9dpo opinions please!

[MissEmily5]

Hello!
I’m currently 9dpo and having a bit a wobble- I keep flitting between hopeful to sad very quickly today. I think I just need some opinions from people who don’t know me and who aren’t just going to say ‘Hopefully’ or ‘fingers crossed’ (which is very sweet but I just need something more than that.

I’m 28, and me and my husband are on cycle 5 of TTC. This month I’ve been using OPKs and BBT. Currently on CD24 which is 9dpo for me- got my static smiley with my ovulation test on CD15 in the morning. We DTD every other day from CD6 up to CD19 so should be plenty of sperm up there to meet the egg!
I was concerned that I wasn’t actually ovulating despite getting a positive OPK so that’s why I started BBT (at first this was a bit of a struggle but I think I’ve got the hang of it now). My ovulation was confirmed on CD6 (one day I had to disregard my temp as I woke up slightly but didn’t temp straight away and temped an hour later when my alarm went off). My BBT has only had one dip on CD2 under the base line but have been quite zig zag like and not showing that upward curve that I would like to indicate pregnancy- I’ll attach a photo below incase we have the BBT experts out there!

My CM has been a mixture of watery and creamy, but I’ve really noticed the watery CM when I actively check and only the creamy CM once it has dried in my pants (often a cream/yellow colour). However, today on CD9 I have started to spot- it mainly is watery CM with a pink tinge- happened this morning with my first morning wee, then had a small amount mid day but my pants had creamy discharge with a slight browny colouring and then tonight I had the same watery discharge with a pink tinge. I have attached some pictures- sorry in advance for TMI or if it’s too graphic.
Picture info-

• up close image on toilet paper was taken AM on CD9
• picture of pants was taken mid day
• toilet paper further away was taken PM on CD9

I would have been excited for this as it could possibly be implantation bleeding but last month I had a very similar experience (spotting started with a mixture of watery and creamy CM from CD23 and continued until CD27 to which it ended in my period).

I did also test this morning and received a BFN. I guess I’m just looking for any happily ever after who had similar situations to me or anyone with experience similar to mine. I think with the mixture of BBT and CM checking I already feel out at just 9dpo which I know is still early.

Might be worth mentioning that When I started to bleed today I thought it was game over so tried to put it out of my mind but me and my OH had sex and no trace of spotting on him or me afterwards. Plus cramps, if that’s what you can even call them has been minimal.

This TTC m’larky is so exhausting, you think it’ll be easy (I always said to people it could take a long while but I hoped deep down it would be super easy) and it’s like one thing after the next in terms of worry. First it’s the worry that you’ll get that positive OPK, then it’s the worry that if you’ll actually ovulate and get the temps to confirm it, not to mention having enough sex (whilst trying not to put too much pressure on you or your OH) and then it’s checking if your CM is right and so on and so on.
My Nan, who knows we’re TTC, said it’s any wonder anyone got pregnant back when she had her babies 😂
Just hope everyone is taking care of themselves whilst on this should be magical journey and wishing baby dust to you all!

Also, thank you for reading my long ramble and taking the time to reply! X

@jenkh91 oh I’m so sorry! Did it turn into a full bleed?

Still no period for me and all the BFN, so a missed period it is! Although as I was getting cramps, not period cramps but what felt like ovulation cramps I tested for LH and got a positive OPK on CD38. I’m now on CD42 and technically I’m 2dpo now… I’m hoping this works out and perhaps gives me a better chance as surely my uterus lining would be thicker as I’ve not bled for quite some time!

Hey @MissEmily5 yes it did! I’m on CD10 now so gearing up to go again 😩but my husband does have GP appointment in a couple of weeks so at least ball is rolling with that.

i can’t believe it just never came! But well done for testing for ovulation, good thinking! Yes maybe this will end up being a good thing!

@jenkh91 really sorry you’re having to go through another cycle 😔 it’s so exhausting isn’t it! Fab, I hope you and him get some answers and whatever they are that you know what you need to do!

All we can do is hope- I’m so ready for this journey to be done and on to the next happy step!

Hey @MissEmily5 how are you getting on this month?!

im due on Friday or Saturday I think so just playing the waiting game. Was feeling quite relaxed about it this month because I’ve been so busy, but then yesterday I met a friend who told me she is pregnant and was saying how it ‘just happened so quickly and she can’t believe she got pregnant straight away!!!’ What do you even say in response to that 🤷‍♀️

hope you’re doing ok!

