TTC after miscarriage Thread 11 🤞🏼✨

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@AwayWeGo22 @bunnykins123 @calimc83 @FfayeN @Chellooo @LuckyMoonstone @Luna57 @Margo34 @MrscristianoX @Pancake92 @TheBirdintheCave @theblueflowers @mummatara @ChloeN @Luna57 @everythingzrosie

New thread ladies!! Wishing you all lots of luck 🤞🏼🤞🏼✨

please tag anyone I’ve missed it was just quick and rough xx

@Luna57 worth a call ❤️

I phoned epu and they’re still stating I’m 5 weeks pregnant on paper so can’t do anything til the scan and if anything comes up to go to a&e. Dh wants to pay £70 for a private scan for tomorrow but I told him there’s no point might as well wait the 6 days out and hope I don’t bleed, a scan won’t stop a miscarriage if it’s happening. Wish I knew how far along I actually was 😭

Hi ladies, I hope you don’t mind me joining. I’ve been part of another TTC thread but thought it might be best to search for a post MC one!
I found out I was pregnant January 2022 on cycle 9, miscarried at 13 weeks (mmc 8.5w, I would have just arrived in Jamaica when heart stopped). I then went on to have a chemical pregnancy in May, miscarried during a 30 hour journey home from Brazil - horrendous!
So now on cycle 5 post chemical. But all in all it’s over 1.5 years trying for a baby now. I am officially struggling! Best friend is 30 weeks and we are drifting apart. Another close friend just gave birth. I also have two step children who I love but am finding more and more difficult, as a constant reminder that I don’t have my own.
I’ve had all the bloods come back normal and seen Prof Quenby at Tommy’s who gave me progesterone to take as soon as I test positive. She also advised against long haul travel (due to time zone changes). I self prescribed doxycycline last month in case I had endometritis. Taking all the vits and probiotics!
Sorry for the long introduction!
What’s everyone else’s stories? Xx

6dpo and I’m peeing on sticks someone please come sort me out🤣

@Luna57 Im so sorry to hear you have had some old blood hopefully its nothing and just baby getting comfy 🤞🏼💕 sending you love

@mummatara hope you’re being kind to yourself today. Sending lots of virtual hugs!

@Luna57 keeping everything crossed that it is just baby getting cosy for the foreseeable 🤞🏽

@ChickenT2b sorry that you have found yourself here. You sound like you’ve been through so much in the last 1.5years! It’s hard being around people who are pregnant when you are trying yourself, it’s almost like everyone is pregnant as soon as you start to try! My OH has 2 children to a previous relationship and I can totally empathise on hard it is! X

@ChickenT2b sounds like we have very similar stories. I too have 2 DSD and around my miscarriage couldn't bear to be around them much, especially as I often get told I should have a baby by them 😣. I too did the trial (withdrew and self prescribed doxycycline) and have progesterone just incase next time. We're cycle 4 after getting the all clear from that. Sorry you're here too...but welcome, we are quite a lovely, desperate, but very supportive bunch of POAS addicts 😘 xx

Hi all I’ve been snooping for a while (sorry!) but wanted to now reach out and ask for advice regarding tests and what/who to ask for. I do have one DC who’s 3.5. We had a miscarriage in June at 6 weeks and have been TTC #2 since April/May. TTC #1 was very relaxed and naively easy. I’m mid 30’s Husband early 40’s. This will be our 6th month trying and agreed (with myself!) to look in to testing should this month not work out, I’m waiting for positive Opk/BBT. I came off the coil in April and my periods have been extremely light, which is a worry. I’ve been taking l'arginine for 2 months now and my period was heavier last month but not back to coil levels. Also taking preg vit and husband the same. My cycles seem to be lengthening. I was 28/29 consistently and last month up to 32. I even waited till I was late to test (due to lots of disappointments in other cycles) and typically bled the same day!! I know many give up alcohol, dairy, etc etc and I often beat myself up that I don’t want to give up life’s joys month in, month out to only be disappointed….
I'm rambling now. So hit me with what tests we should start out with, we’re happy to not wait for NHS and go private

*and on fertilliy Cup (2nd month trying) and pre seed (first time)

RIGHT so apparently I’m not having treatment today, as my hcg levels are so low I’m not high risk so Dr doesn’t want to rush me into having this treatment if there’s still a chance this could resolve naturally. So I’ve got to wait a week and then do bloods again next weekend.

@ChloeN thank you girl! Hope you're doing well and we both have baby #1 soon 🤞🏻

@MrsCristianoX @TheBirdintheCave @Cindy974
thank you lovelies, hope you're both okay.

@FfayeN thank you! Sounds like a good plan. The sensible level headed person for me only appears during certain days of the month , it's so difficult to be that person consistently 🤣

@Luna57 oh lovely, how stressful for you. They definitely need to get you in a bit earlier. I know it's easier said than done but try not to panic too much as it could be fine. I know it's the most horrendous thing to see though, I hate going to the toilet. Sending you a big cuddle and a hand hold. Ring them back and ask to be seen sooner ❤️

@HalWin2221 thank you hope the tww is going okay?

