@Mummyme87 sorry to hear you had a BFN, the last couple of days of the TWW are rubbish when you are sure youβre already out.
First of all, your decision to terminate had nothing to do with the fact the pregnancy was then ectopic so please donβt guilt yourself. Itβs also nothing to do with why itβs taking some time now. Itβs completely normal to want a termination at some point and then want a pregnancy further down the line. Our feelings towards a pregnancy donβt affect it.
How long have you been trying now?
I have just had bloods done as Iβve been trying almost a year and had two chemicals in that time. Theyβve all come back fine but itβs been good peace of mind for me to know I have no thyroid problem or clotting issues etc. Next step for us would be further tests I.E sperm analysis, ultrasound but I want to wait until itβs been a full year at least before we go down that route. As far as Iβm aware, having previous children doesnβt stop the tests being done, itβs just youβre not entitled to free IVF.
I am overweight and the doctor has advised me to lose weight, which I already know I need to do, but Iβm struggling with that mentally at the moment.
They wonβt use that as a blocker to getting tests done.