I'll just get straight into it; DH is 34, I'm 35 and we've been TTC for not quite 1.5 years, so not very long compared to some. I've heard 10+ years in the more extreme cases. We have male factor; low sperm (about 11million) but good motility.
We TTC naturally for about 10 months about 3 months after I turned 34. We had two chemicals about 6 months apart from each other. After the second chemical, we had a fertility MOT, and as a couple we were diagnosed with sub-fertility and got the result of low sperm. With that and worrying about my age, we jumped straight into IVF.
We had our first FET in March this year and that failed. I've lost most of the hope and excitement I started out with, we've had arguments, I've had on and off crying episodes which are getting less and less and I've got to the point where pregnancy announcements and the sight of baby bumps and newborns just makes me feel a bit 'Meh' now. It still stabs a bit and I hold back some tears, but I don't dissolve like I used to.
I briefly got into looking at pictures of baby grows on Google images, thinking that maybe if I looked at them long and often enough, that it would affirm that it will happen. I know it sounds silly.
My DH is very supportive. He's also more hopeful than I am. I am hopeful, I'm just more 'Whatever will be, will be'. I'd like 2 babies, though, honestly if we don't even get 1, I take comfort in that we did as much as we could. I just feel so exhausted. We can always get a dog I suppose 😂
I guess I'm just looking for some hope. Did you get there in the end? How long did it take?
Sorry for the long post.