One year+ TTC part 4

[lemons44]

Hi all
Onto thread 4! Hopefully this one is lucky for us 🍀 🤞🏼

Just a supportive thread for those of us who have been TTC for over a year. New faces are welcome. Feel free to vent, cry, laugh, ask silly questions, seek advice and talk about anything.

Tagging our BFP ladies who are rooting for us too.

@Tinkerbell098
@NatW2021
@Koalie
@Netflixnchilli
@JSS15
@BakinABaby
@KatieLooLa
@Indianna2006
@Carla2601
@BritInNZ
@FlyOnTheWall89

Feel free to tag anyone I have forgotten.

Thanks @Tinkerbell098 it was moved from Wednesday (tomorrow) to Monday (yesterday). They got 13 eggs but 10 were immature ☹️ the three they did have all fertilised so we are just preying for those three. Just not sure what went wrong. I think they maybe collected them too early or I didn't respond very well to the trigger? I was on stims for 9 days. The embryologist even said to me today she was surprised we had so many immature ones. I need to speak to a doctor to understand more. Just so so so so hoping these three make it now.

This journey is so hard.

@lemons44 how are you feeling? Were you given twilight sedation? That does seem like quite a lot of eggs to be immature, I think maybe they triggered too early. I started my stims on 2nd Jan, triggered on 11th with collection on 13th but I can’t remember when I did my last stims shot. Did they tell you the size of all your follicles on your last scan before trigger? Either way, 3 fertilised eggs is still good - it only takes 1 ♥️ please keep us posted. I have everything 🤞🏼 for you! Xx

First IVF check-in scan today. I'm looking at 30 follicles currently. Next scan was meant to be Thursday but they moved it to Friday to save us a train journey on Saturday too which was nice. No idea when the egg collection will be. I guessed maybe Coronation day (CD13) but judging by what the doctor said on the phone it'll be a while yet 🤷🏻‍♀️

@TheBirdintheCave ooooo so exciting ! Keep us posted! Xx

@Koalie Yes and no as it's looking like a freeze all so, even if I get any embryos, I won't even get to try one until July 😭

@TheBirdintheCave but your body will be completely ready to accept it so you won’t end up wasting an embryo. People who are over stimulated also tend to have hormones all out of wack. You will get to go into a frozen cycle knowing you’re giving it the best shot you can. X

@Koalie I know, I'm just so disappointed as it feels like I can't even do IVF right. There's just more failure and more waiting and each month I get older and the gap between my son and a potential sibling gets bigger 😢

@TheBirdintheCave I can understand that. Being over stimulated isn’t a failure at all though, just a bump in the road. Keep going! You got this 💪🏼

@lemons44 how are your embryos doing lovely? Xx

Hi @Koalie

We did lose one of our embryos as it didn't divide at all. But as of yesterday (day 3) we had two top quality little embryos. We decided to have the best one transferred into me yesterday as a day 3 embryo and we are giving the other embryo a chance to see if it survives to a blastocyst on day 5, which is Saturday (tomorrow)🤞🏼 it was a gamble as we could have frozen the second one on day 3 but decided to see if it will go to day 5, even though we may lose it.

The embryo transfer yesterday was a bit of a dramatic day 😅 in short, it very nearly didn't happen. The doctor just couldn't access my cervix as it was too high up and at a funny angle. We very nearly ended up having to
freeze both our embryos and I would have needed to push the embryo transfer back 6 weeks and have it done at a different clinic under general anaesthetic. To cut a long story short, after everyone had a break and the doctor rang some other clinics for advice, the doctor managed to do to the transfer with me sitting in an upright position. It had taken about 3 hours in total. Everybody in the room (the embryologist, doctor, three nurses and my husband) all clapped and cheered when the doctor finally said 'we've found the cervix!!'. I didn't cheer as I was high as kite on gas and air🥴

Trying not to get too hopeful.

How are you doing?

Xx

I had my second scan today. I've got 44 follicles now so it will definitely be a freeze all cycle 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️ Egg collection is Tuesday morning with two trigger shots on Sunday night.

