9dpo opinions please!

[MissEmily5]

Hello!
I’m currently 9dpo and having a bit a wobble- I keep flitting between hopeful to sad very quickly today. I think I just need some opinions from people who don’t know me and who aren’t just going to say ‘Hopefully’ or ‘fingers crossed’ (which is very sweet but I just need something more than that.

I’m 28, and me and my husband are on cycle 5 of TTC. This month I’ve been using OPKs and BBT. Currently on CD24 which is 9dpo for me- got my static smiley with my ovulation test on CD15 in the morning. We DTD every other day from CD6 up to CD19 so should be plenty of sperm up there to meet the egg!
I was concerned that I wasn’t actually ovulating despite getting a positive OPK so that’s why I started BBT (at first this was a bit of a struggle but I think I’ve got the hang of it now). My ovulation was confirmed on CD6 (one day I had to disregard my temp as I woke up slightly but didn’t temp straight away and temped an hour later when my alarm went off). My BBT has only had one dip on CD2 under the base line but have been quite zig zag like and not showing that upward curve that I would like to indicate pregnancy- I’ll attach a photo below incase we have the BBT experts out there!

My CM has been a mixture of watery and creamy, but I’ve really noticed the watery CM when I actively check and only the creamy CM once it has dried in my pants (often a cream/yellow colour). However, today on CD9 I have started to spot- it mainly is watery CM with a pink tinge- happened this morning with my first morning wee, then had a small amount mid day but my pants had creamy discharge with a slight browny colouring and then tonight I had the same watery discharge with a pink tinge. I have attached some pictures- sorry in advance for TMI or if it’s too graphic.
Picture info-

• up close image on toilet paper was taken AM on CD9
• picture of pants was taken mid day
• toilet paper further away was taken PM on CD9

I would have been excited for this as it could possibly be implantation bleeding but last month I had a very similar experience (spotting started with a mixture of watery and creamy CM from CD23 and continued until CD27 to which it ended in my period).

I did also test this morning and received a BFN. I guess I’m just looking for any happily ever after who had similar situations to me or anyone with experience similar to mine. I think with the mixture of BBT and CM checking I already feel out at just 9dpo which I know is still early.

Might be worth mentioning that When I started to bleed today I thought it was game over so tried to put it out of my mind but me and my OH had sex and no trace of spotting on him or me afterwards. Plus cramps, if that’s what you can even call them has been minimal.

This TTC m’larky is so exhausting, you think it’ll be easy (I always said to people it could take a long while but I hoped deep down it would be super easy) and it’s like one thing after the next in terms of worry. First it’s the worry that you’ll get that positive OPK, then it’s the worry that if you’ll actually ovulate and get the temps to confirm it, not to mention having enough sex (whilst trying not to put too much pressure on you or your OH) and then it’s checking if your CM is right and so on and so on.
My Nan, who knows we’re TTC, said it’s any wonder anyone got pregnant back when she had her babies 😂
Just hope everyone is taking care of themselves whilst on this should be magical journey and wishing baby dust to you all!

Also, thank you for reading my long ramble and taking the time to reply! X

@MissEmily5 yep totally, it is all consuming and as much as you try to do stuff to take your mind off it all, it’s always in the back of your mind isn’t it.

im glad we both had a plan in place though, hopefully that either gives us solutions or puts our minds at ease!

im currently 8/9 dpo i think and have had some cramps yesterday, same as usual though so i think it hasn’t happened for me this month either, although trying to stay positive!

@jenkh91 any luck with this cycle? 🤞

Hey @MissEmily5 i think I’m 11dpo today and only thing I have is sore boobs. I had cramps over the weekend so was feeling like I’m out but then all evening Sunday I had weird cramps just on one side so it gave me a bit of hope. But stupidly did a test yesterday morning and was negative, so no idea. Think I’m probably out but will wait and see. How about you?

@jenkh91 10dpo is still really early, but I totally get your disappointment. I’m only 7/8dpo and already can feel the need to test! 😩 I’m going to try and hold out till Sunday which will make me 10/11dpo.

today you’ll be around due right? Hope you got good news! 🤞

I haven’t had any symptoms really, just tired and weirdly itchy breasts. But really not expecting anything from this month at all- all my focus is just getting them test results (my gut says there is something wrong so that’s why I’m not getting my hopes up!)

Hey @MissEmily5 AF has arrived for me so on to month 7. I was really starting to think this was my month!

but I’ve started the ball rolling with fertility clinic for tests so I can at least get either peace of mind or a plan in place!

It’s good you have the tests soon, did you hear anything back about your partners tests yet?

