figtree11

Definitely looks positive. Just take it day by day and if that feels too much hour by hour. Take time for you and your emotional wellbeing too x

@HerbaceousPerennial it's nice to me a fellow researcher. I have worked in pharma before but my role now is with early drug discovery which I really enjoy. We specialise in inflammation and autoimmune condition trying to find more alternatives to biologics for improved quality of life. I like the feeling what I do has a purpose. My PhD was very much had no meaningful purpose to the world outside of the niche area. I'm a chemist.

How are you doing @DonnaWhat?

I'm feeling a bit techy and irritable today. I keep having to find excuses to do things in rooms away from my daughter as she's just pushing buttons but it's not her fault. Lots of deep breaths and counting to 10!

Thank you. Going hour by hour at the moment. Fingers crossed x

@Superscientist Ah, you research in to stuff I take then. I have crohns and on infliximab. I feel surprisingly well thankyou. Time just seems to be going so slow this weekend. Not had anything planned to distract myself 😆😆 oh well roll on work tomorrow

Thank you everyone who’s welcomed me! I’m not very good at keeping up with the thread, sorry! I’ve started bleeding at 8dpo so I think we’re out again this month 😢

Congratulations! Take it day by day and remain calm and positive. 💜

@HerbaceousPerennial I did the exact same thing, I had a wee drink then started overthinking everything. Lol. But we do have to just keep living life though don't we or before we know it we will have missed out on all the lovely things. Hope your little boy has been good?
Hoping definate ovulation is soon for you. I'm going to stop tracking opks and bbt for next cycle x

@EmTTC2 congratulations x

Thank you 🥰

Thank you 🥰

Bleeding from 8 dpo sounds like a short luteal phase. Have you been taking vitamin E and B6 to strengthen it?

@RoseannesMamma when you say bleeding, is it proper blood or less spotting? I only ask because I had implantation from 7dpo.

@EmTTC2 congratulations! I really hope it sticks for you 💕💕 xx

@LucyCL I started Vitamin E this cycle, might need to get some B6. I’m definitely worried about a short luteal phase. I’m just spotting at the moment though (it seemed heavier this morning). I know @DonnaWhat has suggested implantation… it’s bright red and basically the same as I’ve had the last few cycles where I’ve got my hopes up that it was only implantation and then it’s turned into either a CP or just nothing. It’s definitely just spotting at the moment though. I guess it could be but don’t want to get my hopes up!

Also sorry @EmTTC2 that I’ve not offered my congratulations yet. I know you’ve been wary but I’d like to offer gentle congratulations and lots of hope for a sticky baby

@HerbaceousPerennial it’s really hard when you see your other half with babies. I used to imagine what it would be like to see my DP as a dad. Now as soon as the thought enters my mind I have to push it out straight away as it makes me sad that he doesn’t have that, and sad that i can’t watch him experience being a dad

@EmTTC2 lovely news on the positive. I have everything crossed it progresses well

Thank you @DonnaWhat I am living in limbo land at the moment. Not doing the ovulation tests, so just waiting for either a period or a positive test to appear. Whenever either of those may be! CD35 today

@RoseannesMamma I know what you mean about getting hopes up. My cycles had been all over the place too. Last month my luteal phase was short. I started spotting at 9dpo and then period came at 12 dpo. I thought it was the same this month but statyed spotting at 3 dpo, then 7dpo until a bfp at 10dpo. I have everything crossed for you.

@DonnaWhat Oh that sounds hopeful! I had some mystery bleeding at 3-4dpo this cycle too. Maybe I’m more concerned about this bleeding because it’s closer to AF. Thank you, and congratulations to you :)

It could just be hormones but don't rule yourself out until af comes. And if she does rear her ugly head, it gives you a clean slate for the next cycle.

Thank you @DonnaWhat , I think I’m just done with getting my hopes up! But you’re, right, we just never know!

Hi everyone. Tentatively joining as we had stopped TTC after two losses this year at 6 and 8-9 weeks, both MMC and two surgical managements under GA. I’m not sure we will TTC again but have started to wonder now and so here I am. I’m not sure what DH thinks tbh, he is scared of another miscarriage. I’m 38 and he’s almost 47 so we know time is not on our side. We already have a 10 year old. My cycles are irregular. I think I may be mad 😆

Meant to say we had been TTC since April 23 - I gave it a year in my head and had then drawn a line under it…

Hi @CurlyWurly1991 i recognise your name & story from previous threads I’ve been with you on. Welcome, everyone is so supportive, no matter how you decide what your TTC journey looks like

Hello @Figtree11 ah yes I remember you too. I hope you’re doing okay. I feel a bit confused about whether it’s the right thing to try again as we had basically parked the idea. I guess hormones are what is making me want to TTC again. It’s so hard thinking of the babies we lost and not knowing why it didn’t work out. Part of me wonders if we try and then have another miscarriage we would then qualify for further exploration with the nhs, in fact as we have been TTC for a year anyway I guess I might be able to be referred. I actually have GP appt booked in a few weeks to discuss contraception 🤭

It is always good to be positive and hopeful. Also I find it easier to have no expectations. So if AF arrives, I don't get sad. x

@CurlyWurly1991 it’s a really hard decision to make. It would be so much easier if we just knew that the next time we try that it would all work out perfectly!

Hi @CurlyWurly1991 I remember you from another thread too, hope you're doing ok this morning. We are in a similar boat with 2 MMCs with surgical management in just under 12 months. This is cycle 3 of trying again. I did have a 3rd MMC back in 2019 with my ex as well.
Whatever you decide it has to be what's right for you both - there's no generic right or wrong when deciding if you keep going or not.
Just a side note on the 12 months thing - the NHS basically resets the clock every time you have a pregnancy, whether it works out or not, so you have to hope you have a sympathetic doctor who still allows you a referral. But it sounds like the recurrent miscarriage clinic would be more what you would need than the fertility clinic?