These positive stories are so lovely. Thank you all for sharing, and to @Hannabanana2021 for starting the thread.
@Hannabanana2021 my journey has been pretty torturous, but I'll keep it as short as possible.
I had 3 early miscarriages before the ectopic, starting March 20. Sadly, as with you, none of those pregnancies were confirmed in my uterus before I lost them so there is a question mark in my head over whether they were in my tubes or not. The hospital actually diagnosed another miscarriage so didn't confirm an ectopic, until I was rushed in for surgery after nearly collapsing at home. The ectopic was May 21.
We took a break to recover mentally and physically, and I had some tests done privately. I am now with a private consultant and have done some medicated cycles to try and get as many follicles as possible to increase chances, but it's still not happened yet. It's been 5 cycles. I'm telling myself this is still not that long and hoping it'll all come together soon.
I also had my tube checked during the surgery and they said it all looked good l, then had the tube 'flush' and the fluid came through, albeit slowly. I'm tempted by another just to see if I get the boost that @thefurriesthen mentioned.
It's so frustrating as it never took too long before to fall pregnant, now it feels like it's taking forever.
The thoughts you have are totally normal. Last cycle I knew my dominant follicle was on the left side and I just had a breakdown, it felt so hopeless. Although hearing it really can happen helps. But I totally have the same thoughts as you.
How long have you been trying?