Preparing to TTC in 2022 Part 2

[WingingIt09]

Wow can't believe we've filled a thread! Looking forward to continuing to follow everyone's TTC journey! Here's hoping for our first BFPs!

January
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February
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March
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April
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May
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June
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July
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August

September
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@lj2022 yeah only 11dpo I think so is probably just a coincidence!

I'll probably test Monday if still no sign

@Dreamingof3 could be.... but also I had nausea from 9dpo with my eldest 😅

@WingingIt09 ohh Lord 🤣

@Dreamingof3 😂😂

@lj2022 I think it's normal for women to feel this way. I too had SIL announce pregnancy recently and also felt a little down whilst being happy for her.
I think what doesn't help is the uncertainty with ttc as when see ladies you are close to seemingly getting pregnant easily then you then worry if will the same for you..
I think cousins close in age is lovely thing so just trying to think of the positives. Also most likely less attention from in laws if there is another grandchild which for me is good. As I generally like a bit of space.

@Jennifer89 you sound so like me what's good is they are close to MIL so same situation for me in the giving some space. I would love to have cousins close in age it's something we have spoken about for years but you're right the uncertainty in TTC is highlighted when it happens so easily for some people

@lj2022 it will happen for us at some point. I just have to remind myself it isn't a race

@dearhummingbirds ohh I'd love to go to New Zealand it looks beautiful. And yeah definitely complicated with Zika I'm sure the risk is so so small but wouldn't want to bet on not getting it 😂.
Yeah I've realised lately that everyone is after their own interest so why not me!

@rosecbrm the advice is 3 months when it first happened they said 6 months as a precaution but when I looked at the studies the longest case for infectious sperm was 69 days which has made me feel a bit better about trying a week before 3 months. Ah I'd love to go to the caribbean again, I think we'll go next year, though no more Zika places. This will be our first too so very excited/nervous. Hope your periods are good to you mine are so different from b4 I started the pill.

@WingingIt09 great lines hope you're getting on it.

Is anyone sharing the fact that their TTC with a friend?

@Nypie we're not actually trying until May 😂. I'm using OPKs to work my cycle out after coming off the pill and also to know when to be more careful! They have gone lighter now so I never actually got a positive. Second cycle in a row they've done that. Last cycle I thought I'd missed the peak because I didn't manage to test, but this cycle I've tested 2/3 times a day.... could I not actually be ovulating?

I have full sympathy for those of you who are happy but also sad for others who are pregnant. I found it so stressful when TTC my first, just having no idea if it would ever happen or not. I think if someone had said 'it will take a year to get pregnant but you will' it would have been so much easier than just never knowing month by month.

@WingingIt09 Oops lol well don't get on it! Opks are so confusing I've been using the natural cycles app with opks and temping...your temperatures supposed to go up after ovulation. I'm sure you're ovulating but maybe temp as well if you want the reasurance!

@WingingIt09 @Nypie yep I use natural cycles too as apparently BBT is the only way to confirm ovulation is actually happening apart from a blood test which I wanted to do so I could go to the Dr if I knew I wasn't ovulating. OPKs only detect a surge in LH which can still happen even if ovulation hasn't happened as it's likely the body has tried to ovulate.

@FourOclock you hit the nail on the head if I knew it would take a year or even two I'd be like right it will happen. I realise though I've been unwell and hardly DTD the last two months so it's a little crazy to be sad when I knew it probably wouldn't happen anyway 😂

@Nypie haha. Unfortunately I struggle with BBT as I'm not able to reliably temp thanks to my daughters. Will just have to assume I am ovulating and see if I get pregnant when we start to try in May 😅

Hi all, how are you all doing? ☺️

@Nypie I decided to share that I was ttc with my best friend, especially as I am bridesmaid at her wedding later this year!

I haven't told her the BFP news yet though, as I want to share with parents first. They live a long way away, but I'm seeing them for a weekend trip in 3 weeks, which will be just over 7 weeks in, and seems like a good time to tell them, if everything is still all good 🤞
I was wondering if anyone could share any advice/could relate - I'm struggling quite a lot with anxiety - I've had it for years, but it's really flared up since bfp, I'm honestly exhausted with feeling constantly worried that the pregnancy is going wrong, or will somehow go away, or that I'm doing something wrong, and I really want to get over this.. I'm hoping it is just a reaction to these new hormones, and I'll get it under control soon! Any words of wisdom?

