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TTC #2

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NattyPeer · 21/05/2024 21:16

Currently TTC number 2 and struggling after getting pregnant fairly easily with number 1 (on cycle 3)!
Thought I'd start a thread so we can all support each other. Anyone else on their TTC journey for number 2? I am currently on cycle 7 and have ruled myself out already as negative pregnancy test at 10DPO. Each month I convince myself that I am pregnant! Experienced a chemical at cycle 3 😩

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LemonBitter · 27/06/2024 09:16

Hey @Mummio92 how are you doing? Yeah that could be it - I'm also wondering if I just didn't ovulate at all?

Usually it's CD14 on the dot that I get a peak. I'm on CD 9 today and started testing 2 days ago so let's hope I can catch it this cycle 😬

Mummio92 · 27/06/2024 13:42

@LemonBitter
I’m good thanks, had a great holiday and feeling a bit more refreshed for the ttc journey having not thought about it as much over the past couple of weeks.

From what I understand, it’s much less likely to not ovulate than to just get the timing wrong. If you didn’t ovulate then you’d possibly have a bleed but it’d typically be lighter than shorter than a regular period.

Either way I guess all you can do now is look ahead & hopefully things will get back on track this month. If not, then I’d say temping is probably worth a go

LemonBitter · 01/07/2024 19:37

Hey @Mummio92 sorry totally thought I replied to this!! I think you're right, I must have missed the peak. Nothing yet today and I'm on CD13 so really hoping for something tomorrow. DTD tonight just in case.

Glad you had a good holiday!! It's nice to have a break from thinking about this isn't it. Where in your cycle are you now?

How is everyone else doing?

NattyPeer · 02/07/2024 06:07

@Pandamonium04 is that privately? It is so stressful and sad when all you want to do is give them a sibling 😩

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NattyPeer · 02/07/2024 06:08

@Mummio92 glad to hear you had a wonderful holiday! Nice to get away and not think about things!

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NattyPeer · 02/07/2024 06:09

@LemonBitter i started bleeding last week and have stopped now so according to my app I’m cycle day 6 now! When do you usually ovulate?!

doing ok thanks hun!! How are you?

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Mummio92 · 02/07/2024 08:58

I’m at CD14 today which means I’m probably just coming into the fertile window as I tend to Ov around days 18-20.

@LemonBitter really hope you get that peak soon!

LemonBitter · 02/07/2024 11:21

Aw ok so not long til fertile window @NattyPeer .. I don't do BBT so not 100% sure but apart from last months freaky cycle I usually peak CD14. How about you?

Thanks @Mummio92 ☺️ nothing yet.. are you testing twice a day?

Mummio92 · 02/07/2024 11:34

@LemonBitter you said your peaks are quite quick right? So I guess it’s not unusual for you to have nothing at this point and then a sudden surge tomorrow hopefully

I will start testing twice a day in the next couple of days, at the moment just once as I can tell from cervical position/fluid that I’m not that fertile yet.

Pandamonium04 · 02/07/2024 13:35

@NattyPeer yes privately. We had part one done a few weeks back (bloods, semen analysis) and now waiting for part two (ultrasound, consultation) at the end of next week. At this point I’m so sick of trying I just want to get on treatment…

LemonBitter · 02/07/2024 20:17

@Mummio92 yeah exactly. Unfortunately work is getting in the way of me testing twice a day at the moment so could miss it again but hoping not!

Can you educate me on cervix position?!

Sevillegarden · 02/07/2024 20:18

Hey everyone, just catching up on all the messages since I was last here. Hope you're all ok ❤️

I've been quietly driving myself bananas waiting to ovulate. My cycles are longer now and I'm breastfeeding which doesn't help matters. I'm so glad I used OPKs because I didn't ovulate until today - CD23. This is almost 10 days later than before I had my kid so I completely missed it during the last cycles 🙃 luteal phase is shorter now too, 10/11 days.

I'll be testing around 12th July I think. Anyone else in a similar boat?

Sevillegarden · 02/07/2024 20:33

@LemonBitter I've started tracking cervical position the past two cycles, it has been rather illuminating! When you're fertile, your cervix often feels soft (like your lips) and it's in a high position. This article helped me get to grips with it: https://www.naturalcycles.com/cyclematters/cervix-positions-explained

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Mummio92 · 03/07/2024 09:22

@LemonBitter Im sure if you test before you leave for work and when you get home that will be enough to not miss a surge!

I think Seville and that article have probably covered the cervix stuff but yeah basically as you approach ovulation your cervix gets higher and feels softer (like lips or the inside of your mouth) whereas when you’re not fertile it tends to sit lower and feel firmer (like the tip of your nose).

That, along with cervical fluid becoming more like egg white, are good indicators that you’re getting closer to ovulating/ are fertile.

