TTC after miscarriage Thread 11 🤞🏼✨

[Indianna2006]

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New thread ladies!! Wishing you all lots of luck 🤞🏼🤞🏼✨

please tag anyone I’ve missed it was just quick and rough xx

Sorry if this is a bit TMI but don’t know who else to ask lol I’ve noticed that after DTD at my fertile times when I go to the loo that not much seems to come out of me 😆 I feel like I always notice it usually…when we DTD on peak day and ovulation day this month and I went to the loo there was nothing there but today (9dpo) there was loads 😳 I tried to talk to OH about it and asked if he finds it hard to finish because of pressure and he said no and it’s probably because my body sucks it up at fertile times 🤔 I feel like this can’t be true and maybe he just doesn’t want to say. Is it possible for men to DTD and seem to ‘finish’ but not actually produce anything? Maybe I’m just totally overthinking this and trying to find a reason why I haven’t conceived in 6 months 😔

@FfayeN I hope you’re ok! I think this is sooo common. It’s happened to us every cycle. I am such a M&S black pant girl all year round 😂 so I try and spice up the underwear on O day/the few days before. BRB off to buy a ton of Maca root 👀 x

@MrsCristianoX do you think you’ll get it? I wouldn’t expect it to be compulsory now in medical settings?

@FfayeN my dh was the same on my peak day the cycle we conceived ds he said the pressure just got to him. But I had told him I was at peak that’s why last month he told me to stop tracking everything. We haven’t dtd since I found out I was pregnant and he’s really feeling it now. I told him I didn’t want him scooping the baby out.

I’ve woke up this morning feeling so so ropey and my boobs have doubled in size. Dh is annoying me so much (obv much be my hormones) I’ve told him I only 40% love him today and he’s taken it thick 😂

I need a bit of help, obviously cos I’m cabin crew as soon as you’re pregnant you’re meant to be grounded. I wanted to try and make it til 12 weeks before telling them but I’m wondering after my scan next week if it looks ok should I go off then. I was saying to dh the amount of times I walk up the cabin and elbowed in the vagina or when people try to squeeze past me and I’m forced against a seat he keeps asking me every day before a flight if I’m ok doing it but I just don’t want to go off then having a Mc and then everyone knowing I think that would be harder for me

Panicking a bit here.

miscarried in may.
chemical pregnancy august.
now I’m pregnant again, positive clear blue and not dark dark but lines on tests.
ive done a strip test this morning and there’s barely anything there and the urine had been held all night.
im panicking that maybe my lines won’t get darker and everything that happened before will happen again.

will I ever stop worrying?

@FfayeN ahh bless you. It does get harder the more time goes on. An also after mc causes some pressure. We were ttc 11 cycles and got on okay had no issues. But after mc was a few times it took much longer. Luckily my dh was quite adament and kind of kept going 🙈😂 but it was down to more doing so much dtd. Obv they get a bit desensitised.
tbh we only had that issue one time though in 15 months. We always have sex regardless. Maybe just 1 or 2 times more over fertile period. So Altho he may of known. Nothing ever seemed too out of ordinary if that makes sense. An I find that’s the best way. Have sex every like 3 day/4 days in the month. An during fertile period. Just add in another 1 or 2. I always found that made it easier as wasn’t like I was only wanting him for his goods 🤷🏻‍♀️😜 Altho we do 😂😂

@emhope ahh bless you. Well I guess unless there taking it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I mean sometimes I would have to ask like did you cum. But then like you say you can tell afterwards an also it smells of sperm (sorry rank) haha so I’d known if they hadn’t. As like you say nothing would be there.
i think when there under pressure they can release less as well. But then that doesn’t help either cos less semen fluid for the sperm to swim. It’s endless isn’t it 🙈🙈

@emhope did you lie down for a while after sex or get up straight away? I find that if I lie down for a while then hardly anything comes out when I go to the loo lol

@calimc83 I haven't tested again today. Was going to Sunday or Monday. Im only 10 dpo. Xx

@Luna57 it isn't compulsory and I'm not !!

@FfayeN I don't tell DH. The one time he couldn't perform he got in his own head about it. I was super pissed off too so I literally refused to DTD on the TWW so when next cycle came around I watched my OPKs and made the move. And there were no issues. That's why I need OPKs in my life!! I didn't DTD this peak day either (I had cramping) but did O-2 and O-3

@Indianna2006 yes I think you can usually tell which is why I am convinced there are times when he isn’t finishing. Feels like there is so much to worry about 😩

@LuckyMoonstone I usually stay lying down for about 15 mins afterwards but then I did the same again today (was actually testing to see if this was the reason) but no definitely was different today when I went to loo.

