TTC after miscarriage thread 13 💕🌈✨💛

[FfayeN]

Ready for when we tip over the last one. Lucky 13 🍀

This may have been shared before. I just want to ask for anyone who has unfortunately experienced MC, when did you ovulate again? I had MC last month and I want to try again already. Tested negative on the CB 4 days OPK this morning. If I count the day of my MC bleed as CD1, then I am on CD11. Any advice would be appreciated.

@Kayycatt i had a chemical in September I ovulated as normal and I’m now pregnant again x

@bubble55 @Cindy974 congratulations bubbles💕 I can find no recommendations on nice guidelines or hospital sites to recommend the use in v early pregnancy unless a blood work up showed thrombolytic or immunological issues. However as @HalWin2221 says there are independent studies done that do recommend it but not officially recognised by nice (before 12 weeks) for high bmi. I'm sorry I'm no use here ladies. Also bare in mind I'm struggling to get pregnant too so may not have all the answers 💕 I do use aspirin at a dose of 150mg as I have a clotting/heart problem xx

@bubble55 oh wow, that's amazing! Congratulations! also gives me some hope.

Do you remember when you ovulated? I normally ovulate around CD14. I may test again in a few days.

@Kayycatt i think day 15/16. Good luck xx

@bubble55 thank you 😊

@Kayycatt for my mmc I didn’t ovulate until I’d had a period again, for my chemical I ovulated 3 days later than usual ☺️

@ChloeN ah thanks for sharing. I will have to keep testing for the next few days. Just me being really impatient and hoping will ovulate sooner rather than later..

@HJA87 so pleased you are pregnant again, gentle congratulations 😊x
@bubble55 gentle congratulations too! 😊

@Kayycatt totally get the impatience you just want to be able to try again asap!! It’s hard when you don’t know when to expect it

@ChloeN it's so hard. Really need to distract myself with something else and just stop googling in general...

@lovenaps oh I think you must have tagged the wrong person. I’m not currently pregnant but 3 DPO tomorrow so should soon find out 🤞🏻x

@HJA87 so sorry! Keeping my fingers crossed for you 🙏x

Been managing to keep positive about this pregnancy until today. DH broke me. Completely. All positivity gone out the window.
He got me sitting sobbing 2nd or 3rd night this week. I can't. I just can't anymore. He is a kind person but certainly knows how to completely break me when our situation is already anxious and I should not be stressing.

And he was doing exactly the same with the first pregnancy.. It's like this man really wants to have children and is usually amazing to me but when pregnant sets out to make me miserable.

*when I become pregnant

@lovenaps oh no lovely what is he doing/saying? I'm so sorry sometimes they really just don't know what to say or do and it ends up being very wrong ❤️ remind me how far are you now?

@bubble55 tentative congratulations ♥️

@Kayycatt sorry for your loss ♥️ I ovulated on CD 21 after my mmc bleed. I’ve continued to ovulate later in the cycle too, so don’t lose hope if the OPK doesn’t show signs until a little later as this could possibly be why!

sorry if I’ve missed any other lovely news ♥️ Have been really trying to relax and raise my estrogen levels 😅 anyone else find it hard to relax whilst TTC?x

@Babydustmamma thanks :) will continue to monitor and won't lose hope for this month just yet x

@mummatara just a recurring issue where I can see he is grumpy and cross with me, says it's nothing but later admits he is annoyed I don't pull my weight with housework.
For the record, we live in a very small house which is minimally furnished (we like it this way) and has minimal amount of stuff. It is just the two of us. Our housework, as a result, is not intense but I like looking after the house. I have not been feeling well and every day he was nagging me saying I need to do more - I was not just being lazy, I honestly was unwell! Many times I asked him to show more understanding and stop nagging me but every day it is like 'I washed the dishes today and I did the laundry couple days ago, everything in this house needs to be done by me' (not true, I do my part but admittedly I've been resting a lot after work the past few days).
Yesterday - same again. He knew I was very unwell Wednesday night and still feeling somewhat strange on Thursday and made a comment last night about how he is the only one doing things in the house - again. I said I was unwell and he said he had a cold too but he just gets on with things.
He knows I am the one who cooks normally, I iron his clothes, I am the one who cleans the bathroom. He also does a lot, I am not denying that at all but it seems as soon as I can't pull the same weight it's a massive issue and he is constantly cross with me. I am just over 6 weeks and really trying to listen to my body - I am worried, constantly. Scared of pushing myself too hard.
We spoke again last night and in the morning, he was very apologetic but I think it will only last until next time he does the dishes or laundry and gets upset I did not do it 😓Just feels so stupid to be fighting about something like that when we should be focusing on protecting this pregnancy.

@Babydustmamma most of people! I think when TTC does not go as planned and/or takes longer, it can really take a toll on people's mental and physical health as well as relationships! Would you consider acupuncture? I started a few weeks ago and found it helpful to a point.

@lovenaps sorry to hear that :( partners don't always seem to understand the stress the women have to go through during this period. I wish there is a way that we can make them feel the same mentally and physically at the same time.

Maybe try and draw up a routine? So that both know that certain things are only needed to be done on certain date? Like laundry on Mondays only, so he doesn't nag on other days when that's not being done?

Hopefully he will become more understanding as your pregnancy progresses. Xx

@Kayycatt very useful advice, thank you. ❤x I just want to believe that the pregnancy will progress.. Got a scan in two weeks time but I had a heartbeat on the scan with first pregnancy so not sure if I should just cancel it and wait till 12 week one....I changed the scan from week 7 to week 8 though so maybe that will give a bit more reassurance.. As the heart stopped beating just before week 8 the first time.

@lovenaps I know it can be hard but try and stay positive. I find it hard to stay positive at times myself so I distract myself with other things to keep my mind occupied. Every time for the past week when I am alone and think about the MC i just start crying and I don't even know why. Though I always feel better after the cry, so it's ok to be upset to let things out.

The thing is there is not much we can do but to look after ourselves mentally and physically. Anything else is outside of your control so do what you feel you are comfortable with. If you think a 8 weeks scan give you a peace of mind then go for it. Equally, it's ok to wait till 12 weeks too. Whatever makes you feel reassured and happy is the most important thing right now.

@Kayycatt thank you and sorry for rambling. How are you? x

How is everyone else getting on? x

@lovenaps sorry to hear your DP is being a bit hard on you! I don't know why but men do seem to want to broadcast when they have done chores...I can't remember the last time I informed DH i had cleaned the bathroom when he came home from work 🙄.
Perhaps you should compromise on a few bits at this early stage, even just having anxiety is enough to put you off doing things like cleaning and hoovering etc. Your DP does need to understand that you are protecting not just your baby, but his! A little reminder may not go a miss that you are putting that first. I also like the idea of a routine, it just wouldn't work with my DH and shifts.
Maybe just let him know that some days you'll feel up to it more than others but you don't need to be made to feel guilty...and if he's saying stuff that does, use a buzz word so he knows he's pushing those buttons! I like 'be careful you're gonna piss me off' 🤣🤣🤣.

7 weeks tomorrow, doing ok, worried obviously, got two and a bit weeks until my first scan and I'm terrified. I just don't want it to all be for nothing so I understand your trepidation. Do what fees right for you, I totally get waiting in the hope there's less chance of bad news in the future xxx