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Do you see what I see?

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DoraBella88 · 02/07/2024 06:16

5 days late, had slight blood the day after I was due when wiping then spend last night in tears as had some brown when I wiped.

woke up this morning and decided to test again as no actual period yet.

i did 3 tests 🙈 husband can see them too but says we should just stay calm and relax 😂 we’ve been ttc for over 10yrs so we’re both extremely cautious

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Bellebg · 09/08/2024 19:43

I’m so sorry to hear this @DoraBella88. Take care of yourself over the weekend. I know it’s all consuming so hoping you get through as best you can. Sending lots of love 🤍

MrsKurz · 09/08/2024 19:52

so sorry to hear this. I second what others have said about taking care of yourself the next few days xx

Olika · 09/08/2024 19:56

I am so sorry to hear it wasn't the news you wanted to hear.

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DoraBella88 · 09/08/2024 19:59

Thanks ladies.

ultimately I wanted to know what was going on and now I guess I have my answer. I am so confused as my pregnancy symptoms are much stronger than they were originally. So I was a little shocked when she said they had dropped. Next blood test is on Sunday then I will be having a very large glass of wine!

I just want to thank each and every one of you who have been on this crazy rollercoaster with me. I don’t know what I would of done without you all ❤️

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Incakewetrust · 09/08/2024 20:02

Sending you a massive hug! Xxx

HansBanans · 09/08/2024 20:21

I've been following from the beginning and just wanted to say I'm so sorry you're having such a tough time @DoraBella88 😢 I've got everything crossed for you x

familyissues12345 · 09/08/2024 20:21

Sending hugs x

Pelotonconvert · 09/08/2024 20:29

I’m so so sorry to hear this. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to process and grieve. Xx

Itonlytakesone · 09/08/2024 21:37

@DoraBella88

This is why it's good on here because whether it's good/bad news we are all here to support. Definitely deserve that glass of wine when you feel ready, relax & adjust Smile

2BabyOrNot2Baby · 09/08/2024 21:51

@DoraBella88 I'm so sorry lovely, I promise you you'll get your happy ending. Beautiful things take time, I'm sorry it's taking longer than we'd like though. Be extra kind to yourself and give yourself some grace. Sending love & hugs 💖

MocktailMe · 09/08/2024 23:12

I'm so sorry lovely, I know it's not the news you wanted. Look after yourself this weekend and absolutely a glass of wine and any other treats you fancy Sunday evening 🌸

Enko · 09/08/2024 23:57

Im sorry look after yourself

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DoraBella88 · 10/08/2024 06:44

Thank you ladies. I couldn’t have got through this without you all.

off to work today so that will keep me busy. Then get through tomorrow’s blood test and go from there.

last night was a hard night, lots of tears from both myself and my husband. I hate seeing him cry 😢 but we’re still trying to look at the positives. We are convinced it was a new pregnancy but unfortunately we will probably never know.

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34and3 · 10/08/2024 08:26

When is your period otherwise due @DoraBella88 ? Could it have been a chemical? They are so so common. I'm sure next month (or whenever you retry) will be your time x

Cattery · 10/08/2024 08:57

I’ve been following too and keeping everything crossed for good news. Sending love xx

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DoraBella88 · 10/08/2024 09:10

34and3 · 10/08/2024 08:26

When is your period otherwise due @DoraBella88 ? Could it have been a chemical? They are so so common. I'm sure next month (or whenever you retry) will be your time x

I haven’t had a period since my miscarriage. So if my body returned to normal I would have been due on last Monday / Tuesday. I got 1-2 weeks on the digital last Sunday.

it could of been a chemical. I don’t think we’ll ever know the truth. I’m hoping to have a chat with EPU when I’m there tomorrow as I really feel I need help if I manage to fall pregnant again. My GP has been useless and I’d much rather deal with EPU if they’d have me.

