2023 TTC 35+ Part 2

[VixFromThe6ix]

Hi ladies,
This is a new thread as we maxed the other one. I tagged everyone that posted in the last 12 pages. If I'm missing someone, please tag them in the comments.
@Eirlys1986
@Muriel84
@Un7breakable
@vitahelp
@Mirla
@TheFanciestPants
@Mummyme87
@FiddleLeaf
@Anna531
@Poppy708
@Golaz
@LeopardLover
@Floralsandsmiles
@Bumblebee413
@TrudyProud
@13Bastards
@DinkyGT
@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7
@TTCnumberfour
@Cirque1
@39starstartry
@Freya8
@Angelsrose
@TheBirdintheCave
@AgeGapBbe
@BengalMama
@BB2023

@Eirlys1986 I am glad it helps. Personally, I think if you find someone rude/annoying that does make it worse 😂
Are you feeling better today?
@Mrsspoon3 I think it can cause really tricky relationship dynamics so although it doesn't help at all, it seems quite a lot of people have the same thing going on.

@Eirlys1986 that sounds downright rude rather than clumsy! If you're telling her you aren't TTC, and then she is ignoring that and asking how TTC is going. Sounds a little deliberate and strange

@TheFanciestPants I am feeling better thanks 😊 how are you doing? Good I hope!
@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 It is all a bit odd, basically months ago I had (In retrospect stupidly) shared my periods had returned when breastfeeding and we did discuss that I would like a second child one day. She seems to have latched onto this and then become inappropriately over familiar with me I.e telling me soon after her periods had returned and that she was ttc and then the repeated asking of me about my ttc efforts too 🙄. Hopefully I will have success soon then I will find her less annoying 😂

@Eirlys1986 yeah I am ok. Trying not to symptom spot or to catastrophise that it will never happen.
I am so fed up with TTC (it's been a really disappointing and tough journey so far) however, I really want a baby so not much choice but to carry on.

@TheFanciestPants ah I’m sorry it’s so tough not to symptom spot when you want something so badly. What CD are you on? If it makes you feel any better I have just run off to the loo and done a test at 7dpo like an absolute child in response to the work colleagues news this morning. It was negative (what a suprise! 😂) you think I would have more sense being medical but honestly all common sense flies out the window when ttc

@Eirlys1986 I am 7dpo too! I think @Muriel84 is the same too?
It's funny, I am really nervous about testing (who knows why?!) so try to avoid as long as possible. I think I made it to 13dpo last time when I was actually pregnant (my luteal phase is normally between 10 and 12). I wonder if I should test around 10dpo. Not really sure if there's a right answer.

Thanks for the sling recommendations!

It's cool how a few of you do weights! I'm relatively new to it and hoping I can keep at it (carefully) whilst pregnant. I've also read that intense exercise can cause problems with getting pregnant so I've interpreted that as going gently on the cardio. I'm a bit low on attention span so my weights workouts tend to be very short so I really doubt they're crossing any thresholds.

@Eirlys1986 Ouch that she is clumsily trampling on your feelings like that. I guess she's just thinking about how nice it is for her to have someone to talk to about her journey, not realising it's uncomfortable for you.

My partner's the last childless one out of his group of friends and whilst I find it endearing how enthusiastically he talks about their babies I also cringe inwardly sometimes at the thought that I might not be able to give him one of his own. I know he really desperately wants kids and get this irrational fear that he'd resent me for it not happening, eventually. Irrational but really painful in the moment when it hits me!

@LeopardLover on that’s interesting to hear about the artipoppe! It does look very lovely. I liked the ergo original when he was too big for a wrap one. I had a second hand omnia I got it a bit late tho. We were lucky the sling library opened in spring 2021. I learned a lot from her.

@Eirlys1986 i know it sounds a bit like nonsense to me! The jealousy is such a hard emotion to sit with. I actually had tears in my eyes when a friend had a girl last year. I don’t know why it hit me so hard. I felt so horrible. We weren’t even ttc then. Oh I just read your other message! Wow, your trainee is really overstepping the mark asking you that. So nosey and so unprofessional essentially asking her boss about her sex life?! People are crazy. sending hugs x

@TheFanciestPants @Muriel84 👏 great to have some cycle buddies, I should really wait till 10dpo to test and was being successful with that so far till this morning. I may wait till later now, will see how I feel. I actually implanted around 12 DPO and only positive 14 DPO with my son so I should know better than to be silly like I was this morning, really ridiculous thing to do. I get it re: waiting to test as then you can enjoy the potential of being pregnant for longer but that wait can also be absolutely sickening. Here’s to some luck for all 3 of us!
@Mirla thanks, you are absolutely correct, I think she just really wants someone to “join in” with the pregnancy journey with. Tbh even if I do get pregnant this cycle I had decided in advance to only inform my manager and business partner first then all other colleagues leave it as late as possible. I have this fear that if something went wrong and I lost a pregnancy I would rather lots of people didn’t know as I couldn’t stand the sympathy but that’s just me. So sorry to hear about how you are feeling with regards worries about not being able to give you partner a baby, it’s a totally valid and horrible way to feel but they have of course chosen you for YOU and not your ability to have a child! It must be so hard though to see how lovely he is with other kiddies and it is of course completely normal to want to be able to share in that journey together, as I have said to others before on here. We all have to keep believing it will eventually be our turn x

@Eirlys1986 Ah, so sorry to hear you were feeling a bit down following your colleague's news! She seems like someone who oversteps boundaries, I'd really struggle with that too! I agree with @Mirla ,she's probably just looking for someone to join her. I can also understand why you'd keep the pregnancy to yourself for as long as possible, this is why I did the same thing last time.

