Early BFPs

[Yolo23]

Hi everyone! Thought I’d start this thread to see what interest there was 🥰
I’m only today BFP (digital) but already chatted with so many others who are the same this month and feeling a bit anx about the next few weeks (with it being so early).
I don’t want to fill up the other threads so thought this may be helpful especially because while sometimes encouraging, I also know how heart breaking it can be when there are so many announcements.
So I’ll start us off and hope someone comments 🤣
I’m 30 - first baby (weird not to say TTC)
13 dpo
partner doesn’t know yet so already busy planning how to tell him over the weekend 🫣🥰 he’s currently out watching the footie!

[anon1411]

Congratulations 🥰
I'm hoping to get my BFP within the next 3 to 5 days, I'm feeling every symptom going, the twinges and pulling in my stomach can't be from anything else 🤞 if you don't mind me asking what were you symptoms this past week leading up to your BFP?

[Yolo23]

@anon1411 ahh thank you, of course I don’t mind you asking 🥰

I tried to note them down in case - so:
8DPO lots of abdominal cramps and headaches
9 DPO severely bloated, tired and pinching sensation on abdomen and either side
10 DPO negative evening test but browny type spotting
11 DPO super headaches negative FMU test
12 DPO - nothing aside from just not feeling well
13 DPO - positive FMU test (really light) followed by another few tests and digital confirmed 🥰

obviously everyone’s different but the abdomen cramps were really weird and the headaches and general not feeling well and browny spotting was all a bit strange for me this month so I really hoped it would be a BFP !

wishing you the absolute best of luck ✨🤞 don’t be afraid to ask anything else if it helps!

[anon1411]

Thats amazing thank you so much ⭐️

I came off the pill roughly two weeks ago, not had any withdrawal bleed still, and figured i ovulated near enough straight away (had every symptom). Me and partner DTD 3 or 4 times within the first week and since then I've had bad headaches and constant pulling and twinges in my stomach. I'm very tired all the time and I'm weeing more frequently (which I know sounds super early to feel this but I only notice because I didn't go to the toilet frequently at all previously)
I just wonder if I'm maybe a bit earlier on DPO than I first thought, took a test today which is a BFN. So will hold out until beginning of next week maybe... 🤔

Bless you, thank you 🙏

[Yolo23]

Hi everyone, quick update.. had a blob or so in the loo this morning after bleeding off and on yesterday, still not on proper AF but my digital now says not pregnant so I guess that’s the end of that! 😩
One thing I will never do again is test even the slightest bit early (wasted so much money on tests this month and had 5/6 BFPs) just sharing some advice. Feeling ok but just want the bleeding to start now so it can be over with and we can enjoy our holiday to Dominican on Saturday. If anyone has any advice around how long it takes to start, and how long generally it may last, I’d really appreciate it 😥🥺 xx

[Laul89]

Sorry to hear that @Yolo23 ☹️
The same thing happened to me just a couple
of weeks ago and I will never test early again after that. It’s so disappointing and I’d rather not know and just think it’s AF!

My bleeding started dot on the day AF was due to arrive after 3 BFPs! The first day was a little heavier than I’m used to (I usually have quite light periods) and then it only lasted another two days after that, quite light. Just felt like a usual period for me but with worse cramps.

Hope you enjoy your holiday ☀️

[Yolo23]

@Laul89 oh thank you for sharing! It’s really comforting to hear when others have experienced similar (even though it’s awful and you wouldn’t want for that to be the case). I’m just sitting and waiting for AF now which is horrible - if I hadn’t have tested I’d have never known 🤣 definitely feels a better idea!
Due to having endo, I’m dreading this period as I’m always in agony so hoping it comes soon and is over before Sat 😅 thank you my lovely xx

[Laul89]

I know, I didn’t even know what the term chemical pregnancy meant until I started TTC properly! It’s crazy how common it is too 🥺
The TWW is the longest time ever isn’t it, and you just want to know asap, but next time I’ll definitely just wait and see if I miss my period.

