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TheBirdintheCave · 19/04/2022 15:24

Finally stopped bleeding last night 21 days post MMC x__x Still not testing negative but it's heading in the right direction at least. Hopefully I'll ovulate again at some point in the next few weeks. So looking forward to being back to normal.

Hope everyone is getting on ok!

buntywindermere · 19/04/2022 18:12

Line much fainter today - can't see it on a photo. I would have been so surprised if I was pregnant. Thank you ladies for indulging my line eyes slightly 😆 just hope AF comes in the next few days now so I can get on with the next cycle - in which I am planning on ttc!

buntywindermere · 19/04/2022 18:19

@TheBirdintheCave I didn't stop bleeding until 23 days after my miscarriage happened. I had medical management and baby was 7 weeks. I'm sorry I haven't read the full thread so you may have done this but I did call the hospital and they got me in for a scan to check everything had passed (thankfully it had). I only got a negative after my period had been and gone! It was a much heavier period than usual with a few small clots, and I was quite sore, but apparently this is quite normal. I haven't tracked this cycle but based off my mood swings everything is as normal. Hoping my period arrives by the weekend.

peachiekeen · 19/04/2022 20:46

For anyone interested, you can log your miscarriage on Tommy's website to help them to collate the real number of miscarriages experienced in the UK as the number is very widely misrepresented at the moment and will help to give a better picture of loss at the moment. actions.tommys.org/a/record-of-loss

misstime · 19/04/2022 22:28

Hi everyone, jumping on this thread as I feel like I need somewhere to get out all the crazy TTC worries/thoughts I am always having!

Had a MMC at 11 weeks at the beginning of Feb, took a cycle to get my head back into the mindset of TTC. I think I am 10DPO today and bfn this morning and already feeling deflated about this month.

I have a two year old and find it so much harder this time around trying to TTC. First time round I had time to do opks and dtd. These days it's so hard trying to fit in TTC! Does anyone else find this?

TheBirdintheCave · 20/04/2022 09:15

@buntywindermere I tried emailing the EPU last week but they just ignored me :( My husband will call them if I still get a positive next Tuesday. There was never any mention of a follow up scan. We don't have a car at the moment anyway as it's in the garage for an engine fault (yet again) so I couldn't go in even if they wanted me to.

Sassy144 · 20/04/2022 11:58

@TheBirdintheCave have you tried your GP? I know it differs from place to place but mine was really shocked when I recently told them I received no aftercare or support from EPU, and I wished I had contacted my GP at the time instead as they were much more understanding.

My2boysaremyworld · 20/04/2022 18:33

Hi can I jump on this for when I'm able to start TTC again. Had a miscarriage on Sunday, should of been 10 weeks but baby was only measuring 5 weeks 6 days. I started naturally at home and it escalated very quickly. It took my boyfriend over an hour to get me out the house and into the car to get to hospital. On arrival they examined me and removed clots and got me set up for some intravenous paracetamol. That bag flushed through me and it hadn't touched me. I was then given some codeine and a hour passed and still no relief. I was thrh given morphine and that didn't touch me either. They then tried examining me and couldn't get past my cervix. They then scanned me and saw baby was stuck in my cervix. I was prepped for theatre to remove baby. I was in agony for over 8 hours with no break from the pain. I'm good with pain and at times I felt like I was going to pass out. At one point I screamed to my boyfriend please kill me 😢
I'm home now recovering but feeling very low and tender. Iv got 2 young boys and haven't told them as feel they wouldn't understand it they might worry. I pray we get our rainbow baby one day

LuckyMoonstone · 20/04/2022 19:43

8dpo now. I have no cm at all, I don’t know if that’s good or bad or unimportant! Genuinely can’t remember if I had much cm the three

LuckyMoonstone · 20/04/2022 19:43

Whoops posted too soon… the three other times I’ve been pregnant 😂

Lizzieee2727 · 20/04/2022 19:58

Hi everyone, sorry to see so many of us on this sad state.

