One year+ TTC part 3

[BritInNZ]

Hey ladies - new thread here we come! Changed it from 9 months+ seeing as we're pretty much all over a year of TTC now (boo!)

Feel free to add anyone else I may have forgotten 😊

@Carla2601
@lemons44
@LucyAnne34
@NatW2021
@Indianna2006
@KatieLooLa
@Hoping43
@Flyonthewall89

Newbies welcome too! Just a bunch of lovely ladies going through a tough time TTC and having a good old time venting and supporting one another 😊

@Tinkerbell098 i know I didn’t either but the nurse told me when I was waiting to start but couldn’t get af to come even though it always comes and it makes sense. The dreams are the worst!!! Literally even sleep isn’t peaceful is it. Sounds like it’s coming now. Any update on whether they got your drugs in?

@BritInNZ theyre not going to up my dosage! They’re saying my lining is indicative of ovulation and so nothing needs to be done. I have an appt tomorrow so will try and push for monitoring again. I really want my dose increasing but they’re saying no

@Hoping43 that's so weird. My specialist had no issue with upping dosage if I didn't respond as expected, and you didn't. Seeing as you're paying privately too they should be more willing to give it a shot. I don't understand how they can say you've responded based on your lining when you clearly didn't have a dominant follicle. Hope you get somewhere with your appointment.

@BritInNZ it’s so hard to question experts isn’t it. Like really they are the experts, I only know what I know from spending hours a day on google! I will see what happens tomorrow and keep you posted x

Hi Ladies

Sorry just needed to rant. Spoke to gp yday he wrote a letter for support of hycosy. Send everything to the fertility clinic they call saying they need evidence of AMH. I call the hospital and spoke to the consultants secretary, they agree i can collect (really pleased aa i thought i would need to do a FOI request) drive the hospital, send the result to the clinic they then call me to say they have booked me.... only on ovulation day so now i have to wait till next cycle!!

I no its no major incident after 14 cycles just had to share the story as its just my luck 😂 x

Thank you @Carla2601 for your positive thinking! 💉💧🏊🏼🏊🏼🏊🏼🏊🏼🤞🏼

Thanks for everyone's input on their NHS experience. I am not holding much hope that ours will be quick. I've been considering the access fertility money back schemes for IVF.. has anybody else looked into these?

Sorry you are frustrated @Hoping43 that sounds really annoying especially if u are paying private!

Ahh @NatW2021 how annoying! Especially as every cycle in this journey feels so long.

I have resigned myself now to the 7 week wait for sperm retrieval 😴😴 it's so annoying but I suppose I just have to grin and bear it. Positive thinking until then!

How's everyone doing this week?

Just saw a thread from somebody who doesn't have fertility issues but wants gender selection IVF because they already have a son and now want a daughter. Kind of makes me want to hit my head against a wall 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃🤯

@lemons44 ah the selfishness around this kind of thing knows no bounds….be grateful you’re a better egg all round!

@lemons44 oh dear God that does make me want to hit my head against a wall too. Nothing much to report. Still in limbo over when I'd be starting treatment. I was asked to ring on Day 1 and see if they have any availability for me to start next cycle. They are sticking with short protocol due to the Buserelin shortage.

@Tinkerbell098 when are you expecting day one? Try crying on the phone that worked a couple of times for me (and let’s be honest you’re not lying you do bloomin feel like crying!). Good luck and keep us posted

@Carla2601 it would be mid next week but possibly a couple of days late as I didn't ovulate on time. I probably will end up crying if they say no. Thank you, I will :) Hope everything's well with you X

@lemons44 urgh that's the pits.

I listened to a great podcast about the idea of fertility privilege the other day. It's called Best Friend Therapy with Elizabeth Day and it's the one called Fertility. Would highly recommend. Really thought provoking.

@Carla2601 😂 💓 your tips. @Tinkerbell098 keep us updated xx

@lemons44 🤦‍♀️ if only she knew the real struggles! I remember reading a post from someone who tried for 2/3 months and wanted to go straight to ivf to speed things up. No other reason. 🤷‍♀️

No update from me, i am due to ovulate in 2 days then back in the TWW. Least i have my hycosy in for next cycle. I am doing well on the diet and sticking to my daily calories and i lost 6lb last week although not taking loads of credit for that as alot was holiday bloat. I plan to get my bmi down to 35 in next 2 months (1st 5lbs to go) then i am going to go private to see if i can try letrozole (all being well with my hycosy.