@jenkh91 That sucks so much- honestly I don’t think people think (even if they don’t know you’re trying)🤦🏻‍♀️ has it put you in a bit of a spin?
At least you haven’t got too long to find out! How have you felt otherwise? :)

Well I got a solid smiley face on my ovulation test this afternoon, flashing yesterday afternoon and a circle yesterday morning- so ovulation has come on very quickly!

It’s quite early on far me to ovulate, especially after my strange last cycle and ovulating late last month! it’s all very strange.
I started reflexology last night- hoping this might help things if not successful this month!

@MissEmily5 no I think people can be wrapped up in their own happy news (and rightly so!) that they are thinking. It did send me into a bit of a spin, and then AF arrived couple days early, so quite a short cycle this month.

my husband is getting semen analysis finally next week so that will be good to have answers there.

what cycle day are you?

it’s so weird cycles suddenly going weird, I’ve heard great things about reflexology so hopefully that can help you relax if nothing else!

@jenkh91 totally- yes be happy and joyful but so many struggle with TTC. I’ve always been very cautious about the topic of babies but I think I’ll be extra since our struggles with it all.

great news about your husband- how is he feeling about it all? fingers crossed it all comes back good!

I’m now on CD17, I ovulated quite early for me on CD14 I believe- got a positive OPK on CD13 after lots of ovulation cramps during the day. I believe my BBT has confirmed it- although I don’t BBT all the way through the cycle as I find it hella stressful. Only 3dpo and already feeling out, we didn’t managed to DTD much as it was a lot earlier than we expected and to be honest I wasn’t in the right head space after my super long cycle last month, and my BBT seems to be going down the past 2 days but we’ll see as I keep temping. Just trying to not get my hopes up.

I wonder if reflexology caused me to ovulate earlier- she did say it could alter my ovulation. But I only had reflexology the night before so I don’t think so? But who knows!
it was very relaxing to be fair! Looking forward to my next one on Wednesday.

what cycle day are you now? X

@MissEmily5 yep I’m the same, and from now I think I’ll be even more cautious about what I say. But I also think people don’t talk enough about the fact that for most people it does take time, the people that talk open and loudly about it are the ones that it happened quickly for, which makes it feel like it should happen quickly and when it doesn’t, that somethings wrong.

he’s anxious that we will get really bad news, but he is always pessimistic 😂

it’s so hard to keep the hope up isn’t it, but just remember it only takes one time!

I also gave up on temping, I just do it for a few days before ovulation until it confirms ovulation and then I give up! I wouldn’t pay too much attention to it fluctuating, based on what I’ve read.

im glad it was relaxing at least, even if all it does is help you relax I’m sure that will be beneficial.

im cycle day 6 now i think, trying to enjoy this time before it all starts again 😂

@jenkh91 definitely not… I know people are private when it comes to their hardships but it would make it feel more normal if we talked about it more. Hopefully we’ll be people who can talk about it as success stories!

my OH is exactly the same! Although I think he appreciated getting answers.. we only have 3 more cycles till we hit the year mark so I think we’ve both resigned ourselves that they’ll be a lot more tests in our future! Yes, just takes one time and one sperm… which is definitely what I’m telling myself this cycle 🙈😂

definitely relaxing, although it does make me
feel a bit funny afterwards but apparently
that gets better as the toxins get released!

Fingers crossed this is the month! I’m now 7/8dpo due around Thursday.

@MissEmily5 yep definitely worth getting answers! OH had his test this morning so step one done, I’m so glad I’m not a guy having to do that test, much prefer getting probed 😂

I’m CD 13 now so should be ovulating in a few days, so time to get going again. But thankfully we are off on holiday on Friday for just over a week so at least this tww will be super busy for me and my mind will not be thinking about it, hoping that works in my favour!

how are you feeling now AF is due in a few days?

