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I've been silly but I really need advice!

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Bismillah2023 · 04/06/2023 13:46

So please don't judge me for this as I am already punishing myself and my stupid choices as it is.
I have just come back from a holiday, where I ended up sleeping with one of the locals out there.
For reference I have not had sex in 3.5 years through personal choice after an awful break up with an emotional abuser, I have chosen to protect myself and my best interests by staying away from men! However a few drinks in the Sun and some charm from him ended up with us in bed together.
Fast forward to now, last night I went to the loo and noticed some pale pink discharge on the tissue when I wiped, as this was so unusual for me it led me to check my Flo app and I have absolutely shit myself when I realised I was ovulating (or so the app says) on the exact day I slept with him. We had sex numerous times with no protection (I know, I know!) as I haven't been with anyone in such a long time it sort of slipped my mind.
For further reference I have an 18 year old already and since I gave birth to him I have never had a pregnancy scare or anything similar as I have always been on the implant (which I removed early last year)
My app tells me that I am 7DPO and that I should do a pregnancy test in 9 days if I don't come on my period.
Alongside the pink discharge, the cramps in my tummy and tender breasts today I am now actually panicking that I may have brought home something more than memories from my holiday!
If I am pregnant then I already know that I would keep my child and I would have to tell him about it but am I just overthinking?

I am new to all of this and would really appreciate some advice from you all about whether it's just a coincidence or if these signs/symptoms are actually that of conception/implantation.
Please don't judge me for this I understand I have been a bit daft sleeping with someone I had only just met and I especially can't speak to any of my family or friends about this right now.
Is there anything I should be looking out for or should I relax and go with the flow? As you can tell I wasn't actively trying to conceive however if it turns out that way i will see it as a late life blessing. If it matters I am 38...

If you got this far thank you for reading ❤️

OP posts:
ICanMakeDecisionsWithoutMyTelevision · 22/06/2023 14:56

not sure you can get false positive pregnancy test

Donthaveaclue1 · 22/06/2023 15:00

These are the best to get there sensitive ones good luck x

I've been silly but I really need advice!
Pitstop1986 · 22/06/2023 15:05

I did wondfo test strips and had faint lines on them for about a week before it started to look like a line.

Looking at yours, the first test looks flooded, so I wouldn't take that result as accurate, but the second test looks positive to me.

I hope that everything works out perfectly for you!

crazeekat · 22/06/2023 15:47

op i'm so excited for u, i can see faint lines but don't know for sure for u, give it a wee bit more
time
or a better test first thing in morning but i'm totally hoping for u that u are!!
and another thing don't give another thot to the old bores on here, defo not promoting unprotected sex of course but even if ur not
preg and std is clear look at ur time abroad as a brill memory that u can look back on with a smile and don't get shamed into anything from anyone
here!

rainbowstardrops · 22/06/2023 15:53

I think I can see a line on those tests

CinderRosie · 22/06/2023 16:20

I can see lines on both. You need a Boots own brand test, apparently these never give evaps whereas first response can be quite dubious...

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Bismillah2023 · 22/06/2023 16:27

Thank you everyone!

I think I'm going to take the advice and buy some digital tests and an early response as well! I might just buy the whole shelf to be certain haha.
I feel less like beating myself up now after some of these sweet comments, I aren't the first person in the world to have an unplanned pregnancy nor will I be the last. Just never expected it to happen to me (which is immature and ridiculous I know!) I was drunk; lost all my inhibitions and made a reckless decision.

On saying that though I've got a happy flutter in my heart today so I aren't going to let negative people make me feel bad, they don't know me they don't know I feel or anything about me so I will take on board the nice comments and the encouragement ❤️

OP posts:
NLO94x · 22/06/2023 16:30

I can see a line, exciting times x

Missytizzy · 22/06/2023 16:32

You’ve got the right attitude OP - ignore the horrible shaming comments. I’m really pleased for you and you have no need to be ashamed! ❤️

njh21 · 22/06/2023 16:34

Bismillah2023 · 22/06/2023 16:27

Thank you everyone!

I think I'm going to take the advice and buy some digital tests and an early response as well! I might just buy the whole shelf to be certain haha.
I feel less like beating myself up now after some of these sweet comments, I aren't the first person in the world to have an unplanned pregnancy nor will I be the last. Just never expected it to happen to me (which is immature and ridiculous I know!) I was drunk; lost all my inhibitions and made a reckless decision.

