TTC #2

[NattyPeer]

Currently TTC number 2 and struggling after getting pregnant fairly easily with number 1 (on cycle 3)!
Thought I'd start a thread so we can all support each other. Anyone else on their TTC journey for number 2? I am currently on cycle 7 and have ruled myself out already as negative pregnancy test at 10DPO. Each month I convince myself that I am pregnant! Experienced a chemical at cycle 3 😩

Hey all! I am hoping I ovulate in the next three days so hopefully I will join the TWW with you but who knows!

@Mummio92 are you an early tester?

@Mummio92 I will wait until my AF day I think. I tested early one month and then just felt sad about it being negative. So I will just wait. Will you test early?

@NattyPeer Finger’s crossed! I used to be an early tester but hate the disappointment of the blank white strip. I prefer now just using my temperature which I can always see dropping before af comes. And then by the time my period actually starts I’ve usually come to terms with it.

@Blue2020 I agree, I also don’t like doing the whole staring intently, beginning to imagine there’s a line there when there blatantly isn’t, thinking ‘maybe it’s just too early to test’ etc etc.
Af starting at least gives a definitive answer.

@Mummio92 does your temperature usually drop the day before AF arrives? I only took my temperature all the way through one cycle so I don’t know if that’s standard. The next time I stopped bbt about 5 days after ovulation.

I was doing bbt this cycle but I have just woken up with a horrible cold and it’s made my temp go quite high so I might pause it for the week. I don’t know if a cold would interrupt a potential implantation or not, I hope not.

@Blue2020 Mine usually starts with a small drop two days before af and then drops below cover line the day before or day of. As I have a 12 day luteal phase, I tend to know it’s not happening from 10dpo.

Sorry to hear you’re not feeling well! No harm in pausing bbt this side of ovulation if you’re fine with waiting until af to know this month’s outcome. I guess whether a cold stops implantation or not is one of those things you can never really know as with so many ttc things

@Mummio92 thats true I suppose I will never know. I will just pause it now and try the bbt next cycle.

Hey guys ☺️ how's everyone?

Didn't catch a peak again @Mummio92.. honestly the whole thing is just getting me down now and I'm worried we have left it too late and it won't happen 😭😭

Not early testing, sick of weeing on sticks and being disappointed but I'm pretty sure I'm out this month as feel no different whatsoever!

Sorry to hear bugs are going round - we've had a load in my daughters school as well 😷

@LemonBitter What would your estimate of current dpo be like if you did ovulate around day 14?
I don’t remember feeling anything through the tww when I was pregnant, then just had an awful headache/mildly nauseous on the day I got a bfp, so I don’t even bother paying attention to any symptoms as I’ve had loads and then not been pregnant plenty of times!

I reckon get a bbt thermometer for next month and at least you should be able to confirm whether you’re ovulating or not, that will be reassuring at least if you can’t find peak again.

@Mummio92 I have high fertility in the OPK (clear blue) so hopefully I will ovulate on Thursday!

@LemonBitter ahhh! Have you been baby dancing anyway? How frustrating but don’t lose hope! I know it’s easier said than done! I’m sure many people have no symptoms at all though!

Hi all, hope you don't mind me joining. I've been TTC #2 for over a year now. Tried being relaxed about it, tried being rigid with OPKs and timing and it's just so disheartening. My first took about 2 years but had so many problems with cycles since having him that I just don't think it will happen. In my 2WW and driving myself mad. Trying not to symptom spot or test. Should be 7 DPO now, had so much cramping from about 3 DPO so guessing I'm out and it's gearing up for AF. Been trying to research it and it seems that's the case as too early for implantation. Meh, this is all so horrid 😔

Hey @hopefullyTTC2x welcome ☺️

It's so frustrating isn't it - sending hugs. How old is your little one?

Same as you I never know whether it's best to "relax" / don't do the OPKs etc or be rigid. Problem we are having is DTD is becoming a bit of a chore with there being a clear end game so to speak and I worry if I don't time it exactly right we wouldn't be doing it enough and miss the window. Sorry TMI probably 😂

@hopefullyTTC2x welcome!!! 🤗

With your first did you ever have any testing or anything? I ask because I wonder whether I should get testing with my partner! I think it is too early for implantation but doesn’t mean AF is on its way as you have time to implant!