Ahh bless you, I hope it’s not as bad as you are expecting. I also called my GP just to have it on my record, they didn’t do or recommend anything but thought it was a good idea to let them know, just incase you wanted to do the same ☺️

Fingers crossed it’s all over by Saturday, the Dominican sounds heavenly and it’ll definitely take your mind off things ☺️

[Yolo23]

@Laul89 neither did I funny enough! I can’t believe just how many hoops there are to jump through. It has given a little hope that it can happen but yes onto the next set of concerns now 😂 it’s like constant cans of worms isn’t it!

thanks for the info re the GP that’s a good idea. I have an appt when I get from hols so I’ll mention it then.

cant wait to get away now but have a really busy week to get through first 😩 hope you’re keeping ok too x

[LavenderAndBluebells]

So sorry OP, I've had a few chemical pregnancies and know how upsetting they are 😔 good luck for next cycle xx

[Laul89]

@Yolo23 its crazy isn’t it! And as a teenager I feel like I was terrified if I had sex I’d end up pregnant… my god it’s not that easy 🤣

Oh I know what you mean, the week before a holiday is always so hectic isn’t it, but it’ll all be worth it when you’re there relaxing! I’m doing well thank you, looking forward to this cycle and crossing my fingers all goes well! 😬🤞🏼 AF is due 21st December and I’m due to go on a night out on the 23rd so aware I’m going to probably have to test that morning if no AF…. I feel scared to test now though and not sure I’ll believe it’s actually happening after last time 🥴 x

[Yolo23]

@Laul89

@Yolo23 its crazy isn’t it! And as a teenager I feel like I was terrified if I had sex I’d end up pregnant… my god it’s not that easy 🤣

Oh I know what you mean, the week before a holiday is always so hectic isn’t it, but it’ll all be worth it when you’re there relaxing! I’m doing well thank you, looking forward to this cycle and crossing my fingers all goes well! 😬🤞🏼 AF is due 21st December and I’m due to go on a night out on the 23rd so aware I’m going to probably have to test that morning if no AF…. I feel scared to test now though and not sure I’ll believe it’s actually happening after last time 🥴 x

Haha I know! Little did we know just what was to come 🤣 that being said we’d have probably been that fertile all those years ago, it would have happened in an instant 🤪

yes! I’ve battled so many AF pains and heavy bleeding today but I’m pleased in some ways because it means it’ll be done before holibobs. I can’t wait now - it’s very much needed after this cycle.

oooh yes I know the feeling now unfortunately… I guess you have to still have faith that while unfortunately it can happen.. sometimes it doesn’t! I’m not sure what the odds are but understanding 1 in 8 ends like this helped me a bit. I’m just frustrated I tested early but I had to as I was due a smear that morning 🙃 something to look forward to in January now lol!

[Laul89]

@Yolo23 you’re probably right! 🤣🙈

Ah bless you, but I’m glad it’s going to be over & done with for your hols! I usually have quite light periods so I expected this one to be heavier but it just felt normal, if not a little shorter/lighter tbh!

Yeah it helped me feel a bit better when I realised how common it was but also to know that people go on to have completely normal pregnancies afterwards is a relief.
This month really is going to drag though 😩🙈

[Yolo23]

@Laul89

@Yolo23 you’re probably right! 🤣🙈

Ah bless you, but I’m glad it’s going to be over & done with for your hols! I usually have quite light periods so I expected this one to be heavier but it just felt normal, if not a little shorter/lighter tbh!

Yeah it helped me feel a bit better when I realised how common it was but also to know that people go on to have completely normal pregnancies afterwards is a relief.
This month really is going to drag though 😩🙈

@Laul89 thank you! Yeah it was the same for me actually, I had a few pains yesterday however it wasn’t half as bad as I am normally with my endo. It’s been far heavier today but no cramps so I’m guessing I’ll be back up and running ready for holidays (thank god)…
I’m definitely more hopeful about the months ahead now I sort of know something is possible 🤣 I’d be an anxious wreck until a scan mind you if I got lucky again…
Im hoping my parnter proposes on this holiday (date I say it), I noticed my ring went missing the other week and it’s mysteriously returned 🤨🧐 that would be a really nice distraction, and I don’t want to jump too far ahead of myself but my next Cycle starts on 26th December 😬 roughly - it may be a bit messed up in fairness but I’m excited for the next few months. When’s your next cycle? Are you all organised for Christmas!? Again helpful to have distractions I find X

[Laul89]

@Yolo23 that’s good, definitely worked out well that it’s all out the way for yous going away! 👏🏼

Yeah I agree and that’s one thing my husband said… at least we know it can happen and this was our first month trying so I do feel pretty lucky even though it ended badly! I’ll be the same, I won’t want to tell my parents cos I’ll be so scared it’s not real! And I would normally definitely tell them before the 12 week scan!!

