TTC April 2024…Christmas Babies! ❤️✨

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Thought I’d make a new thread for those of us Ttc in April 2024. I know some of us will cross over from end of March to April ! Wishing everyone all the luck ✨❤️

Oh it cut me off before I could finish. But yeah feeling pretty down about it as going to wait out next month as well as to avoid Jan birthday (LO already a Jan birthday). I'm very early on in the TTC journey compared to a few so I have the up most admiration to all of you who have kept going for this long and remain positive, I feel like an absolute sap and giving myself a shake!! You woman are wonderful ✨

@CoolSummer89 you were right, found the English manual tucked away! But thank you for the tips, I’m already missing my simple smiley faces on clear blue 😂
@Parcou25 sounds promising then if it was within the timeframe.. fingers crossed!
@SummerSun24 you’re allowed to feel sad after cycle 1 and no matter where you are compared to others! Once you start trying for a baby that’s it.. you know you want one, and one “try” is a whole month. It’s long even if it happens first time!

Mine are odd I usually have 29 days but last month it was 34 days... which was great not! But I won't be testing till its a week late as last time was going on 5 days late and it turned up :((

I think my highest with my first was 0.7 and I tested twice a day 😳 it's leaving me very confused this time around. Mine went up to 0.59 from 0.07 in one day but the next day it was back down again. So either I missed it or I didn't ovulate. But given last time I just have no idea anymore. Maybe I need to try a different test

@Dogscanlookup yea I understand, you get used to a particular brand/product and then everything else feels wrong. I just looked up clear blue and it monitors oestrogen as well as LH, which is why it is able to give high and then peak fertility. Whereas easy@home will just give the peak days.

Are the 10 tests in clear blue monitor just for one cycle or two?

Just for one!

@CoolSummer89 it depends how long you need to keep testing for, plus i start testing twice a day from estrogen detection. If the rise is quick may only use 6 sticks and then I keep them for next cycle.

Yup my last was an extra long one 5 days late BFNs the whole time, was such a dragged out time when waiting for AF to start to try next round of TTC. It's like it knows!

Well all this wasn’t the update I was hoping to give. Sitting in my hotel room in tears writing this which seems silly, I suddenly got cramps earlier on today, and just had spotting and the associated fatigue I always get with AF. I really convinced myself this was THE month, I’ve had symptoms and let myself get carried away. I almost bought a test earlier because usually I’m fairly regular so this just feels like the ultimate cruel joke. In my head I started to plan, and now I’m just so disappointed and angry at myself. I feel like a failure; every other month is almost clockwork; this one month is the month to be late. I feel like taking a break, the disappointment each month is getting too much to bear and I’m dreading telling dh.

I’m sorry @Suburbandreams sending you big hugs ❤️ it’s shit sometimes and it seems taboo to talk about the amount of time it takes. All we see is happy pregnancy announcements, not, oh it took us a year. Sometimes symptoms seem so much like pregnancy ones and then AF arrives, it’s torture. I know exactly how you feel. Don’t be too hard on yourself xx

@Suburbandreams I'm so sorry lovely, I know exactly how you feel as I think we've had identical cycles. 2 days late and then AF.

If you can do something nice for yourself to keep your mind off it. I'm pretty the stress we're putting ourselves under is messing with the cycles 😔

🩷🩷 oh @Suburbandreams im so sorry to read this. Truly hope you're ok. Our bodies can be so cruel to us at times, TTC is such a mindfuck! Please be kind to yourself, indulge the tears and remember you're NOT a failure. X

So sorry to read this @Suburbandreams, you're absolutely not a failure and you're not silly to be upset! Please be kind to yourself. @LK2610 is so right about how shit ttc can be, we're all incorrectly taught that if you look at a penis the wrong way you'll get accidentally pregnant and nobody talks about how normal yet heartbreaking it is to try for months on end 💕

Hi everyone, hope it's okay I join 🙈 I've spent the last few hours reading this whole thread.

Firstly I want to express my love and sadness for the people getting disappointing news right now - even though I wasn't here for the journey I was routing for you all reading your posts. TTC is one of the hardest things I've ever gone through.

I am at 2DPO but CD149. PCOS is not on my side. I never know what my cycle is doing as last year I had three in four months but huge gaps are also normal for me. We have been actively trying for #2 since sept 22 but were not preventing for 2 years prior. It did take 4-5 years to conceive my daughter so this was something we expected but has still proven really hard.

My weird tidbit for this post is that this all feels really weird. A psychic reading 6 months ago told me I'd get pregnant on the 1 April and obviously I didn't think much of it but my peak was then the 1st April after all that time. They also told me I'd see ducks and my child's name ... Ducks is a random one but I've heard hey there Delilah three times since Saturday and there's someone on here with the name hey Delilah so..... Who knows! I'm obviously not letting that convince me. It would be so nice to have the Christmas present I've been dreaming of. Also my daughter turns 6 on the 11 and she wants a brother or sister for her birthday 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ no pressure

Hi everyone I’m new to mums net, is it okay to join this thread? I’ve got a scan tomorrow to check fertility and see if there are any problems that would explain why we can’t conceive. Has anyone ever had one of these before? I don’t really know what to expect

@MosquitoeSr84 I've been working my way through fertility testing. First, we had my fiance do a semen analysis (because this is the easiest and least invasive thing to check).