Once you ovulate, the cervix pretty swiftly goes back to the infertile position of lower and firmer, with no egg white CF. So it helps to confirm ovulation too. (I read this all in the book ‘taking charge of your fertility’).

So as of yesterday evening it was clear from my softer/higher cervix that I’m now in the fertile phase which also lines up with starting to get some ewcm (and the fact that I’m 3-4 days away from predicted ov).

@Sevillegarden I am exactly the same as you, I used to have 28 days cycles (14 day luteal) but since baby, I now ovulate around CD19/20 and have an 11-12 day LP. Until I started monitoring BBT, I was completely missing the timing on ovulation. I thought it’d eventually even out again to a regular 28 days but that hasn’t happened so far (cycle 7ish of trying and 15 months postpartum).
Looking like I’ll ovulate this weekend. I never do pregnancy tests anymore though as I can tell from my temperature around 10dpo that I’m not pregnant and am going to get my period soon. Somehow that always feels less disappointing than seeing a blank test strip

Sevillegarden · 03/07/2024 11:27

@Mummio92 thanks for sharing, it's nice knowing this experience isn't uncommon. I'm 21 months PP and have had 4 cycles since my period returned 7 months ago. Tracking BBT sounds preferable to using OPKs and pregnancy tests for sure. My toddler more often than not wakes in the night and starts the day at different times (although not wildly different) so I've thought that's a bit of a barrier to tracking BBT. I've seen upthread people using smart watches. Something for me to think about in the future if TTC keeps trudging on.

LemonBitter · 04/07/2024 10:03

Thanks @Sevillegarden and @Mummio92 I might add cervix checking to my repertoire next cycle ☺️

How's everyone getting on? On CD15 and no sign of peak yet despite the two strong ones on CD14 on the other two cycles. Seems like it's going the way of last cycle where I can't catch one 😔 if it happens again next cycle I might look at some testing...

Mummio92 · 04/07/2024 10:14

@LemonBitter how frustrating that there’s no peak happening. What CD did you start testing from? And are they seeming to get darker at all?

CD16 here and would expect a peak in the next couple of days so trying to dtd when possible. Have you still been dtd just in case?
Also- do you know if your OPKs are still in date? Should be a date on individual packs or maybe the box. When I first started ttc this time round I was using OPKs from previous baby and they were never getting dark but realised they were out of date, bought some new ones and they were fine.

LemonBitter · 04/07/2024 10:20

Yeah so frustrating @Mummio92 😔 starting to stress me out now! I started testing CD7, wonder if I should try earlier but it seems very early to do that? Here’s what they look like so far… yes deffo in date unfortunately but that was a good idea to check!!

Are you DTD every day up til you expect your peak?

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LemonBitter · 04/07/2024 10:31

Oh and yes DTD CD12 13 and 14 so hoping there's a chance this cycle!! Might struggle many more times with life getting in the way (we have family staying from tonight 😂🥴) xx

Mummio92 · 04/07/2024 11:01

@LemonBitter I agree that before day 7 would seem very early but you’re right, doesn’t look like there’s been anything yet, very confusing!

I can imagine how stressful it is but I guess just try and remember that it’s dtd that gets you pregnant, not a positive OPK & given that you had a period last time this happened, it suggests you are ovulating somewhere around this point in the cycle.

We never manage to do every day this time round, life always gets in the way, but definitely trying to do more than previous cycles as I know that when I got pregnant last time we did do like 5 days in a row!

LemonBitter · 04/07/2024 11:28

@Mummio92 so confusing 🤷🏼‍♀️ yeah that's a really good point thank you ☺️

Hahaha yeah life really doesn't help with conceiving does it 🤦🏼‍♀️

Mummio92 · 08/07/2024 13:36

Hi all, how are you getting on? Looks like I ovulated yesterday - anyone else entering another two week wait?

@LemonBitter did that peak ever show up?

Blue2020 · 08/07/2024 15:27

I’m on 5dpo and it feels like it’s going slow.

Pandamonium04 · 08/07/2024 18:39

@Mummio92 i technically should be ovulating tomorrow… but I’ve been stricken with a bad bout of flu for a week now and OPKs are stark white 😮‍💨 not sure where ovulation has gone this month…!

Mummio92 · 08/07/2024 19:41

@Blue2020 it does drag doesn’t it, I found being busy last month really helped it fade into the background. Are you an early tester or do you just wait to see if af shows up?

@Pandamonium04 ugh that sounds horrid, I hope you’re starting to feel better. We spoke a while back on this thread about how illness can sometimes delay ovulation (I’ve had it a week late before from a tummy bug). In a way it might be a good thing as I can’t imagine feeling up to doing much baby making with an awful flu. Hopefully it’ll happen in the next few days instead