Ohhh a proposal would be lovely! 🥰 please keep me updated! It would be a very welcome distraction I agree. We have put off ttc for such a long time as we booked our wedding in early 2019 for summer 2020… due to the dreaded covid we only ended up getting married in July this year! So ttc has been a long time coming and now seems to be all I can think of 🙈 how long have you been trying? Sorry if you’ve already said and I’ve missed it!

I’m on CD11 right now.. approaching my fertile week so ready to start again 🤣 AF is due on 21st December 😬🥺

Ive ordered a few things so far.. are you? I feel this month will be better than usual for the TWW as it’s always so busy, and it’s my birthday month too, so lots of distractions ✨

[Yolo23]

@Laul89

@Yolo23 that’s good, definitely worked out well that it’s all out the way for yous going away! 👏🏼

Yeah I agree and that’s one thing my husband said… at least we know it can happen and this was our first month trying so I do feel pretty lucky even though it ended badly! I’ll be the same, I won’t want to tell my parents cos I’ll be so scared it’s not real! And I would normally definitely tell them before the 12 week scan!!

Ohhh a proposal would be lovely! 🥰 please keep me updated! It would be a very welcome distraction I agree. We have put off ttc for such a long time as we booked our wedding in early 2019 for summer 2020… due to the dreaded covid we only ended up getting married in July this year! So ttc has been a long time coming and now seems to be all I can think of 🙈 how long have you been trying? Sorry if you’ve already said and I’ve missed it!

I’m on CD11 right now.. approaching my fertile week so ready to start again 🤣 AF is due on 21st December 😬🥺

Ive ordered a few things so far.. are you? I feel this month will be better than usual for the TWW as it’s always so busy, and it’s my birthday month too, so lots of distractions ✨

@Laul89 definitely! To be honest it was the only month (bar one potentially) where it could have happened so I’m fairly similar to you in that regard. You have to take a positive out of it in some way (excuse the pun 🤣)

ah I will let you know 🤞 so I came off the pill officially in July. My story is a little complex in the sense that I was with my ex for almost 10 years and we were trying for around 2 - with ZERO joy. I knew I had endo deep down but had to wait for operations to diagnose etc.. in the meantime we were referred to IVF but relationship broke down. He wasn’t the right person in the end though so it was all meant to be 🥰

My partner I’m with now, he’s been so great. I had endo diagnosed early in our relationship and had an op to treat it but I was dubious whether it worked having been told I’d likely need IVF in future… long story short I didn’t want to rush in to anything so we’ve been together 2.5 years and trying officially since Aug ☺️

eeeek fertile week - ready to peak 😂 best get BD lol. birthday month is exciting - maybe it’ll be a double whammy! Xmas Presie and birthday Presie wrapped in one. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you 🥳❤️✨

[Laul89]

Aw yes you definitely have to look at the plus side don’t you 🥰

Isn’t it funny how things just work out for the better. It seems really reassuring for you that you managed to fall pregnant despite the endo and possibility of IVF though! 🤞🏼

Hahaha definitely! We’ve started trying a few days before predicted fertile days as we did that last month so I’ve got it in my head that might have been when it worked 🤣 gonna be sick of BD by the end of next week!
Ahh it would be amazing, I’m going to test the 23rd if AF hasn’t arrived and would love to tell my parents on Christmas Day but I’d still be very worried it wasn’t real. I’d be 4 days late by the 25th 😬 Constantly getting ahead of myself as usual 🤪🤣

Come Saturday you’re gonna be very relaxed so you never know… a holiday conception may be on the cards 🤞🏼✨

[Yolo23]

@Laul89

Aw yes you definitely have to look at the plus side don’t you 🥰

Isn’t it funny how things just work out for the better. It seems really reassuring for you that you managed to fall pregnant despite the endo and possibility of IVF though! 🤞🏼

