10th Month TTC..anyone else in a similar boat?

[IslaO]

Hi everyone,

I am trying hard not to catatrophise here but 10th month of actively TTC and nothing. I have been tracking ovulation and doing all I can but I’ve had no luck. Friend after friend announcing pregnancies and I’m getting increasingly panicked and down about it all. Is 10 months normal? Or is it likely to point in the direction of a problem?

thanks everyone x

@Watsochick and @Xtina1986 i woke up feeling so hopeless and in a ‘why will it never happen for me’ spiral. Just feel full of PMS and the exact same as every month so I’ve written myself off. Due AF in two days and although I feel like it will come, I know this month will be a hard one as we have been on holiday and ‘relaxed’ as everyone tells us to do I can’t blame it on work stress.

I realised I won’t even let myself imagine a positive outcome anymore because too many months have passed where I’ve envisioned a positive test, how I would tell OH, what my baby would be like etc and those have been the hardest months. Hate being so neggy but just don’t imagine it happening for me but if it did, oh my goodness what a weight it would feel was lifted. This has been a dark cloud over me for the last 8ish months and I am ready to leave it behind!!

Ladies, I need to practise what I preach but hope you can stay positive and be good to yourself today. Thinking of you all. You are not alone xx

@IslaO I could literally have written this!!!

im the same due in like 2 days - fingers crossed for you especially being away that would be special !!

@Watsochick keep me posted. Would love to hear good news from you. I’m sitting here and aware of every twinge and pain. Zero CM today which isn’t a good sign. I also let myself get into a really bad mood last night and I made a list of all the people I know who have announced their pregnancies since I have been TTC. What a self-indulgent psycho 😂

speak to you later this week. Thinking of you and hoping you can keep positive and distract yourself in some way from the mental torture x

@IslaO 😂😂 us women are madddd but it’s allowed it’s the hormones 😂☹️

fingers crossed for you too I’ll report back with any updates! X

Big massive CM with one streak of red blood !!!! Welcome AF no doubt ! Good luck girlies x

@Watsochick are you driving yourself crazy googling implantation V period? I’ve just tortured myself and did a test…. BFN!

Hopefully its not af but implantation bleed. Was In work today someone announced a pregancy was very happy for her as she had been trying a while but also felt down as it's not happening for me. I'm not sure were I even am in this cycle as I ovulated a week after my period but it came early last month due to the accupature so not sure if af will be here for early again so say friday r go back to my 28 day cycle which will be next Friday. I'm going by first ovulation postive so I'm 9dpo today not a sympton kind.

Oh nooo 😩 I’m glad I didn’t test as I would have be rageee wasting one lol. To be honest i haven’t lol Iv just wrote this month off and fully accepted it. Told husband AF is on route and we will just need to try again :( xx

Hi ladies how are we all today? I've had a three day meltdown tbh, was worried my temps were rising too slowly after O but had a nice rose this morning and I've read it can take a few days it's a myth you should always have a spike. So whilst I feel better about that part, I still can't allow myself to think anything other than bloody AF will be here in ten days! Longest most soul destroying 7 month journey of my life! Want it gone! Want it over! I have always said I wouldn't want twins as I think it would be too much like hard work but I'd now welcome twins so that I can have my two kids and not have to go on this journey again!!!

@Angie2018 i feel you!!

Im on CD28 now and monitoring every twinge, cramp, boob tingle. Absolutely convinced AF is coming and know when it does it will devastate me but on the other hand, kind of have this feeling ‘ooohh could this be my month’ and I know that’s going to make the arrival of AF all the more painful.

i hope you’re doing ok. Wish I could say something to make you feel better but from experience I know you just need to ride the wave of panic, despair, positivity, determination, breakdown etc. it’s a bloody journey isn’t it?! (No pun intended 😂). on that wave, today I’m on the anger vibe- why has all the joy of TTC been ripped from me when others get to do it all without a worry?!

How’s everyone else doing today? X

@IslaO @Angie2018 I have been the exact same but AF got me today !
I knew it was coming I just always know the feelings, smells, sensations EVERYTHING when she’s coming - so here we are day one.
A recap of my absolute torture of basically longer than a TWW - going by my app ovulation around the 29th of june when actually positive ovulation test was 7th July 😩. In total a 39 day cycle! On to the next one hopefully not as long or torture :(.
Good luck ladies all the best to you xoxo keep me posted I want to see those BFP x

@Watsochick I am so sorry- I know this sinking feeling all too well and a 39 day extravaganza is just the icing on the cake.