I'm lucky to have a 2 year old ball of chaotic energy but sadly recently we lost a baby at 12 weeks. Found out on holiday in Lanzarote when I was spotting that baby had stopped growing at 7+5 😢 got home and tried medical management which didn't work at all, just excruciating (SPD and 3 days of contractions was nothing compared to it) so then needed surgery under local.
I've done a cheapy test this morning (3 weeks and a day since surgery) which has come up as negative and I'm lucky enough that I think my period has just finished and based on last 2 pregnancies ovulation is imminent - did ovulation tests and I ovulate 2-3 days post period. Husbeast and I feel ready to try again so here's hoping. X

Sassy144 · 21/04/2022 11:31

@My2boysaremyworld that sounds like a really traumatising experience, I'm really sorry you went through that. Take time to rest and take care of yourself ❤️

@Lizzieee2727 I'm really sorry you found out while on holiday, that must have been awful. Good luck to you and your husband on trying again xx

peachiekeen · 21/04/2022 12:23

@My2boysaremyworld @Lizzieee2727 I'm so sorry you both find yourselves here. It's a horrible thing to go through but this group is so supportive

My2boysaremyworld · 21/04/2022 12:24

@Sassy144

@My2boysaremyworld that sounds like a really traumatising experience, I'm really sorry you went through that. Take time to rest and take care of yourself ❤️

@Lizzieee2727 I'm really sorry you found out while on holiday, that must have been awful. Good luck to you and your husband on trying again xx

Thank you yes it was unfortunately 😩 in a bit of pain today just hoping it's normal recovery pain ? Xx

My2boysaremyworld · 21/04/2022 12:25

@peachiekeen

@My2boysaremyworld @Lizzieee2727 I'm so sorry you both find yourselves here. It's a horrible thing to go through but this group is so supportive

Thank you, yes I definitely need some support from people who have been through it. Xx

peachiekeen · 21/04/2022 12:31

AF came today 2 days late - which is really kind of her 🙄. I don't know why I bother testing because if it's blank I still manage to convince myself that maybe I'm pregnant and refuse to truly believe it until Af arrives. I really thought I was this month and I've taken the hit quite badly today. When does this rollercoaster end? Sometimes I'm absolutely fine with it and other times it's all consuming. I feel like I going mad!

My2boysaremyworld · 21/04/2022 13:27

@peachiekeen

AF came today 2 days late - which is really kind of her 🙄. I don't know why I bother testing because if it's blank I still manage to convince myself that maybe I'm pregnant and refuse to truly believe it until Af arrives. I really thought I was this month and I've taken the hit quite badly today. When does this rollercoaster end? Sometimes I'm absolutely fine with it and other times it's all consuming. I feel like I going mad!

Sending hugs xx

Sassy144 · 21/04/2022 15:30

@peachiekeen I'm really sorry 😞 two days late is just cruel. I'm the same, some months I can take it on the chin and others it crushes me. Do something nice for yourself today and take it easy 💛

LuckyMoonstone · 21/04/2022 15:56

@peachiekeen I'm sorry AF came 😞 xx

peachiekeen · 21/04/2022 19:43

Thanks guys - I'm alright now (ish). I just feel like I have two people in charge of my brain and they tag in and out minute by minute. I'm OK and accepting one minute and know that the in grand scheme of things it's not been that long and I feel vaguely positive and can think of things to be grateful for or to look forward to but then quite literally a minute later I'm fuming and angry at the world and wondering whether I'll ever feel normal and feel like the next month is going to be an uphill battle. I can't control who's going to be at the helm any given moment 🙈

peachiekeen · 21/04/2022 19:43

P.S it won't let me tag for some reason 🤷🏽‍♀️

curliegirlie · 22/04/2022 08:45

Agh, starting to get a touch frustrated with OPKs, even though I know that patience is the key. On CDs 11 and 12, it looked like things were going in a decent direction, but in the days since the lines have been barely visible. Last cycle, if I ovulated it was likely to have been on CD17, and when previously TTC I ovulated between CD16 and 25. Is it just likely to be too early to see things starting to work up towards the peak yet and it’ll all be a bit random until the day before ov day, when suddenly things will fall into place and I’ll see a very quick, obvious surge? Sorry, it’s been over 4 years since I last did these….

curliegirlie · 22/04/2022 08:46

I hope everyone’s doing ok - I know I have a lot of cycle buddies on this thread!

FfayeN · 22/04/2022 10:19

@curliegirlie mine have always fluctuated between nothing and 0.3 and back down again before eventually rising to peak. I think it's normal to go up and down. Fingers crossed you get your peak soon x

FfayeN · 22/04/2022 10:21

@curliegirlie this is my last tracked cycle where I got a BFP. The bottom of the photo is just where I started to rise for my peak. X