@jenkh91 what were your OH results? Hope they came back okay! God I know! My OH hated it so much! In this case women are the lucky ones 😂

I hope you have a lovely holiday! and helped with the TWW crazies.

my period was surprisingly painless, quite heavy because of the missed on I think but no cramps! Think it could be to do with the reflexology. Now on cycle 10, on CD9. I don’t think I’m going to test this cycle and Joe tho with the flow- well the best I can! 🙈

Hey @MissEmily5 so he got his results today and all are normal, so that’s one good thing at least!

holiday was lovely thanks, definitely helped distract me. Although on I think 6DPO I had one random spot of pink blood when I wiped, and nothing since. So then my mind kept thinking ‘what does it mean?!?!’ But it still helped to be distracted for sure. Now think I’m 12DPO, have cramps so expected AF to start in next couple of days.

i had a GP appointment this morning and the doctor was so lovely, I’m getting blood tests so I’m glad about that, so at least that’s something.

Thats good news AF wasn’t too painful for you! Hopefully the reflexology is starting to help. I think going with the flow is a good idea, take the pressure off a bit!

@jenkh91 great news on your OH test
results- must be a relief.

I hope it meant good news for you!! Did it?

Any follow up on your tests? I had some blood tests done and all came back ‘normal’ but the doctor hasn’t rang me back for any follow up- like it might be normal but I’m still spotting and I want to know why. I haven’t been able to get through to doctors for a week now.

this month I’ve been trying to be more relaxed- no OPK testing and because I don’t know when I ovulated I find it easier to not symptom spot. I’m booked in for a HyCosy next month so hopefully that’ll help if we’re not successful again this month.

@MissEmily5 yes defo a relief!

no sadly AF came! Was spotting for like 4 days before it this month so I’m interested to see what bloods say.

got them booked for day 21 which is still couple of weeks away so just a waiting game.

also think this month won’t happen for us because I’m away for a the few days leading up to ovulation which is annoying, but I’m not going to do any testing and just go for it the few days before I go away and then when I’m back and keep fingers crossed!

Even though it’s good to hear that things are normal, it’s also a little frustrating isn’t it because it doesn’t give you answers. That’s very frustrating to not hear anything from docs, I feel it’s a total lottery on who your GP is and what they are like.

thats good news about the hycosy, is that through NHS or private? I’ve heard a lot of good things about it! It’s at least another step forward isn’t it

@jenkh91 that sucks. When will it be our turn to share our BFP news on this chat eh! I’m hoping very, very soon for us both.

always a waiting game with these things isn’t it- my doctor didn’t get back to me soon enough. They wanted a blood test a week before my expected period but it was already too late. So booked in for the following month (which hopefully I don’t need- but AF is expected on Thursday so we’ll see).

who knows maybe them few times will do the trick- the way I see it maybe changing it up will give us different results. It doesn’t seem to matter how much you DTD or prepare yourself in the run up it still doesn’t work anyway 😂🙈

hycosy is private- I want to have everything that has been advised before the year mark. Plus I figure if it increases your chances the most for the first 3 months after having it done, I figured it’ll make me feel like we’re being productive whilst we wait for our first NHS IVF appointments.

I didn’t test for ovulation this month, so I’m
not entirely sure what DPO I am but I think based off what I thought was ovulation pains I’m about 10dpo. Starting very light brown spotting today- I hope it’s something good but on cycle 10 i’m getting a bit more pessimistic😂 how are you getting on?

Hey@MissEmily5 how are you getting on?

i knowww, really hoping we get our BFPs soon, i really can’t believe it’s pretty much been a year already, i really didn’t think it would take this long!

think the hycosy sounds like a great idea, at least it will make you feel proactive, and fingers crossed it might help!

I haven’t done any testing this month, so not sure exactly but think I’m a couple days post ovulation. Didnt get to dtd as much as would have liked but never mind!

@jenkh91 god I know.. I’m on month 11 now. With my hycosy booked on CD14 which will probably mean this month is out too. Definitely feel positive about the procedure- I think more in control.

But at least with it being a year point, I can get the ball rolling for IVF, which probably will make me feel better too. Well at least until the waiting… I think I’ll give it 3 months after the hycosy and then give acupuncture a try.

I also didn’t test, I think it helped in some respects but then I really wanted to know if we dtd at the right time. How did you feel about not testing this month? :)

@MissEmily5 keeping everything crossed the hycosy helps, like you say, at least you can feel like you are doing something!

Yh I’m the same, felt good not to test but also means I have no idea if we missed the peak time, especially since I was away for a few days. But I’ve already resigned myself to this month not being the one and think next month I won’t test either but will just dtd every other day for a couple of weeks.

