Ready, Aim...HANG FIRE!! Waiting to TTC (and some too impatient)

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Here we are ladies...roll call please?!

Useless, can't get the fancy links to work!! Nevermind, it will do.

Oh my GOD how you lot can talk . Loving the names conversation - for a girl (most probable) it would be Mathilda, for a boy Louis (pronounced 'Louie'). Dh has no say, natch, because his suggestions are so apalling!
Good news on af NJ - you can now start you pre-af symptom plotting in preparation for the months ahead .
My cold is much improved - first night in 3 weeks I've been able to breathe through my nose!
Right, must get some work done, but will try and keep up what's going on here from my desk

Hey, BB, just looked at the website I gave you and there is a monthly farmers market nearer you in Southsea as well.

I going to farmer markets. There is only a small one here once a month.
Im not sure if I should start taking my pill again after af or to just stop. Dh still thinks we're waiting til about august

I love going to farmers markets I mean
Im having a silly morning

TBH Kayzr, when you come off the pill those first couple of cycles you are apparently more fertile than ever, so it might be best to stay on it till you are sure you're ready to TTC. But if you want to get a natural cycle pattern established between now and August then come off it.

Or do you mean to come off it now, to TTC now?!!!

Sorry meant to say, glad you are feeling better Diege

Diege, do you think it could just be implantation bleeding? What do ya reckon?!!!

I conceived ds straight away despite 2 doctors telling me it was impossible to get pregnant immediately?? This caused great confusion with all the doctors at the surgery and I was given 8 due dates the first being 6 feb and the last being 20 april. He was born on 20th March. I dont fancy going through all that again and having trainee doctors come look at me like I'm some freak. So I might just wait. I've got 6 months of pills left so that brings me pretty much upto august

Why did they say you couldn't get pregnant straight away? And 8 due dates? Spanning 2 and a half months....

When do YOU want to start TTC'ing? When does DH want to start?

Because as far as they knew it was impossible as the first af is juat a withdrawl bleed not a real af. the one on 20th april would have meant I would have concieved before even you know whatting!!
Dh isnt really bothered he wasnt with ds it was a case of when I want to. Im not sure when I want to start ttc, I keep thinking now but then I think do I want to have dc this year or next.
How long do you think there should be between siblings?
My mum says now so she can babysit more!! But MIL thinks its an awful idea but she hates me so meh to her.

What a ramble

i know the feeling re mil! mines bearable now..just but we've had to be separated in public before so.....

Playing that is a very good idea, as soon as oliver ( my car ) is on thew road we will defo have to meet up

test again fri this is the one

Well there is nearly 5 years between my two which I found very easy. The smallest age gap between DS2 and the baby will be about 2 years 4 months, am guessing it will be very different this time round.

If I wasn't so hell bent on having another and DH would get over his age, I would probably leave it another year or so, but I can't wait that long, it is hard enough waiting till May!

KAYZR, think it's a case of doing what feels best for you then . I have similar feelings about this year or next, but have already put off from last year when I got the new job, plus my age is a BIG factor . Tell us more about the MIL then ...mine has 'issues' too ['Timothy' syndrome].
NJ, yes, could deffo be implantation bleed me thinks Especially if you've gone through several boxes of tampax already - and it's when af was due-ish. Yes, better get HPT in!!!

MIL just doesnt like me. Dh has Becker Muscular Dystrophy which doesnt really affect him that bad he just has weak muscles. His specialist said that any dc we had would most probably not have it as its passed through the female side but any dd's could pass it on to grandchildren. So she never wanted us having any children. I'm only 21 so age isnt a problem.
Im just worried that the longer we leave it the more jealous ds might get. I'm 2 and a half years older than my brother and I hated him I threw him down the stairs, which he thought was great fun and asked me to do it again, shut doors on his head, tried to get him to climb in the washing machine and I know it caused loads of problems with my parents.

God I ramble

PMSL Diege What on earth we will be like when it is 'for real'?!!! Can't wait LOL

See I love Seth, but after what my sister said, she compared it to another name we have always taken the piss out of, won't divulge incase anyone here is thinking about/already has it! I think Seth is lovely....

GJ, go and make that appointment, who cares if it is only February? Besdies if it is anything like our GP's you need at least 2 months notice to get an appointment anyway!

I don't have the whole this year/next year thing, it will be next year, but I do like the idea of another summer baby, loved being able to show DS1 off (March baby but was hot hot hot in 2002!) DS2 was bundled up in his pram with blankets and all sorts, (was very cold in December 2006!) I think April/May/June next year would be perfect timing Also losing the weight after is easier in the summer!

Kay, we didn't have any jealousy with DS1/2, not a single ounce. They absolutely adore each other.

I think it depends a lot on how mum and dad are with the older siblings. We just made sure that DS1 was treated exactly the same as before, he had the same bedtime routine, he had time on his own with both of us, we showed him that DS2 would be his friend, and that babies come with toys!! I think introducing another child is the hardest part of having kids, but with a bit of forward planning and constant reassurance to the older children, it should be OK. I bloody hope so anyway!!!

Yeah I think my problem was they gave my thomas the tank engine toy to my brother and it really upset me

There you go you see!

It'll be fine You starting now then?!!!!

I might do yeah. Just worried about being overweight. But I'm giving up sweets for lent

Kayzr personal q. i know but how overweight are you? i only ask cos im overweight too and it would be nice to hear if you knew of any particular health implications or special provisions we would encounter? i think in terms of height to weight im prob about 4 stones overweight,i certainly feel overweight but i am trying to eat better and fully intend to loose it all after baby, any info anyone has would be great

NJ seth is an awesome name

anyone kno how much having the coil out is gonna hurt???

I was reading a thread yesterday and apparently Slimming World do a weight loss program for pregnant women. I guess if you only a little over weight, it probably isn't worth it, but if you are a lot over weight, then maybe look into it.

Many very overweight people carry babies absolutely fine, I don't think it is the weight itself that causes the problems, it is what comes with the weight, high blood pressure, diabetes etc.

So never mind 'mights' and 'maybes', are you starting to TTC now or not?

OO MIL's! Mine likes me now (it only took 6 years for her to warm to me) I found that once I was actually married it was easier, she made it very clear I was not part of the family until then, even though Dh and I were together for 6 years before the wedding, lived together and were engaged. She's ok now, hard work (she is a completely different type of 'Mum' to mine, she is a mother hen type) but I managed to live with her for a few months this year (long story) and survived!

Age gap between kids is always a hard one. We have 2 yrs 4 months between me and little bro and I was horrid. Never did anything physical towards him but didn't like him one bit. Mind you, at that age I was just plain horrid, very very strong willed and a nasty peice of work at times! When little sis came along I was nearly 6 and I loved her to bits, but then I was no longer in the terrrible 2 stage!

BB see my last post I don't know about how much the coil removal will hurt, but it can't be more than labour, and you are going to have to do that soon enough!!!

he he NJ you are the voice of reason,

Im def gonna try and be sensible eating wise from now on but the lazy cow part of my brain says that there's no point in mega dieting till after baby... i will defo do it then, am going back to body combat next week too so i will be more pro-active

As for gaps, there is ten years between me and my oldest youger sis, and i did like them but i think jealousy can be an issue regardless..theres only 11 mnts between my two sisters and the older one used to bash the lil'un regularly but there teens now and close