The geriatric gang 👵🏻🤰

[Stillwinston]

Just a lighthearted thread for those of us now considered to be geriatric by the NHS 😂 looking to meet other women TTC who may also be feeling past their prime!

A little bit about me - I'm 36 and TTC dc no.2. Been trying for over 2 years now and depressingly started AF today so am yet again starting CD1. Hubby doesn't quite understand how upsetting this is each month so it'd be great to chat with ladies who get how I'm feeling ❤️

@Downtherabbithole83 thanks. Hoping you get good news soon.

@SarahShorty yes I do. So much envy! I just moved jobs and my new desk neighbour said “we weren’t going to have kids but changed our minds and 4 weeks later we were pregnant!” I’m happy that this happens to people but it does make me feel envious.

@SarahShorty me too, all the time.
I had to pop into town last week and buy a new baby gift for a family member who'd just had their little one. I was stood in M&S looking at all the little baby outfits deciding and I could have stood and cried! I definitely had tears in my eyes, I would have a three month old now if I'd gone full term before first MC. It's so unfair.
Sorry AF arrived @cornflakes86 😔 hope you're okay.

@SarahShorty Yeah I think it all the time when I'm at the park with my son. There are kids there his age and their mums all seem to have a second/third child or be pregnant with another. I hate how quick it is for some people :(

@SarahShorty i walk past the maternity hospital every morning/night and I see all sorts of pregnant ladies out there, it does feel irritating that's for sure, also the last 2 books i've read everyone was pregnant, and frequently it's a "surprise"

@Rainbowwishing Ovu day today for me, i'm hoping to get one more try in this evening, but honestly the last few months it's been a chore trying to force the DTD around the time, it feels like we're just doing it because it has to be done and it's not fun at all. We did do it 2 x yesterday and we are frequent through the month mostly every 2nd day but when it's time to do it a few days in a row it's hard going... we tried this morning, wasn't happening, so will try again later! Hopefully the 2 x yesterday will be enough if I ovu early today, and not late! But then if it's 24-36 hours then we really need to try again tonight too to cover it! Eugh

@Stillwinston @cornflakes86 it's hard isn't it, going into another TWW and all the ladies I was pregnant with the first time are at their 20 week scan point and posting bump pics and buying clothes.... It's not really been that long for me in the grand scheme of things but it feels like forever esp after a loss....

Hey ladies, I'm jumping on the geriatric wagon. I'm 38 and nearly TTC #1 for a year. Last go before I call back the GP next month. I really was hoping to have a baby when I hit 38, but nature has has other plans. Due to ovulate today, although my LH surge was not high compared to other months, I definitely peaked yesterday though.
Anyway here is hoping this is the month I am sprinkled with baby dust. A family member had a baby back in October 22, feels like even more so now than last year all eyes are on me! Its not as if we havent been trying.
I read a lot of the comments and can relate to how you are feeling, I'm worried we just left it too late.

@SarahShorty yes I know what you mean. I was away at the weekend and I was talking to an older lady who was telling me she has 5 kids. I just kept thinking lucky you. I don’t want 5 just less than half of that would be fine !! Also my next door neighbour has 5 kids

@niknaks37 welcome to the thread and best of luck with this cycle.

@TheBirdintheCave i know exactly what you mean. I know how lucky I am to have my dc but when I’m out and about with him everyone else with a toddler seems to have a baby. Or else a bump. When you have secondary infertility you really notice these things. Also none of the other women in my immediate family had any miscarriages or problems getting pregnant at my age.

Hope everyone has a great weekend. I took a few days offline as I'm mentally drained. Yesterday I entered a dark space of mind and struggled to function. I wasn't feeling great physically either . I was suffering from alot of pain on my right side and just generally very sluggish and tired. I've no idea whats going on , if it's ovary related due to the OI medication or not . Thankfully it's alot better today. Consultant still hasn't contacted me back and today I rang to book my 21 day progesterone bloods and surgery told me they won't do my bloods. They aren't taking anyone in unless it's an emergency. So no monitoring scan and no bloods on my first month of clomid 😠 I feel so neglected and defeated. I've no way of knowing how I'm even responding to the clomid , or where the heck that leaves me next month. The situation has just really got me down.
If I ovulated every month on my own I'd probably feel alot less stressed out as it would mean every month is a chance. My cycles are so irregular, I've only had 2 cycles this year so far. I pinned my hopes on clomid helping to regulate ovulation but it's so fustrating trying to deal with them. I honestly just want to scream.
I hope everyone is feeling a little more positive than me today.
Sorry for being a real Debbie downer today whinging to you all

Oh no 💐 sorry you’ve been feeling sad 😔 it’s such a tough journey.
I did an at home progesterone test last month- it was from Medichecks and cost about £40 I think? They just send a kit in the post and you do a finger test. Posted it the same day and got results 2 days later. When is your day 21? Would you have time to do that?

