10th Month TTC..anyone else in a similar boat?

[IslaO]

Hi everyone,

I am trying hard not to catatrophise here but 10th month of actively TTC and nothing. I have been tracking ovulation and doing all I can but I’ve had no luck. Friend after friend announcing pregnancies and I’m getting increasingly panicked and down about it all. Is 10 months normal? Or is it likely to point in the direction of a problem?

thanks everyone x

@Angie2018 thank you for this. I feel so alone on this journey sometimes, like no one fully understands the pain so this message is exactly what I needed. I’ll pull myself together by tomorrow and it will be onwards and upwards from there. I’ll check in on you next weekend and see how you are. The news of a BFP on this thread would be such a fantastic lift!!

@SFrancis1 comments from colleagues like that… honestly, when I thought this was my month, the idea of not feeling crushed by stupid comments in work/from friends was so amazing and I was thinking ‘finally, i will be immune to these stupid people who say such thoughtless things’ but no, no immunity yet for me! Hope you’re doing ok girl- what a journey this is! X

@IslaO that's ok, hope you know you aren't alone and we are on this shitty journey with you. This is my fav thread because it seems we are all feeling the same way! You got this girl!! Have you read the "sperm meets the egg plan" book & "it starts with the egg" book? If not get your head into those!! Keep checking in and making us all laugh! Xx

@Angie2018 im going to download these now! I read ‘The Impatient Woman’s Guide to Getting Pregnant’ as I felt it was a title written specifically for me. An easy read and quite good but I have a feeling ‘It starts with the egg’ will be more detailed and informative!

Just opened what’s app to three of the girls posting baby pics/bump updates and thumped an angry, jealous ‘gorgoeus’ under each one 😂😂😂 I’ll indulge this feeling and give myself another hour or two to wallow and then I need to sort myself out!!

@IslaO those fucking messages or posts on Facebook make me sick to my stomach. Like I can't talk as it hurts so much!

Yes defo read those books. I am halfway through the "it starts with the egg" it's helped me though so much so far!!

Would you recommended the book you've read too?? X

@IslaO I am sorry AF has arrived. I hope you are okay. I know how disheartening it can be, especially when we are convinced that this is our month and nature has other plans. Allow yourself to cry and give yourself time alone, or spend quality time with your OH, curl up on the sofa and watch your favourite chick flick whilst noticing your OH is secretly enjoying the film too 😂 Sending you a virtual hug 💖 I tell myself when I am holding my bundle of joy, I will understand why I had to wait - I was meant to be the Mum of this certain baby, this little person and no one else 😊

@Angie2018

@Angie2018 my OH has had Covid twice in the last year. Once just before we began ttc and once during it. I didn't realise it took so long for his swimmers to recover from the illness - thank you for sharing the information.

@IslaO sorry to hear af arrived. Its OK to have a good cry I've broke down more times the first few months I was OK then it got harder as the months went on. Its one of the most emotional roller coasters.

@Angie2018 @SFrancis1 and @Xtina1986 thank you all for being so lovely!!! Our time will most definitely come ❤️❤️❤️

That really resonated with me so thank you!! You are right! When we are holding our babies we will be grateful for the wait x

@SFrancis1 yeah it's a shitty virus isn't it! And yeah it really does take so long to return.... so to be honest, if he had it before you started TTC and again during, that's likely why you haven't been lucky yet. You need 3 months to have passed and then do all the right things for another 4 months and hopefully during that time you will get a BFP! That's how I am seeing it. X

It will @IslaO !!!! We will get there ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

I have just spent my break from gardening reading up about CoQ10. I need to order some!

What supplements do you and your OH take? If any.

@SFrancis1 yes that is amazing! We also take folate (better form than folic acid as your body can absorb it unlike folic acid), Vitamin D, C & CoQ10. And then I take evening primrose oil up until ovulation and then my other half takes Maca Root. We both take the pregnacare conception multivitamins for him and her. We have made sure we are both over the upper intake levels too.

@Angie2018 I didn't realise there were folate supplements aside from Folic Acid......of I go again to research 😂

I started Evening Primerose Oil this cycle and I had a small amount of EWCM, which I have only had once before. Not sure if it was a coincidence or not. I also take Zinc, vitamin C, iron and a combined magnesium and vitamin B. I take Vitamin D during the Autumn and Winter. To be honest, I can't remember the reasons behind individual supplements, I have googled that much in the past 10 months it is all a blur.