I think I’m going to have to talk to him again, although it’s a really awkward conversation as guess for him it’s not nice to not feel like you are being accused of not ‘performing’. I would rather know if there is an issue though (maybe at times he has very low sperm count?) as I’m putting so much time and effort (and £££) on supplements, acupuncture, reflexology and arranging these fertility tests with GP when it all could be because of an issue with him or he is struggling with DTD and won’t tell me 😥

@emhope I'm just reading your messages..so from my experience whenever I DTD in fertile time the amount that comes out of me is disgusting. Even if I don't go to the bathroom until the morning. I hope you're ok and it might be that it does get 'sucked in' but I have a lot of EWCM so I do think that might just be me.

@MrsCristianoX no you’re just right, your immune system is probably good now especially with all the ttc supplements too. I’ve a vitamin d deficiency and have for as long time but I remember before I started taking vitamin d I had cold sores every week and constant sore throats and colds. See now I’m barely sick and when I am I have very slight symptoms like only a runny nose when dh cold will be 10x worse so wouldn’t be worrying about it. Did you test today? Or are you waiting another couple days?

@Luna57 I'm going to wait to Monday hopefully 🙏 DH is home after being away for a week and he's not in great form. He away again Monday morning.. I just want clarity on Monday before telling him and 12 dpo a test will be conclusive. Faint lines mean little to be now xx

I'm not alone in not getting the vaccine. I work with around 9 people and only one is getting it.

OH just text to ask if we were DTD today. I said nooo I got you yesterday so we’ll do it tomorrow. We had a good laugh and he said he felt used and cheap, you’d think he’d be used to feeling like that by now 🤣

@Luna57 actually I should amend that last comment. Faint lines mean nothing to DH now I still get optimistic😊

@emhope in my personal experience, that's totally normal. If I get straight up - waterfalls. If I lay down for a long time, I don't get much at all come out. I think it also depends on what's going on with your discharge. I get way more in the days leading up to O but not much on O day so I don't get much leakage regardless. I hope that helps!

@bunnykins123 so true my discharge can be wild. How are you doing? Xx

Thanks everyone for your messages, I needed that vent overnight and this morning I feel less bothered by it. It's nice to know it's quite common, but I too wouldn't be able to not track as we just wouldn't end up doing it the right days, or if we did he would still feel the pressure. We're not at the cup stage yet....but DH did take himself off this morning after another unsuccessful try and got himself, to the point before joining me again 🤣. It's so hard as you just want to feel like you're throwing everything at it possible. We've been in and out of this for 3 years now so he is desperate and I think that's the problem too. We will get there hopefully...if not I'm telling him the cups coming out!!!

@emhope I normally have a lot too. Could be worth asking him and hopefully he takes it well. If not we're here for you to vent too xx

@MrsCristianoX ohh you're doing well to hold off!! Wishing u all the luck in the world xx

@calimc83 thank you 😊 I ordered a box of ovulation sticks for next month yesterday after the negative IC now hoping I don't need them 🙏 but prepared if I do

@FfayeN hahaha to clarify I've never used the 'cup' method either. Although I suggested it to DH he was not at all keen😂

Chill day for me watching dahmer on Netflix. Let's see how I sleep next week whilst DH is away 😂

@FfayeN @MrsCristianoX whats the cup method? Should I google? 😂

@Luna57 eh best not. I started to write it there but couldn't😂 dahmer is not relaxing, will pick another series

Has anyone tried royal jelly? I’m conflicted!

@FfayeN honestly, I thought DH would be horrified when I suggested it but he was so open to it. There is only so many times it can happen before you consider other options. It's obviously not the route I'd prefer to take but if it works then, bring it on 😂

@Luna57 it's essentially self insemination - a cup and a syringe!

@bunnykins123 oh I’ve actually heard of that. I’ve heard of male and female gay friends doing this and then co parenting as it’s obviously cheaper than going through a fertility clinic. Is the success rate good?

@MrsCristianoX I have a feeling my DH a would say the same. @bunnykins123 you're right though, the more it happens the more he worries about it happening.
I'm taglining our method the 'brink' method. He gets to the brink by himself...and I get the goods 😂😂😂. What are we like!

@MrsCristianoX Dahmer is definitely not for the faint hearted. Try Bad Sisters on AppleTV, it's brilliant!