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TTC After Miscarriage Thread 14 🌈✨💕💙

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FfoxRedN · 09/02/2023 21:07

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bringmearainbow · 08/03/2023 13:18

@Dinosaur39 welcome sorry for your loss I would ring the EPU and see if they will scan you. Mine was a little different as I had a d&c but I had spells of random weird bleeding then I had a period 10 weeks after and once that finished I had cramps for 5 days then I passed a big bit of tissue. Tell them you've bled but you're not sure if you've passed it as tests are still very faint

Dinosaur39 · 08/03/2023 13:39

Thank you for your reply.
They have told me to contact them tomorrow after I’ve done a pregnancy test and if it’s positive they are bringing me in for a scan Friday.
I’m just wondering what other people’s symptoms were as I’m getting very impatient and was getting my hopes up all week that it was all clear but then the light bleeding/discharge hasn’t stopped.

tulipsunday · 09/03/2023 16:32

@Dinosaur39 sorry for your loss ❤️ sorry haven't really got much in the way of practical advice but hope you get a scan or some answers soon x

buckingmad · 09/03/2023 17:38

@indieray im TTC number 2 although I’m 29. I had an early mc last month and am in my fertile window now.

indieray · 09/03/2023 23:04

How's everyone doing ? I'm so sorry to hear about your losses @Dinosaur39 & @Ella31 early or not will never leave you.. it hadn't me!
I find comfort in something I saw online ..

It’s often been said that becoming a mother means you’ll carry a bit of your baby in your heart forever. It turns out that’s kind of true, biologically speaking: Recently, singer Mylene Klass opened up to Anna Whitehouse on her Dirty Mother Pukka podcast on she found 'peace' after her four heartbreaking miscarriages – when she learned her lost baby's DNA is forever in her body, they never leave you.🥺
Apparently it's true whether or not it's amazing comfort to I didn't know before !
I'm also struggling lots of pregnant family members around right now does anyone have this? I feel bad as I'm happy for them but I get to feel these emotions and just go with it ❤️

SMG1992 · 10/03/2023 08:08

Aww that's beautiful @indieray - it's made me a bit teary this morning!
I'm on CD 5, I came on my period the day after my static smiley, after a week of flashing so my hormones are still pretty wrecked!

I luckily don't have any close family who are pregnant but there are a few freidns and colleagues and I know how you feel. It's not about having any negative feelings for them, it just brings a lot of pain that we are always trying to deal with back to the surface.

Mummy1502 · 10/03/2023 08:37

Hi hope you don’t mind me joining, currently in the tww at 3dpo after my chemical pregnancy last month, how is everyone? X

Ella31 · 10/03/2023 09:26

indieray · 09/03/2023 23:04

How's everyone doing ? I'm so sorry to hear about your losses @Dinosaur39 & @Ella31 early or not will never leave you.. it hadn't me!
I find comfort in something I saw online ..

It’s often been said that becoming a mother means you’ll carry a bit of your baby in your heart forever. It turns out that’s kind of true, biologically speaking: Recently, singer Mylene Klass opened up to Anna Whitehouse on her Dirty Mother Pukka podcast on she found 'peace' after her four heartbreaking miscarriages – when she learned her lost baby's DNA is forever in her body, they never leave you.🥺
Apparently it's true whether or not it's amazing comfort to I didn't know before !
I'm also struggling lots of pregnant family members around right now does anyone have this? I feel bad as I'm happy for them but I get to feel these emotions and just go with it ❤️

Such a lovely message to wake up. I'm the same, I was pregnant before most of the family/friends who are now but I lost that pregnancy in August and now I'm the only one without kids or expecting one. It can be tough.

On a different note I was trying to think of the positive last night as I'm recovering from this chemical.

I spent 6 months after the first mc in an obsessive haze about conceiving again, testing lh during the day, getting upset if it hadn't rose, checking forums for reassurance, and the awful upset when my period came.

Although it was a loss, I did conceive in February and it was the first month I genuinely took a step back for myself. I did one lh test a day closer to my ovulation , reduced caffeine, I love my coffee. Loads of walks, a weekend away and I put aside all things baby until it came time to test. Also started taking a multi vitamin. Unfortunately I was very ill the week I conceived so it probably didn't help.

But the reason I'm writing this is I'm hoping it might give others some hope and reassurance. After the mc I was a mess and very emotionally exhausted. However fast forward almost 5 months in January I made a decision to put me first and ttc was only a small aspect of who I was. I had a great month, indulged myself, laughed more and definitely reconnected with my husband in ways than didn't involve ttc. And I did get pregnant. Hopefully next time will be more successful.

PurplePanda9 · 10/03/2023 09:58

Hi everyone, can I join?

Had a miscarriage at the start of January at 8 weeks and had retained products for a while which are finally gone confirmed by a scan last week.

Has anyone had ovulation bleeding after their miscarriage? I think I ovulated on the 26th of February (confirmed by scan that I had recently ovulated) and had a day of very light bleeding which I’ve never had before.

12 dpo today and bfn this morning but when I conceived in November I had a bfn on 12 dpo and then didn’t test again until 16 dpo where I got a strong bfp, so not out yet.

Sending baby dust to everyone💖

Dinosaur39 · 10/03/2023 10:08

@indieray 🥲 thank you for them words it’s reading stuff like that that gives you little
comforts to hold on to.

@Ella31 that such a strong attitude to have and extremely healthy. I’m sorry your pregnancy didn’t work out but it’s so important you are in a place where you are mentally strong and you should be so proud of that.

