TTC May 2023 💖 Previous MC March 2023 (thread 2)

[Sez281]

Hi ladies, just thought I'd create a new thread for anybody that wants to continue.
@Jadeypie
@Westy22
@Freddie15VES
@fleur89
@Strawb28
@DmcinT
@HopeAndStrength
@xxcxdonxx
And @SnookyPook for if/when you feel like you might want to come back xx

Sorry if I've forgotten anybody, I realise most of you guys have had your BFPs and there's only a few off us left waiting, but at least you know the thread is here so come back and keep us updated with all your lovely pregnancy stories 😊 For those of us still here, hopefully it won't be too much longer 🙏💖 xx

@SnookyPook That's great that the doc is going bloods tomorrow and that unit will see you on Tuesday. Im glad to hear that you're doing as ok as you can be as it's such a crappy situation being stuck in limbo 😣

@Westy22 I'm the exact same. Im in no humour at all. I think it might be the change in weather or the fact that I'm sick but I feel like I just can't be bothered this cycle. Also if anything my opks have gotten lighter than last week when the scan showed a strong dominant follicle so I don't know what's going on 🧐 I'll keep poas just to see if it rises but my OH has man flu now too so obviously 10 times sicker than me 🙄so I'd say we'll be lucky to dtd at all over next few days which at this exact moment I'm actually ok with 🤷‍♀️

@xxcxdonxx that's reassuring that you weren't taking too many vitamins or anything. Very frustrating that the referral has to come from the clinic though. Will you get on to them to get the ball rolling? X

@Sez281 I’m currently on a 12-16 week wait list for the clinic so I don’t know if they could do anything in the mean time while I wait for my appointment. Maybe worth a call though just to check! In the mean time I think I’ll start trying to up it naturally and see if it makes any difference. It’s just difficult knowing what to do for best!

Oh yes man flu, we’ve had a dose of that too 🫤hoping you both pick up soon!

@xxcxdonxx definitely no harm making the call. Play dumb and say you know you're on lost but doc told you to call and get prescription. They can only say no wait till appointment but no harm chancing it 🤷‍♀️🤞

How's everyone getting on?

Feeling bit fed up this morning, more frustrated tbh got some clear ovulation signs yesterday eve and had some cramping on my right side so ofcourse I was like let's go 🙈 but bf said he wasn't "in the mood" 😫 Tried not to make a big deal of it but I was so bloody annoyed. Don't feel like we're on the same page atm or even in the same bloody book, i dont talk to him about my cycles or ovulation so unsure if hes totally oblivious to how things work hence him not putting the effort it. So looks like it's another failed month 💤

Now off to work and is pouring down with rain so feel like it's a super miserable day already 😑 x

Aw @Westy22 sorry to hear that you're having such a crap time of it 😕 He might be in better form and more up for it when you get home later🤷‍♀️. I think the weather has everybody in awful humour. Also the symptoms could mean that you still have a day or 2 left 🤞xx

I'm in a kind of limbo at the moment too. I'm either 5dpo after a very small peak or else I won't ovulate for another week or so like last cycle according to my app. I'm going to take it that I haven't yet and attempt to dtd over the next few days but I've still got this awful cold so not in the mood at all 🤧

Hope everybody else is doing ok x

@westy that is really frustrating, I know I am guilty too of not sharing everything with dh about my cycles etc. We have used smep every time we’ve been TTC and he still asks what the ‘rules’ are 🫠 I find it a tricky balance!
I agree, it sounds like you might have a few days left so all hope is not lost.

@Sez281 fingers crossed for a later ovulation for you and some time to shift your cold.

No real update from me, tested yesterday and still have a faint positive hcg so I know things are going in the right direction but prob wouldn’t expect to ovulate for another few weeks. Doing some random tests to check in but nothing as yet!

Hi everyone sorry I've been AWOL. I'm up the wall seriously feel like I couldn't write this year just bad news after another!

On a lighter note I've had my referal for the hormone specialist just waiting on the appointment now.

