The Hut of Gl/Doom Part VI - And Yes, We've Tried Fecking Relaxing!

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new home. I liked the decor in the old one, nless someone wants to redecorate!

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oh shreks, thats a massive step

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SM - A huge step giving away baby stuff. I too am considering it as it just takes up so much storage space (I think I have room for 1 more box as our loft is converted) - when we've run out of storage space I'm going to start getting rid... maybe... I have started to loan a lot out to a couple of friends which I was unwilling to do as I wanted to keep it in god condition but now I just think it may as well get used.

I too kept putting off further tests. But, the catalyst was a new year and we decided to spend this year getting all the investigations done and next year having treatment (a bit simplistic in the timing I know but it was a way of thinking about it) which would take us to dd being 5 in January 2010 which would then be a time to call a halt. I think the only way I will be able to accept that we are having no more children is if I have done everything I can to try and have another. That's just my way of thinking about it and I fully respect the decision not to go down the route of tests and treatment - sometimes I doubt my decision like at 4 pm today when my legs were akimbo and a jolly hockey sticks doctor was telling m/c happen for a reason (she didn't actually tell me this when my legs were akimbo but just before which kind of made me want to punch her).

And breathe...

Lissie - I think DH wil do the test when told to this time. At least, I hope so ! If I get told I need to do the blood test again DH will have 2 weeks to do it or else .

My big project to take my mind off things (and to help me through the 2 year countdown to giving up...) is running - yesterday I did Race for Life which was 5K and then every 6 months-ish I'm going to do a longer run culminating in the marathon in 2010. Mind you, despite lots of training and running a reasonable time yesterday I didn't really enjoy the race as much as I'd thought but anyway, about to sign for a 10K in September....

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ds will be 5 in 2010 too. wow!

Grrr ACU says no need to repeat blood test (wihtout having seen results), just tell consultant AF arrived next day....

So... its over to DH now. Place your bets on how long it takes.....

Permission to scream please, ladies.

AAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH

Thank you

Went to GP in Feb re FTC. Had to do day 21 and semen tests before he'd refer us to sub-fertility unit. Did tests, all fine. Tried to book another appointment with GP to arrange referral, told had to wait three weeks. Eventually, got 'choose and book' system. Got appointment for 22 May.

Turns out it's on the same day as adoption training. Phone to reschedule hospital appointment, told they don't reschedule first appointments, contrary to what the appointment letter says. I've got to cancel it, and go back to be GP to be referred again.

For FARK's Sake. I've just had enough of having to fight the NHS to take an interest in my FOUR miscarriages, the GP for a referral, six councils before anyone would consider us for adoption, ON AND ON AND FUCKING ON.

I've also got PMT, which doesn't help. Not only in a total mood, but it means another cycle down the pan.

Just cried in car park.

You have my permission to go home and smash plates. Or better still, someone else's home (you won't have to clear up the mess).

oh herby, that really is beyond crap. have you complained to your PLT about the service you are getting? its really not on!

Herby - that is shite. The attitude of ACU is really testing my faith in the NHS. In an area where you'd expect people to have empathy and sympathy they seem to be more inhumane than ever. They can't reschedule appointments ? Computers make that sort of thing really tricky these days don't they - how is that efficient use of the NHS if they make you go back to the GP and go through the whole process again rather than just make a new appointment.

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are you still here sm?

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Hello girls

I've been away for a long weekend to Utrecht, on tour with my choir. It was really great - got to know lots of people, sang in beautiful places, stayed on the shore of a lake with lily pads, baby coots, and a nesting heron... really took my mind off the whole FTC shit. Until AF turned up yesterday, that is.

I think I'm going to go private for further investigations. I just can't stand the NHS any longer.

By the way, can anyone shed any light on what might be happening to my cycles? For the past 9 months they've been 28 days, regular as clockwork, with sore boobs starting straight after ovulation, around CD13. For the past couple of months they've been 34 and 35 days, with two lots of EWCM at CD8-10 and then again at CD20. Quite bad cramps about a week before period, too. The started to change the month I started taking EPO - could the two be connected?

i would have thought so, maybe speak to cons about it? sorry you are still having a shit time, when will you make appt? i cant believe how difficult it is for you, we've been relatively lucky in that we have had our appts through quite quickly, in fact got our next one for next friday.

its lissie btw

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I'm a bit like annie mac - I know I should make an appointment with the private woman I've been recommended, as I can't get anywhere with NHS, but keep putting it off. Maybe I'm afraid she'll say 'forget it, you ancient old hag'. But in some ways that would be a relief.

One of the ladies on the adoption preparation group had been trying for years, then had a premature menopause at 37. She said it was a relief, as it meant she could move on, and embrace the next stage. The problem with all of us on this thread is that we can't seem to let go of the 'what if...'

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Hi All...

Holding on to the 'what ifs' - definitely.

DD said to me at the weekend 'I want a baby sister and a dog ... called Charlotte'. I think its just the dog she's going to call Charlotte but there's certainly not much chance of her having the latter (according to DH) and it kind of feels like that about the former.

One chink of good news in the Wheely household (sorry I know the hut isn't the place for good news but I have no where else to put it as I avoid conception threads generally as everyone gets pregnant on them) - I was phoned by the hospital to say they suddenly have lots of free appointments in June, would I like to move mine forward ? It turns out I could have had any wednesday in June and virtually any time - whats that all about ? So my appointment which should have been on 24 July is now on 4 June . I can't believe it ! I then had to persuade [useless men emoticon] to work from home all day wednesday so he can do his test in the morning prior to the appt in the pm. He did sense ..... eventually.....

So, am now really nervous. As far as I know all tests have come back as fine so anybody, from their experience, know what might happen next ?