CD1 entering 3rd month TTC (next fertile window 8th - 17th march)

[UnicornPrincessSarah]

Would anyone like to join me on the TTC for March 2024

Going into my 3rd month TTC for my rainbow baby after a loss in 2007 at 7 weeks, I'm now 34 (35 in June) and TTC for our first baby with me and my DH

The last 2 cycles my body has played horrible tricks on me, so i have been keeping a log of my symptoms.

I'm not ready to do opks or bbt just yet trying to do natural and less stressful but did have 21 day bloods and day 3 bloods done and the results come back good, i do have PCO cysts in my ovaries and my DH has good sperm he had this tested last year.

@Ginny2018 i ordered the easy@home strips from Amazon and used the pre-mom app to help measure. I found it easy to use and caught my peak easily x

I stopped taking my pill and 3 weeks later I was pregnant. It was exceptionally unexpected, I was fully prepared for it to take up to a year (and at the time a part of me wished it had taken longer as I felt very mentally unprepared).
We dtd every other day but I honestly think that there was no stress/planning to dtd we were very chilled about it (which is obviously really difficult to be when youve been trying for any length of time).
I then miscarried that baby at 7 weeks. I bled for 5 days and 4 weeks later I was pregnant again. I was obsessive about dtd after my miscarriage as I was desperate to be pregnant again, but in all honesty I think it was a pure fluke/luck.

With regards to your partner wanting to dtd daily, I think there's no issue with it as long as it doesn't take a toll on you both as a couple 💐❤

@Ginny2018 Ive heard people falling pregnant with everyday, every other day, every two days! I guess it just spends on your husbands sperm too. Last month I done it every day too and didn’t fall pregnant. By the end of it.. I was exhausted, and the sex didn’t feel as good so don’t think I can do that again myself. This month I don’t think I done it enough. Every other day sounds balanced, I might try that this month. How are you feeling xx

@Ginny2018 the month I got pregnant I had sex once the entire month so
is deffo just luck and wasn’t trying so don’t put too much stress on the every day

@icallshade Hello and welcome to the March TTC train, sending baby dust your way x

Seems like a lot of us ladies in this chat have suffered some miscarriage so we are all very understanding, and sorry for your loss

Im with you on the not tracking using oks/bbt we dtd every 3 days from when the period ends and finish 3 days before im due we find this the better approach for us and less tiring/ stressfull

@Ginny2018 They do actually recommend every 2 to 3 days to allow the sperm to refresh and build back up, i wish my hubby could do every 2 days but he struggles so we do every 3 as we not tracking with opks and Temp we DTD 8 times over the course of the month starting day period ends and finish 3 days before period due we find that less stressful for us right now

i hear people saying tracking can be stressful and quiet demanding timing it right etc

I used cb last month. Super easy to use as you hold them in the stream and you get a smiley face rather than comparing lines or needing an app. Downside is they're expensive to stock up on each month if you keep using them for a few cycles.

I don't think I could dtd every day if I wanted to haha! My job is very tiring so I'm often in bed and asleep before DH has even thought about turning in. We aim for every 2-3 days during the fertile window although I might see if we can up it around ovulation this month. Last month for a couple of reasons we only managed twice in the window and for one of those we'd been sat in a hot tub so not the best for the swimmers.

@YorkshirePeridot same here, I just couldn’t. A friend of mine DTD every single day from period finishing the whole month. Dud get pregnant bug I honestly just couldn’t

@Adamsapple89 I tried last month, never again. I was so sore and the sex was shit towards the end because neither of us could be bothered! My best friend DTD every day and then twice a day during her fertile week and didn’t get pregnant. She got pregnant the month she was avoiding because we were off to Ibiza and only had sex twice 😂xx

Haha thanks for all your responses ladies. Tbf these daily dtd sessions are nothing special and last approx 10 minutes and half of them are indeed not so passionate because we 'have to'. My bf and I work together on the same shifts currently so our days are almost 100% aligned and we have no other kids, which makes it not difficult to find the 10 minutes time but I fully appreciate this can be a challenge in other situations. He was really sad to see me dissapointed last cycle so he means well and i also think he is less educated on all the technical aspects of conception 🤣. I'm going to try to put less pressure on it this time and see what happens.

Ladies I have an idea for next month if anyone wants to join me.. why don’t we all find something else to focus on? For example, I need to lose a few stone so I might use this chat to speak about my weight loss over the next few weeks as well. It might be moving house or anything.. even work, just a way to ‘attempt’ to relax a little bit x

Also I just reread that last post and it sounds so clinical 🥲 Eversince we started ttc I've learned so much about the things women go through when wanting to have kids..

@Emilyx00 really great idea 🤩 I need to finish a job (3 weeks left from Sunday and after that a well deserved holiday!!). My partner works in tourism in a ski resort in France where we currently live, I'm a chef in one of the chalets he manages. We've been doing it for a few years and I'm SO DONE with the people that come here 🤣 So focussing on:

• Finishing that job
• We need to look for a house (we want to buy back home in Italy when we come back in april)
• I want to focus on some creative projects too that have been lying around!

