First Cycle TTC after MMC

[rosecbrm]

Hello ladies, I've just started my first cycle since having a MMC with surgical management in May. That was my second pregnancy and second miscarriage, first being in September 2023.

Going to start TTC again but with a much more relaxed approach (try to anyway!). Looking for anyone to share the journey with?

Baby dust to all xxx

@13lucy yeah totally! Feels so frustrating that the odds are so stacked against it, can’t believe I wasted near half my life stressing about birth control and accidentally getting pregnant and now I’m actively trying it either ends in loss or just doesn’t happen, crazy!

Still a little undecided but don’t think I can ditch all the tracking as I’m too much of a control freak 🙈 I have ordered some LH strips for this month as I just want to hopefully see a peak for my own peace of mind. I started BBT last month more as an indicator of pregnancy but have fallen down a bit if a rabbit hole with it and doing it all the time now. I also want to compare the temperature dip with an LH strip. But I totally agree it is very intense!

Im so sorry you have irregular cycles, I can only imagine how hard it is as TTC is stressful enough with regular cycles. And really is a shame if you have to stop running if you enjoy it.

And yes thank you, I’ll see what the test shows. Aww yes I only asked about the clotting as I’ve heard people taking low dose asprin while TTC and pregnant. And asked her if I could take it but she said it was only for specific conditions and didn’t recommend it. That’s really good about the private consult and you’ll have to keep me updated how you get on! I hope they can help and provide some answers. I’ve thought about looking into going private, it’s just sadly so expensive isn’t it so need to save. It really frustrates me we have to wait for 3 before any help from the NHS😓

So sorry you got that faint positive too, the whole miscarriage process is so cruel. Be kind to yourself 💐
I’ve just finished my period and I’m CD 6 today so gearing up to watch out for the signs of my fertile window/ ovulation and shall see x

@rosecbrm

Hey! I’ll be honest I’m a bit up a down with all the ups and downs of TTC, thank you for asking❤️
How are you?
That’s fab you’re getting such strong ovulation signs and so good you feel chilled about it all. Your DTD schedule sounds perfect, fingers crossed this is your cycle ✨
You’ll have to keep us updated x

@Steffi12 I find that so ironic! I remember being scared to death of getting pregnant and I have no idea how people get pregnant by mistake - must be so unlikely!

I'm exactly the same with it, I think it helps you to feel in control and give you the best chance each month, but it is all consuming for sure. I used to wake up so early with anxiety about what my temp would be and it got particularly bad when it would drop when AF started and my hopes for BFP were gone!

I was also wondering whether to take aspirin for the second time round but was told not to. The consultant who did my op said I could next it next time as it's unlikely to cause any harm. I need more of a clear plan though so hope the appointment next week helps - will let you know how it goes.

That's good you're getting into the opportunity window. Do you have regular cycles? Hoping my cycle gets back to normal soon so I'm not in limbo.

I’m feel like I’m waiting for a taxi. Cycle day 12 awaiting ovulation. I ovulate at such a huge variance I have realised looking back. Anywhere for day 12-21. I’ve just noticed with my son I ovulated on day 9 🙈 but that ended successfully so can’t be too bad. Don’t think I’ve ever wanted to be in the two week wait so bad. Defo a LH testing girl here. Gives me rigidity when I need it and something to look back on. Fingers crossed

@13lucy yes I was exactly the same! And totally! I guess we just hear about the accidents and when people get pregnant straight away. When TTC like us I guess we tend not to talk about it so much, which makes me feel so grateful for threads like these to share experiences to feel less alone ❤️ (but absolutely hate we have to go through it)

Yeah definitely gives you back a bit of control. I’m not going to tell my husband if/when I see a peak though as towards the end of last year DTD got very regimented and we seemed to do it less when trying to schedule it around the tests. Also sounds absolutely ridiculous but think after the last few months of seeing negative pregnancy tests I just want to see some sort of positive test🙉

Yeah I use Premom and the fertility friend apps to log my BBT and the fertility friend is always saying there’s too much variation in my times of taking my temp. It’s hard as during the week I have to wake up super early for work but obviously don’t really want to do that on a weekend. Im also not a the best sleeper so do wake during the night. BBT probably isn’t for me but my graph wasn’t too bad last month even without doing it perfectly so shall see. Did think about investing in the arm bands you can get that take it automatically so you don’t have to worry about waking up.
I’m sorry to hear your BBT was causing such anxiety. TTC monitoring is such a catch 22 as it’s so disappointing when you don’t get the answer you want but the thought of having no answers is so difficult too. My temp drop last month was expected as even though I told myself not to, I’d tested with a FRER a few days earlier and was a BFN. I’m okay until the week before AF is due, but I get all the same symptoms of pregnancy that I do before AF and it drives me crazy!!