@lemons44 - how are you x

Just to add aswell i am still convinced something is off - i am drinking tons of water, taking higher dose epo and still no EWCM 🤷‍♀️

@NatW2021 thats an amazing start well done you!! I feel like getting going is the worst bit and now you’re into it it’ll get easier!

i honestly never really had ewcm although if you think that’s a problem you could try pre seed (I think it’s called - the lube basically). I have zero issues but just never really had any so try not to worry too much as it may well not be a factor

@Carla2601 random fact regarding IVF/ICSI:

"Women using IVF to get pregnant should be aware that they will be more likely to have a boy than a girl, say experts. But another assisted reproduction technique called ICSI, which singles out the sperm that will fertilise the IVF egg, makes a girl more likely."

www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-11419466

omg @lemons44 how infuriating! Some people just don't have a clue how luck they are do they ..
@NatW2021 that's bloody brilliant! I was thinking about you the other day when I was doing a little joe wicks home workout. Are you super motivated now you're seeing such great results? :)
@FlyOnTheWall89 thanks for the podcast tip - I'll check it out on my train journey tomorrow!.

I'm still here, patiently waiting for my 3 month ttc prison sentence to be up . Hubby is still taking the proxeed etc ... I am so hopeful that it'll be the answer to our problems ..🍀

@Carla2601 @Koalie - Thank you! I am being inpatient and wanting to lose quickly but the lbs add up and just got to keep going.

@Koalie - hopefully these next few weeks/months go quickly and will give time for the proxseed to kick in.

Its my peak day today 😫 timed DTD is bloody hard work i am so over it now 😂

I feel like such a bad person writing this. My brother just called round to my house with his girlfriend to tell me they are pregnant. Obviously i am thrilled for them and wouldnt wish this on anyone. I had a lump in my throat the whole time and had put an act on and be super excited, i am excited to be an aunt but the circumstances we are facing makes it so difficult and i just feel robbed of the joy of this lovely news. 💔

Oh I'm sorry @NatW2021 . This sort of news is really difficult; it brings such a conflict of emotion. I think you can be both happy and sad all at once and just accept that is okay for now. So many different emotions will run through you and it might get a tad easier once the news has settled. Do they know about your situation? X

@NatW2021 i know that feeling so well - my bro and his wife are due their third and he told me before I was pregnant and that’s the overwhelming feeling….it’s robbed you of another great moment, the excitement of being an aunt, and tinged it with sadness. And it makes you feel guilty but don’t it’s completely normal and I’m just sorry that such an exciting thing is so tinged with sadness and I’m thinking of you

@FlyOnTheWall89 @Carla2601 - thank you for your kind words. Its just so horrible i cant see a way out of the way feel just feel like I'm trapped in these emotions. I think @FlyOnTheWall89 you are right and i will come to accept it coming days as its so raw. Even my DH is upset we just feel out control and totally lost.

Its my ovulation day today and in no mood to DTD x

@NatW2021 sorry 😞 just know all those emotions are totally normal though. Like they’ve all said you can be happy for them but sad for you at the same time. It’s so many overwhelming emotions.

I am finding myself on a roller coaster after the loss. Ttc is hard with constant negatives month after month. But seeing negative tests every month and getting AF after loss is just for me reliving the grief of those few awful days I realised we were losing the baby all over again. I’m not doing very well in the AF slumps. But am hoping as time goes on the grief becomes easier.

It’s all a lot. If anyone close in my life told me they were pregnant right now. I just beyond would not cope. It’s such crazy emotions to try hold in. Hardest thing ever. So hugs to you.

@Indianna2006 - so sorry it must be so tough going through this, i can relate to a lot of what you said. There are just no words to express the hurt and sadness. X

@NatW2021 no there is not. You just have to find the best way to cope and take a step forward every day. With hope in your heart that some way, whatever way it is. A baby will come eventually. That’s all we can do ❤️ Just always have hope. No one can take that from you. An you have to work to keep it alive. Even at times when it’s really really hard xx