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Ready, Aim...HANG FIRE!! Waiting to TTC (and some too impatient)

955 replies

Teuch · 04/02/2008 12:35

Here we are ladies...roll call please?!

OP posts:
kayzisbroody · 13/02/2008 14:47

I found it really hard to go back after 6 I dont know how I'll cope after 9

BeMyLilBaby · 13/02/2008 14:52

I know deep down that today isnt anything to worry about i think i feel more annoyed bacause none of it is directly my fault its just the buck stops with me...i dont think the having to wait to march to get signed off is helping my strress levels either, im very sensitive to it...

im feel all arg!

anyway on mat leave front im gonna have the full whack!! hopefully will be able to accrue savings go back for minimum required and then leave or even get sacked if need be.. get a nice lil job a few days a week at nice comfy tesco!

NatalieJane · 13/02/2008 14:52

LMAO Kay, hopefukky Made me giggle

BB, try not to worry about making a mistake, we all do it from time to time. Fuck 'em if they are being arsey.

I quite like being a SAHM, think I will miss it whenever it is I do try to get a job. But I have a bit of a dream of being a midwife, when the kids have grown up, I am looking forward to being the one watching instead of labouring!!

DS1 has after school club today so still have another hour of waiting to go and get him. I do it every day, sit and clock watch till I have to go and get him, and then he comes in, makes a mess, and I am clock watching for bed time then! LOL

Playingthewaitinggame · 13/02/2008 14:57

I know what you mean, I still miss working part time (I have only worked full time for 2 years). Even worse, I can't help thinking, "what if it takes years to get pg, I might have to keep working for ages!!".

My aim is to have baby mid-end 2009, go back to work part time mid 2010 after 9 months mat leave, have dc2 2011/12, have another 9 months (or maybe a year by then) maternity leave then quit work for good. Want to be able to be at home full time by the time dc1 is 4 so I can home ed, at least till dc1 is 5/6 which is a more suitable school starting age IMO. But since when has any of my life gone to plan...

kayzisbroody · 13/02/2008 14:58

I have babies on the brain and I just dont pay much attention to what Im typing but I think hopefukky may be one of the most funny typos

kayzisbroody · 13/02/2008 14:59

Playing Mat leave is meant to go up to a year in 2010

Playingthewaitinggame · 13/02/2008 15:01

I had read that Kay, but its not law yet, so don't want to get hopes up, but I am secretly hoping that it will be 1 year by the time I have dc2.

kayzisbroody · 13/02/2008 15:11

It should be. I hope it is. Ds was born about 2 weeks before it changed to 9 months I was really annoyed

BeMyLilBaby · 13/02/2008 15:18

Playing you've got it all sussed!! as soon as have my Matb1 form to say im pg im going to the council to ask for a council house and also find exactly how much benefits money we wld get and free childcare, cos im not gonna work if we'll be spending my earnings on childcare, I just cant believe while i was at tesco i was annoyed about being there and now i miss it!!

silly eh?

playing feel free to tell me to bog off, but when you were ill, what was wrong? i know thats personal and hope not to of offended, im just nosey!

kayzisbroody · 13/02/2008 15:25

BB when I was near going on mat leave I was so fed up about being at work and then the 4 weeks between leaving and ds coming I was bored and in work nearly everyday just to talk to them as I was so bored.

We have just been put on the council list, I'm so fed up with living in a first floor flat with no garden. Ds is getting so heavy to carry up and down the stairs if I want to go out

NatalieJane · 13/02/2008 15:25

BB I think it is a case of it always being greener on the other side! Or sod's law...

Kay I think my -est typo ever was a big fuck off email to Argos (longgggg story) but I was explaining, or complaining, about how the customer service woman had tutted at me on the phone, so I cleverly managed to fit a readable 'tut' into the email, to make my point, but didn't realise until I got the reply and re-read what I had sent, that I had typoed tut for tit, and had effectivly called the MD of Argos a tit!!! It was true, but not the point! LOL

lardylumps · 13/02/2008 15:28

Hello everyone. I hate working as well especially as I seem to have the graveyard shift. Anyhow it does mean that I can chat to you lovely people. Has anyone's resolved dropped again or are we still sticking to April????

kayzisbroody · 13/02/2008 15:29

NJ Thats so funny.

kayzisbroody · 13/02/2008 15:33

Hello LL, yeah I think everyone has stuck with their months today. I have done.

NatalieJane · 13/02/2008 15:33

April/May for me.... you lot are no good at making me stick to May!

Playingthewaitinggame · 13/02/2008 15:34

Hi Kay, last time I looked it was a white paper, which means its drafted and the govt want it to be law but hasn't yet been agreed by parliament. Could be wrong, dont have the time to look it up now. In general, that probably means that for babies born April 2010 it will be 1 year (too late for dc1). Of course, if it doesn't get ratified in this parliament and the opposition win the next general election it may never become law. Odds are pretty good on it being extended though. And I thought there would never be any use for my politics A level

kayzisbroody · 13/02/2008 15:38

Well I really hope it is.
I'm watching a program called the baby race and this woman has just been artifically(sp) inseminated!!
She got to choose what the sperm donor looked like. She said that she didnt want a ginger donor, my DH is ginger!!