Ahh that’s interesting! But so difficult to know what to do. I’m so desperate to try something and can’t face the thought of a third loss without trying anything. But with some doctors saying they don’t recommend it I also don’t want to do/take something that may cause an issue. The unknown of it is so hard. But yes 100% please do keep me updated I’m really interested how you get on

Yes I do normally have regular cycles. Mines a bit shorter than the norm and are normally 26days long. When I used the LH strips last year I always seemed to see a peak between CD 11- CD 13 so shall see what the testing says this month. My BBT dropped significantly last month on CD 11. Hope your cycle gets more into a rhythm it’s horrible to be in limbo x

@Nic2908
Ahh! I know what you mean, everyone talks about the TTW (which is hard) but also the waiting and looking out for ovulation is so exhausting too! That is quite a variation for you in ovulation times. Do you use any other monitoring for ovulation other than the LH strips?
Weirdly I think I am looking forward to using the strips again this month, feel like I need a feeling of being a bit more back in control. Hope you ovulate soon x

@Steffi12 I know the feeling lovely, especially after loss it's just all such a rollercoaster of emotions all the time.

What CD are you now? How are you feeling as you approach ovulation?

Sorry I've not been keeping up with this thread too much, I've been trying to keep my mind off TTC and just going with the flow but I hope all of you ladies are ok as can be xxx

@rosecbrm

Aww it really is and sorry you have felt this way too❤️

Im CD 7 today, and a bit confused with my tracking 🙉 I’ve only been monitoring BBT since my last cycle so is all very new. But my temp really dropped this morning, to the same as when I had my pre ovulation dip last month on CD 11. I’ve taken an LH strip and that’s really low so I think maybe just a surge of eoestrogen, I did have a dip CD 8 last month but not as low. I just need to see what the next few days bring but it’s such a minefield 🙉 so I’m feel okay thank you, just a little confused and hate the feeling of maybe missing an opportunity

Aww please don’t apologise! Totally understand TTC is exhausting and it’s good to try to not think about it and go with the flow. Where are you up to in your cycle and how are you feeling? Xxx

@Steffi12 if I'm honest, BBT blows my mind! I wish I could offer some advice but I have no idea about it tbh.
Sounds like maybe your hormones are maybe still trying to regulate do you think?
Hopefully you'll get a definitive answer to ovulation in the next couple of days!
Pre MC what CD did you ovulate?

I'm currently 2dpo I think! Maybe 1? I honestly am not 100% sure, but am currently CD18. Nothing to report really, just a waiting game now I guess! However I would be shocked if I got a BFP this month as we haven't been actively trying as such! X

@rosecbrm aww thank you! I’m very new to it and have only learnt from googling and other threads on here so by no means an expert 🙈 did another LH strip tonight and that’s low too so think I am where I think I am in my cycle if that makes sense 🙈

But yes could be! Shall see what the next few days bring. So before my second MC I used to have the LH surge around CD 11- CD 13 so hopefully I am more back in my rhythm now

And ooh yes into the TTW🙉 hope you are feeling okay about it❤️ I’ve got everything crossed for you! You never know x

@Steffi12 defo that makes sense! Hopefully it won't be long until ovulation for you!

I'm feeling good thank you, what will be will be!
Xx

Day 14 and still not fucking ovulating I swear to gos the month your start trying your periods go awol. It’s like they know!

@Nic2908 oh no sorry to hear that lovely, have you always ovulated on day 14?

I usually ovulate around 15/16 but I think it can vary! I've ovulated on day 19 before!

Hopefully it won't be long for you x

Can I join? I had a medical management for a TFMR on 23rd May so I am nearly 6 weeks post TFMR but only 3 weeks since a negative test. I am still awaiting ovulation or a period ..... Just something to happen. I have had 2 pregnancies and first one resulted in a healthy girl born in 2021. I got pregnant in February with a much wanted baby but discovered at the dating scan that the NT measurement was high which led to to me also finding out that baby only had a single umbilical artery and severe CDH so was unlikely to survive so had to let go off the pregnancy at 14 weeks. Still in the early days of grieving but I am 35 so feel this ticking time bomb and keen to get trying again as I don't know how long it will take 😔

@Mummysparrow so sorry to hear this, what an awful time you've been through.

Hopefully your ovulation/period won't be long now. Sending lots of baby dust xx

How's everyone doing? Roughly 5dpo here and nothing to report 🤣

We have blast off here. I have had positive opk today! Although of course, DH was to tired last night 🤣🤣

@Steffi12 sounds like a good plan - TTC does get really tiring 😂can imagine that the pressure around it can get too much too. lLuckily DH is pretty good at going with it when we need to which is handy with my cycles being so irregular!

I got my first negative pregnancy test following the miscarriage yesterday and positive ovulation test today (CD22) so I think my body pretty much resets once the HCG is out of my system and hoping I'm almost out of the limbo time.

I'm exactly the same with FF and Premom for BBT/tests! I never paid any attention to my cycle before TTC and now I'm a woman possessed haha. I actually now naturally wake up at work day time on the weekend just to take my temp and then go back to bed - it's like it's in the back of my mind even when I'm sleeping! The armbands sound good and I've heard the new apple watch does it too.