@mummatara hope you're okay, I agree with what the other ladies have said , sometimes you just need to switch off from everything for a day or 2 to feel sad. You've been through a lot but you really do sound like a strong resilient lady and you will get through this. Take each day as it comes and drop some of the things that you can for now, your health is the most important.

@emhope sending you a big hug, I know that feeling so well. It's absolutely soul crushing. Every month is so bloody relentless. You will get there sweetie, it just takes a long time for some of us. Some things that really helped my mh with this were- repeating positive affirmations to myself, socialising with people who don't have kids, acupuncture. It's so hard to not focus on ttc though I know.
I completely understand that, I'm dreading March.

@Mariabombia im waiting for my ovulation day at the moment, or as the OH likes to call it ‘when I lay an egg’ 😂 think it should be Wednesday or Thursday 🤞🏽

@LuckyMoonstone really hope you’re okay 🙁 how do you feel about just waiting? Are they thinking it is in a unknown location or that you have tissue left over? I’m frustrated for you! Sending lots of positive vibes x

Also ladies I'm feeling v frustrated today. Rang the doctors to tell them about the pregnancy & if there’s anything I can take to support it and they told me to ring the midwives. I told them how useless they were before but they told me I need to do that. Rang the midwife and the receptionist woman said the midwife will see me to discuss at my booking app at like 10 weeks and then just cut the conversation. Really helpful.
😡

Has anyone been given progesterone after 1 mc? Even if they don't give me it, it would be nice to talk to someone about how anxious I feel :( just feel fobbed off and like they don't take pregnancy seriously until after 12 weeks.

@HalWin2221 they don’t know, they can’t see anything on the scan so if there’s something there it must be tiny. Whatever it is, I’ve stopped taking all my vitamins this last week to stop my body being a healthy place for it to thrive 😂

@Cindy974 😂😂 I'm like you I'll pee on if so early I know it'll be negative but I'm scared to now🙈

@LuckyMoonstone this is awful for you 🙁

@Mariabombia im sure I saw on another thread they’d changed it so now you should get an early scan and progesterone after 1 mc?? I’ll try find it, it may of only been if you’d had bleeding or pain I can’t quite remember! Xxx

@Mariabombia Found it, just for bleeding it seems (ignore my spelling on Google lol🤣) xx

@Mariabombia I'm staring at 2 boxes of cyclogest..and yes I'm in work

@MrsCristianoX i had actually made peace with the idea of taking the drugs and not being able to TTC for 3 months. But when she said I could wait a bit longer I decided to cling on to the hope that it might go away on its own. I’m still a bit anxious but I’m sure I can get through the next week ok. If it was a proper ectopic that was growing and could rupture, my hcg would be in the 100s if not 1000s.

@ChickenT2b @ROZRAX sorry you’ve both found yourselves here. Hopefully you find some support in these lovely ladies they’re a knowledgeable bunch.

@LuckyMoonstone has your hcg dropped or do they think it’s just too low to medically manage it? When would af be due again?

i ended up crying so hard earlier like the most ever that I sent myself to sleep for an hour on the sofa. The brown has tailed off just the tiniest tinge of orange. Apparently you can have light bleeding or brown discharge around the time your period would be due. I text dh while he was in work earlier and said if this is a mc I hope you like having one dc cos I couldn’t go through another failed pregnancy. This should be such an exciting time for me. I’ve no sickness or any horrible pregnancy symptoms so I should be enjoying growing a little bean but no here I am drinking litres of caffeine free Coke Zero (water is turning me atm 🤷🏼‍♀️) so I can pee to check the colour of my discharge and crying myself into comas 🙃

@Luna57 Thank you for the warm welcome. I’m sorry to hear your going through a rough time at the moment. I know nothing I say easy that or stop the mins being on overdrive, but I’m thinking of you x

@Luna57 no it’s going up but the levels are still ridiculously low. I don’t want to go through the drug treatment if it could possibly go away by itself. No idea when AF would be due as it’s different every month, I never know until I ovulate, then I can work it out from there

@Luna57 really hope you’re ok lovely. There is nothing worse than feeling anxious about miscarriage 🙁 have you rang the GP, can they offer anything for you?

@LuckyMoonstone have they explained why they’re going up? Did your OPKs or bbt come to anything that time?

thank you @ROZRAX and @HalWin2221 no my gp will just say to phone epu because I’m in NI we just self refer to epu. I’m still not sure how she worked out I was 5 weeks when I said 2 weeks ago I got 2-3 on a digital which would be 4-5 weeks pregnant? And 2 weeks on would be 6-7 weeks then not 5 weeks? I was too distracted to question it at the time. These next 6 days can’t come quick enough

Thanks @ChloeN I rang epu and they said basically the same thing, they can't give me progesterone until I've had a scan with a heartbeat but they won't give me a scan until 12 weeks so... 🙄 I know some people take progesterone from their positive. She said she can't give me it unless my dr said I can have it but the dr won't speak to me as 'i've only had 1 mc & it's very common' (quoting the receptionist) as though it's nothing at all when in fact it was the most traumatic , heartbreaking experience of my life.

I don't mind not taking it if it's not needed but I just feel so frustrated that no one has bothered to explain why I don't need it, just that I can't have it.

I just want to do everything in my power to support this pregnancy :(

Sorry for rambling