TTC May 2023 💖✨ previous MC March 2023

[Freddie15VES]

Hi ladies

I thought I’d create this thread if anyone wants to jump on.

I have a little boy who was 2 in April 💖

we decided in March to start trying for baby #2 and we were delighted to get pregnant that same month! Unfortunately we lost the baby at the end of April at 6w 4d

The MC is completed and I have taken an OPK this morning which looks to be really high. Not quite peak but definitely high which is just great that I’m ovulating again! I didn’t know what would happen. We both feel ready to try again this month so will be going for it.

Whether you’re TTC baby #1 #2 #3 etc you’re welcome to jump on ❤️❤️❤️

@RegardingPersephone i can see a line!

@RegardingPersephone defo got my peak now!!!! It’s go time 😂

yeahhhh I do find the cheap ones on Amazon pretty good too!

How’s everyone feeling?

I dunno how I’m feeling now I’ve had my ‘peak’ we had sex every other day leading up to it, then again today when I got my peak. Having twinges and cramps so know that it’s happening 🤯 just scared now it won’t happen

@RegardingPersephone hoping and crossing everything for u that the lines progress well over the next few days 🤞🏽❤️

oh @Freddie15VES Ye have done everything ‘right’ and all u can do at this point so it’s time to relax and please god nature plays it’s part.

Im still on flashing smilies so please god tomorrow is a static. We dtd thurs, Fri and today so will keep going and pray peak comes tomorr. (I’m CD13 now but with the triplets my peak was CD16 so I could be waiting a few days yet🙈)

the waiting kills me tbh

@DmcinT im on CD13 too!!! So you can’t be far off!! At least we’ll be in the TWW together 😬😬😬

Finally.. these were completely white, showing 0 on Premom until just now. 🤞🏽 For peak tomorrow

Hi all, currently 10DPO and haven’t caved yet. AF due on Saturday. Seeing how long I can last until testing. Got blood tests tomorrow anyway. Fingers crossed 🤞. Hope everyone is doing okay? X

@Dreamer88 I don’t know how I’ve held out, I’ve become an obsessive tester 😅 I’d say come 9/10 dpo I’ll crack

i was still on flashing smilie this morn, v slow opk progression so I’d say it’ll be tomorr/Wednesday by time I get peak at this stage

@DmcinT fingers crossed!!!

@Dreamer88 not sure how I’m feeling today. Had my peak yesterday, DTD every other day after period leading up to it, then yesterday and today. So hoping we’ve covered all bases. Just can’t picture myself getting pregnant again and it being successful

@Dreamer88 *uve held out

Peak is here 🎉🥳 I nearly feel nervous and wish I didn’t have to go to work, it’ll be this evening before we dtd again so 🤞🏽 I’m not too late

@DmcinT got my peak too! Eek! DTD last night and hoping we'll manage again later today. 🤞🏻 Other than that we did last Friday so probs a bit early. It's earlier this cycle than it has been previously so wasn't really expecting it for another day or two. What will be will be..!

@SnookyPook oh it’s exciting there’s a few of us between yesterday and today🎉 we dtd Sunday night and hopefully today & tomorr will cover it 🤞🏽 I don’t know whether to say to OH, hes prone to overthinking it when he knows

Just a check in. Had a bit of a crappy day. When I got in I decided to do a pregnancy test to add to the rubbish day. It’s come up negative. I’m 11 days past ovulation so I’m out again aren’t I?

Reason it was such a crappy day was because I was on my way to get my blood work done to see what’s going on and got into a mini car accident. All okay and no one hurt but now I’m paying to get a man’s bumper fixed and a dent. Plus having to buy myself a new car. I’d just come out from seeing my mum as well who is currently in a lot of pain as she’s waiting for a knee replacement op (well 2 but they only do one as a time). So I was flustered anyway leaving hers because I’m the only family member she’s got. My head must be away with the fairies.

Really don’t know why I’m telling strangers this on the internet at all. Just think the negative pregnancy test has just tipped me over the edge and I can’t stop crying. Get results back on Friday but I just can’t focus on anyway at all. I don’t want to go to my friend’s baby’s christening next month or another friend’s christening. I just can’t do it. Everything just feels out of my control. I don’t know what I’m expecting from this message. Im just done I guess.

Not buy myself a new car- self correct buy myself a new car door!!!

@Dreamer88 I’m so sorry abt the crappy day, believe me we all have them, I’ve cried more days on the way home from work this month than I’ve ever done before. The weight of everything is just too much some days.