I’ve already said to my husband that I will test again in a week to see if it’s showing negative so at least if we’re in this position again I will be less confused.

the positive I’m clinging on to is hoping this may of pushed my body in to knowing what it should do, as after over 10yrs we’ve never been here before.

im just so so sad 😢

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SirChenjins · 10/08/2024 10:07

Hopefully the EPU will be able to shed some light on what’s happening and give you some answers - it’s the not knowing and the waiting that’s the worst. Im glad this thread has been of some comfort to you - infertility and miscarriages are really awful to deal with as many of us know.

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DoraBella88 · 10/08/2024 10:27

SirChenjins · 10/08/2024 10:07

Hopefully the EPU will be able to shed some light on what’s happening and give you some answers - it’s the not knowing and the waiting that’s the worst. Im glad this thread has been of some comfort to you - infertility and miscarriages are really awful to deal with as many of us know.

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Thank you so much. It’s been a huge comfort to me as has each and every one of you.

I hope I get some answers but I fear we’ll
never know exactly what’s happened. I do feel
if my levels return to normal by themselves then this was a new pregnancy or a chemical.

it’s just so confusing as I was so tired yesterday and my boobs are still sore and swollen. My poor husband was saying the blood test could be wrong ☹️ he has MS and had a blood test done before where they called him back within half an hour as it showed he had no immune system. They repeated it straight away and the levels came back normal. So he’s clinging on to that, whilst I’ve been trying to convince him that it is declining and we’ve got to try again

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Strictlymad · 10/08/2024 13:07

Maybe you should ask for a scan? It might give you some more information? Sending many many hugs xx

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DoraBella88 · 10/08/2024 14:02

@Strictlymad i doubt they would give me a scan as when my first blood test came back it was indicating 2weeks pregnant so there would be nothing to see xx

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Olika · 10/08/2024 14:42

Actually I would ask them about a scan when you go for blood tests. When I MC I had a scan on my first visit (when bleeding) and then 2 more times to ensure all was out.

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DoraBella88 · 10/08/2024 14:58

I’ll have a chat to them when I go in tomorrow.
honestly I’m dreading the appointment now. But again, at least we will know. These last 6 weeks have been exhausting and I’m looking forward to taking a bit of time for myself.

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DoraBella88 · 10/08/2024 16:46

I don’t know why I do it to myself 🤦🏻‍♀️ decided to do an easy at home test just now as the lines have always been faint on them. I’ve accepted this isn’t a pregnancy. I just actually want to see the line go this time so we don’t end up in this situation again.

so this is at 4.30pm….. why is it darker!!!!!
I’ll post the one I’ve just done (first pic) compared to one I did Thursday morning with fmu, baring in mind my levels were dropping when I did Thursdays test.

I know I know, stop torturing myself. I know this isn’t a thing but was actually hoping to see a fainter line….

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2BabyOrNot2Baby · 10/08/2024 16:55

DoraBella88 · 10/08/2024 16:46

I don’t know why I do it to myself 🤦🏻‍♀️ decided to do an easy at home test just now as the lines have always been faint on them. I’ve accepted this isn’t a pregnancy. I just actually want to see the line go this time so we don’t end up in this situation again.

so this is at 4.30pm….. why is it darker!!!!!
I’ll post the one I’ve just done (first pic) compared to one I did Thursday morning with fmu, baring in mind my levels were dropping when I did Thursdays test.

I know I know, stop torturing myself. I know this isn’t a thing but was actually hoping to see a fainter line….

I'm so sorry you're having such a difficult time, I can't even begin to imagine how much this is messing with your head.

I completely understand you wanting to see that fainter line, but just hold out a little bit longer until your next appointment. Hopefully they'll be able to give you some better idea of what is going on and what to expect. I do feel like this is a new pregnancy, so fingers crossed what you said is right and that your body is figuring out what to do. I do feel like it may be a good idea to discuss a scan with them so they can check you over fully, but if they agree to that it may not be for another couple of weeks x

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DoraBella88 · 10/08/2024 17:04

Thank you. I will have a chat with them tomorrow. They were really lovely there so I’m sure they will be ok with my ramblings and concerns.

I wish I’d never done that test. I was convinced it would be a squinter of a line so was super shocked to see it darker.

I’ve thrown it in the bin and forgetting about it!

I need to stop torturing myself 🙈

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