At this point I always let myself have a little cry and then have guilt free wine and coffee for a few days. Sending love- you’re not alone x

@IslaO thank you lovey! I feel ok I knew it was coming so prepared myself, just frustrated more than anything!
fingers crossed for you!!

Oh yes fling me some wine!

Morning all 😊

Hoping I can join the thread.

I am currently CD12 of TTC#1 on cycle 7.

Little about my journey so far....I came off cerazette mini pill in November after getting married. I was on the pill for 15 years. I was lucky that since coming off the pill my cycles have gone back to a normal ish cycle length other than the first cycle which was 55 days long but I did have covid end of December and also my booster jab which I think delayed it a bit to be honest. If I had known it would take this long I would of definitely come off the pill before I actually did.

I decided to use OPKs to start with so I could see what my body was doing after the pill, after cycle 1 I also decided to track BBT to get the confirmation that ovulation had happened. After cycle 4 I decided to stop all of that tracking and take the more relaxed approach. My husband has done an at home sperm test which came back normal (not sure really how much you can trust one of the at home test but I am taking it as it is for now lol)...I have also had a private pelvic scan during cycle 5 as I was in my head constantly obsessing thinking something was wrong so for the added reassurance it did help...the scan came back all ok...

Since then I had taken a way more relaxed it is what it is approach in cycle 6 after the initial scans and stuff all ok and I was on holiday during cycle 6 so was convinced that would massively help....no luck with the BFP in cycle 6.

So here we are on to cycle 7 getting more and more impatient, have actually run out of things that I can even google anymore. Have tried the pineapple, have tried the supplements, have tried the preseed, have tried the pomegranate juice, have tried the legs in the air after BD....I am left with nothing more other than to keep BD and keep waiting....

Hopefully having some people to talk to and follow your journeys also will help xx

@IslaO I totally agree it's not fair! Surely this journey should be the most exciting one of ours lives yet it's just awful?? Other fall pregnant "by accident" like how the fuck does one do that???

It's so hard not to monitor right? I mean even though we tell ourselves not to symptom spot.... we are so hyper aware of our bodies that we can't help but feel these things!!

I hope that feeling is your month! I've told myself every month this could be ours and it just ends up in sheer devastation.

It is just a waiting game and it will happen for most of us in normal time frames... it's just a long old road that is bloody bumpy and twisty and unenjoyable to ride on!

I suspect my breakdown will come soon... I find the first 6 days hard and boring, then the next 4 days flitting between I have a chance and no I don't... then I convince myself AF is coming and she comes. And then I fall over and feel shit until AF finishes and I feel positive through my fertile window and then the journey begins again 🤣🤣 x

Hey @Shaker21 hope you are doing ok. I am in the exact same boat as you, couldn't have worded the last 7 months any better if I'm honest!! I am CD15 today though.... ovulated late night on the 11th maybe early hours on the 12th day.

When are you due to ovulate? Xx

@Watsochick oh blimey so sorry about your bloody long cycle!! Is that normal for you? How are you feeling?? How many cycles into TTC are you? X

Hey everyone. Was working today stressful day but mid morning had the worst right side hip pain radiating to groin after an hour r so I took 2 fizzy cocodomol pain subsided about an hour after that and completely gone now. Went to bathroom to check if af was on her way early but instead found 3 balls of jelly discharge not ewcm more like snot sorry tmi. After that I had unbearable mid back pain. Trying not to sympton spot as I promised myself I wouldn't but wondering has anyone ever experienced this. Feeling OK now as I'm just back from my accupature went a day early this week as I'm taking the kids away for a day trip tomorrow hopefully it will take my mind of all of it.

Hey @Xtina1986 your symptoms do sound promising! How many dpo are you? X

@Angie2018 not really usual are 30-32, awful so long and annoying. TTC for about 7 months but last few properly checking cycles xx

@Watsochick ah it's probably just a one off cycle which is normal. Not possible it was a chemical pregnancy though which could have delayed it? Yeah it's a shit process I've given up giving a shit now. 🤣 I'm also 7 cycles in and just cba with the stress! This is my second cycle temping and using OPKs but I may just use them up next cycle then not bother with any of it!! Just something else to obsess about and all it does is make me obsess. Xx

Hey Angie it was a funny month had ewcm amd right side pain 12 days ago and got my peak. Then friday past past I.got another postive ovulation test but no ewcm. So going to go with the first surge and say 11dpo although my period won't be due until another week away if I'm
Going back to my 28 day cycle

@Xtina1986 what OPKs do you use? Because you get more than one oestrogen and LH surges throughout your cycle anyway

I have been using the home bargins ones and boots one

I would go with your first peak when you had EWCM