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I've been silly but I really need advice!

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Bismillah2023 · 04/06/2023 13:46

So please don't judge me for this as I am already punishing myself and my stupid choices as it is.
I have just come back from a holiday, where I ended up sleeping with one of the locals out there.
For reference I have not had sex in 3.5 years through personal choice after an awful break up with an emotional abuser, I have chosen to protect myself and my best interests by staying away from men! However a few drinks in the Sun and some charm from him ended up with us in bed together.
Fast forward to now, last night I went to the loo and noticed some pale pink discharge on the tissue when I wiped, as this was so unusual for me it led me to check my Flo app and I have absolutely shit myself when I realised I was ovulating (or so the app says) on the exact day I slept with him. We had sex numerous times with no protection (I know, I know!) as I haven't been with anyone in such a long time it sort of slipped my mind.
For further reference I have an 18 year old already and since I gave birth to him I have never had a pregnancy scare or anything similar as I have always been on the implant (which I removed early last year)
My app tells me that I am 7DPO and that I should do a pregnancy test in 9 days if I don't come on my period.
Alongside the pink discharge, the cramps in my tummy and tender breasts today I am now actually panicking that I may have brought home something more than memories from my holiday!
If I am pregnant then I already know that I would keep my child and I would have to tell him about it but am I just overthinking?

I am new to all of this and would really appreciate some advice from you all about whether it's just a coincidence or if these signs/symptoms are actually that of conception/implantation.
Please don't judge me for this I understand I have been a bit daft sleeping with someone I had only just met and I especially can't speak to any of my family or friends about this right now.
Is there anything I should be looking out for or should I relax and go with the flow? As you can tell I wasn't actively trying to conceive however if it turns out that way i will see it as a late life blessing. If it matters I am 38...

If you got this far thank you for reading ❤️

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eatthecheese · 22/06/2023 23:22

Good luck OP for whatever the outcome is! You may have just ovulated a little later, it's unlikely you'd get two false positives.

What about the potential dad, are you still in touch? I hope he was a good one! Sounds like he had good stamina...so that's a tick!

Fab973 · 22/06/2023 23:23

Any update OP? Are you ok. This has been a roller coaster for us reading the threat never mind you being the one living it!

MissJoGrant · 22/06/2023 23:47

Redburnett · 04/06/2023 15:22

The person most likely to judge you is your existing child. Make sure you prioritise their best interests whatever happens.

The child is 18 and therefore an adult. OP needs to prioritise herself (and, potentially, a new baby).

ladydimitrescu · 23/06/2023 00:12

Placemarking for update!!

Nanaof1 · 23/06/2023 03:06

I hope the tests come out the way you want.
Another one that says "ignore the negativity".

Will be watching for updates.

Golaz · 23/06/2023 04:43

ADHDDDDDDDBOOM · 22/06/2023 19:28

Only someone seasoned in TTC will put a ring (or pen) by the photo.

Most people haven't a clue why that would be there...

Im just saying. Be honest.

Why would you put a ring or pen by the photo? What does that signify?

rooting for you OP, but if you are 28 dpo I think those tests must be indents or this is sadly not a viable preg :( . Good luck x

Isitpaydayyet · 23/06/2023 04:47

Very easy to miss your ovulation on flo app. Especially you are not planning on having sex.

It's highly likely you could be pregnant sorry OP but I would consider that you are going to be a lone parent and the father would be abroad?

Too late now but you could of just got the morning after pill surely you must of taken it before when you were younger.

Good luck though it's easily done!

alittleadvicepls · 23/06/2023 05:38

@Golaz the pen is to help the camera focus on the test otherwise it photographs blurry.

Id invest in some better tests OP like first response!

ApolloandDaphne · 23/06/2023 07:30

I hope things work out the way you want them to OP.

Evergreen82738 · 23/06/2023 07:49

The first picture looks positive to me! Wishing you all the best x

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Bismillah2023 · 23/06/2023 11:15

ADHDDDDDDDBOOM · 22/06/2023 19:28

Only someone seasoned in TTC will put a ring (or pen) by the photo.

Most people haven't a clue why that would be there...

Im just saying. Be honest.

Oh because I came up with some massive elaborate fake story just to come online and be a troll didn't I grow up.
If I was trying to get pregnant I would have come on and asked if anyone had any advice re pregnancy. I wouldn't have lied. I have no reason to?
If you must know I couldn't keep my hands still while trying to take a photo for my mum as my hands were shaking like a leaf. SHE told me to put a ring or a pen in the frame so my camera had something to focus on. Does that answer your question?

In future don't be so cynical of people you don't know or just keep your mouth shut if you've nothing nice to say!!!

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Bismillah2023 · 23/06/2023 11:18

I've bought some first response tests this morning and a clear blue early detection digital too which I will take in the morning!
Still no sign of my period though but either way by the end of the weekend I should know for definite.

I'm still doubting the tests I did yesterday as others have said, the lines are really faint and probably would be dark by now!

