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Do you care what month you conceive in?

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faithfulbird20 · 19/01/2022 20:34

I hear a lot of people saying they don't want September babies or August babies because the either start late or are the youngest in the class. Do people really care or would you just be happy with a baby?

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APerfectSky · 19/01/2022 20:38

At the time I didn't care, I was just concerned about actually conceiving! But now having had 2 (one June, one end of November), I wouldn't choose the end of Nov date, only because bdays are a pain (nothing's open, or is freezing) and it's only 4 weeks before Xmas, so he has pretty much a whole year to wait until his bday, whereas the June child has a nice break halfway through the year.

But that's in hindsight, obviously at the time, I didn't really think about it. I know a lot of teachers have September babies because it works well with maternity leave (got whole of the summer hols at the end of the 9 months before needing to go back to work).

Isonthecase · 19/01/2022 20:46

I specifically aimed for February/March because they're middle of the year so won't find it too easy or too hard, it's light quicker when they're little so less miserable, and the 30 hours childcare kicks in asap so it's much cheaper than an April baby. Unfortunately march 2020 was not the month to aim for so best laid plans and all that...

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faithfulbird20 · 19/01/2022 20:48

@APerfectSky apart from that did the November baby get ill during that cold winter they were born?

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faithfulbird20 · 19/01/2022 20:49

@Isonthecase did u manage to conceive that month?

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Lazypuppy · 19/01/2022 20:52

We avoided months where there are already a lot of family birthdays, and avoided an august baby

StrongerOrWeaker · 19/01/2022 20:54

We didn't want a January or December baby( too close to Christmas) but that was it.

DuesToTheDirt · 19/01/2022 20:54

We gave it no thought to conception dates whatsoever and nearly got a Christmas day baby Shock.

blahblahx · 19/01/2022 20:55

Couldn't face being pregnant in summer so I'm having a March baby. This way I can spend this summer taking him out and socialise more with other mums rather than hibernating in the winter

todaywasanokday · 19/01/2022 20:56

I have a June, August and December baby. Daughter loves having a birthday near Christmas but my August born son hates being one of the youngest at school.

Floralnomad · 19/01/2022 21:00

1 st time we didn’t give it any thought at all , got pregnant straight away and had a January baby . 2 nd time we actually planned because I wanted a May - July baby and had her in June . Fortunately we always conceived more or less immediately .

MrsTophamHat · 19/01/2022 21:08

The first time I was pregnant I had an early Nov due date which I was really happy about from a school perspective (child age for starting and for me as a teacher). After a couple of losses, I stopped caring and ended up with July which has caused me some worry.

My second was born in April. Had I not conceived that month, I probably would have taken a break and aimed for October/ November again.

TagYourIt · 19/01/2022 21:11

I really didn’t mind but my ex is a biker so wanted a summer baby so he could have pictures of baby on the bike etc. we couldn’t of got further from a summer baby as our son was born Christmas Day 2019Xmas Smile

BiscuitLover3678 · 19/01/2022 21:14

I think a lot of people have a preference but you don’t get much choice haha! I don’t want a summer baby but would love an autumn baby.

November babies are great (I’ve got one!) it’s nice being inside with a newborn when it’s all cold outside. You don’t feel quite so guilty. Also you just buy them extra stuff in the summer anyway. Pretty sure my son gets more presents because kids with summer birthdays people tend to wait until their birthday to get them stuff, whereas mine gets heaps in summer and then birthday and Christmas. Grin

I’m trying for another autumn baby now but hasn’t happened yet!

Christmas and January aren’t great but I won’t stop trying if it hasn’t happened by that date.

newyear1 · 19/01/2022 21:14

I gave it no thought (bar avoiding Christmas) and my first is May. It was only on attending a private school with slightly scary parents that I realised that 75% of the class were born from September to December. There was a strong correlation between those kids and the top maths set and sports teams.

This difference became less pronounced as they went through primary school though. My second was a November birth date although you have a lot of little boys tearing around your house for an inside winter birthday party so you can't have it all...