@Ginny2018 Wow, that all sounds amazing! Do you get to go skiing? & are you Italian? So I’m guessing you speak French and Italian and English then.. x

Good idea @Emilyx00 and good luck with your weight loss journey! Have you got any diet you want to follow or just cheaper eating ?

oh wow that sounds amazing and so much minus the few annoying people maybe 😅 @Ginny2018

Im currently turning an estate agents into a salon so any salon inspo is much appreciated

@Emilyx00 @Adamsapple89 well long story short: I am Dutch and my boyfriend is Italian, we 'live' in Italy (Rome) but my boyfriend has been working in tourism for a long time so we've been moving around for the last 3 years. This is kind of the last season before we move back to Rome, buy a house and settle down with our family (we have a dog and obvs hope to add someone else soon). I do get to go skiing often but I've not gone out in over a month since starting ttc-journey, i might go tomorrow though! I do speak Italian and basic French but my native language is Dutch. 😀

@Adamsapple89 wow that sounds cool! Are you doing the actual building too?? Is it going to be your salon?

@Ginny2018 how amazing to be buying a house in Rome sounds like so much fun. We have 3 cats so also a fur mum !

So I won’t be actually doing all that much hands on because I’m not a DIY girl but all the planning and design will be me and a friend. We have the upstairs already but are taking over the whole building for one big salon together

I’m going to join too. 2 years into trying to conceive and trying letrozle for the first time this month so hoping that helps.

good luck everyone!

@Emilyx00 I'm also starting to do some exercise more the month and go back to my colouring need something else to focus on rather than waiting for symptoms lol, but yes the chat can be about anything we like to rant or whatever lol. What do you plan to do to help you focus on health/ weight loss?

@Ginny2018 is that the post I did yesterday about the % for falling pregnant? that you re read?

@ALB1266 Welcome to the TTC March train oh wow 2 years a very long time I'm hoping and praying for you this is your month, sending baby dust.

@Ginny2018 That’s amazing. What a talent to be bilingual across so many languages. I wouldn’t have realised English wasn’t your first language through your writing. Have you started looking at houses?

@Adamsapple89 Eek. That sounds like a project, albeit a very exciting one. What colour theme are you going for? Will it be like a beauty salon?

@UnicornPrincessSarah Do you have a gym membership or do you exercise in another way?

@ALB1266 welcome!!❤️ sending you lots of baby dust. Got everything crossed that the medication helps.

I’m the biggest I have ever been and although I’m not overly overweight, I need to lose around 4/5 stone! I think I am going to join slimming world as it’s worked for me before and I really struggle calorie counting xx

@Emilyx00 Im 5ft 10 and 13 stone 5lbs ideally need to be around 11 stone I'm classed as overweight BMI is 25 through

Right now I'm doing home DVDs as I suffer badly from IBS and fatigue so doing home workouts is a bit easier for me as I did gyms before but didn't last too long before I crashed, In the sping and summer I also go out to mountain biking and kayaking we have an inflatable kayak we take out on the waters around London UK.

Currently, Im doing a barre workout dvd at home as this isnt so high-impact so can do it when TTC as don't put to much stress on the body, not too keen on jumping all over the place like a big fat pig lol

@Adamsapple89 Ah 3 cats are they girls or boys or mix? I have a little lady or old lady she 13 be 14 this October had her since she was 10 weeks old a little calico she is a mummy girl, is the salon going to a beauty salon? or pet salon?

@Emilyx00 my mums does slimming world and lost a good few stone so deffo I good one to try. Thinking neutrals like beige with black and gold just nice and classic. Yes beauty salon so nails, facials, lashes. I’m a paediatric nurse but left NHS about 2 years ago and have gone into aesthetics for the past 3 years now so fillers Botox etc

@UnicornPrincessSarah aw I have 2 calico girls who are both extremely needy and one big boy who is a rescue. Beauty salon so all the nice girly things

I think I will join in losing a bit of weight and upping the exercise. I'm also a tad overweight and holding it all in my abdomen, a colleague actually asked me on the corridor in front of loads of people if I was pregnant yesterday and it really upset me.

I used to be a keen runner until I had an auto immune reaction about 18 months ago which my knees never recovered from. Need to do more yoga and low impact stuff I think.

@Ginny2018 I really liked Rome when I visited a few years ago, good luck house hunting!

@Adamsapple89 that sounds like an exciting project, how fab to have everything in your salon exactly as you want it. Hope it all goes well!

Hi I'm also on my 3rd month TTC. Im TTC my first and i am 30.

My body has played horrible tricks on me. AF was 7 days late last month took so many tests with BFN and was so gutted when AF finally turned up. I'm doing OPKs and premum app but finding it hard to track after last months extra long cycle.

Hoping March is our month. 🤞xxx