@Mirla It sounds like your partner will make a wonderful dad. And it's understandable why you have that fear, I definitely had it too. Your time will come!

@Muriel84 I genuinely love pram and sling chat haha. I found the Omnia a bit uncomfortable (or maybe I was worried more about baby's comfort?) but obviously had the leopard print in that one and the artipoppe 😉

@TheFanciestPants We definitely have the same approach to testing!!

Crossing my fingers for all of you still waiting to test!

@Eirlys1986 my nonsense comment related to the amino acids BF comment! I didn’t even see this second page of posts. Can’t keep up 😂

@Mirla im sorry, that’s so hard. Where are you in ttc? Irrational thoughts seem pretty common when ttc in my experience.

@TheFanciestPants @Eirlys1986 I am indeed 6 or 7dpo. Apps are saying 6.

Talking of apps, do people recommend one? I’d rather not pay so using free version of FF and Ovia at the mo and they’re both a bit meh.

@Muriel84 dont worry, I knew you weren’t telling me I was talking nonsense! Although that does often occur 😂. Thanks for your comments about my trainee, I honest absolutely hate feeling jealousy, I find it such an ugly emotion and it makes me feel pretty pathetic when I feel it tbh but I know at the bottom of me I would tell anyone else feeling that that it’s understandable and best to just sit with it uncomfortable as it is and then I’m sure I’ll feel better. Am meant to have a clinic with her this afternoon which I think I will promptly shorten on the basis of her feeling so sick and that will give me a bit of space from her too 👍🏻 Good luck for your testing in a few days xx
@LeopardLover thanks for your comment re: my colleague. It has honestly been so lovely to be able to vent on here about it. I do love this group

I just took supplements today for the first time and the tablet that has folic and vitamins b has a weird smell and horrible taste almost made me throw up anyone else have similar?

@emmatcc1 yes unfortunately a lot of the supplements are a bit “fishy”. A lot of people also don’t get on well with iron as it upsets their tummy

@Eirlys1986 I’ve heard a lot about supplements buy never about the smell so it really surprised me and the after taste is still there I hope I get used to this.

@emmatcc1 when I wasn’t taking proceive prior to last pregnancy I used pregnacare liquid as I am a bad tablet swallower. I found the liquid is nicer on the tummy and just tastes sweet so was far nicer

@VixFromThe6ix I just got one from Amazon in a green bag. It’s supposed to be the red maca root, think you can get a black Maca root aswell. I used 1000mg, some say should be higher 1500-3000 but I wanted to try this first

@Eirlys1986 How are you feeling this evening? This really is the most wonderful thread! I hope we can all move over to the pregnancy forum together 😊❤️

@emmatcc1 Oh gosh! I've never experienced that but I am taking an omega 3 tablet which is a little fishy. Perhaps a liquid would work best? Or a combined pill like pregnacare conception so you only have to take the one!

Wow this thread moves so fast I can’t keep up! What brand of supplements were they @emmatcc1 ? I said I wasn’t going to start anything yet apart from normal vitamins but I started on Mac’s Root today 😆😆

@LeopardLover thanks for checking in, I am feeling better thanks. Partner is out for the evening and toddler went to sleep like a dream so I cooked myself a giant bowl of pasta and now happily sat with the cockapoo watching a new Netflix documentary about chimps which is lovely 😊. How are you doing on CD 5? Hope lots of optimism flying around!
@Clairey332 😂, just you wait, you’ll be on unicorn tears next month 👍🏻

@Clairey332 It’s my local drug store’s brand. I did read that the taste is normal and you can take it with a spoon of yogurt to cover the taste.

@Clairey332 I think it's mainly endurance training that affects TTC.

@Eirlys1986 Sorry you're trainee is being so insensitive. I have similar at work. In a bad patch I shared too much that I really wanted kids and was worried about leaving it to late (which tbh, shouldn't have been a suprise). I have a colleague who regularly jokes about me not being allowed to get pregnant and another one who occasionally fishes for info. I just brush it off and am not telling them anything about TTc. I've also been surrounded by pregnancy announcements so can completely understand the jealousy.

I'm on 6dpo and this cycle has not been great. Was ill all my fertile week, got better and am now ill again 🤧 which means my BBT is pretty useless. Will just have to wait and see I guess.

@Un7breakable wow you’re colleague sounds like another level of insensitive! Sorry you’ve been ill twice this cycle, that’s sucky 😢, annoying to not be able to continue to measure bbt, wait and see it is! What day do you plan to test?

@Eirlys1986 what are unicorn tears?! 🤔🤷‍♀️not sure if these tablets are giving me a bad stomach or if it was cauliflower I ate last night 😆🥴😂

@Un7breakable thanks for that! Don’t think there is any chance of that!😂😂 May have just about enough time to get my bench and weighs out to do a half decent workout but nothing too dramatic, especially as my LO won’t be left for long! 🥴

@emmatcc1 ah right, well hopefully you will get used to the taste and it won’t be so bad, otherwise I would swap them! X

I think we are just going to go for it and TTC before our holiday at the end of June. Very unlikely I will fall pregnant on the first try anyway! Just don’t want to spoil a holiday for my family if anything was to go wrong! (I’ve had a past ectopic rupture) Hoping breastfeeding won’t shorten my LP. I am feeding a lot more at night now as my LG wants the comfort because she’s cutting her top two teeth at the moment. One is fully through so just waiting for the one next to it to cut through fully! 🙄🥴 x