TTC February 2024 ✨

[RW269]

Thought I’d make a new thread for those of us Ttc in February 2024. I know some of us will cross over from end of Jan to Feb! Wishing everyone all the luck ✨❤️

Awwh @Racket81 I’m so sorry to hear that, sending you so so much love 🩷
take care of yourself lots the next couple weeks x
3rd time lucky, everything is crossed for that for you 🩷 x

@YouveGotAFastCar Oh no my love! I feel your heartache 😞 sending all the love and hugs!
It’s just such a crappy couple of weeks isn’t it. Today was meant to be my scan and I’d emailed them to cancel it and they just phoned me asking where I was. So awkward!
We’ve all got this guys! 🩷

@KittyFantastica & @ButterflySkies hope your little beans are ticking along lovely 🩷

I'm so sorry to hear such sad news @YouveGotAFastCar and @Racket81

@Racket81 The same happened to me for my last loss, I found out at 10 weeks baby died sometime between 7 and 8 weeks. It's a pain like no other. Please feel free to reach out if you'd like to talk about it or have any questions.

Thank you @RW269 I'm actually not doing too well and am laying low for a bit. I've been struck with some sort of delayed grief since my positive test and am having some really awful mental health struggles. I keep having frightening thoughts and fits of tears. I know I'm hormonal, but it's never been this bad. I'm booked in for some counselling to try and make sense of it all. Not the experience I thought it would be considering how lucky I am!

@KittyFantastica Awwh bless you, you’ve been on a rollercoaster couple of months im not surprised your emotions are all heightened. I hope your counselling helps bring you a bit more peace and calm so you can enjoy the positives a bit more 🩷🩷🩷

Thanks @KittyFantastica I guess I'm just hoping that the induction of it is no more painful heavy or lasts any longer than when happens naturally as I go to gran canaria on holiday 2 weeks after having it done.

It's a sad and stressful time @Racket81, did they go through all the options available to you? I chose a D&C because I couldn't stand the waiting for it to happen and they said they couldn't predict how long it would take. My HCG was still going up at the time, so they said it could be weeks before my body realised.

Yes they said be best to tale a pill and induce the miscarrage. The baby would pass same day and then bleed for 2 poss 3 weeks after.

@KittyFantastica Absolutely understandable. I hope it eases soon, so you can enjoy the positives. It’s so anxiety inducing, isn’t it.

@RW269 I hope it’s all sorted before your holiday, and it’s as easy as possible for you x

I’ve had one of those moments that just sends you off track. My bear friend is just back from holiday and has posted all her holiday snaps of her toddler & bump, and then messaged me that she’s only got two full weeks of work left now and then she’s on maternity. I’m so happy for her - genuinely - and she had an awful loss last year, but I feel a real sense of loss for me too, right now. I was so excited to tell her I was pregnant when she got back from holiday.

Goodness, I’m feeling so guilty at the moment. Since losing the pregnancy it was only 3 days before my sister in laws baby was born. I had to be around the baby the first few days of miscarrying and don’t get me wrong I’m so pleased for them but now I’m just so not wanting to be around everything baby but I feel like I’m just coming across as a right **head 😩🤦🏻‍♀️

how’s everyone getting along? 🩷

I know it's difficult not to see yourself that way, but you're not being unkind in any way @RW269. You're grieving, and anyone in the know should be a bit sensitive to that. Of course we don't want anyone else's joy smothered, but at the same time you don't need it thrown in your face.

I'm having a bit of a rough week. Still no symptoms at all, just like the last pregnancy, so I've convinced myself it's going to be bad news. I also found out that a friend of mine has just lost her baby at 25 weeks. She was due the same week as my first pregnancy and I remember feeling so happy for her, but also thinking 'why me, why didn't I get to keep my baby?' When she told me. Now I feel like the world's most terrible human being. I can't even imagine what she's going through.

@KittyFantastica it’s just so difficult isn’t it. I really feel like there’s so little discussed about issues conceiving and after it to be honest!

I have everything crossed all is well! Quite a lot of people don’t get a lot of symptoms if any, when do you have your first checks etc? Got everything crossed 🤞🩷
that’s so sad about your friend but absolute nothing you’ve thought has had any effect on that happening so try not to be too hard on yourself 🩷

So I passed the you sake today and bled through a big towel and my shorts. But illnstill go Friday so they can tell me if it's all passed or not.

@RW269 you are not!!! It's horrible. Just after i miscarried one of my best friends announced she was pregnant, ive never felt such a stab in the guts honestly. I said congratulations but it took me ages to genuinely feel happy for them. What you're feeling is completely normal. I really want to give you a hug. It's so crap this journey, it's really is. Take it easy on yourself and feel what you feel with no guilt at all.

@Racket81 im so sorry you're going through this. Sending you a big cuddle too. I really hope you're looking after yourself and taking care of you. I hope you're snuggled up xx

@KittyFantastica sending positive thoughts and hopes to you lovely. Youve been through so much. Hoping this little bean is your one!! No symptoms arent a bad thing at all, I know its hard but try not to read too much into that lovely.

Dont feel bad love, totally normal emotions to have - sorry i didnt spot your post but i had similar when a friend announced her pregnancy after id miscarried. Be kind to yourself, sending you a huge hug too xx

@Butterflyskies No time to snuggle up I'm afraid I'm a Co childminder and my Co worker is away in Cornwall getting married for 2 weeks so I'm in sole charge if the business and with 9 children under 3 everyday life just has to keep goimg so I'm in work everyday business as usual. Keeps my mind active though. X

Hope you all are doing okay! 🩷

@ButterflySkies how are you getting on? You must be pretty far through now!