It so hard isn’t it! It takes the fun out of everything 😩

@hopefullyTTC2x Welcome and sorry to hear what a difficult journey you’re on. I agree that it’s too early to know what’s happening yet, I’d be surprised by AF cramping from as early as 3dpo unless you have an incredibly short luteal phase usually? Sometimes the body just does things and feels certain ways without that meaning anything.

@LemonBitter Can definitely relate to dtd becoming a chore and hating all the peeing on sticks etc. It’s hard though when it’s like “I can’t get pregnant even when I do all this stuff, if I stopped there’d be no chance!”

I think if I’m not pregnant by September then we’ll look into some private fertility checks just for reassurance if nothing else.

Hey @NattyPeer - ovulation tomorrow for you? Fingers crossed this is your cycle. Yeah we've been baby dancing anyway but honestly just feeling so meh about it and that it won't happen 😩

@Mummio92 that's exactly it but you read so many people saying as soon as they stopped tracking they fell pregnant. So tricky. That's a good idea actually, I think we might do the same as if there's something wrong I would rather know!

Can I join please ladies. I’m currently waiting for AF Friday and I’m on month 7 after this period. We catch straight away with our daughter who is 5. We are both 40 now. Feeling really down today and on the school run just now. Feel like my life has stopped and I’m just going through the motions. I’m sorry about your chemical @NattyPeer 😔

@LemonBitter Yeah you do hear of those ‘chilled out and it happened’ stories. Somehow need to be able to feel relaxed and yet still track things at the same time 😅

Hi @Holls1983 welcome. Sorry to hear you’re feeling down about ttc at the moment, it can be such a long, tough road. Do you know for sure your af is on the way?

I am also somewhere around month 7-8 now which is exactly how long it took with first baby but I’m trying not to get carried away imagining some kind of ‘fate’ that it will happen in the same month as last time.

For some reason I had ideas that we would conceive much quicker second time round so have been disappointed to be wrong about that.

@Holls1983 Hey and welcome 🤗

Thank you! I really do understand the feeling of being down! I am so up and down, one minute I am ok then the next I am feeling down. Unless you are going through it like all of us, you simply can’t understand. It just feels like it will never happen!

@Holls1983 do you temp?

@LemonBitter i hope ovulation will be tomorrow let’s see! I have been both chilled and not chilled and it hasn’t made a difference! I just feel if I’m too chill now it will just waste time though!

@Holls1983 I'm on a similar journey 😔
We conceived our DD on the first try 3.5 years ago, so when we went into TTC#2 we were somewhat relaxed.
We got pregnant the second month, but I then had a MMC. It's now been 3 cycles since my period restarted after the MC and 7 months overall and I'm starting to think it's never going to happen. I just turned 39 so I know the clock is seriously ticking. And I never wanted a very big age gap. It's hard to accept.

Yeah I'm the same I feel like I don't have the time to chill out 😭

I'm about 10 DPO today and have some light pink in my pants so so thinking AF is on the way and I'm out this cycle 😩

Totally get what you guys are saying about leaving it too late etc, my little one asks for a sibling pretty much daily at the moment and people from NCT that we still meet up with look at my stomach before looking at my face when we see them which I hate.

We've never talked about siblings with my almost 3 yo DD. Yesterday, she went back to nursery (after a week at home because of chickenpox) and apparently told everyone there that mummy had a baby sister in her belly 😨 No idea where that came from but it's incredibly timely...

Still only getting high fertility today which is unusual for me! Cycle must be mucked up!

Practically all of my NCT are having second children now! Finding that quite difficult 😞

@MisssMarion Hello! I’m really sorry to hear about your MC, that must have been so tough.

Even when I am relaxed it doesn’t seem to make any difference. I hate the unknown 😩

@LemonBitter how long is your luteal phase usually? Light pink could be spotting (implantation)?!