I also have blood tests tomorrow so hoping maybe something comes of that!

im just tired of feeling like I’m living month to month!

@jenkh91
I started to test again this cycle but i’m definitely not doing it religiously, I’ve even missed a couple of days. To be honest, I think i’m just doing it because we can’t try until after the hycosy is done, so I just want to check just in case. I’d hate to think that I’ve wasted my chance this month.

The living month to month is exhausting isn’t it? I’m done with counting, testing and worrying about it general.

I wish you all the best with your blood tests- do let us know how you get on with them. It’s tricky with results, sometimes you want there to be an issue so you can fix it, other times you don’t want it to be the case because why would you want there to be something wrong!

@MissEmily5 i think even just not being so religious with it helps doesn’t it. When is your hycosy? Wishing you all the best for it!

I’ve definitely felt more relaxed this month up until yesterday, think AF is due Thursday, so far no spotting YET but I stupidly did a test this morning and was negative, I knew I shouldn’t do it because I didn’t test so don’t even know how many dpo I am but I couldn’t resist.

i was supposed to also have a scan but haven’t had a phone call to book that in yet, so chased the GP and hoping she will come back to me this week and will also be able to let me know about bloods. Yh I know what you mean, you want there to be a reason why it’s not happened that can be easily fixed but also you don’t want anything to be wrong.

@jenkh91 I definitely agree, I think if you’re not obsessive with something it has to help 🙈😂
I had my hycosy on Tuesday- was not a fan! I think the main reason why it hurt was because they had to manipulate my cervix to get the catheter in. But what was great was finding out that my lining was a whopping 8.6mm at CD14. Sooo happy with that and so was the consultant, fingers crossed it helps. I do think the reflexology has helped with my circulation.

did AF turn up? Fingers crossed it didn’t! Sometimes you just get the itch to test!

have you managed to get your scan appointment through now?

@MissEmily5 oh ouch! But at least it’s done now. Great news about your lining! Must be nice to at least feel like there’s some progress there! How you getting on this month?

AF turned up 2 days late for me, so on to next month and just approaching fertile window again now.

still no news on my scan, I did follow up and they said it might just take some time so I guess I need to be patient.

already feeling like it’s not going to happen this month, another friend has announced she is pregnant and I feel like announcements are everywhere at the minute!

@jenkh91 long time no speak- had to take a break from the sites and the researching and it all really 😂
I hope you’re doing okay and hopefully some good news? ✨
Me and my OH are officially on the NHS IVF wait list- month 12 now. I had such high hopes the last cycle after my hycosy and my liking all good and my husband got his SA back and all looking amazing and his sperm count is now 49mil per ml! Staggering from 9mil. So it’s now technically unexplained… the idea of starting IVF fills me with dread but we’re plodding along. I’ve stopped testing and we’re just focusing on enjoying ourselves and not putting pressure on it all, maybe because we think it won’t happen naturally now? But it’s a crazy place to be in! X

Hey @MissEmily5!
I don’t blame you at all, it’s a lot isn’t it!
no good news from my side either, I was originally a cycle or so behind you but think I must have caught up as I’ve also officially hit month 12. I actually found it really hard hitting 12 months and felt so down about it all, but weirdly now I feel much more relaxed and positive about it!

even though you haven’t had your BFP yet, it’s still really great news that your lining and husbands SA is much better! It’s scary but also good you’re on the list, and hopefully you will fall into the trend of couples who get pregnant naturally just before they are about to start IVF! But either way, at least you are making progress.

i managed to have my scan eventually and had follow up with GP a couple of weeks ago - everything looks normal apparently, so she referred me to infertility clinic, so now is just a waiting game!

@jenkh91 I hope your both taking care of
yourselves💗 a year is tough milestone to get to.
I’ve started my period today so officially cycle 13 now.

Actually called the fertility clinic to see an update on the waitlist and found out no referral had been made!! After a lot of ringing around and lots of tears, the doctors managed to fit us in for a ‘referral appointment’ today (even though I had one 5 weeks ago) and the doctor is ringing tomorrow to confirm it’s been sent off.

God I hope so! I hope we’re both one of those lucky couples that get caught just before- we’ve freaked ourselves out watching Alex Jones: Making Babies, which is really insightful but it does make me panic about how overwhelming it all is going to be.

Glad to hear your scan was good- does that mean you and your OH have unexplained infertility?
Thats what we have been told now