@Westy22 I'll be out this month too I've not dtd and one aps saying I'm past ovulation the other is saying I'm due but I've not tracked or anything and seriously think I'm not going to ovulate I haven't had no actually symptoms for it.

I'm just really over the ttc and just what will be will be attitude so I've not been obsessing either xx

Thanks for your replies ❤️

I came home from work after a rather emotional day and basically opened up to him a bit, he surprised me I expected him to close right up but he didn't ❤️ he honestly thought you could get pregnant any day of your cycle lol I still think he thinks I've made the fertile window up tbh but I feel better knowing we've talked about it and I've explained how having a MC has turned on this totally mental ttc mode on in me 🙈😫

So even if I'm out this cycle I think I've made some progress atleast with him x

@Westy22 aw that sounds positive. Men can be so bloody clueless sometimes!! If you had ovulation signs yesterday eve, you're still in with a shot for the next 24hrs I'd say! Maybe you can convince him tonight? Good luck xx

@xxcxdonxx glad to hear it's going in the right direction, it really is a slow process isn't it. Hopefully your body gets back to normal and you ovulate soon xx

@Jadeypie sorry to hear that you've had a crazy time. That's really good about the referral though.. hopefully you get appointment soon. Are you still on your health kick? X

@Westy22 Aww bless, so glad you had a little talk and he understands a bit more now. As @SnookyPook says men just really are clueless 🙈 My OH actually asked me last night if it was peak time, I explained that I didn't know but we dtd anyway just for fun which was good! I'm thinking I might start putting little love hearts on calendar when I'm possibly in fertile window so he just knows 🤷‍♀️😂

@SnookyPook How are you doing? I assume you won't get blood results back till Monday or Tuesday. Hope things are looking ok though 🤞 xx

@Sez281 thanks.. yeah just waiting. Bad timing just before a weekend!! I was convinced this morning that I'd started bleeding as felt really wet but it was just CM... No spotting or bleeding yet... 5+4 now... 🤞🏻🙏🌈

@SnookyPook oh that sounds really good, you always say that CM is massive indication for you too so it really does sound promising. Fingers crossed for your results and the scan 🤞 🌈 Keep is updated x

@SnookyPook this weekend will feel so long! You're doing great though 5+4 is good! How are your tests looking? (Or maybe you haven't kept testing)

@Hankthehonk yeah trying not to test as it wasn't doing me any favours!! Yeah, 5+4 is out of CP territory now I think so... Just trying to keep busy. It's all feeling very surreal atm. I'm really hoping the the bloods I get on Monday will be reassuring. But as you know all too well, then I'm into 'the last one stopped developing at 7+5' territory... So... I'm just trying to take it one day at a time. I guess ultimately, whatever I worry/obsess about etc won't change anything. This baby will either continue developing well or it won't ... That sounds really detached and I kind of feel detached and kind of don't. I'm just trying to be gentle with myself though. If they make it, I'm sure they'll forgive me a wobbly first trimester considering!!

How's everyone else? Xx

And thanks @Sez281 - will deffo keep you updated!! X

@SnookyPook I feel for you so much. I didn't have any positivity until my 12 week scan, had a lot of anxiety in the first trimester but oftentimes just sort of numb about it too. The days and weeks will feel long but just keep focusing on those mini milestones.

@Westy22 just catching up on your posts too, that's great you were able to have the chat with your dh and it went better than expected. My dh certainly wasn't aware of all the intricacies of ttc but I did tell him when the fertile days were! It's a tricky balance too, not putting too much pressure on them or yourself.