@lemons44 oh gosh, what a palaver! Did you have a mock embryo transfer before you started stims? At my mock transfer they couldn’t get to my cervix either because it was pointing down so I had to have gas and air too, as it felt like she was going to rip my vagina in half 😆 luckily, my cervix was playing ball at my real transfer. How exciting for you! The TWW begins 🥵 did you get any maccy’s fries after transfer? 🤭 fingers crossed for your second little blast 🤞🏼x

@TheBirdintheCave hopefully lots of eggs and blasts though 🤞🏼 how you feeling about retrieval? X

@Koalie Eh not too fussed really. I've been knocked out a few times (admittedly general and not deep sedation) and that was fine so hopefully it'll just feel like a nice long sleep.

@lemons44 well done you! Sounds like you’ve had a day of it. Hope you’re having a relaxing weekend and will be hoping so hard for you over the next two weeks. You so deserve for this to be simple from here!

Thanks @Carla2601 and @Koalie

Sadly our second embryo didn't make it so we have this one chance 💗🤞🏼

I am so grateful we have one 💗 but also so sad this round hasn't gone as expected. I have cried most of this morning. I'm still so disappointed 10 of my eggs were unusable due to being immature. I can't help but wonder if we had more mature eggs we may have had some spare embryos now. I'm staying hopeful for this one but mentally preparing for round 2 ☹️

Just preying this little one inside me makes it 🤞🏼 and trying to be positive!

Hoping I can just hop in here, been TTC for 14 months or so. I have Type 1 diabetes so I imagine that's not helping despite having excellent blood sugar control most of the time (all other type 1s I know all got pregnant in 3 months though 😢)

I'm so frustrated at my GP/nhs, I asked for blood tests for hormones because my period is irregular since coming off the pill 14 months back and he said "that's not something that's offered, the pill will fix your periods" and I said I don't want the pill so 6 months later I finally get a.....phonecall appointment (in a couple weeks from now).

I don't know how they can get to the bottom of my hormone imbalance over the phone. I just want to cry so hard about all of this. Support very much appreciated.

GPs have never looked at why periods are irregular because it's easier to prescribe a hormonal contraceptive. It's a quick fix. They don't want to spend money on investigations. This is why I go private.

@lemons44 im so sorry about your other embryo. As you say focus on this little one for now. Willing it to stick so hard for you!

Im also so sorry this round has gone this way for you, it’s not supposed to be like this and I hope you can get a review and get all your questions answered, so traumatic and stressful

I'm planning to move to Belgium fairly soon, and honestly I'm hoping the healthcare services will be more attentive because it's private. I'll probably get seen there before here at this rate 🙄

@lemons44 sorry to hear about your second embryo. So pleased you still have this chance though and I really do have everything crossed for you for a BFP at the end of the wait 🤞🏼 like @Carla2601 said, the clinic should have a meeting now about the how it went and what they can do next time to get a better result (if there is a next time.) X

Morning all xx TTC naturally this cycle during a break between transfers. In a way I'm thankful this cycle is unusually long (42 days) due to late ovulation, because the emotional aspect of TTC can get a bit much for me, so I'm enjoying the break. I'm 2DPO today. Having gone through 'beta hell' with IVF, the TWW is a walk in the park by comparison. There is male factor here, so not too hopeful. Just keeping busy and trying to relax. I hope everyone is okay xx

Sorry to read about your second embryo @lemons44. Keeping my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Finally after TTC for 18months and a long wait (after multiple cancellations) we finally had our nhs fertility consultation!

apparently DP sperm is the best she’s ever seen and says it was actually quite remarkable!

she’s referring me for AMH blood tests and US to count my eggs. Can’t do a hycosy as I’m allergic to the contrast dye, however she doubts there’s any blockage with my fallopian tubes.

she runs a private IVF clinic but said our chances or conceiving naturally are so high it would be the same as having IVF so not to bother.

I feel excited, but also confused why it’s not happening ? She’s advised DTD on CD 8,10,12 & 14

im 43 but she said I’m good weight, good life style and no reason why it shouldn’t happen (I’ve got two DD 18&16)

she did say that due to crohns I needed to take 5mg of folic acid rather than over the counter and said I was just lucky with my other two children !

so hopefully not much longer

@lemons44 I’m so sorry about your second embryo but keeping everything crossed that your number one is nice and sticky! How are you feeling?

@SarahShorty orty sounds like you’re in a good headspace, know how hard it can be to try and relax. Do you have your next transfer date?

@Bluelightbaby aby so pleased you’ve finally been seen and hopefully things are now moving in the right direction!

Currently sat in my private hospital room waiting to go to theatre for my laparoscopy & hysteroscopy - felt like this day would never come xx