SMEP-ing our way to a BFP 🍁🍂🐿️🍂🍁

[Aurora81]

Our SMEP plans continue.... The old thread is almost full, so I started a new thread so we can continue on SMEP-ing to a BFP ✨☺️✨

Can’t afford not can

Hi ladies,

Hope you don’t mind me joining you on this journey. It’s our 4th month trying and first smep this cycle (currently on day 8) Any tips?

My LP is currently 11 days with period starting on 12th day, however I always have brown spotting from 9 dpo. Is that a bad sign? do I need to try to make this phase longer?

Feel lucky to have found this corner of the internet! Thanks all!

Hi @pomdownunder1. You sound very similar to me. I have a 12 day LP and start spotting in 10dpo. I’m worried it’s low progesterone or not ovulating properly even though I’m regular. I’ve got bloods booked for next week to try and find out

@pomdownunder1 or it might be nothing at all. I’ve read stories on here of people who spot before AF and still get pregnant. Some still spot the cycle they get a bfp it just doesn’t turn to full flow and some don’t spot that before a bfp

AF arrived - right on cue ☹️

I’m so sorry @fsr111 😞. We need some luck on here.

We really do @allgoodthings84! I don't know why but I really didn't think it was my month so I'm not too surprised, but still a bit disappointed as you always sort of hope. This is our 12th month TTC and although some of those definitely were a bit lack lustre, a lot have hit the timings pretty spot on and second month of
SMEP and all the DTDing! Onto the next cycle I guess... Hope everyone else is having a good Friday and also - sorry - hey @pomdownunder1! Thanks for joining us!

Hey all, sorry I've been quiet. Full of stress and worry about the future at the moment, so need to have a proper conversation with my partner this weekend about whether we even carry on TTC, as I'm just not sure he fully appreciates he needs to change from being self-employed to getting a PAYE job. It's just not feasible for him to stay S.E, as even now with an established customer base, he's not even breaking even, so if we move next year to an entirely different part of the County, he won't have any customers at all, and we could potentially have almost no income. I've said before that I'm not really prepared to have another baby without more security, but I don't know whether he fully appreciates what I'm saying. So this weekend I need to get him to decide of having a family with me is more important than him staying S.E, because he simply can't do both 😕

So I've got my private fertility consultation and scan, plus AMH blood test booked for Friday 7th, so I really need to know where I stand, as I can't afford to pay for those only for us to decide we're going to stop trying 😖

My period's pretty much finished today (cd5), so again I need to know what our plan is, as based on my early ovulation last cycle, we'd need to start dtd on Sunday 😬

I'm so tired and stressed and just want to hide away 😭 got meeting with mortgage advisor tomorrow morning that I booked weeks ago, so that's at least fortuitous.

Hope you all have nicer weekends planned than me!

@allgoodthings84 hi I forgot to say today.
I read on my computer at work ‘sample for progesterone should be taken 1 week before expected start of menstrual period to provide evidence of ovulation’

so I hope this helps ❣️

@NSx thanks for checking. Would mean I should go 5dpo though (with a 12 day LP) and surely that’s not enough time for progesterone to build up enough to be normal levels? I have no idea what to do for the best so thinking I should stick with 6dpo in the middle? It’s a guess at 6dpo though as my RHR is messed up and seems to go up when it was meant to go down (just before AF) then down when it’s meant to go up so not sure if I’ve even ovulated yet but I have had positive tests and it’s gone back to really low levels again now (0.14). So I imagine if I do ovulate then I have done day after the positive. I’m so scared of the blood results

@fsr111 it’s always disappointing even when we are expecting it. Every cycle I expect it because of the spotting but it’s still hard to swallow when AF arrives properly. I’m feeling resigned to it now.

@LucyFraser1981 I definitely think a serious conversation is in need as you need to know where he stands and what his priorities are. I’m so sorry you’re struggling

@allgoodthings84 i saw some girls file who had possibly gone at the wrong time of the month & it was very low like … like extremely like 2.3 so I think it will be obvious tbh if you’ve missed the day, her notes read ‘inconclusive, repeat on day 14 of cycle - progesterone neither confirms nor excludes ovulation’

so try not to worry —

Extremely low *

@LucyFraser1981 im so sorry that you find yourself in this situation 🤍
it’s so hard that you’ve even got to make such a choice, I hope your partner comes good and realises what he is going to lose if he doesn’t change how he operates his business (even though I know it’s a lot to go from SE back to working for someone again) what does he work as?