On saying that though I've got a happy flutter in my heart today so I aren't going to let negative people make me feel bad, they don't know me they don't know I feel or anything about me so I will take on board the nice comments and the encouragement ❤️

Loving this positivity OP 🙏🏼

Riverbananacarrot · 22/06/2023 16:44

I would do a fast response test and also get a Dr to confirm or not.
Good luck either way.

Pinkbumbles · 22/06/2023 17:23

@Bismillah2023 it saddens me you came here for some advice and got so much negativity. You've nothing to be ashamed of you did nothing I'm sure nearly all of us have done at some point!

I hope you get the outcome you want, I'm also so invested in this and your holiday romance, good luck ❤️

Pinkbumbles · 22/06/2023 17:23

@Bismillah2023 it saddens me you came here for some advice and got so much negativity. You've nothing to be ashamed of you did nothing I'm sure nearly all of us have done at some point!

I hope you get the outcome you want, I'm also so invested in this and your holiday romance, good luck ❤️

Chichz · 22/06/2023 17:28

Ah I'm really hoping you get the outcome you want too, OP! Hadn't seen this thread till today but you sound lovely. 😚

Although it's annoying and perfectly typical, I don't think you've actually had too much negativity. By and large people have been excited, helpful and supportive.

I think it's a brilliant story! X

Cally70 · 22/06/2023 18:09

Could you book yourself in for a private hcg test?

ConfessionsOfAMumDramaQueen · 22/06/2023 18:39

I'd contact your GP and see if they can run some tests. You could have ovulated late, sperm can hang around for a 5 days. So depending on when you last slept with him, you could just be not as far along as you think! If you still have no period and test lines fainter than you'd expect for how late you are I'd see if GP can check you for HCG x

Dummycrusher · 22/06/2023 19:25

Don't go the gp, such a waste of resources. Just do a proper non cheapy pregnancy test - if you're two weeks late you will have a blazing positive by now on a proper test like first response. I was rooting for you to be preggo but I really think it's unlikely based on those tests you posted.

ADHDDDDDDDBOOM · 22/06/2023 19:28

Only someone seasoned in TTC will put a ring (or pen) by the photo.

Most people haven't a clue why that would be there...

Im just saying. Be honest.

clarepetal · 22/06/2023 20:00

I want you to be preggos!!!!

ConfessionsOfAMumDramaQueen · 22/06/2023 20:05

@Dummycrusher she SHOULD go to GP if she continues getting faint lines. Faint lines means HCG is there, if it isn't going up like expected it can mean there is something wrong (e.g. ectopic) which may require medical management. It is not a waste of resources at all.

Enn1234 · 22/06/2023 20:09

@Bismillah2023
So good to hear from you again!
Eeeeeek! I hope you get the result you're looking for! So exciting!
I hope you are pregnant! All the best!
P.s. ignore all the negative comments!

Dummycrusher · 22/06/2023 22:20

ConfessionsOfAMumDramaQueen · 22/06/2023 20:05

@Dummycrusher she SHOULD go to GP if she continues getting faint lines. Faint lines means HCG is there, if it isn't going up like expected it can mean there is something wrong (e.g. ectopic) which may require medical management. It is not a waste of resources at all.

But she hasn't even had a faint line. What she has had is the slightest shadow which is barely even visible, after 3 tests over the last two weeks which were blank negatives - so more likely than not it is an indent. If she was pregnant with an ectopic pregnancy there would have been a discernible line at some point during the two weeks which she said she is late by, and the faint line would be visible without getting a microscope out and turning up the contrast and inverting the colours. And this whole thread was sparked by the fact that she thought she was ovulating when she had sex, which would mean she is around 28 DPO - it would be extremely unlikely for her to be pregnant if she's not seen something by now. This is now just one of threads which are like "I'm 48 days late, do you think there's a chance I'm pregnant" and everyone rolls their eyes and says sorry love, but no, except this one has a juicy back story and we all wanted her to be pregnant! Sending you all the best OP :)

weirdo123 · 22/06/2023 22:24

Good luck

LadyJ2023 · 22/06/2023 22:29

If your thay late and thats all it shows then negative

VikingLady · 22/06/2023 23:15

Another vote for Clear Blue Digital.

I tested negative on cheap tests until well after my period was due, and both pregnancies were perfectly healthy - just born a couple of weeks later than dates would expect. It's not uncommon.

And congratulations!

(Ignore the arseholes. They're not living your life, they don't know you, they weren't there, and they've definitely done daft things in their own lives. And they're deficient in empathy.)