@jenkh91 I’m so sorry that AF came. It’s rough- I hope that month 7 brings lots of luck for you!
Hopefully with the tests you get the answers or the reassurance that it is just a matter of time- we get our results in 2 weeks time and it’s a comfort to know by the end of the month we will have a clearer idea :)

As for the results, they won’t tell us anything until we’ve both completed our tests and we’ll find out during the consultation and they will be able explain everything in detail and give us our options if needed.

@MissEmily5 yep, feeling better that have got this in the works, as you say, whatever the outcome at least it is progress! We’ve also decided this month to do no tracking again but to just dtd every 2 days for 2 weeks. I’ve read a couple of people here say the month they got pregnant they actually dtd a little after predicted ovulation, so thinking maybe need to spread it out a bit - who knows but worth a try!

how are you getting on? You must be due AF soon?

Hey @MissEmily5 how are you getting on?

AF was due on Friday for me but has still not arrived, not even had any spotting. I had some cramps on and off last week and the day before AF was due I had them on and off all day and thought I would start any second, but then then went away and not a peep since! This is literally the first time in all the years I’ve been tracking my periods that I am late, yet I am testing negative. It’s really so cruel and confusing and just want it to arrive so I can move on.

@jenkh91 hello Jen,
I was reading your comment thinking how promising it was but then got to the bit where you said BFN- why do are bodies do this when we want a baby! To give you a bit of hope- my sister tested negative for quite a while even though she was pregnant, nurse just said it’s just one of those things and her pregnancy a healthy.

My period has just arrived this evening- boo! But we go away on holiday at weekend so at least I won’t be on for that.
I’ve got it in my mind now that we only have one more month left to have a baby in 2024, next month a baby will be due in 2025, and for some reason that is making me super sad.

how did your fertility consultation go by the way?

@MissEmily5 I know! When I got to Friday and had nothing I really thought this was it, but no! Last night I started getting bad cramps and back ache and then had the tiniest speck of like pink discharge (sorry tmi) so I think it’s coming, I just need it to start now!

oh I’m sorry AF has arrived for you. Yep I guess that will be nice, you can relax and have some drinks etc, sounds like a holiday is well needed, where are you off to?

ahhh Yh it’s tough when you have a timeline in your mind at the start of the process, it just adds to the stress.

it went ok, she said I have very mild adenomyosis (never heard of it until then!) but she said that shouldn’t be a concern and everything else looks ok, so think my husband needs to get checked now. how was yours?

@jenkh91 did you start properly? It’s definitely a pain when you know your not pregnant and you just want your new cycle to start!

Silver linings get to enjoy the cocktails and all the cheese! We’re going to Athens- love Greek food. First holiday in quite a while so very much needed.

I’ve just had to Google it too! Glad that it doesn’t make a difference to your TTC journey. Yeah, I think it would be the best for your partner to get checked and as it’s quite an easy test for men!
We got our results and had two repeat tests- my blood tests all came back good and I have a good egg reserve. I’ve got a thinner than expected uterine lining- my first scan was at CD30 and my lining was super thin at 2.5mm and it should be about 8-13mm. On my second scan I was on CD20 and it was 5.7mm, again thin but possible for pregnancy. So hopefully the supplements and things I’m taking is helping!
My husband has a low sperm count- first test was 5million and 2nd test was 9million- should be a minimum of 15million. But again an improvement from the test before and it was only a few weeks so hopefully it’ll improve. we’ve just been told it is not impossible but might take a bit extra time 😔

@MissEmily5 i started today, whilst in the office so perfect timing 😂 but tbh feel relieved and ready to start again.

oh that will be so nice! Sounds like it’s well needed, how long are you going for? Hopefully you are away during a little part of your fertile window and that might help!

it’s good you finally have some answers, and although it’s not exactly the news you wanted to hear, the improvements in just a short time are definitely sounding very positive and it’s definitely good news that they’ve told you it’s not impossible. But still doesn’t make it any easier not knowing how long it’s going to take, but fingers crossed it happens soon for you!

@jenkh91 so sorry it started at work- I get that you want it to start but come on Mother Nature at least at home to have a bit of time to wallow!

Currently in Athens now- it’s not somewhere we’ve been before and probably won’t come back to, but lots of great sights that blow my mind and lots of time chilling which can only do good things for us. Fertile window apparently starts tomorrow and is right up until our last day! Hopefully a holiday will help us- isn’t that one of the common things people say? 😂

thank you very much lovely- it’s easy to get sad about it and it’s a rollercoaster of emotions but it’s not impossible and we just have to keep going!
have you booked you OH in for tests?

