2024 TTC 35+ Part 2

[VixFromThe6ix]

Hi my darlings,

Time for a new thread!

I went back 5 pages on the old thread and am tagging who was active around then. Please feel free to tag the others.

New TTC-ers are always welcome!!!

@SnookyPook
@CurlyWurly1991
@Lalaland13
@jellyfish2210
@BiscuitDreams
@JC084
@CatCaretaker
@worldwidetravel2017
@Bumblebee413
@Fullofconfusion
@RoseH36
@Daniki
@teampacey
@CoolSummer89
@SouthwestSis
@Hairydairyfair
@Harriet1989
@flowersinthecloud

Which ones are you using?
Your body always has LH levels so the test should never be blank. There should always be two lines. When you're not close to ovulation the lines are light but not squinters. And obviously when you're about to ovulate the lines get darker and when it's as dark or darker than the control line it's go time!
I am just wondering if it's the tests you're using because it should always have a line.

@IBegYourBiggestPardon hope you feel better soon!

@RememberZen why on earth was your doctor talking to you about celebrities having babies later in life. It holds no relevance. I’d ask to see a different gp and really push for referral. Would you still be able to get nhs treatment if you went privately at the start? Might be worth looking into to get the ball rolling.

@VixFromThe6ix I can't remember which ones I was using back when TTC #1 (this was 2020 so a while ago) - had a look back at some photos I had of my tests back then and whilst there were two lines, when I was a good while off ovulating the test line would be very, very faint, almost squinters, and then would darken closer to ovulation until they were positive. Maybe I'm using different ones or maybe they're just more sensitive now because the second lines I'm getting are much darker than they used to be!

Example attached of what I'm referring to - first one is one of my 2020 tests vs the ones I've taken in the past few days. Possibly means nothing but just interesting that it's very different!

Thank you! Yes, I came out of the doctors feeling so unsatisfied and quite confused, I feel like they've wasted valuable time for me over this last year. After my miscarriage, I was told I was no longer eligible for help, I'd have to endure at least another two losses before they would refer me, this sickened me. I don't think my GP is giving me the correct information, I shall most certainly be going back to fight for this! I'm so sorry for your losses, I'm glad you have a little family now 🙏 do you mind if I ask, if there was any treatment you were in need of or given that helped the pregnancies come to full term? Thanks so much for your support!

I see what you mean on those pictures. Easy at home ones were what I used and they were always accurate. As well as their pregnancy tests. I caught pregnancies as early at 8dpo!! Having accurate information while TTCing is crucial. Best of luck to you!! baby dust

Your guess is as good as mine, I came out of that doctors appointment so bewildered and shut down. The second doctor kept telling me I had plenty of time (I was late 38 at the time) and not to worry and keep trying, it will happen for me he assures, I feel so stupid looking back now, I was and am entitled to help and they gave me neither. Sorry, do you mean start going through private fertility treatment, then asking the NHS to pay for it? Is that an option? My doctor hasn't told me anything to be honest, I've just tried to look into what help I should be entitled to best I can. It's been so frustrating. Thanks so much for your help! 🙏

Yes. After my 2 MCs, we decided to go for a fertility clinic consultation. After many many tests, I was given medicine to lower my prolactin and also strated inserting progesterone vaginally. I had low progesterone which resulted in a very short luteal phase. And that prevented my uterus walls from thickening enough to hold on to the embryo. I had spotting for about 2 weeks prior to my actual period and taking progesterone fixed that and next pregnancy we held on to our embryo and had a healthy baby. So considering it's the only thing we did differently, I'm attributing the success to taking progesterone.
For my second pregnancy we actually used IUI. This time my hubby had low motility and after trying for about 6mos we started IUI and second round worked for us and we got pregnant.
So like if we didn't ask for help we wouldn't have been where we are now. I'm forever grateful to mount Sinai and their help.

Thanks so much for sharing! I have read a lot about the progesterone suppositories really helping some women carry to full term, I wish I'd had more help and support from my GP when I did get pregnant, I can't help thinking if I'd had regular check ups, especially my progesterone levels, I'd be well on my way to meeting my little girl by now, it's heartbreaking. That's really good to hear🙏

I wouldn't feel the pressure as much if I wasn't as old as I am. And I bet you're feeling similarly. Like every cycle feels like a waste if nothing happens. I hope all the best for you. I hope you get to meet the right doctor who will help you become a mama. The good news is that so many women successfully have kids well into their 40s now. Stay positive !

That's exactly how I feel, it's lien the dream slips away further every month. Thanks so much for your kind words and reassurance, means the worl, I hope so too 🙏

another test today and I am sure I can see something? What do you think guys?

I can see a v faint line @Xxfifixx89 !

Me too but not getting my hopes up yet. Will try again tomorrow and see! Funnily enough my partner said iv been odd this week and more tired and moaning more🤣 cheeky sod! AF due tomorrow so time will tell xx

We have been given our first nhs fertility appt

Still no period or pos test

I haven't done all the ovulation testing the last 2 weeks
Either i may of just ovulated again very late due to pcos / travel / colonoscopy or such
Or god knows

Def feel like ive just ovulated

Wishing u all a good weekend

Im 37 and under nhs fertility
( I do now have pcos tho )

@RememberZen I really don’t know, but it’s certainly a question worth asking given the length of nhs waiting lists, to at least bypass all the initial investigations and steps they will do and fast track that part of the process. Maybe some of the fertility treatment threads on here might know the answer. But I guess even if it is possible I can imagine there will be a significant cost.

My GP tried to reassure me that most people will get pregnant within 12 months once I contacted them about my low AMH, I guess maybe it was your gps way of trying to reassure you but going about it the complete wrong way and not reading the room at all. My GP did however agree to retest it (I want a validated test on my medical record rather than an at home randox one incase I choose to seek out fertility tx) and do a full hormone profile and bloods on me as he knew I was clearly upset by the result. Which is the right reaction, he reassured me but also acted on my concerns.

Ive always been so career focused and I love my job and don’t regret any of the decisions I’ve made, but if I could go back and do one thing differently it would be to have eggs frozen at age 30 - and that will certainly be advice I will give to women coming through the system I work in now.

Ohh I think I can see a squinter @Xxfifixx89 I’ve got it all crossed for you xx

Ask 4 referal to fertility.
Your entitled to it

I had a miscarriage
And am getting help

Have you used Hh 4 hormone and fertility tests ?
I highly recomend doing that and then transferring the results to your nhs record - i did that

Sorry to hear of your loss

Got the all clear 4 my bowel polyps - all benign
#phew

Sorry - only just caught this reply.

I strongly recommend you go to gp
And ask them to give you.

• full blood count
• vit d check ( miscarriage link 4 over 35s)
• prolactin check
• day 21 test / progsterone test 5 - 7 days after ovulation

And a referal to gynae and fertility

Gynae did my fertility referal for me.

Ask gp to also blood test

• s h b g
• free androgen
• testosterone

^ those 3 can help in checking 4 pcos

If you have pcos - gynae will get gp 2 prescribe meds fast

On top of all that - -

Hertility health are highly recommended - 150 gbp
They test many things including amh

How does it look today @Xxfifixx89 ? X

BFN this morning at 5am on Boots test🤦🏻‍♀️ i have very sore nipples today and absolutely loads of CM and EWCM so honestly do not know whats happening. CD 30 and due AF today so who knows! Never have CM and sore nipples though befor my period! Very strange 😫

Oh gosh - sounds very confusing 😢bodies are confusing! I guess wait to see if AF shows the next day or so. Sorry that is annoying!