I really wouldn’t think into the negative test too much just yet.. if u implant day 9/10 which is most common it take 3+ days for hcg to build enough to be detectable so ur deff not out but I know that feeling and how gutting it can be, sending u so much love❤️

also on the events… u honestly don’t have to go to anything u don’t want to. U could be ‘sick’ that day or if it’s a close enough friend u could maybe tell them ur dealing with something difficult and just need time to process it all urself.

ps I hope ur mum gets her operation soon, youve a lot on ur plate at the min, give urself some kindness. Maybe an early night & good nights sleep would help xxx

@Dreamer88 so sorry for your rubbish day. Sending you a big hug. What a good thing the car crash wasn't worse. 11dpo is definitely not out - not out until AF shows. Fingers crossed for you. As for christenings though, don't go if you're not up to it. Surely your friends would understand? Hope tomorrow is brighter for you ❤️

@DmcinT @SnookyPook
Thank you for the kind words. I’m sorry that you’ve been crying too. It’s a hard feeling to put into words isn’t it? More recently, I’ve been feeling embarrassed by the fact that it doesn’t seem to be happening. Do either of you get asked about children in day to day life? People mean well and I suppose an honest answer could just stop the conversation but the embarrassment takes over when you start think about what you’re body can’t do.

How long have you been trying now?

@Dreamer88 I've had some weird embarrassed moments since my loss.. like paranoid moments that people are judging me or pitying me etc. It's so weird and I know it's ridiculous on one level but on another it's very real and hard to shake myself out of. I'm actually very lucky to already have a little boy. He turned 2 in January. Been wanting no.2 for a while but my periods didn't come back while I was breastfeeding so I eventually fully weaned him and my periods returned last November. Thankfully I've not really had questions about "when are you having another" but I'm much more confident and no-bullshit these days so if someone did ask I would just say, "actually I just lost a baby in April" and I wouldn't mind if it made them squirm. Although if someone asked and I could see they didn't mean it in a nosy intrusive way then I would be more gentle about it "oh goodness we'd love another but it's not happened yet" kind of thing. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Im sorry to hear that @SnookyPook . I can’t imagine the pain. People really shouldn’t ask at all. You’re right though, sometimes people are just being naive and I suppose if you’ve never suffered in that way then how can they even comprehend what they’re saying is intrusive and heartbreaking.

xx

@Freddie15VES I know I am jumping on this thread late but I’ve just seen it and your story is so similar to mine I just had to post!
My DS was also 2 in April, we found out we were expecting DC2 in Jan but had MMC found at 12 week scan in March. After a long two months my MC is finally complete and me and my husband are starting to talk about ttc which is so scary after loss but also all the stuff I’ve been through since the loss to get my body back to normal.
Wishing you the best of luck with TTC and I’m sending good vibes for your BFP that sticks soon xx

Hi @vjb39 - so sorry for your loss but you are very welcome here with us 😊 How are you feeling now? It's weird isn't it wanting to TTC again so soon - my loss was mid-April and I was astounded at how soon I felt ready. Although nervous too! Hope you're doing ok. X

@SnookyPook i am feeling ok! So happy to finally have my negative test after MC and be able to look to the future now.
The feeling of TTC after loss is so strange. Like I’m absolutely terrified but that doesn’t stop me wanting to try? Is that the same for everyone?
I think my thing at the minute is knowing when medically it’s ok to try after my D&C. I’ve been recommended to wait til after my first period but they said that was more for dating purposes for a possible pregnancy than anything else. So medically it’s ok I think but I am scared to try this month in case we were lucky enough to fall pregnant again and then something went wrong, I would totally blame myself for not waiting! Such a hard place to be in.
Hope your TTC is going well this month xx

@vjb39 I’m so sorry to hear of ur loss and that it took 2 months to complete the MC. The weeks after I found the hardest, I felt guilty for just wanting it to be over but also relieved as I hit each milestone 🙈 we did try again in the first cycle after MC but it was unsuccessful, I believe it was my bodies way of telling me it wasn’t ready just yet but I’ve heard of so many who fall pregnant straight away and have perfectly healthy babies❤️
we are on our second cycle after MC and just 1 dpo today so officially into the TWW again.

@Freddie15VES how is TWW going for u? Are u 2/3 dpo now?

Hi hope it's ok to jump in 😊

TTC baby no.2, DD is 2.5 and started this month. Feel like I can't remember anything about trying for a baby even though it wasn't that long ago!

CD11 and negative ovulation test but I never had a positive one with my daughter. Hopefully will get a positive one in next couple of days 🤔