@MissEmily5 i know right! As soon as it had started i felt better though, and it wasn’t even a particularly heavy one, so no idea why it was late, but never mind!

oh that’s a shame it’s not somewhere you’d go again, but I guess q holiday is a holiday and will defo have done you both some good! Sounds like the fertile window fell at exactly the right time! Fingers crossed ☺️

no we haven’t booked OH tests yet, time got away from us and then we said let’s give it this month and then if nothing then we can do it. I also spoke to my friend yesterday who took about 14 months to conceive, she said after a year she went to fertility clinic and the DR told her that they should dtd approx 5 days before ovulation (apparently to get rid of the sperm that’s been sitting there 😂) and then nothing until you get positive ovulation test, then do it a few times over those couple of days. I think the idea is that then right on peak ovulation you are getting ‘the best’ sperm. So anyway we are giving that a try this month, so let’s see!

@jenkh91 so glad you felt better afterwards! What stage are you at now?
I’m currently on CD17 but yet to get a peak OPK result (think I might be having a dodgy cycle this month!)
My breasts are sooo sore the past couple of days though, never felt anything like it. Hoping it’s a good sign, but probably not 😂

Ooh well that might be a good method to try if this month is another negative- just trying to pin point when ovulation might be is the tricky part! I’m always different, not too different in CD but enough for it to be tricky-‘last month I got a positive OPK on CD12, never had it so early before- how about you?

@MissEmily5 im on cycle day 14, and I’m the same! Was expecting to ovulate tomorrow-ish but ovulation tests are still light so not sure what’s going on!

weird that you haven’t had peak opk but now your boobs are sore, could you have ovulated early?

this whole thing is so annoying 😂

@jenkh91 a little bit behind me in cycle days, I’m currently on CD21.
I still didn’t receive a peak test, just flashing smiley, so it either didn’t happen or I missed it! Hoping the latter. Today I have had some on and off brown spotting which is super weird… I’m only 4dpo or perhaps 5/6dpo depending on if I’m going off feeling potential ovulation pains. But I’m not due my period for at least a week!
God knows what is going on 🙈
It certainly is annoying- I’m so sick of it all and to think I was really looking forward to TTC before we started 😂

@MissEmily5 yep my missed period really set me back! But I think I had my peak on Saturday so fingers crossed.

i have read some people have a super quick peak so i guess it could be easily missed! That’s really weird about the spotting, even when you usually get spotting it’s not normallly this early is it? I want to say it sounds potentially promising but I feel like every time I say that it just turns out to be another weird trick our body’s playing on us!!

@jenkh91 did you get your peak confirmed?:) and how are you feeling?

nope not ever this early- I’ve now been brown spotting for 10 days, yesterday it started to lessen and today it has continued and I’m now two days late for my period but only 13dpo today. I’m starting to feel twinges so I’m worried I’ll suddenly come on full flow! Felt run down, tired and nauseous this week but a BFN today when I tested! I’m just so anxious for my period to come as I so want it to be it but at the same time if it’s not it, I just want it started rather than this limbo!

Do you use cheap OPK strips at all?

I used the CBAD alongside the strips and found that I got a peak smiley on CD16 (after 4 days of blank, 1 day of flashing) and my strips showed peak on CD20 which I think was correct in my case (would have totally missed my window if I wasn't using these!). Just a small anecdote but might be worth using both

@GreenPickle hi! I do yes, I changed to CBAD back in December, have always been able to find my peak with them minus this month- but thank you for the advice. Baby dust to you ✨

✨ you too!

If it doesn't work out for my this cycle, I'll try the CBAD again next cycle but 4 days difference seems to be a lot (but also, good in terms of knowing my fertile window)! Keep me updated 🤞🤞

@MissEmily5 i did get my peak confirmed! So think today I am around 12dpo, AF due tomorrow/saturday according to apps, but to be honest I feel the same as every other month so I have totally lost hope!

how are you getting on? Has the spotting stopped? after last month when I was a week late, because of what you told me about your sister and then a load of stuff I have read from other people, you really do never know until AF shows up! But I totally get it, the wait is awful and you just want to know either way

@jenkh91 oooh not long to go! And sometimes you don’t have any symptoms, it might just surprise you! 🍀

well I’m either 2 or 4 days late for period, I tested yesterday which was apparently 13dpo, but I spotted from CD4 to pretty much today! It’s been soo light and like today was hardly anything and mostly light brown. I thought I genuinely came on yesterday as I got a bright red smallish clot but since then nothing… it’s very, very strange. Never had a cycle this long ever before- CD32 today so if my period hasn’t come before the end of the week I’ll take another test and if negative I’ll give the doctors a ring!

@MissEmily5 well I started spotted this evening so think it’s arrived 😩

thats all so weird, so frustrating isn’t it, really hope you get some good news over the weekend!