TTC February 2024 ✨

[RW269]

Thought I’d make a new thread for those of us Ttc in February 2024. I know some of us will cross over from end of Jan to Feb! Wishing everyone all the luck ✨❤️

@ButterflySkies
What healthy cravings ! 😂
That’s so funny though the banana and tomato Situation! No pizza for yous haha!

Thats so exciting! Do let me know how it goes!
Is your daughter a frozen fan? Does she secretly want a baby snowman called Olaf? Haha!

100%, it’s so hard wearing isn’t it! I’ll know in just over a week I’ll keep you updated for sure! Rating to go for next month if it’s not happened. Going to draw up a new food/exercise plan to lose some weight so I’ve got that to focus on as well as the Ttc might help stop me getting too wound up in it haha! Xxx

Hi all,

I'm 6 weeks post D&C now and have just had my first Aunt Flo arrive since the surgery. It was a traumatic time, the last pregnancy, and we really want to continue but also still feel a bit raw. We've decided to stay relaxed, go about our usual business this month and if it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. We're both getting on and feeling the pressure of time ticking away, but also feeling like we stressed so much the last cycle of trying that it did neither of us any good.

Hope you're all keeping well.

@KittyFantastica oh my lovely, I’m so sorry that happened for you sending you all the love!
100% try and destress as much as possible, you and your partners health is just as important ♥️
Make sure you have lots of self care and such that’s such a tough time you’ve had!
xx

@KittyFantastica very sorry to hear that was wondering how u were getting along with @ButterflySkies .....I'm so sorry for your loss...sorry you had to have surgery....
I spoke too soon myself had a bleed Thursday and it got very heavy and crampy clots, like rolling around in pain but i just wanted to get out and kneel down but i suffered on....and its was over before I could think, went to drs Friday...so i bled day after i got my positive....he sending me for a scan but I think no needand i told him like there isn't any need but I'm going to do as I'm told he was very nice to me just hope i dont meet someone horrible at the EPU can do without it......so had the most horrible bank holiday I say to myself at least was only at 5+3 days but sure could happen again....see I never tested this time as id no tests we didn't over get to ttc as my niece was visiting I will say I was fairly chilled as I was on leave so maybe that helped and I kinda had given up...and i was in denial as well thats why i didnt test its a nice place to be .....I'm sad but I was cautious, like ive told nobody except hubby i feel so guilty sorry for him and i know i wont tell my family could do with out the pity its just sad...i feel sad but it was so early like so early so i need to muddle on with it as it was like having a heavy short period.......I've learnt that a positive test doesn't mean much I developed a whole new set of worries...
Anyways mumsnet has been great....

Hi Guys

Sounds awful for you @KittyFantastica have been there myself. So 2 and half years in now and turning 43 in August so am just gonna chill and if happens it happens. Not ovulation checking as I know roughly anyway. Am thinking of going docs to get tested for fibroids and endo though. If only we could afford ivf but not option atm until the house sells.

@KittyFantastica it's lovely to hear from you but I am so sorry to hear what you've been through lovely. Take care of yourself before you even think of anything else love. Sending a huge hug and hand hold 🩷

@Noisinmaro im so sorry to hear this too, and really hope EPU has some positive news. Take care of yourself too lovely

@RW269 hope you're well 🩷

Thank you @RW269, that's the plan for sure. Even up to two weeks ago, TTC was the furthest from my mind. We really needed a break and the thought of even trying was too terrible. 16 weeks total of pregnancy this year (two losses) and no baby, so I felt sick of being in a constant state of stress and waiting. Now I'm starting to feel better, it's creeping into my consciousness a bit more and I don't feel so panicked. We'll see what happens.

Oh, @Noisinmaro, I'm so sorry that's been your experience. This whole thing really is a mind screw when it doesn't go as we all think it's supposed to. I totally understand about not wanting pity and just wanting to keep it to yourself. Make sure you are have enough support, it's hard thinking of how it affects partners, but I'm sure he'll want to support you too.

@Racket81 We're taking the same kind of attitude and just want to relax through this cycle. Maybe the next one too. We won't be using protection, but we won't be doing SMEP or anything either. IVF and access to it is so harsh, it's horrific how expensive it is and the stress on top. Worth it, of course, if you get the outcome you want, but it's just like any other method of TTC in the end, isn't it? There's never any certainty for anyone.

Thanks everyone for being so kind. I've learnt a few things from this, I always knew its a bit of a miracle but our timing was always off or i was too stressed i suppose but in last month we only dtd 4 times every second day from day 9 and I ovulated on day 13 or 14 I think but I dtd on the odd days....we had my niece over so wasn't really bothered.... always hoped for the best and really tried be positive every month...but I had given up as i was tired of it all...then when I finally conceived I lost it so what will be will be...ive feck all control really even though I control everything but a person can't..what will be will be...anyways ive planted so many flowers in pots and window boxes last couple days as I can't sit or im upset so i'll have fabulous collection of flowers when I drive up the driveway this summer at least....life really is cruel...
Anyways I'll still hope as that's what got me this far...so hopefully we get our chance again, best of luck everyone....