Day 21 * 😂 sorry my head is gone today not 14

@NSx hopefully will be ok. If it’s low I will ask if I can repeat next cycle like you said before in case I have a random anovulation cycle or something. If it’s low twice in a row then I would take it as I’ve got a problem. I just worry too much. I only worry about things I really care about though so it’s proved to me how much I really do want this or I wouldn’t be bothered or worried

@allgoodthings84 its perfectly normal to feel like that but honestly I think it will be absolutely fine so don’t overthink it.❤️

@NSx i need to listen to you! My new Fitbit is charging now and it tracks stress levels so will keep an eye on that too. It was 5 stops away from my work at 1pm then suddenly they added in an extra 4.5 hours of deliveries! They were all in the area but so many it took ages. I had finished work to pick my daughter up so when it got to 3 stops away I drove back to work and waited there 😂

@allgoodthings84 that is dedication 😂🤞 are u going to be upset if the RHR is same as on ur other Fitbit? 😩👀

@NSx if it is it us. Nothing I can do about it. If it’s my body being weird I can’t do anything about it so I need to try and not let it stress me until I know if there’s a problem. I’m feeling a bit crampy but not crampy. It’s weird to explain as it isn’t cramps but I don’t know how to describe it 😂 but I have always felt like this just after suspected ovulation so hopefully a good sign

How are you doing?

@NSx the watch. It’s not as big as it looks I’m just really little with tiny hands 😂 to be fair it looks same as my old one nearly ha ha but the new style strap is amazing! So much more comfortable and no loops to snap which was so annoying. The charger is a tiny magnetic clip too. It’s got so much more on here and 6 months free Fitbit premium. I’ve also applied for my £25 cash back! I’m a happy lady right now ha ha

Ooooh it’s really lovely not too different from an Apple Watch tbh… looks great.
i don’t get ovulation pains at all which is annoying 😩😩 glad u do tho it kind of confirms what u think.
did u do your bloods ? Or is it next cycle?
@allgoodthings84

@NSx i don’t always have them. This cycle they haven’t been ovulation pains just more a heaviness. The ovulation pain is sharper and quick and just before ovulation. So I don’t know if I have ovulated this cycle or not. The RHR is slightly different on this new watch but I don’t know if the old one will have been the same today or not 😂 so I can’t really judge until next cycle. It’s got skin temperature too which isn’t precise but Fitbit say it can help ovulation confirmation (just not as good or accurate as bbt) it takes 4 nights of wearing it in a row to get your baseline so won’t help this cycle as I’m already 2dpo (I think). This one you definitely need to wear overnight though as most of the readings are taken at night when your heart rate drops as it’s the most accurate way to do it.

My bloods are this week

@allgoodthings84 i just don’t know how u would sleep with that on every night 😂😂 good luck.
ahhh ok - hope all goes well with the bloods. I’m sure it will be fine.
I don’t get any hints of anything ovulation or nothing 😂
im just going to continue with BBT and see how I go seems to be going ok so far I’m a few cycles in so I can spot patterns more now, I’m sure ur watch will be able to tell you a lot from temping too without having to get a thermometer out which is good.
I hope you have a nice wkend, my in laws are coming round for dinner tonight so will probably have a few 🍷😁 which I’m happy about 💕

@NSx oh I’m used to it I wore my old one 24/7 for nearly 4 years and had different fitbits before that even so it’s not a new thing for me. It won’t be as accurate as bbt as there’s things that can affect it but better than nothing I guess. Fitbit lists a few things that can affect it and menstrual cycle is one of those things which is a good thing in my case as I want it to affect it ha ha

that sounds like a lovely night! I was doing my extra Saturday shift this morning that we have to do this time of year then went into town and got a few foodie bits for the weekend and daughters pack up. Then I washed up and hoovered and now about to go shower. Tonight we will go back to my partners and just eat and watch tv 😂 tomorrow is our visiting family day