I forgot the 6 on Vitamin B6 😂

@SFrancis1 haha I know! I've read up on them all and know they are good so just take them! Yes folate is better than folic acid I got mine from Amazon. Defo research but it's also in the "it starts with the egg" book!!

I am having a B12 injection soon, after this cycle if not pregnant. Also evening primrose oil is what helps EWCM. I normally get enough but I thought even more must help !!

Hey girls!

@Angie2018 I think I need to have a read of these books! They sound like they would be so interesting!

@IslaO so sorry you're having a hard day, it doesn't ever seem to get any easier but one lucky thing is having all of us on here to vent, rant and support eachother going through the same thing and knowing exactly how you feel! ❤️

@SFrancis1 I also didn't realise there was seperate folate different to folic acid...I swear all I seem to do is buy different vitamins or stuff to help with conceiving on amazon 😂 what you said about it being worth the wait when you hold your bundle and realise that's why it took so long makes it seem that bit easier why it's taking so long!

I have also had a bit of a crappy afternoon, I was at my OH family BBQ and his cousins girlfriend announced she was pregnant with her 2nd......my heart honestly broke a little right there 😪 about 5 minutes later another woman I don't know walked it also pregnant.....like really, for fuck sake....I just broke down in tears to my OH as soon as we got in the car... x

@IslaO fingers crossed for next cycle!! AF almost away for me!!
I had covid in June so that’s probably why my body’s Broke this cycle 🤣 after reading the comments about covid !!
x

@Angie2018 thank you so much for that long message. I had heard of the starts with the egg book but haven't had time for reading so it's good to know some of the main points. Very interesting. I was trying to research vitamins a couple months ago and found it overwhelming so just started taking his and hers Pregnacare and Wellman Conception and omega 3. They contain Q10 already but I don't know if it's enough or of they just have a tiny bit in there so they can say it's in there, if you know what I mean 😕
@IslaO try not to be too hard on yourself for letting yourself believe, I go through it every month and while it feels crushing afterwards, it feels so nice doesn't it just to feel like you're pregnant for a couple of days. I call it the "isn't it pretty to think so" time.
I'm 10dpo, sore boobs not much else. I ALWAYS start spotting on or by 11dpo so I'm prepared that tomorrow will be my difficult day depending on how distracted I am by moving. We have the removals coming early to pack and then moving Wednesday. I'm sorting out a holdall containing both period stuff AND a pregnancy test!

@tingalayo ah I am glad I have managed to help you!! I have to say when reading the doses of what you need in some of the key supplements, I checked the pregnacare ones I have as they are the same as yours & I increased both of us on CoQ10, vitamin D, C & E. Maca root for him & also added extra folate for us both. I love that! "Isn't it pretty too think so" that's fab!! I genuinely don't allow myself to go there. I have sore boobs now which means AF is coming! I don't mind onwards and upwards! Hopefully you don't start spotting and it's your month!!

So stared spotting today wore a pad all day nothing on it just when I go to to the toilet and wipe but it a pretty minimal pretty sure this is af arriving early as I'm on day 24 today period wasn't due until friday going by my regularly 28 day cycle have sore boobs which is prob not uncommon for and off work this week so going to keep busy with sorting the house out and hope next month will be better. Just ordered the clear blue ovulation sticks and have decided I will temp this month.

Hey All!
hope you are all well and fingers crossed those who are still in with a chance this month!!!
Iv decided to just be chill this cycle see what happens, i can’t be bothered with the constant testing - plus I have my wee girls birthday in August so plenty to keep me busy (imagine a wee sibling surprise for her tho telling her one’s cooking away) cute!

Bug hugs and good luck x

@Xtina1986 I started spotting today too and it's exactly on time, I must be out this month 😥 This was 11th cycle trying for me, what was it for you? X
I'm so devastated. 11 feels important because now there's only 1 more try before we're off the doctor's. I thought it would be alright this time TTC because I got pregnant naturally with my daughter and I don't think I ever thought I would get to one year trying for the second.

Hey @tingalayo I'm way over the year mark for trying 2 months were out due to covid. I've been seeking fertility accuapture for two months now as an alternative I promised myself I would only do 3 and then I would go to the doctor so last month for me. Started spotting yesterday however its weird I've woke up nothing on pad again last night it was stringy brown discharge (sorry tmi ) but not alot of it nothing on pad only when I wiped and nothing in the toilet. I know it's so hard and so disappointing sorry to hear your spotting also hopefully we get a bfp next month.