IVF Buddies: the next chapter

[RunningOnHope]

Hi everyone, thought I'd try making us a second thread now the old one is done -

Tagging @Triselly @lemons44 @CR7 @Flowerlover010 @pongom @WholeZebra @TheBirdintheCave @SarahShorty - will go back to the thread and see if there's anyone else to add in, but do tag those I've missed!

That's what we did. Went to boots the day before. Then it was impossible to cave xx

I will be testing from 7dpt 😂

Is it normal to have a bit of a panic over the possibility of a transfer actually working? For 1.5 years we've just had disappointment and losses and now we're approaching an FET which might actually lead to an ongoing pregnancy. I woke up this morning and I just feel terrible about it. Do I really want to give up my body again? Do I really want to sacrifice my sleep again? We have to do this one as we've already paid for it but I'm tempted to just move on with my life if it doesn't work out.

I think fear and anxiety are to be expected. Totally normal and nothing to worry about. Only you can know where the end of the road is for you and your husband. If it's after this transfer then that's where it is x

Ok triggering tonight (at a restaurant unfortunately 🙄😂) and transfer is next Friday at 4.20. A bit more excited now I don't have to keep traipsing into London 😂

@TheBirdintheCave I triggered in the middle of a night shift at work hha! I feel like it’s always somewhere inconvenient. All so exciting!

@WholeZebra congratulations on you transfer and the great number of Frosties in the freezer! Really hoping it sticks for you!

@TheBirdintheCave congratulations on pulling your trigger!

So I had my scan today and they confirmed my lining is ready. So i've been scheduled for FET on Friday! Eek

We'll be transferring on the same day @TheBirdintheCave!

Hi everyone, I just wanted to join the chat as I’m currently 6weeks+2 and I’ve got my viability scan next Thursday (I’ll be 7w+1 on scan day) I’m on my second round of ivf and this is my second time with a positive pregnancy test as I had a missed miscarriage last time. last time my 6 week scan was great but I lost it somewhere around 7-8weeks.

I’m really nervous about the scan this time. I didn’t really have many symptoms last time except for being really thirsty and having sore boobs but I feel like I have even less symptoms this time round 😩 my boobs feel a bit tender but it seems to come and go. I’m sending myself crazy thinking about it, trying not to think about it 😩

I took a test last Sunday and the line was really dark so I guess that’s a good sign

@RunningOnHope @charja100 How cool that we'll be transferring within a day of each other! It'll be great to have some two week wait buddies (though I 100% won't last that long 😂)

Ooh so pleased to have you in the same time frame @charja100 and @TheBirdintheCave!

Thinking ahead, my OTD will be the day I go on holiday to Spain for 10 days with extended family 🙄 so really hoping there's no drama with bleeding and early miscarriages this time, it would be awful to have that while travelling. Also means I need to organise extra cyclogest ahead of time as if I test positive I won't have time to get a GP prescription sorted. All very complicated!

Welcome @KG96 and congratulations on your positive test! Sounds like a real ordeal first time round, hopefully a much more positive experience this time xx

I found everything a little easier the second time as I knew what to expect at every stage.

Will be thinking of you all
Xx

@RunningOnHope glad to have you on the journey with me too! I have everything crossed for you for no complications and a positive outcome. Do you think you'll test earlier to have an idea? How many days post transfer does your clinic have OTD?

I was originally going to try to book a holiday for my TWW but I was struggling with reward flight availability. I ended up booking random dates and so glad I didn't now as I would have been leaving on the day after I'm due transfer next week. Also because I bled so early last time I'm having a few progesterone blood tests post transfer to check my levels and that would have also been in the holiday window!

Funny how things work out. Those random dates work quite well now being delayed. I am nervous about having complications actions while I'm away though. This journey is so hard. There's always a what if and something to worry about isn't there!

Thanks @CR7. I think because my first transfer was drag and this is my first FET its still felt new and a bit confusing for me as it's all been a completely different process and a different drug protocol for me to get my head round. 🤪

@TheBirdintheCavei also won't be able to last that long. I caved on 6dp5dt last time. Got a faint line too and then had my chemical 🥺. I'm really going to try to hold out this time as the chemical broke me, but I'm not the most patient person so I don't hold out much hope.