Minniem2020 · 19/01/2022 21:16

I didn't put any thought into it at all and I have a July, March and I'm due this one in April. July is nice for birthdays as it's the school hols, nice weather so more options on activities. Probably should have planned March better as we have loads of family birthdays Feb/March. In terms of being pregnant the July was a bit harder being so big when it was really hot but then nice getting up for night feeds and not being freezing!

BiscuitLover3678 · 19/01/2022 21:18

Summer worries me for SIDS and keeping them cool. 2-4 months is most vulnerable age so actually autumn baby is best in that sense! As they’ll be the oldest they can be by summer.

Lemongrass9 · 19/01/2022 21:18

The only month I wanted to avoid having baby was September as that’s often the busiest time of year for maternity wards.

Obviously I ended up actually having a September baby as I got pregnant the month we weren’t trying but to be honest I was just grateful to be having a baby when I found out I was pregnant.

I was right about the busy thing though as when I was in labour I had to wait over an hour in a tiny room with no pain relief before being examined - I was 7cm. Can’t fault the care I received at all, they were doing all they could and I ended up having a very positive birth overall but that situation was exactly what I was hoping to avoid.

BiscuitLover3678 · 19/01/2022 21:21

@Lemongrass9

The only month I wanted to avoid having baby was September as that’s often the busiest time of year for maternity wards.

Obviously I ended up actually having a September baby as I got pregnant the month we weren’t trying but to be honest I was just grateful to be having a baby when I found out I was pregnant.

I was right about the busy thing though as when I was in labour I had to wait over an hour in a tiny room with no pain relief before being examined - I was 7cm. Can’t fault the care I received at all, they were doing all they could and I ended up having a very positive birth overall but that situation was exactly what I was hoping to avoid.

If it helps, when I had mine in November they said it was the business month and those coming in after me were being diverted to other hospitals 🤦🏻‍♀️ Apparently it’s busy all year but Christmas is the quietest!
BoatisBoatShirley · 19/01/2022 21:25

Initially I was aiming to had #2 some time between September - December so that they would be one of the older ones in the class. In the end it took us ages though so I was just delighted to finally get pregnant, and perfectly happy with my summer baby.

I now have one winter child and one summer one. The winter one benefits from being one of the older ones in the class, but birthday close to Christmas is a pain. The summer one will always be the baby of the class but has their presents nicely spaced out throughout the year.

There’s pros & cons to everything, just enjoy your baby whenever they arrive.

MotherOfCrocodiles · 19/01/2022 21:25

I wanted spring babies and got them. Lovely newborn period, lovely birthday weAther, not too close to Christmas. If I hadn't conceived quickly I would obviously have been ok with summer or autumn babies though!

saywhatwhatnow · 19/01/2022 21:27

After 6 years of infertility I literally couldn't have cared less what month he was born in.

Hairyfriend · 19/01/2022 21:27

I used to avoid conceiving if it meant a Dec baby. After 10yrs TTC, 3 losses, 2 rounds of IVF and no cause for sub fertility found, every month TTC is precious.

Yummymummy2020 · 19/01/2022 21:30

I didn’t think about it with mine, I was under the impression also that we would get pregnant immediately as I had been trying to prevent it for all my younger years and assumed it was easy to happen. No such luck😂 so I think in reality for many it would be hard to plan because it might not happen to your own diary preferences!

CheesecakeHeaven · 19/01/2022 21:30

Ideally I never wanted an August or December baby but after taking a while to conceive and then a miscarriage I just wanted a baby. Just gave birth two days before Christmas.

Runnerduck34 · 19/01/2022 21:34

Didnt think about it at the time but DS was at a definite disadvantage being a July baby.
DD was September she had a big advantage education wise, maybe could have gone sooner but she loved nursery so not really an issue.
Other DD is Easter and that was just about right.
Ultimately even if you do think about it and try and plan still no guarantees when you will conceive unless you stop trying if birthday will fall in July/August and tbf a friend who is a teacher did exactly that!!