Ready, Aim...HANG FIRE!! Waiting to TTC (and some too impatient)

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Here we are ladies...roll call please?!

Schneebly they really are gorgeous.
I cant believe how tiring walking is

Is it ok to join your thread I will be ttc this year. DD1 is 10 months at the moment and want to enjoy her for a little longer (and also want to get a little more money behind us) before we actually TTC but hopefully around April time.

Welcome LARDY (I feel rude calling you that!). 2 new people in one afternoon - it must be all the landing strip talk

I know aren't we popular today.
Hey Lardy!

Oh oh while looking on amazon earlier I saw a "Sex For Dummies" book!!!

thanks everyone for kind comments on DS's

The full story of why I want to ttc and why I want to wait...

I have applied to do a part time degree (teacher training) which starts in september. Because it is only part time I think I can combine having a baby with studying and by the time I am finished qualifying the baby would be old enough to be going to school and I could then go and get a job. If I wait until after my degree then it will be year before I can out to work properly and I really just dont want to do that. The only problem is that there are lots of school placements involved over my 4 years study and they are set out like this..

Year 1 10 days in Spring, 4 weeks Summer
Year 2, 10 days spring
Year 3 6 weeks autumn
Year 4 , 10 days autumn, 9 weeks Spring

so if I got into uni and ttc now I could possibly be leaving a small baby from 8.30-5pm for a total of 6 weeks early next year whereas if I wait and try to have the baby next summer then I will have maybe 6 months with baby before any placements and then only 2 weeks. So I am reckoning (if DH agrees) on ttc as of september and hoping it will happen between then and nov/dec! As an aside I would also like to use thing time to lose some weight as I am at present seriouslt overweight and I know it doesnt help conception and can cause added problems in pg!

Sorry for raving on! I see you all ahve a range of reasons for waiting and it is good to have company!
x

oh god sooo many typos sorry!

Hi Lardy

Im having to lose weight too, thats why Im waiting, also so I can go on holiday and not have a big pg belly. I want to have a go at surfing and Im sure you cant surf while pg

I can see you schneebly !

I can see you schneebly !

Do you have a lot to lose kay? I could really do with losing about 6 or 7 stone but am aiming for 2 to start with as that is the weight I was when I concieved my DSs. When u goimg on hols? where?

lulumama - stop it lol!

Told you I would obsess!

just do it !! no obsessing, no planning , just do it, que sera sera, thre will always be a reason why you should wait....

true! I still need to get DH to say yes though! He will though

Every time i see a pregnant lady i geet really broody. Then i see dd and think no want to spend more time wiht you first.

What is the best gap to have between children in your oppinion.

I have about 3 stone to lose. I still have the baby weight from ds.
We're going on holiday the 19th July for a week in Devon. Its a big family holiday as there are about 10 of us going and a few of us said we'd try surfing. Im really looking forward to it as our last holiday was our honeymoon and that was about 18 months ago

Sounds like a good plan Schneebly . For what it's worth, I am an uni lecturer and I have to say the most committed students are those with babies/families. In fact, the more children/responsibilities, the more organised the student! Think it's to do with the fact that when you have lots on you CANNOT put things off [diege pushes untouched pile of exam papers out to sight]and I have to say students with babies are never late handing things in! (whereas your free and single 18 year old is generally hopeless!
I also need to shift some weight - about 8 pounds or so. Am thinking of doing a fitness dvd - the new Davina one perhaps?

Lardy when is your dd's birthday? My ds is 10 months old.
I'm not sure it really matters to much. With any luck my ds will be about 23 months old when I have my next one.

kay my dd is one on March 22nd. was looking to start ttc after that.

Schneebly, gaps-wise I think there are pros/cons to all of them. I have 16 monthsd between dd1 and dd2, and they are so close it's scary. OK, they fight but then, as my friend says, are liek a pair of little old ladies who have known each othjer all their life (finishing each others sentences, holding hands/linking arms spontaneously when out). DD3 is 3 years younger than dd2, and while she had just 'fitted in', part of my reasoning for no.4 is so that dd3 has a similar rerlationship with no.4 (ok, taking lots forgranted here!).
Hi LULU! We've never spoken, but I may need your advice in the future! Contemplating a home birth with LO4, and thinking about a Doula (I'm in Warrington)

kay - hol sounds fab!

Diege - thanks for your comments. I agree about the student thing. I think you are also more likely as you get older to really know what you want to do and therefore be more committed. I was a terrible student first time round!

Lardylumps - I personally dont think there is a 'best' age gap but I recall reading some research which concluded that the best age gap in terms of transition for existing child was less that 2 years or more than 4 years - not saying I agree but interesting reading.

oh diege - I want to be in warrington tonight! Frankie Boyle is live at Pyramid and Parr and I couldn't get tickets

hello diege !! am a bit far from warrington but know a couple of fab doulas in the area, and am happy to tell you anything i know about homebirth and doulas in general ! happy ttc!

Lardy my ds is the 20th March!!!

Does anyone know if surfing while pg is going to be dangerous?

LULU, thanks so much . I am an epidural addict, probabloy because I am a real panicker when in labour which I think has resulted in a 'I'll have everything available lest I feel even a twinge' approach! . I'll def. give you a shout for some contacts when necessary! .
Schneebly: who's Frankie Boyle?

Kay your holiday sounds great hope you have a lovely time. My waters broke on the 20th but dd didn't arrive until the 22nd!!