Hahaha definitely! We’ve started trying a few days before predicted fertile days as we did that last month so I’ve got it in my head that might have been when it worked 🤣 gonna be sick of BD by the end of next week!
Ahh it would be amazing, I’m going to test the 23rd if AF hasn’t arrived and would love to tell my parents on Christmas Day but I’d still be very worried it wasn’t real. I’d be 4 days late by the 25th 😬 Constantly getting ahead of myself as usual 🤪🤣

Come Saturday you’re gonna be very relaxed so you never know… a holiday conception may be on the cards 🤞🏼✨

Haha you’re right! It’s definitely a positive sign I think/hope…
lol getting busy before fertile window DEFINITELY helped us too. We done it every other and tracked using digital to be sure to do it the day of. Being on holiday, I’m hoping it’s less of a deed and more of an exciting afternoon activity 😂🤣
aww I know, but jumping ahead of yourself can be hopeful so I’m all for it aslong as you stay grounded and accept the possibility of what may not happen - I’m AF on the 26th sooo… eeek! Hopeful.
After my situation, I think I’d be too wary now of telling parents until I’d hd a scan - which would be REDICULOUSLY hard as we’re so close but I’d also want to save them the constant worry too 🫣 this bloody process 😂

[Laul89]

It will definitely be easier on holiday.. like you say it’s more of an afternoon activity when you get back from the beach 😜 than getting into bed so tired after working and having to get busy 😩🤣

Ah I know.. I just don’t know what to do as I’m due on a night out on 23rd so obviously I will need to know if I can drink or not. If I can’t then my friends will 100% know, like there’s no way I could pretend to drink with them lot around 🙈🤣 and I agree about telling my parents, if I tell them I want to make sure it’s the real thing 🥺 but I don’t think I could wait until 12 weeks!!!

Are you all sorted for your hols now? So jealous 🥺😩 have the best time x

[Yolo23]

@Laul89

It will definitely be easier on holiday.. like you say it’s more of an afternoon activity when you get back from the beach 😜 than getting into bed so tired after working and having to get busy 😩🤣

Ah I know.. I just don’t know what to do as I’m due on a night out on 23rd so obviously I will need to know if I can drink or not. If I can’t then my friends will 100% know, like there’s no way I could pretend to drink with them lot around 🙈🤣 and I agree about telling my parents, if I tell them I want to make sure it’s the real thing 🥺 but I don’t think I could wait until 12 weeks!!!

Are you all sorted for your hols now? So jealous 🥺😩 have the best time x

Hello @Laul89 so sorry for the late reply! Things were crazy in the lead up to holiday and this week I’ve battled with jet lag and festive organising 😂 im failing on both at the moment but the plus side is that I’ve finally wrote Christmas cards 👀🌲 better almost late than never 🤣

How are you getting on? My AF is due on Xmas day - the joys! Yours is 23rd isn’t it? Amy symptoms of a BFP?? xx

[Laul89]

Hello! Ahhh did you have the best time?! I’ve just wrapped some presents but all of mine haven’t even arrived yet 🫠🤣

I was due AF 21st… it arrived yesterday morning 😢 I felt a little sickly one night last week and my boobs were sore at the weekend which rarely happens before AF but I woke up yday and it had arrived 2 days early. The only positive is I will be able to enjoy Christmas with alcohol because I literally don’t know how I was going to avoid drinking without my friends getting suspicious 🤣 so onwards and upwards to the next cycle, app predicts I’ll be in my fertile window early January so I think that’ll come quick ☺️

How are you feeling?! Any signs?! x

[Yolo23]

@Laul89

Hello! Ahhh did you have the best time?! I’ve just wrapped some presents but all of mine haven’t even arrived yet 🫠🤣

I was due AF 21st… it arrived yesterday morning 😢 I felt a little sickly one night last week and my boobs were sore at the weekend which rarely happens before AF but I woke up yday and it had arrived 2 days early. The only positive is I will be able to enjoy Christmas with alcohol because I literally don’t know how I was going to avoid drinking without my friends getting suspicious 🤣 so onwards and upwards to the next cycle, app predicts I’ll be in my fertile window early January so I think that’ll come quick ☺️

How are you feeling?! Any signs?! x

Oh no! @Laul89 I had heard there were some issues with postal orders… eeeek! Will dishing out I.O.U’s work!? 😬🤣

