1DPO - Testing buddies? 😄

[Cossete]

Hi all,

Just wondering if anyone else is 1DPO today... I got a peak ovulation test on CD14 and CD15, today is CD16, so I am around 1DPO. We DTD CD13 & CD14, so I am hoping the sperm stuck around a couple of days!

Just wondering if anyone else is around the same dates as me and wants to chat during their TWW 🙂

I'm out. BFN on FRER this morning

Im on my Christmas do tonight and I really can't be bothered. I just want to stay home and watch tv so I don't think about this stupid cycle.

Rant over 😂

Good luck everyone xx

I have 100% been gaslighted this month 🤣🤣

Brilliant phrase. I'm stealing it 😊

I'm not big for false hope but I can see a shadow. How many DPO?

@overthinkersanonnymus ❤️❤️❤️❤️ have a large wine and try and enjoy your evening xxxxx

I’m out also this month. With all the spotting and positive tests I believe it was either chemical or a baby who wasn’t right for this world as the spotting got heavier yesterday and proper period started this morning at work.
So I can now relax over Christmas and begin the testing for ovulation this month and hope for a little surprise in the new year.
I’m sad but i’m okay, sending luck to all you waiting to test this month x

So Sorry to hear that @MrsLaura89 😢

I am sick of ttc. I really am. It's turning me in to an absolute head case! I left work in the middle of the morning to go to the shop to buy tests because I didn't have any left. I'm not taking tests at work so why do I have this compulsion!!

Ive done barely any work this week because I'm so distracted with symptom spotting, researching other peoples stories, analysing my own tests in every available light and position and I actually feel ill.

It's got to the point where all I care about is seeing the two lines that I've actually forgot what could be at the other side...a baby!

Next cycle, im not doing opks, im going to accept the fact that it's pretty normal for me to have sharp cramps all the time and dont mean implantation and im going to try my best not to even think about testing until at least 12dpo. I don't even enjoy having sex because im doing it for one reason!!

Sorry for the rant girls 😫

@overthinkersanonnymus we just need to relax..easier said than done.
let’s all try enjoy Christmas and make drunken babies xxx

I'm just catching up with the thread. So sorry to hear it's been a confusing and crap couple of days. I feel exactly the same. After getting a BFN the other morning I am going to try and swear off testing early too, I bloody hate those First Response tests as well, for giving dodgy indent lines that give me false hope.

It was so much easier with my first pregnancy, DS wasn't planned, so there was no symptom spotting, obsessing, spending hundreds of pounds on tests... I'm finding myself really paranoid too that I won't be able to get pregnant again 😥

Let's keep the thread going and hopefully we will have Christmas BFPs! xx

I caved this morning and BFN I’m now 10dpo so feel like I’m out too xxx

My heart is with all of you with negatives this cycle. I am out myself and I have been crying literally the entire day, I’ve gone through 1.5 loo roles and really not coping. Take care of yourselves.

Isn’t it interesting how upset it makes us and the absolute pressure we are under when actively trying for a baby yet our men have almost no burden to carry.
Husband tells me to relax, what’s the rush etc.
I can’t help but feel like it’s my fault that it didn’t happen this cycle, I know it’s completely out of my control and there is nothing in the world that can make it happen for anyone, it’s purely luck.
My period is SO heavy today, heavier than usual so I’m deffo thinking chemical for me, I really, really hope that I get my bfp at the end of the year of early next!!
There’s not much point to this post I guess but I’m sending lots of love to you all, be kind to yourselves.
We WILL get our babies x

Good idea to keep it going - I'd love to stay on the thread as I'm pretty much out this cycle too. Fingers crossed for many BFPs in the new year!

It’s interesting you say that @MrsLaura89 - my wife isn’t a man obviously but says the same thing, that we should relax and it will happen eventually. I suppose it is more to do with being the one who gets pregnant. It’s hard not to feel it in every fibre of your being when it fails…

@Alysskea I think that because we are the ones with the pressure to make it happen it is naturally going to be hitting us harder when it doesn’t. In every relationship there’s usually one who is the worrier and one who is more chilled?
Sorry for the assumption that we all have male partners! Either way I agree with the feeling of it, you can’t quite describe this kind of disappointment.

Ive woken up today feeling more positive about trying for the next cycle, I’m feeling more relaxed but I don’t know how I’ll actually be when it comes to mid cycle and then the 2ww.

How long has everyone been trying?

@MrsLaura89

I definitely think that's true. As the ones who will carry the baby (hopefully!) it feels like our bodies somehow have more responsibility.

I'm a little nervous about my partner's semen analysis which we'll be having this month as I don't want him to feel how I've been feeling, panicking that I might be the reason we haven't been successful yet.

At the moment he's very "it will happen eventually, we just have to keep trying" whereas I'm panicking because it's my body that has a clock working against me with each cycle now I'm 35.

Sorry I rambled but it's so nice to speak to people who get it.

How long have you been trying? We've been a year but only doing OPKs and strategic DTD for about six. And not always managed the timings of those especially well because of my bloody work trips.

Having blood tests (me) and semen analysis (him, obviously!) this month.

I've had 2 possibly positive tests with clear blue (after reading up, thinking they may be coloured evap lines) and loads of negative with pink dye tests. I'm inclined to say that I'm not pregnant this cycle and think I've just been working myself up making me feel/be sick.

We haven't been trying long, however I have endometriosis and can't get over the thought that if we can't have another baby it's my fault. I don't want to make it sound like I'm not greatful for my daughter, because I am however we've always seen ourselves with 2 children and I can't shake the guilt of letting my husband and daughter down if we can't concieve again.

My husband is very much "it'll happen when it happens" and "what will be will be" and I'm not feeling supported by him for various reasons. Today is just a bad day 😔

I really feel what all of you are saying. There is something especially painful about being the one carrying the baby, or not, regardless of male or female partner. My wife clearly doesn’t understand why I’m quite as devastated as I am because of course people don’t get pregnant every time they try… and you just want to try and make them understand that we can’t be chill about this! @HallE21 you live with a horrible condition and it is NOT your fault you have endo! You are so strong even just living with it each day. I do understand blaming yourself though… I’ve had eating disorders for most of my life and though now I maintain a really healthy diet I do worry I messed things up.

@Alysskea you haven't messed anything up, just as I have a disease that can make things difficult, you have had one too. That's not your fault at all! It's very difficult to blame yourself and a lot of partners just don't understand why we feel the way we do each cycle

@cakeislife1234 maybr not! I was BFN on 11dpo then faintest line ever at 12dpo, wasn't properly clear till 14dpo... still find it hard to believe..: pic shows 12, 14, 16 and 18dpo

@ScaredSally I actually got this this morning but I think it's an evap, as had a stark white negative on a FRER!

Fingers crossed something might happen but I'm not hopeful now! Xx

@cakeislife1234 I always thought my dip stick tests were more accurate then FRER, especially with the bad press they get lately... fingers crossed for you!

Guys 11dpo today and I got this…. What do you guys think? It’s kind of half there half not there it’s very strange. I’ve ordered some freers

It looks positive - can you so another test even if it's another CB?

Well I can’t argue with this one from tonight. Good old Amazon saving the day….

Congratulations! That's a spectacular line!