@charja100 I had a progesterone blood test on transfer day last cycle for the first time. Mine was very low so I was given lubion injections and more pessaries xx

Only 3dp5dt and feeling horrendously anxious - it’s spiralled today and I feel all I’ve been doing in googling symptoms and trying to pinpoint what I have. I know it’s all progesterone related but it feels like AF is coming - not due for 5 days which is technically before OTD too. Could this happen? Or does the progesterone usually stop this? Just looking for reassurance I suppose.

@CR7 i had my progesterone tested on transfer day for my fresh as I insisted (they made me pay for it) and it was high at circa 220. However I still bled very early so they have addd lubion into my protocol already this time. I start taking it tomorrow daily alongside cyclogest, and then I have progesterone blood test scheduled for the day before transfer, and one fora week after transfer. So so so glad I pushed for that progesterone blood test on my fresh or I don't think I'd have had my protocol changed as easily.

@charja100 Was it you who had a painful transfer last time? Me too - weirdly curved and weirdly small vagina, so the speculum was too wide and just awful This time I'll know to speak up before I cry!

OTD for me is 14dp5dt, so I will definitely test before then because I can't handle finding out for the first time either way on the day we leave! But last time I started testing at day 7 I think, and only starting getting positives at day 11, so I will try to hold off a little longer this time. Maybe aiming for 9 days after transfer.

@WholeZebra sending so much love in the anxiety, it is really hard. Progesterone has a lot to answer for - it can feel exactly like AF coming, or like pregnancy, or neither or both. I think different people have different experiences. Some don't bleed at all until coming off progesterone after a negative test. I got a positive test from 11dpt and then starting spotting at 12dpt, bleeding for 16 days and eventually testing negative a couple of weeks into that. I know it's easy to say, but try to relax for now - there will be plenty of time for worrying later!

@RunningOnHope I'm sooo glad I'm not the only one. My vagina isn't small, but the entrance to it is very small and tight. I can stretch it open to accept a fully erect penis, but it's still very uncomfortable and a little bit bloody because I get tiny tears in the skin. I feel like such a freak and not very feminine at all. The speculum has to be the smallest they have, otherwise it's like I'm being ripped apart down there. Hopefully it widens naturally during birth. I inseminate when we try naturally. It's a little mechanical, but it gets the job done.

Took my first Lutigest this afternoon. I feel like having to insert those three times a day is going to get pretty annoying pretty quick 😂

all being well you'll be doing it up to twelve weeks xx

@CR7 how are you feeling at this stage? How many weeks now? Hope it's still going smoothly for you - can't be far off 12 weeks now?

@RunningOnHope almost 14 which is crazy! Still got no symptoms, so just a reminder for you ladies for your two week waits which I know are coming up, I had NO implantation bleeding and no symptoms apart from the odd bit of 3am hunger, so if you have no symptoms it doesn't mean it's not worked. I had nothing. Not even a sore boob or a twinge xx

@CR7 Ah amazing, it's going so quick!! Have you shared the news with friends and family then? How brilliant that you've escaped without symptoms so far. My DW had literally everything under the sun when she was in the first and second trimester, she was in bed for 3 months... really hoping that if I'm successful, it looks more like your pregnancy than hers!

Yes we told a large handful of friends and family last week. Calls and messages we never thought we would be able to make and send. It was a bit surreal to be honest. Only one person asked if we had struggled. Everyone else was just very happy for us.

Not posting anything on social media because I know how that always made me feel reading other people's announcements. I was absolutely able to be happy for the person whilst feeling gutted for myself. I won't make anyone feel like that.

It's weird because between week 12 to 16 you're just left to it. I am used to the ivf process of comms at least once a week and someone to speak to whenever I need it.

Nhs hasn't been great to be honest. They mislabelled my bloods and then didn't release details of an infection that I had. Then they told me the wrong dosage of amoxicillin to take and I'm still waiting for my repeat urine test results.

But yes. Cautiously excited for early January xx

Yet another pregnancy announcement at my work. That's two pregnancies and one birth in the time I've been trying. It's so unfair.