@MK85 so sorry to hear you are feeling this way and had such a bad experience it’a awful that you are being treated this way surely they could get a doctor to phone you. Could your GP refer you to someone else ?

@MK85 Sorry about your situation, it doesn't sound like it's any better. I can't believe the consultant hasn't been in touch! I'm not surprised you feel neglected, it's such poor service. This might sound daft but would a doctor at your normal gp clinic be able to offer any advice whatsoever that could just help or advise you what else you could possibly do. I only say this because with my last MC I ended up ringing my doctor and she was amazing compared to the hospital in terms of advice and support. Pleased you're feeling a little better today. Hope you've got a lovely weekend planned.

Crossed post with @cornflakes86!

I’m sorry to hear you’re having such a terrible time @MK85 - I haven’t got any advice that hasn’t already been covered by the others but just wanted to say that you don’t need to apologise: I think we’d all be struggling in your situation. It just doesn’t seem right to not get contacted and be refused the bloods.

Agree with everyone - so sorry to hear how tough it's been @MK85, you definitely don't need to apologise for feeling down and given how badly you've been treated then it's no wonder you're struggling 😞 can't offer much advice other than to say we're here and we're sending virtual hugs 💓 xxx

How's everyone doing? I'm cd20/21 today and am itching to test 😩 anyone got any promising symptoms this cycle? X

Well I'm currently CD18 and had a solid smiley this afternoon on CB opk. My cheapies are 'low' 0.63 but for this stage of the cycle I don't usually get close to this range. Not sure if I've missed/ yet to see a peak. Last 3 cycles, i peaked in the 20s, 30s and last cycle was day 43 i think. It tends to be very late in cycle. I did have alot of pain around the ovary region on Wednesday or Thursday. Increase in cervical fluid too but it only lasted one day. Usually lasts around 3 days.( I've heard clomid can decrease your cm tho) Normally my temp drops before I get a peak but I've had no drop this cycle which is why I'm questioning if I'm really ovulating or if it's a fake surge since i have witnessed it drop before a positive. I've personally never experienced multiple surges but apparently its common for pcos. I'm going out of my mind now wondering if I'm ovulating. Perhaps the clomid is working and has brought it forward. 🤔 so fustrating as I think its especially important to be having the blood test to confirm it or not since I've had a static smiley.
ARRGH whats more annoying is he's working away and won't be home until tomorrow evening. If I am ovulating I might be tempted to actually kill him. How unlucky could I get 🙉

I'm CD19, haven't got round to buying any OPKs yet so just been DTD every other day from about CD7. Going to try and hold of testing and just wait to see if AF arrived.

So sorry to hear of everyone's struggles, I fell pregnant straight away with DD and it's really lured me into a sense of security but know it doesn't always mean it'll be so easy second time round.

@MK85 oooooh that’s exciting!!! Hopefully it’s on the way up and tomorrow it’ll be positive or higher than today! Even if today was your peak, there’s still time for when your OH gets home!
I usually have a really clear bbt shift but last month didn’t have a clear one at all- I even got a Medichecks progesterone test to check. It was fine, I’d ovulated 🤷🏼‍♀️ just a weird bbt month. So the lack of a drop for you doesn’t necessary mean no ovulation!

I've been struggling a lot with low mood the last couple of days. This cycle is another long one because I had a surge but no ovulation, so I'm LH testing for another week or so to find the damn peak. I saw lots of young families and babies while doing the weekly shop today and it's not getting any easier. Just have to keep on keeping on. I hope everyone is doing okay xx

I'm cycle day 18. My clear blue ovulation monitor has broken this cycle and haven't got around to fixing it! So just relying on when I usually ovulate as I'm thankfully regular. I'm going to try and dtd until mid next week to cover the bases. I find I don't think much about ttc for the first half of the month but 2nd half definitely I do so hoping I can keep busy in the tww.

Gif not intended BTW! A typo!

Loving the gif @SarahShorty 😂

I'm really struggling not to test, I discovered a load of easy at home pregnancy tests in the cupboard which I'd forgotten about and though I know that the tests would be negative I'm sorely tempted 🤦🏼‍♀️ why does time crawl during the TWW?

Hope everyone's doing ok x

@Stillwinston how many DPO are you? You’re a stronger woman than me to not just POAS to get it out of my system. Any symptoms creeping in? Fingers crossed for you!!

I am feeling a bit deflated. Had all the signs of ovulating on Tuesday, and some signs since that I have (sore boobs at times) but my temps are all over the place. They are really fluctuating up and down and although generally higher than pre ‘ovulation’, the lower days are on level with the higher days pre - if that makes sense?
I'm only using a wearable sensor (Apple Watch) so maybe it’s just not the best. I ordered a bbt thermometer but I’ve never used one and not sure how I’ll get on trying to do same time each day etc, but I just wonder what on earth is going on. My temps have never been this erratic - seems to always be something!