I managed to get some bloods done yesterday and HCG is 9 so I guess that’s my MC all completed now and the TCC journey begins.
Hospital have booked me a reassurance scan for next Friday but I feel like everything is ok so although I’m definitely going to go I don’t feel like I’m pining for it this week.

This was my first pregnancy and wasn’t even planned now I find myself in this position just desperate to get pregnant again to take some of that hurt away.

Glad to have this group to read through some of your stories and hopefully it’s a help
to everyone through their journey.

tulipsunday · 10/03/2023 12:31

Glad your appointment went well @Dinosaur39

Yes @PurplePanda9 not sure if I ovulated or not but had a small bit of midcycle bleeding.

It does make sense the whole relaxing/reconnection with your partner and trying to take your mind off TTC. Think once my cycle has regulated I will hopefully find this easier. At the moment I feel like I need to test all the time to try and work out what is going on with my body and try and give ourselves a slight bit of chance.

Dinosaur39 · 10/03/2023 16:10

@tulipsunday I totally understand this! Where I feel like I’ve had no idea what my body is doing since the MC I just want to test as much as I can to try and make some sense of it.
I think we are allowed to if this gives us a sense of understanding & control.
I just try to do it for myself and don’t inform my partner as I think blokes don’t understand it aa much and can end up getting confused with dates/ovulating ect.

Ella31 · 10/03/2023 17:45

Dinosaur39 · 10/03/2023 10:08

@indieray 🥲 thank you for them words it’s reading stuff like that that gives you little
comforts to hold on to.

@Ella31 that such a strong attitude to have and extremely healthy. I’m sorry your pregnancy didn’t work out but it’s so important you are in a place where you are mentally strong and you should be so proud of that.

I managed to get some bloods done yesterday and HCG is 9 so I guess that’s my MC all completed now and the TCC journey begins.
Hospital have booked me a reassurance scan for next Friday but I feel like everything is ok so although I’m definitely going to go I don’t feel like I’m pining for it this week.

This was my first pregnancy and wasn’t even planned now I find myself in this position just desperate to get pregnant again to take some of that hurt away.

Glad to have this group to read through some of your stories and hopefully it’s a help
to everyone through their journey.

You will come back stronger from this and just make sure you take the time to heal emotionally, I didn't with my first.

tulipsunday · 10/03/2023 22:11

Yes massively @Dinosaur39 I have learnt not to have the opk chat with my partner. Totally affects him in the moment and hard to explain my cycle anyway when I don't fully atm 😂

tulipsunday · 10/03/2023 22:12

Good advice @Ella31 the emotional healing is so important. Today's self care is watching Emily in Paris on Netflix with a bar of choc 😊

Ella31 · 11/03/2023 22:01

tulipsunday · 10/03/2023 22:11

Yes massively @Dinosaur39 I have learnt not to have the opk chat with my partner. Totally affects him in the moment and hard to explain my cycle anyway when I don't fully atm 😂

@tulipsunday you are so right. I out of habit used to be banging on about how strong my opk were getting and it impacted my OH definitely.

tulipsunday · 13/03/2023 08:12

Hope everyone ok. AF finally here after a long wait. Was a bit of a relief in the end tbh as was fed up of seeing negative tests and hormones felt unsettled. Hoping for a better cycle this time round. Christmas baby perhaps if fall this time..! 🎄

Daniki · 13/03/2023 09:15

@tulipsunday such a bittersweet feeling totally get it! I'm the same would love a Christmas baby! 🥰 iv been testing also and it's negative, think I'm due on any day from Friday, so hard to tell as my cycle lasted nearly 11 days last time so not sure when I ovulated, when I used to track I ovulated around day 9 🤷‍♀️ I have a wedding on the 24th so I'm like at least I can have a drink and not pretend I'm drinking at that if I'm not pregnant 😂

buckingmad · 13/03/2023 09:21

Anyone else get a weird feeling of zen re TTC after a miscarriage? I'm normally symptom spotting like mad and wishing away the days post ovulation but this month I dunno I feel a bit nonchalant about it all.

Suppose I'm only 4dpo, there's still time for the neuroticism to kick in 😂

tulipsunday · 13/03/2023 12:35

Aw a wedding will be nice @Daniki and like you say at least you can drink and have a good time if this cycle is not meant to be.

@buckingmad think that is really good that you are feeling chilled about it. That is what I am aiming for!

🤞 for both of you xx

SMG1992 · 13/03/2023 13:23

@buckingmad I have been the opposite of zen the last 2 months but am trying for this 3rd month post mmc to be more relaxed and enjoy pre - pregnancy baby free life before it's a distant memory. Especially as I think my stressing wasn't helping my body get back to normal, I'm not even sure if I've ovulated yet!

Daniki · 13/03/2023 17:50

@buckingmad iv been like that since last Mc! After my first Mc I was desperate to get pregnant again like the longing was unreal and I fell pregnant quickly but after second one I didn't feel like that at all. I have been pretty relaxed up to this point!

Daniki · 14/03/2023 17:53

Ok have got some dark spotting so AF defo on way. Even tho my last cycle only finished 2 weeks ago 😩 vomiting all day today which is the same as the day before my last cycle started I had the norovirus? (Or so I thought)

tulipsunday · 14/03/2023 19:26

Oh no @Daniki the vomiting sounds strange if had if last month too. Hope it eases off. Although no much fun being on my period is quite nice to have a few days without having to wee on a stick 😂

Daniki · 15/03/2023 15:57

@tulipsunday exactly! 😂 yea its so strange! My wee boy has hand foot and mouth so the two of us are sick at home at the minute, Jesus yesterday was a long day 😂 we might be lucky next cycle and have a Christmas baby 🙏🤗