9dpo opinions please!

[MissEmily5]

Hello!
I’m currently 9dpo and having a bit a wobble- I keep flitting between hopeful to sad very quickly today. I think I just need some opinions from people who don’t know me and who aren’t just going to say ‘Hopefully’ or ‘fingers crossed’ (which is very sweet but I just need something more than that.

I’m 28, and me and my husband are on cycle 5 of TTC. This month I’ve been using OPKs and BBT. Currently on CD24 which is 9dpo for me- got my static smiley with my ovulation test on CD15 in the morning. We DTD every other day from CD6 up to CD19 so should be plenty of sperm up there to meet the egg!
I was concerned that I wasn’t actually ovulating despite getting a positive OPK so that’s why I started BBT (at first this was a bit of a struggle but I think I’ve got the hang of it now). My ovulation was confirmed on CD6 (one day I had to disregard my temp as I woke up slightly but didn’t temp straight away and temped an hour later when my alarm went off). My BBT has only had one dip on CD2 under the base line but have been quite zig zag like and not showing that upward curve that I would like to indicate pregnancy- I’ll attach a photo below incase we have the BBT experts out there!

My CM has been a mixture of watery and creamy, but I’ve really noticed the watery CM when I actively check and only the creamy CM once it has dried in my pants (often a cream/yellow colour). However, today on CD9 I have started to spot- it mainly is watery CM with a pink tinge- happened this morning with my first morning wee, then had a small amount mid day but my pants had creamy discharge with a slight browny colouring and then tonight I had the same watery discharge with a pink tinge. I have attached some pictures- sorry in advance for TMI or if it’s too graphic.
Picture info-

• up close image on toilet paper was taken AM on CD9
• picture of pants was taken mid day
• toilet paper further away was taken PM on CD9

I would have been excited for this as it could possibly be implantation bleeding but last month I had a very similar experience (spotting started with a mixture of watery and creamy CM from CD23 and continued until CD27 to which it ended in my period).

I did also test this morning and received a BFN. I guess I’m just looking for any happily ever after who had similar situations to me or anyone with experience similar to mine. I think with the mixture of BBT and CM checking I already feel out at just 9dpo which I know is still early.

Might be worth mentioning that When I started to bleed today I thought it was game over so tried to put it out of my mind but me and my OH had sex and no trace of spotting on him or me afterwards. Plus cramps, if that’s what you can even call them has been minimal.

This TTC m’larky is so exhausting, you think it’ll be easy (I always said to people it could take a long while but I hoped deep down it would be super easy) and it’s like one thing after the next in terms of worry. First it’s the worry that you’ll get that positive OPK, then it’s the worry that if you’ll actually ovulate and get the temps to confirm it, not to mention having enough sex (whilst trying not to put too much pressure on you or your OH) and then it’s checking if your CM is right and so on and so on.
My Nan, who knows we’re TTC, said it’s any wonder anyone got pregnant back when she had her babies 😂
Just hope everyone is taking care of themselves whilst on this should be magical journey and wishing baby dust to you all!

Also, thank you for reading my long ramble and taking the time to reply! X

Hey @MissEmily5 sorry to hear period arrived for you, hope you are taking it easy.

I can’t believe the referral hadnt been made! That happened with my scan actually, but I can see in my NHS app that my referral is there and ‘pending’ so think it might be a long wait.

Have you been given any indication of how long the wait might be?

i can imagine it being overwhelming, I’m at the point where I’m trying to ignore everything for a little while and just focus on looking after myself (which includes booking a holiday!) but it helps that I’m in the middle of my cycle, by the time we reach the last week of cycle it will be a different story I’m sure 😂

well she didn’t say the words unexplained infertility, I am guessing she is maybe leaving that for the fertility clinic to say? Not really sure what to expect from the referral, wondering if they will just do a load of tests again!

Hey @MissEmily5 sorry to hear AF came, how you feeling about it all?

can’t believe they hadn’t even made the referral, I know they are only human but why is it always so hard and such a fight?! It’s exhausting. Has it all gone through now?

well the GP hasn’t specifically said that but I guess so since they have found nothing wrong with either of us! Although wondering / hoping the clinic will do more investigations. Still haven’t received any call from the clinic yet, but the referral says to call them directly if I haven’t heard by 2nd October, so not long to wait.

I have no idea why but this month I have been feeling really positive, and over the past few days I’ve just had a ‘feeling’ but then today the usual cramps have started so I am back down to earth just waiting for AF to coming in a few day 😫

omg sorry 😂 I think my brain just malfunctioned - thought I saw a notification and so responded to your message only to post it and see I already responded! Please ignore me!

Hope you’re doing ok!

@jenkh91 hey Jen!
I’m really trying to be less overwhelmed/obsessed with all this so coming on here less. I haven’t used OPKs for months and to be honest I’ve not even taken any supplements either anymore. I’m feeling a bit worn out about it all now.

I hope you have more progress with the clinic then I do- we’re still not on the wait list as the GP messed it up again! My OH is now waiting for more tests before it can get sent off.

how did you get on that month? Positive or yet again another cycle?

Hey @MissEmily5 sorry you are feeling overwhelmed by it all, it is exhausting and a lot mentally.

i think not using opks and staying off here more is definitely a good shout, i am trying to do the same but failing!

oh ffs that’s so annoying, hopefully it suddenly picks up for you.

i had an email from the referral asking for some info and availability in October/november so hoping to get an appointment through for then.

i also went to private clinic when AF arrived last time, had a hycosy today which I found so painful!! But glad it’s done. I’ve also been given progesterone pessaries to take from after ovulation so happy to give them a try.

Did you still ttc the month you had your hycosy? On the form I read today said they advise to not try to conceive this cycle - but I have friends who had a hycosy and where told they could, so a bit confused!

@jenkh91 hey, long time no speak- hope you’re looking after yourself.

Still in this whole horrid journey- cycle 14 now. Started acupuncture (not too bad, just expensive and having herb supplements from them too). Currently waiting on a gynaecologist appointment to see about my spotting- hopefully the acupuncture can help with that though.

are you still on track for being seen this month or next? Fingers crossed for you! We’re probably looking at new year now but I’m glad that I have some time to get my spotting under control because I’m sure if it continues that any ivf would fail.

the hycosy is horrid isn’t it! I was told we could try as soon as I was comfortable!

Hey @MissEmily5 also still on this shitty journey sadly.

just started tww but tbh I have totally given up hope that it will happen naturally.

last cycle was the first month taking the progesterone pessaries from ovulation, it totally stopped any spotting so I just had to take a test on the day AF was due and it was negative (of course) so stopped taking it and AF came a couple of days later. Although I have to say I felt absolutely awful for about a week, not sure if it was a coincidence and I was just ill, but guess I will see again this cycle.

any news on your appointment yet?

last week I still hadn't heard so I followed up and they called me and we had an appointment last week, so it all happened very suddenly - so defo give it a chase if you haven’t heard?

But the Dr was so lovely and it seems we are in a good trust so that is lucky. I have to have a few more tests when my next cycle starts but so long as everything is ok with that it would be moving forward with IVF since they said they wouldn’t recommend anything else. Not sure how I feel about it, in a way it’s totally overwhelming and I can’t believe it’s coming to this, but on the other hand I feel good that we can sort of relax for the rest of the year knowing that we have this plan in place for the new year - so just got to wait and see now and pray that it maybe happens naturally in the meantime!

Hope you are doing ok all things considered