That’s great @SnookyPook and as you say, one day at a time. Thinking of you for your test results and scan next week 💜

I’ve been a bit flat today and I’m not really sure why. It was my first week back to work and I think it’s taken it out of me, not that it was particularly taxing but just having to engage my brain in a different way maybe. I also seen something on the Tommys page which was a snippet of an interview basically saying that there is a misconception that miscarriages are natures way of stopping non viable pregnancies and that in lots of cases there are things that can be done to help in the cases of early bleeding etc. I think it’s hit a bit of a nerve with me as I wonder if anything could have been done with mine. I think I’m just frustrated at not having answers and I’m not meaning to nhs bash as I know they are underfunded and resourced but I’ve felt a bit fobbed off with lots of people I’ve spoken to with it being ‘just bad luck or very common’ and everything seems to take so long to get anything done. Ahh rant over 🤕

@xxcxdonxx I don't blame you for feeling frustrated, especially when you feel you're being fobbed off the whole time. I don't fall under the NHS but the healthcare system here in Ireland is quite similar. You're doing all that you can to look after yourself and unfortunately that's all we can do 😕 I think future generations will look back and find it hard to believe how difficult we had it to get appointments, get prescribed medication easily etc. Hopefully things will change soon xx

My head is all over the place today. Started cramping around lunchtime and have just noticed some bleeding when I wiped. It wasn't enough to see on my underwear but a good bit on the tissue so I've put a pad on. I think it's something similar to what happened to you a while ago @Jadeypie? I really don't know what to think, I'm only cd16. On cd6 the doc did a scan and said there was a dominant follicle there and to go home and dtd (which I did 😂) when I was away over last weekend I did use opks and possibly peaked on cd8 but it wasn't a massive jump. So that would mean I ovulated on cd9 and I'm 7dpo today. My app is saying because of my long cycle last month that I'm not even due to ovulate for another 6 days 🙈The hopeful part of me is praying it's implantation bleeding but the cramps are so bad that it feels more like AF on cd16 😭

@Sez281 that’s a strange one date wise and no wonder you are feeling all over the place.
All I can add is that in most recent pregnancy, I had bright red bleeding at 7dpo which I’ve never had in any of my pregnancies which I then took to be implantation bleeding after I got my bfp. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻

Also thank you for your earlier post, unfortunately his group has to hear my frustrations!

@xxcxdonxx that's what this group is here for. We all need somewhere to rant 🤷‍♀️😂 Oh I forgot this happened in your most recent pregnancy. How long after did you get your BFP?
When I got pregnant in January I did an opk after what I thought was AF as it lasted 5 days and was medium flow. But the opk was blazing dark so I did a hcg and it was positive.. so I guess I have had implantation bleeding before 🙏 but then I have also had one 16 day cycle before (coincidentally this time last year) so I guess I’ll just have to wait it out 🙈🤞🌈

Ah that is strange @Sez281 hoping it's a positive sign something is happening and it's not Af 🙏 🌈

@xxcxdonxx I totally hear your frustrations, its so difficult as I honestly feel like there's not much time given to help women facing this and some GPs really dont know how to. Hopefully you start to feel more positive soon, it's such a rollercoaster of emotions.

@SnookyPook really hoping you get some good news this coming week, it must feel like a lifetime waiting 🙏

Thanks for your replies! Feel like such a a weight has been lifted having spoke to the OH properly, nothing much going on my end tho we only managed to dtd yesterday as I'm guessing after our chat the OH felt a bit awkward the night before lol I was still cramping a bit yesterday so I'm hoping I potentially ovulated later this cycle (that wouldve been CD 17) but tbh I think it would be very lucky if I got caught this month as we've not timed it well at all. I'm actually thinking of doing the calendar thing you suggested @Sez281 xx

I was just looking back at my calendar @Sez281, I got a faint positive on 10dpo. Arrrgh this having to wait and see business is torture! Thinking positively for you 🙏🏻

You are right @Westy22 i think unless you go to a specialist, there just isn’t enough information available apart from Dr Google 😅 I’m glad you are feeling better too 💜

Thanks for that @xxcxdonxx I'm potentially 8dpo today which is hard to believe at cd17! so going to be a long couple of days 😣. Had a tiny bit more spotting this morn but a very unusual colour and definitely not enough to call AF so fingers crossed 🤞

@Westy22 you never know you still may have caught it🤞 And yeah the calendar thing might not be a bad idea, it's just a gentle reminder for them to maybe initiate things and take the pressure off of us a bit 😉