Yeah it was amazing thank you and definitely came at the right time.

sorry to hear about AF arriving.. ugh everytime I hear it, I get so frustrated for people, especially when I see SO many announcements. It’s so difficult for people. I’m quite pragmatic luckily so just taking it as it comes at the moment.. partner is awaiting a sperm test which came around very quickly! I’ve got the odd symptom but having had so many last month and it been a BFP, I can’t help but compare - that being said, I was really unwell at one point and severely tired so I’m guessing that wasn’t really normal. I had every symptom under the sun so hoping less symptoms may be better so it sticks!? Haha I don’t know. Just praying for Jan/Feb to be our month! Xx

[Laul89]

@Yolo23 last presents arrived today! 👏🏼 although still waiting for my husbands Christmas card.. he might get it after Christmas 🤣

So glad you had a nice time!
Ah I know it’s so disappointing when you see AF has arrived isn’t it 😢 and those last few days counting down are just torture! How are you feeling about this cycle? How long have you been ttc? Fingers crossed your partners sperm test goes well 🤞🏼

I have quite short, light periods - 3 days usually - however this time it’s only been 2 days 🤔 feels unusual.. hope it’s not a sign something is wrong!!

[Yolo23]

@Laul89

@Yolo23 last presents arrived today! 👏🏼 although still waiting for my husbands Christmas card.. he might get it after Christmas 🤣

So glad you had a nice time!
Ah I know it’s so disappointing when you see AF has arrived isn’t it 😢 and those last few days counting down are just torture! How are you feeling about this cycle? How long have you been ttc? Fingers crossed your partners sperm test goes well 🤞🏼

I have quite short, light periods - 3 days usually - however this time it’s only been 2 days 🤔 feels unusual.. hope it’s not a sign something is wrong!!

Oh that was lucky 😆😂 glad they’ve arrived in time - hubby would no doubt rather a Presie than a card 🫣😂

I’m feeling relatively ok about things at the moment. AF due on Xmas day which is a bit awkward but trying to hold out and not test since the chemical last month. I have noticed a few twinges and I’m super bloated today which isn’t a great feeling so having a few symptoms but nowhere near the ones I had last month. I’m unsure whether that’s in turn a good thing though as my body was rejecting the embryo last month - I just don’t know if it’s better to experience them as crazy as I did or not 😂 I had everything from mood swings to feeling sick to bloating to twinges to severe headaches and exhaustion. It was rediculous!

I’ve been trying in totality for 3 years but only 1 with my current partner (I was with my ex for almost 10 years) - I’m glad it never happened then but hindsight is a wonderful thing! I have endometriosis but had an operation a year or two ago so the chemical was positive in some ways. My endo made my ovary attach to the lining of my womb so assuming that we got a bit closer means surgery has helped perhaps!?

oh wow 3 day periods! That does seem short although mine are a bit everywhere so used to be 10 days and now range around 5 days roughly. Have you any appts to see the Dr or a specialist anytime soon? How long have you been trying xx

[Yolo23]

Oh and @Laul89 are you still planning on testing tomorrow!?

[anon1411]

Sorry this is a bit of a long one 🥺🙏
I Started what I thought was a period on Friday morning and by Sunday Morning it had completely stopped. I have come off the pill about 6 weeks ago so I understand it could be that however even when I did get periods they were ALWAYS 5 days and the first two days very heavy and the last 3 was always light.
This time don't get me wrong there was red, the first day (Friday) it was like light to medium flow, red in the toilet but whenever I wiped it was pink and brown. Saturday it was a lot lighter , still red at times but a lot more pink and Sunday morning it was purely brown and a tad mucus as well. By the afternoon nothing at all.
The day after I had sharp shooting pains in my right side- not painful as such but just really uncomfortable. And they were on and off from afternoon to evening. Since then my nipples have felt like they're stinging and I've been having like a bubbling feeling in my stomach-almost like when you're super hungry but I'm definitely not hungry, if anything I can't stop eating. And today especially I've had the bubbly wishy washy feeling and felt really nauseous.

I didn't have regular cycles on the pill so I don't have anything to go by really... do you think I should test or am I overthinking it all?