@KittyFantastica hope that’s been a sticker for you 🩷

Hi lovely, more importantly how are you doing? Sending you a big hug lovely.

I'm ok! 25 weeks this week, third trimester is looming and feels like such a milestone! Still puking my guts up and am still waiting on the "glow..."! But doing ok 😊

@KittyFantastica how are you doing too lovely? Xx

@ButterflySkies goodness me! 25 weeks that has flown by! So excited for you to hit that third trimester milestone! Bless you!
How are you getting on with baby decorations/purchases etc? So many sales just starting!
Who knows you might end up being one of those people who have a mega after birth glow!

Im plodding along, been to my doctors and cause I’ve had 3 miscarriages/chemicals and no successful pregnancies sticking he’s referred us to a reoccurring miscarriage team, won’t see them until March so he’s advised we just plod on keeping trying until then and hope it happens in the meantime but they’ll be able to start any tests then to see if there’s anything causing them and how they can prevent it happening. So I’m just going to keep my fingers crossed and hope it happens and we won’t need to go through that route 🤞🤞🤞 xxx

Oh lovely. I'm pleased you've got the referral, I'm sorry for what youve been through to get there but that's something moving in the right direction. That feels like quite the wait, really hoping it comes round quickly or something comes up sooner, and they get things going super soon when you see them. Can the GP do anything in between? Sending a huge hug, it's such a tough time when you're in the thick of it. Hope you're doing as well as you can do, and having the referral takes the mental load off a little bit.

I know, it's absolutely flown by looking back. I've started having "oh sh*t I've got to actually have this baby" moments now...! But I have finally been through all the baby stuff from my first, I think it's just practical bits (bottles etc) and some nice clothes on top, but I finally let my daughter choose a couple of bits for him recently and I'm going to whizz her into Next to look at the sale on Friday. Oh a glow for Christmas would be lovely! Stay in touch love and keep me posted, think of you loads, you've been such a rock - I'm always here if you need me x

@ButterflySkies Yeah, I’m glad they’ve done it cause initially they were saying it’s 2 years of trying to be referred if you’re struggling and I thought that’s a long time!
Im not certain, if it happens again I’m going to ask my GP about testing hormones maybe I’m not sure if he can do that, I know he will if he can though I am very lucky to have a really good GP thankfully.

Hahaha love that, it feels like two separate things doesn’t, it the pregnancy then the actual baby onwards! Oooo next have some lovely stuff in, so do sainsburys actually I keep having a look for my sister in laws baby when I pick up any shopping bits and the quality of their stuff is lovely!
Definitely, keep me updated too! Looking forward to hearing lots of baby Olaf updates! 🩵

@RW269 really good lovely, im pleased for you. Not to add any pressure, and i cant remember off the top of my head what to ask for, but my GP offered to do bloods on certain days of my cycle while waiting for a referral when I asked. We didnt get that far because this baby stuck, but she had done a full blood test for everything just before the cycle this baby stuck (hormones, deficiencies, etc) and that did show some stuff we could try and change the dial on. So if you feel like you want to do something more quickly, it's definitely worth being persistent with, especially with a good GP. But also just take the break mentally now for a bit, if you want it. It does the world of good sometimes. Got everything crossed for you lovely!! I just know it's your time soon ♥️

Oh Sainsburys is a good tip too, il have a little mooch next time! Xx

@ButterflySkies oh lovely! That’s definitely something worth doing, I think we’re going to have an easy 2 months just roll with scrapping the OPK etc just cover the main week/2 weeks just to keep the stress low then we will probably look at those tests if we’re in the same place :)

Ooo let me know if you find anything cute! Xxx

@ButterflySkies next have some nice baby bits on sale at the moment ☺️ hope you’re keeping well! ✨🩷

Thank you for thinking of me @RW269 and @ButterflySkies, I'm really touched.

Sorry I've been quiet, we've had a hectic few weeks, and I've been trying to just keep moving forward.

My last scan at EPU was at 8+5 and all was looking good, so despite a total lack of symptoms, all going well. Having had the MMC before, I dread the next scans as I'm always afraid it will be the worst news. We have NIPT end of next week, and my 12 week scan is happening when I should be just passed 13 weeks. It still feels fraught, but I know I'm so, so lucky.

I'm still struggling with grief for my last baby even now. I can't even think of October when my due date should have been. It was going to be just a few days after my own birthday too, so it's like salt in the wound. I'm extremely grateful for my hopefully February baby, but my new due date just doesn't feel the same. Makes me feel awful saying it. To be leaving this year without either of our miscarried babies (and passed my 36th birthday) still childless will be very hard. I'm seeing a therapist, but I don't gel well with her, so may have to change that.

@ButterflySkies So pleased to hear that baby Olaf is cooking along nicely! It's amazing how quickly the time goes for others, I feel like the last 10 weeks have absolutely dragged.

@RW269 After my last MC, I went to the dr as my cycle seemed off and they were happy to do a comprehensive hormonal blood test. She checked for everything, the only thing she left off was vitamin c. Of course, by the time I had the blood test, I was actually pregnant so the results were skewed, but if you wanted to explore them, they should be happy to do it, especially if you say your cycle hasn't been usual. I hope the laid back next few months are good to you!

Hi all, how are you doing? I really hope you're all doing as well as can be.

Just going to leave this here as a little positive update. I'm still mostly keeping my head low and my heart hopeful.

We're 11 weeks today and we are measuring 11+4. Baby was moving around, stretching and sucking their thumb. It's the furthest we've ever got, and we were in floods of tears.

Keeping you all in my heart ❤️