BeMyLilBaby · 13/02/2008 15:49

Lol how very interesting.... i bought another book today offa amazon, im struggling to find ones i havent read

kayzisbroody · 13/02/2008 15:54

Can you go and look in the library they might have some you havent read

Playingthewaitinggame · 13/02/2008 15:56

BB - course I dont mind, if I did I wouldn't mention it. Warning very long post:

I have ME, I say have because in my experience it is something that never truly goes away.

I was first diagnosed at 15, spent all of year 11 out of school. Managed to get 3 GCSE's (dont know how without studying) and as I had already taken 2 GCES's a year early I went straight onto A levels without repeating the year.

Went onto A levels virtually "recovered", had a bit of time out sick but not too bad. By the time I started Uni I was "well" again apart from the odd niggle. All the doctors told me I would recover and I never doubted it so assumed I couldn't relapse. I was wrong, they were wrong.

Started to doing a 4 year BAed English degree (which is 50% teaching and 50% English) rather than the normal 3 year teaching degree. Loved teaching and working with kids (not the paperwork!), but you know what they say about teaching and stress and soon enough in year 2 my health started to fail as the stress built up. Determined not to quit I fought it for 6 months (which is the worst thing to do) and made myself so ill I could barely walk. Took me 3 years to be able to recover enough to start working part time again, twas so bad for nearly 18 months they thought I had MS as there are many similar symptoms.

I now know ME never leaves you, it is my bodies reaction to stress and overextertion. Some people have a mental breakdown, I just get a physical breakdown. So, any time I am tired, stressed and run-down I risk becoming ill again and to be honest I am still not 100% "well" and dont think I will ever be. So I just have to look after myself, relax and take each day as it comes and count my blessing that right now I can work, I can have a life and I have good(ish) health at the moment. Its probably that faith and patience, that I have had to learn, which has enabled me to wait so sucessfully ttc, even though I have wanted kids for years.

Diege · 13/02/2008 15:58

Hello! Have had to go back pages to catch up after going out this morning!. Better than a magazine, sitting down with a coffee and scrolling through!
Had a lovely time in the Lowry with dds, did lots of shopping too, and almost bought one of those baby band things, but then thought it would be a bad omen, haunting me month after months, smelly old brown bit of elastic! So got lots of 'bits' for the dds in instead .
Good to see you back PLAYING - wow, sounds like you've been through a lot in the past, and have a v.healthy 'go with the flow' attitude to life .
Right, best round up the troops to make valentine cards. God I HATE doing crafts - all that glitter and mess. Hope dh appreciates it!

Diege · 13/02/2008 16:02

Wow PLAYING what an inspiring post. Puts all the day to day winges into perspective. What a frightening time for you, and lots of strength for the future

lardylumps · 13/02/2008 16:04

Missing sorry to hear about your troubles. My friend developed ME after a serious bout of glanulafever (probably spelt wrong). She didn't walk for 4 years after and could only eat certain foods (Chicken and fresh veg if I remember). Hope you are soon back up to full strength.

kayzisbroody · 13/02/2008 16:07

Im so glad that after everything you've been through you seem to be so happy.

NatalieJane · 13/02/2008 16:37

Playing, echoing what everyone else has said really. I was diagnosed with CFS at about 15, completely messed up my exams and everything, by the time I came fully out of it, I had met and married DH. He was the making of me really. I have said many a time that some couples grow up together, but he was already grown, he has sort of brought me up. He has given me life values and the know how to be a responsible adult, not that my mum didn't but he just did it in a different way. I suppose that is why we get on so well now, I have spent the last 7 years being shown how to do life, whilst wearing his shoes (obviously not literally, I wouldn't wear them if someone paid me!). Makes it sound like he has brainwashed me or something, it isn't like that, he just did for me what I see him doing for the kids.

When I look back now at how I was when we first got together I do wonder how on earth he put up with me I was a fully loaded teenager, with all the attitude of one, with CFS to boot, and although I was always more mature, in general, than my friends at the time, I was still so young and immature.

The CFS seemed to just lift when I met DH, by the time we had been together for a year the illness was in the past, and although sometimes I think I go through very mild bouts of it, it has never returned full blown, touch wood

It kind of makes me sad to look back on it, whilst all my friends were off out to see which pub they could get served in next I was "resting up"... but then if I hadn't have been resting up, surfing the net, I'd have never found DH so it all happened for a reason Besides I'd done the pub and club scene at 14 (don't tell my mum!!!) and had kind of had enough by then anyway!