Got my peak OPK last night and finally getting the hang of what it all means. Previously I thought peak was ovulation day but am I right in thinking it's between 24-48 hours after ? I best get busy this weekend for my best chances

@TheOnlyException1 sorry you're dealing with anxiety, it's the last thing you need! Maybe telling people will help, make it 'real' ? A Dr's appointment to confirm/check everything is OK might help too but getting one of those is like winning the lotto round here!

@lj2022 I'm really enjoying natural cycles I love how you can go from preventing to trying and all the updates they give you.

@WingingIt09 ahh that makes perfect sense its a faff even with no kids. I think your right don't worry until given a reason to.

@TheOnlyException1 I've told my bestie too was wondering if it's the right thing to do but she is the most likely to grill me if my alcohol consumption goes down and will support me so best to have her on side. Ohh how far gone will you be at her wedding?

Anxiety is hard sorry you're struggling! Mine has been going up and down this year with a new job so makes sense a new life is knocking you. From what I've studied and try to teach...and live by I'd say try not to push too hard against it, it's okay to acknowledge it you're anxiety is preparing you for danger, often times that danger will not happen, but its not a bad thing it's like a fire alarm. Okay its gone off thank you for letting me know.

1st step try to be calm the calmer you are the better you can react to the situation (guided meditation on youtube are great for this.)

Now lets acess the situation are you okay right now? Physically how are you feeling. Then mentally whats going on try to sit with your thoughs and feelings write them down. Talk yourself through it reasure yourself if you can

3rd get help just like in a fire. It might be worth speaking to your bestie, I know you want to tell your parents first but maybe it might help to talk to her? If not help can be an outsider a counsellor it can be online.

And most importantly be kind to yourself do the things you like plan nice things to take your mind off the wait. In this moment you are pregnant and that is a beautiful thing so treat you and the baba as best as you can.

Not to scare you but I think anxiety during pregnancy can go on through out then when the baby gets here when it becomes a child a teenager! There's so many moments as a parent of anxiety to look forward too but you're doing the best thing to confront it now.

@Nypie it's so good isn't it. I've learned more about my body from that app than in my entire life. I was recommended it by a friend and soo glad she did

@lj2022 Yes! You get busy this very second. I believe even 5 days before ovulation up until the day itself is optimal.

I don't know if it helps @TheOnlyException1 but I was so anxious for the first couple of weeks of pregnancy. My husband was going away when I was 5 weeks and I don't know if that was why, but I'm 8 weeks now and I do feel a bit calmer now. I think the anxiety eased when the crappy pregnancy symptoms got worse 🙈 but at least now I 'feel' pregnant and like I'm growing a human rather than just seeing it on a stick and nothing else really changing

@Nypie I'll be jumping on my other half when he gets home from the Gym! This is the first month my temp has looked quite stable aswell so 🤞

@lj2022 everything crossed for you 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞

Hello, can I join in on this thread? I'm looking to start TTC in roughly July.

@TheOnlyException1 I was really anxious when I was pregnant. Not helped as I had a miscarriage first so I just felt like it was going to go wrong too. As awful as it was to feel nauseous the whole time, it was also quite reassuring 🙈 I had an early scan at 8 weeks which got rid of the anxiety for about a week and then the same again at the 12 weeks scan. It only went away when I started feeling movements really as it was reassurance that she was doing well in there. I think it’s normal to feel anxious during pregnancy though but it’s important that you can enjoy it too 🙂

Thanks so much for the kind words and advice everyone, it's definitely in ups and downs at the mo. but I'll figure out how to deal with it sure! I used to get a lot of panic attacks and had real struggle with it, but I managed to learn my patterns and and how to control it, I just need to learn my new patterns with these raging hormones 😂 I did some meditation this morning, and I'm just out on a long walk which always helps to settle down anxiety for me, although it's not helping the nausea so much!!

@Nypie thank you for all the tips, I really like that way of thinking about it, I have a tendency to beat myself up over anxiety, feeling weak or guilty about it, but I think that's a really healthy approach, thank you ☺️ Also I will be 5 months at the wedding - so will need to look for a maternity bridesmaids dress I think!

@FourOclock that's good to know, I do think when these new hormones calm down I might be able to reason with myself a bit more - right now I keep welling up at every last thing! How are you feeling now, still pretty rough?

@tryingtryinggone I think when I get to the point of scans and movement I'm hoping it feels a bit more real and secure, and I can start to get excited and enjoy it! But it's reassuring to know it's fairly normal to feel like this though, thank you x