@Noisinmaro what a lovely way to take your mind off things. It is so incredibly difficult. I had losses before my daughter and I had two very early losses before this one, I'm still praying it's smooth from here, any loss is absolutely heartbreaking and earth shattering. Sending you a huge, huge hug. My only advice is to take care of yourself and to take it easy on yourself, let yourself feel all the things you need to. It will happen for you, and I'm so hoping it happens soon xx

Ah thanks, really hope it goes smooth for you @ButterflySkiesand it will but now after going through this I can understand the worry....

@ButterflySkies Hello! How are you? Did you find out if you’re having a girl or boy? :) hope you’re keeping well! Xx

@RW269 how are you??? It's a little boy 🩵 thrilled we'll have one of each! It's head is wedged in my hip though, so thats fun 😂 thinking of you lovely xxx

@ButterflySkies Oooo congratulations!!! 🩵🩵🩵
how exciting! Lovely you’ll have a boy and girl! Exciting you can start looking at cute boy things!
Hope his little head moves soon!
I’m alright thank you! About to enter sexathon time for round 6 😂just had a little night away and went to an aquarium to have a little break away and relax a bit! Haha xxx

@ButterflySkies ah congrats , great news, hope u get some comfort soon....

Lovely news about your little boy @ButterflySkies, your daughter will be thrilled with little 'Olaf'. I'm so pleased it's all going well for you, lovely.

Whoops, was messing around with user names for another thread I didn't end up using. Changed back now 😆.

Hi Ladies

I'm still hanging about but nothing to report. I'm due my period today so I guess it's wait and see but my guess is period on way. Trying not to think about it all.

Hi @Racket81, I'm still here too. Crossing fingers, toes, eyeballs and bellybutton for you.

I've been temping with my smart watch this month just to see if I'm ovulating again now I'm testing negative, but I can't say I understand it. The temps all look ridiculously low to me and I'm pretty sure I'm not periodically hypothermic as the temps here suggest 😆 I did OPKs from day 8 as well and every single one has been negative, so I guess my body isn't back to normal yet. I've put my chart below in case anyone is good at interpreting.

@KittyFantastica it can take a whloe sometimes to het back to normal..as fornthe charts I've never done temping so i really have no idea on those. X good luck all crossed for you too. X

I’m still bobbing along here too :) wishing you two all the luck for this cycle! ❤️

Thank you ladies!! Sorry for slow reply, ive been in and out of hospital this week... had a big scare again but baby olaf is doing really well! Just need to get me sorted out! My blood pressure is on the floor which is making me feel awful. But im being looked after and work are being amazing.

@KittyFantastica i never got on with temping... i found it so confusing, my charts looked like yours! I think it can take a little while lovely to settle, so go easy on yourself love.

@RW269 how was your break? How's the marathon going?

@Noisinmaro hope you're well too! Xx

@ButterflySkies glad to hear baby Olaf is fine and well! But sad to hear you’re having a time with your blood pressure! Have they got you a bit more stable with it? Glad work are being supportive!
sexathon is ago from today until about 30th haha! Plodding on, my SIL is due in about two/three weeks so I’m now fully surrounded with baby stuff everywhere it’s a killer, though don’t get me wrong I’m very excited for her haha! Xx

Hi all @ButterflySkies ,@KittyFantastica @RW269
Glad @ButterflySkies your ok, blood pressure issues are a pain, I get high blood pressure so I know can be very hard to stabilise it etc.....
I highly recommend the clear blue ovulation sticks the 4day one...very expensive but after 3 Packs I got pregnant, used this month again ( buying them nearly killed me) and I got my static smiley so I did ovulate.....yeah I just started again after my mis, im not in the habit of feeling sorry for myself, cause I had to draw a like under it and my head wasn't in a good place the crying I did was a surprise as I really don't do feeling sorry for myself, but after couple weeks I started to forget the pain and saddness it Hits me in Waves but I got a positive pregnancy test so I will again...so I have to move forward for my mental health if enough else....its messes with your mind all this ttc....

Hey @Noisinmaro good to hear from you. You are absolutely right, it is a total head messer all this TTC. Even if you're not usually an emotional person, it's very difficult not to invest or think of the what ifs once you see that line. I've been there twice now and no matter how hard I tried to detach, I was still devastated. I highly recommend the digitals too! I got pregnant last time using them and the OPKs in conjunction. They are so pricey though. Keeping all crossed for you.

Hiya @RW269 that must be so tough, at the same time trying to feel happy. Three of my friends announced their pregnancies the week I had my D&C and I kept thinking how out of the four of us I was that one, that statistic. I'm thrilled for them but it hurts still. We'll be here to cheer the sexathon 😂.

Glad to hear you and baby Olaf are doing okay despite the issues @ButterflySkies. I'm glad your work are being reasonable, that adds so much stress when you have to worry about consequences for things you really can't control.

I don't think this time has been accurate with the temping as it's been through my smart watch. I've bought a proper thermometer for next time, though according to my temps and the chart, it now thinks I actually did ovulate. None of the OPKs showed any kind of rise on that day though. I had a very, very slight rise to 0.5 on day 9 and a rise to 0.42 on day 13, but that's it really. Usually I'd have a blazing OPK around 10:30 - 11am, but not this time.

Ladies I can't quite believe it I got this.this.mornimg I believe I'll be 5 weeks on Tuesday.