Then I had my routine pap smear. After that, they tested a bunch of different hormone levels, etc, via blood tests. A lot of these had to be during a certain cycle day.

The worst part... We also did imaging with an internal ultrasound (yay, transvaginal probes.... not). Also had a saline infused sonogram (SIS), and they saw that I had a polyp in my uterus that they removed with minor surgery. These tests were not comfortable. Just letting you know.

Not sure which part of it showed that I had good egg reserves and things like that. It all kind of blended together.

Now I'm on my second month of letrozole because I'm having trouble ovulating. Last month was the first cycle of it and I managed to get a positive ovulation test.

@Kirkikins hi! Welcome, when I saw what CD you were on I thought it was a typo - then I saw the PCOS and it made sense. Fingers crossed for you x

So sorry for another disappointment for you @Suburbandreams . Echo what others if said, be kind to yourself if you can and maybe a small treat wouldn't go a miss. And yes absolutely agree social media is the devil, all it ever shows are happy pregnancy announcements, never the journey. In fact as soon as I got pregnant two close friends already with children / pregnant asked how long I'd be trying as they had been trying 6 months for one and over a year for the other. Obviously I had no idea prior to this, and it's something we save to share untill we have good news I feel wich makes it all the more lonely and skews our perception of it. People arent posting about their BFN are they!

@Suburbandreams I'm really sorry to hear this. I am in a really similar position this month and was feeling absolutely crushed last night. Same as you I was convinced I was pregnant this time around so feeling shocked as well as disappointed! How are you doing this morning?

It's good to have some people going through similar on here as in real life and social media it can sometimes feel like everyone is getting pregnant so easily.

Sending lots of love and hugs to you all this morning!

Hahaha I get this a lot. Once I had a smear test and they rang me to say my last period had been logged wrong and I'm like "nope... That is correct!" 🤦‍♀️ That was worse though as it was march and my period had been in JUNE

Hi everyone. Hoping you don’t mind me jumping in here but feeling disheartened after ttc number 2 for around 8m now. I had an early miscarriage in dec and now my cycles are all over the place. They are so long and I keep getting positive ovulation tests which is really confusing me. Anyway! Trying to keep positive - you’re not out until af arrives and all that. If anyone with RHR knowledge could look at this pic I’d be so grateful. Does the current rise look like AF coming? Or ovulation?

I’ve not yet had a period since the March one. I really couldn’t tell you when I ovulate as I’ve become so confused by it all.

Thanks so much in advance xx

@Suburbandreams I am so sorry, it’s so heartbreaking when you get your hopes up. I swear our bodies play a cruel joke to us regularly. I hope you managed to speak to DH and feel a bit better. Sending love!
@MosquitoeSr84 i had a scan back in December as I’ve suffered two MCs last year. It was an internal one and they just checked ovaries etc. then discuss results a week later. All was good but I have polycystic ovaries (not the syndrome though). I’m also working my way through testing now to rule out any issues. I’m about to check my FSH hormone levels to see if I have a decent amount of eggs left as I’m 35 now.

@Suburbandreams How are you feeling this morning? I'm so sorry that you are going through this when you are by yourself and away from your partner. Everyone has already said more than I can say, but please don't dread/feel guilty telling him anything. You are going through this together and he wouldn't want you feeling any more pain than you already are on his behalf.

Sending lots of love, please let us know how you are doing when you feel able to.

@maybemumtobe hello, so sorry to hear about your loss.

For me when my RHR is going up it's during the second half of my cycle, so between ovulation and AF. However an increased RHR is also an early sign of pregnancy, so I fool myself into thinking my raised RHR means that maybe I am pregnant but then I remember it's also due to the raised progesterone of post-ovulation which happens if one is pregnant or not!

I am entering 'Mental Torture Fortnight' (aka TWW). I have written some guidelines for myself while I am feeling more sane.

• Be happy for the things you have: good health, good relationship and feeling ready to become a parent
• Be gracious for the things that others have: their gain is not your loss
• Allow the negative thoughts to come and go: they are part of you but they don't define you.
• Just test when you feel like it: a test at 8dpo is very likely to be negative. Will it make you feel crap? Yes, but if you don't do it you will just be thinking about it all the time.
• Any 'symptom' pre 11dpo is probably just your menstrual cycle.
• Forgive yourself if you don't follow these guidelines, because you wrote them when you are ovulating and high on the happy hormones 😝

Wishing everyone the best luck for April whether they are in shark week, shag week or mental torture fortnight 😉(credit to @ThingsLineUp )