Either way if I am I'll be happy, and if I aren't I'll be fine with it. Many "accidental" babies end up being loved and wanted and mine would be no different. It would be a shock and a huge change but I'm ready to do this if it's meant to be!

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Bismillah2023 · 23/06/2023 11:24

Just to answer a few others as I don't want to leave anyone hanging.

I've never taken a morning after pill in my life I've never needed to. I probably should be more educated on it but again, it's not something that's ever happened to me and I've always been on contraception so no accidents!

I am still in contact with the "father" on a friendly basis. I haven't mentioned this to him and I don't intend to until I know for sure what is happening inside my body. I would expect that things would be difficult and that it would be a long and bumpy ride but we are both adults, both consented to unprotected sex and we would both have to deal with it.

On the chance that he doesn't want to know; again I have plenty of support, family and great friends around me. As well as my colleagues at work too! It would be hard but I would go into it from the start knowing I was alone at least.

If my tests come back positive this weekend where I'm sure they are, I will book an appointment at the GP to have it confirmed. (Does that still happen? It did when I was pregnant with my first child)

I will keep you all posted anyway! Thank you for all the love and support and guidance. It's all been so helpful and it's nice to know that people are happy for a total stranger on the internet. Feeling the love ladies! ❤️

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Enn1234 · 23/06/2023 12:10

Bismillah2023 · 23/06/2023 11:24

Just to answer a few others as I don't want to leave anyone hanging.

I've never taken a morning after pill in my life I've never needed to. I probably should be more educated on it but again, it's not something that's ever happened to me and I've always been on contraception so no accidents!

I am still in contact with the "father" on a friendly basis. I haven't mentioned this to him and I don't intend to until I know for sure what is happening inside my body. I would expect that things would be difficult and that it would be a long and bumpy ride but we are both adults, both consented to unprotected sex and we would both have to deal with it.

On the chance that he doesn't want to know; again I have plenty of support, family and great friends around me. As well as my colleagues at work too! It would be hard but I would go into it from the start knowing I was alone at least.

If my tests come back positive this weekend where I'm sure they are, I will book an appointment at the GP to have it confirmed. (Does that still happen? It did when I was pregnant with my first child)

I will keep you all posted anyway! Thank you for all the love and support and guidance. It's all been so helpful and it's nice to know that people are happy for a total stranger on the internet. Feeling the love ladies! ❤️

Awww OP!
Keep us posted!
If you're 2 weeks late so period then the digital test should be accurate- let us know the outcome either way!
❤️

ConfessionsOfAMumDramaQueen · 23/06/2023 13:45

Bismillah2023 · 23/06/2023 11:24

Just to answer a few others as I don't want to leave anyone hanging.

I've never taken a morning after pill in my life I've never needed to. I probably should be more educated on it but again, it's not something that's ever happened to me and I've always been on contraception so no accidents!

I am still in contact with the "father" on a friendly basis. I haven't mentioned this to him and I don't intend to until I know for sure what is happening inside my body. I would expect that things would be difficult and that it would be a long and bumpy ride but we are both adults, both consented to unprotected sex and we would both have to deal with it.

On the chance that he doesn't want to know; again I have plenty of support, family and great friends around me. As well as my colleagues at work too! It would be hard but I would go into it from the start knowing I was alone at least.

If my tests come back positive this weekend where I'm sure they are, I will book an appointment at the GP to have it confirmed. (Does that still happen? It did when I was pregnant with my first child)

I will keep you all posted anyway! Thank you for all the love and support and guidance. It's all been so helpful and it's nice to know that people are happy for a total stranger on the internet. Feeling the love ladies! ❤️

If it's a clear positive no need to contact GP unless you're having issues such as bleeding. If you're still getting faint lines 3 weeks after your period was supposed to arrive and haven't had unprotected sex in 4 weeks then I would contact GP to have some tests about whats going on.

mosiacmaker · 23/06/2023 13:50

No judgement from me either, good luck either way xx

SophiaLarsen · 23/06/2023 14:08

Good luck OP!

Dragonsandcats · 23/06/2023 14:17

Good luck! I don’t think GP’s confirm pregnancy now, at least they didn’t with me. I just phoned up and said I was pregnant, and had a booking in appointment with midwife at some point.

sleepsforwimps1 · 23/06/2023 15:01

Hope it all works out for you OP, wishing you luck. It's all self referral to kid wives now, no need to contact the Gp unless you have health issues or issues with the pregnancy. If you do a quick google search it's good bring up your local one then just fill in the form

Thirty5 · 23/06/2023 15:07

Best of luck OP, I do love babies 💚

CinderRosie · 23/06/2023 16:06

Best of luck OP x

BillieShears · 23/06/2023 19:05

If you're two weeks late, you don't really need to wait for first morning urine, do you?

alittleadvicepls · 23/06/2023 20:00

@BillieShears agreed! You can defo do the first response now but the digital instructions say it’s best to wait for fmu.

WimbyAce · 23/06/2023 22:34

Never did my tests with FMU, as long as it's held for a bit it's fine.

bobblyjob · 23/06/2023 22:37

This thread makes me feel sad for this man and child