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Ttc after miscarriage thread 4 🌈💞✨🤞

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Skl2021 · 08/02/2022 18:39

New thread ladies 💞🌈✨

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Prayingformyrainbow93 · 09/02/2022 16:05

@arianasky At least you caught your O and got your BFP! I heard that ovulation can be a bit crazy after mc! So pleased for you ♥️ I can understand the nerves I’m sure I would be the same! I’m sure you’ll be absolutely fine x

Prayingformyrainbow93 · 09/02/2022 16:07

Did you count cd1 as the first day of the bleed with your cp @arianasky ? X

Vhopeful · 09/02/2022 16:11

@Prayingformyrainbow93 I am planning to try this cycle. On CD 11, we DTD cause I was super horny (TMI). But, last 2 days I am spotting and having very subtle cramps again for 2 days so I now idk. Hopefully, will ovulate soon. Good luck for this cycle. Fingers crossed 🤞 that this our cycle.

Meganrobyn · 09/02/2022 16:31

Hi all. 👋

Unsure if I can / should join as I'm not technically TTC. Long story short - had a miscarriage last month. Me and my now ex partner had sex once after the miscarriage... Now had a faint positive pregnancy test just yesterday! ( Pull out method clearly doesn't work lol ).

Anyways due to miscarriage I have no clue what DPO I am but guessing 9 or 10. Periods due Saturday but due to loss I'm unsure if that's accurate either!

I definitely had negatives before this positive so I know it's not leftover from last.

Already driving myself insane but holding off doing another test until Friday!

Sending you all lots of baby dust and finger's crossed you all get BFP :)

arianasky · 09/02/2022 17:39

@Prayingformyrainbow93 I did yes I counted first day of bleeding as CD1 and tested with Clearblue Ovulation test from CD10 and got my static on CD19. Aww thank you so much 💕

aesgriff · 09/02/2022 17:44

@Cruz86 my results are back. I got 20.1nmol/L at 5dpo. Would you mind sharing yours? They advised ovulation cannot be absolutely confirmed as they would expect results of over 30nmol/L xx

Ganesh2022 · 09/02/2022 18:14

@Prayingformyrainbow93 I think I'm officially in the 2ww...ovulated a month after mc...feeling ok now that I'm in limbo but I know as 14 dpo comes close it'll start getting hard...fingers crossed everything normalises for you soon, a bfn was a good start for me to feel a bit better...

@Vhopeful, @Prayingformyrainbow93 I think that's such a normal feeling, which we try to push down b/c we feel guilty/don't want to be a "bad" friend...for me the best thing is to fully acknowledge (to myself/dh) that I feel it rather than trying to talk myself out of it. I think it's such a specific kind of feeling, too, very different from the pinch of envy I might feel if someone's house is very spacious (ours isn't!) or similar. It's really visceral, isn't it...? Cards on the table, I do have DC so fully recognise the feeling might be even more tricky if I were at the beginning of my journey. Flowers

JuniperAndTonic · 09/02/2022 18:17

Hi all, sorry it’s taken me so long to check in - been trying (and failing) to stay off the forums and Google today. Thanks to everyone who asked after me ❤️

I’m feeling okay today, the bleeding has mostly stopped, just tiny amounts of brown spotting. Trying to cling onto hope but also not get my hopes up too much if that makes sense. Ive almost made it through one day, just one more day to go before the scan and hopefully an answer. It’s the waiting that’s the worst part I think.

Hope everyone else is doing okay and hoping my posts haven’t been triggering for anyone!

Ganesh2022 · 09/02/2022 18:17

@Meganrobyn you ok? Are you hoping for BFP? If so fingers crossed for you!

To everyone, pregnant or trying, who is struggling with anxiety/tough feelings today...Cake xxx

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Skl2021 · 09/02/2022 18:27

@JuniperAndTonic IV been thinking about you all day 💕 so glad the bleeding has stopped hopefully that's a good sign! Just one more day to get through! Your strong you will be ok. Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞💕 xx

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Skl2021 · 09/02/2022 18:28

@Ganesh2022 thankyou 💕 some days are harder than others! X

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aesgriff · 09/02/2022 18:34

Can I just take a minute to say how SH^T it is that we are all going through this terrible time of anxiety, longing and ugly feelings. I wish it would be different for us all xxx

PamelaDoov · 09/02/2022 19:02

@aesgriff absolutely, and thank you xx

MO22 · 09/02/2022 20:37

@aesgriff completely agree, it's really so sh*t isn't it.

Thinking about everyone struggling tonight, I am too. X

MO22 · 09/02/2022 20:38

@JuniperAndTonic keep holding on and getting through it minute by minute, day by day. Thinking of you x

PamelaDoov · 09/02/2022 20:46

I’ve had a pretty sad few days, sorting out my baby’s cremation service with the hospital 😔 but the happiness of finally ovulating helped take the edge off a bit and make me feel more hopeful.

MiaGrace31 · 09/02/2022 21:09

Im having an incredibly down day today as well, just feeling a bit hopeless about everything. Feel like people around me although trying to be supportive are just a bit sick of me now. It really is one of those things that unless you have been through it you cant describe how it feels and how that emptiness and longing is so hard xxx

PamelaDoov · 09/02/2022 21:11

@MiaGrace31 I know exactly how you feel. Big hugs x

MiaGrace31 · 09/02/2022 21:31

@PamelaDoov thankyou. I just prey that these thoughts and feelings get easier to deal with for us all. I think in the beginning the one thing getting me through was the thought I may conceive again straight away, but now 3 months in and it not happening brings along its own feelings of sadness and grief. I took 3 preg tests today and im only 9dpo so probably far to early but shows I may be slowly losing the plot. I really need to try and take a step back but its so hard isnt it xxx

Ganesh2022 · 09/02/2022 21:40

@PamelaDoov that sounds so difficult; if you want to shareno pressuredid you name him/her?

Ganesh2022 · 09/02/2022 21:41

@MiaGrace31 I feel like people are pretty done with me talking about it, interestingly sort of from both angles--either "I've been through it too and I don't talk about it all day" or never being through it so not quite getting it. :/

PamelaDoov · 09/02/2022 21:44

@Ganesh2022 yes we had a little boy and we named him Jesse

arianasky · 09/02/2022 21:45

@JuniperAndTonic I've been keeping you in my thoughts and hoping all was ok, I'm glad the bleeding has stopped 💕 I have everything crossed for you ❤️

@aesgriff how lovely of you, I wish we all didn't have to go through these emotions aswell ❤️

@PamelaDoov thinking of you ❤️

PamelaDoov · 09/02/2022 21:49

@MiaGrace31 It is so hard, and you’re doing so well. Just getting up and about whilst you’re feeling like this is an achievement.
It is still very early but I totally get the temptation! I’m quite glad AF is due around my birthday, as I won’t be tempted to test early because I’ll be busy doing birthday things and having a few (more than a few) drinks.
I feel like I’m being too optimistic/excited about getting pregnant again this cycle. But I really don’t want to think about the crushing disappointment of a bfn.

Cruz86 · 09/02/2022 21:50

Hi @aesgriff, sorry only just seen your message! Mine was 15nmol at 8dpo (in a 10/11 day lp) so sounds like we're both on the lower side 😩 I'm doing another one a few days earlier this cycle to see if that makes a difference. Did they give you any insight into what can be done? The one I had was with my gp in the end and they were pretty useless saying it was a normal result xx