I'm going to try my best not to use pregnancy tests unless my period is really late. I also get the same symptoms that I get in pregnancy as I do before my period and I find it really triggering. My mental health tends to go downhill at that point and especially when AF arrives. Must be good to have shorter cycles in the sense that ovulation comes round fairly quickly!

Hope you're doing ok this week?

@Nic2908 looks like we are on similar timeframes! Fairly positive OPK today so I think it will happen soon. It's my first after the miscarriage so not holding out much hope.

@rosecbrm how are you doing? BBT is really interesting as you can see when you ovulate and see how long your folicular and luteal phases are. My cycles have been all over the place so I wanted to track it so I had the information. It's quite anxiety provoking though so wouldn't necessarily recommend!

@Mummysparrow sorry for your loss, it's such a terrible thing to go through. I also get anxiety that time is just slipping away, but I'm sure it will work out for us all.

Hi ladies, not been active on here since I first posted. Have been feeling pretty fed up.
Have my final blood test tomorrow following the partial molar, so I’m hoping it will clear me to be able to TTC again once I get the results next week.

It’s been 9 weeks now since the d&c. Only got to negative 2 weeks ago. No sign of my period which is bothering me.

Hope everyone else is ok. Feeling a little sorry for myself this evening! The due date for my first MC was 2 weeks ago, and just can’t help but think how life would be now had it all worked out. Yet I’m here with 2 miscarriages behind me and just a whole lot of worry

@rosecbrm that's good that you're feeling more chilled. I also feel that way third time round with TTC and also can't believe I'm back in this position. Sometimes it feels like I'm stuck in a loop and my life isn't getting any further forward. Handy with regular cycles that you can time it like that, we tend to DTD every other day leading up to ovulation and then every day once I get a positive OPK.

Hi ladies! Sorry I fell off the radar a little, works been crazy this week and as I’m nearing ovulation the tracking has been intense too 🙈

@Mummysparrow Im so sorry to hear what you’ve been through. Please be kind to yourself and hope you can take as much time as you need💐 x

@13lucy ahh! That’s good DH is pretty good at going with the flow! Mine does put up with a lot but did get tired of my demands by the end of last year 🙈

As crazy as it sounds I’m glad you got that negative so now you can get back to TTC, I remember waiting for my first period after my surgery and for the first time ever I couldn’t wait for it!
Thats good you naturally wake up! I must admit I seem to be getting into more of a routine waking up around the time but still isn’t perfect. Still a bit confused by my BBT as I had a massive dip CD 8. Have had another dip this morning but not as far but my LH is going up. I’m CD 11 which is definitely more my normal. Weirdly I had quite the rise in temperature yesterday but my throat has been a bit sore the past few days so unsure if I’m brewing a cold or something which will really ruin my BBT tracking!
I am also exactly the same the week before AF I also find it really triggering and have an awful week. I’m also going to try to not test but I say that every month so shall see how I get on 🙈
But I am lucky in that sense with the shorter cycles, still feels like forever so can only imagine when you have longer ones!
Also been meaning to ask how did you get on in your appointment? Did you get any answers or a plan going forwards?
Hope your weeks been okay too x

@Figtree11 Im sorry to hear your feeling fed up, TTC and losses definitely take their toll. I hope the blood tests can clear things up for you, and wonder why your period is late, is that something they can give you an answer for as well?
I’m also so sorry about your first due date passing, I also find my dates really difficult. I have 2 friends who had babies around my first due date and I see them now with their babies and just think how I should have a little one with them. I also know someone who’s due around my second due date this year and keep seeing updates on their pregnancy, navigating life after loss is so hard x

@Steffi12 i spoke to the centre who are monitoring the molar & been told its normal that my period is delayed, as with molar it takes hcg longer to leave your system. It’s like I know logically I shouldn’t worry but I just can’t help it. 2 months of living in limbo has taken its toll I think.
I’m sorry you’ve experienced similar with due dates. It’s so difficult. And just so unfair

@Figtree11
Oh right I’m sorry I didn’t realise that with a molar pregnancy. Like you said even though being told it’s normal the waiting and the unknown must be so difficult and being in limbo is horrible.
Ahh thank you, it really is so unfair and I hate so many of us go through it x

@Steffi12 that’s ok, not many people have heard of molar pregnancy before really & what it entails. I definitely didn’t know about it!
I genuinely can’t believe how common miscarriages are since I’ve been through it & then spoken to people about them. I never realised how hard it is to cope with loss

@Figtree11 big hugs to you - the first time the due dates came round for my first 2 losses it was very sad. I've found it gets easier, now I don't remember the specific date, just know what sort of time of year it was. My next one is early January so I'll be dreading new year, and given my history it's likely I won't be pregnant again by then either. Take the day however you need to, I tend to book it off work so I can look after myself and not have to deal with people!x