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Do you care what month you conceive in?

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faithfulbird20 · 19/01/2022 20:34

I hear a lot of people saying they don't want September babies or August babies because the either start late or are the youngest in the class. Do people really care or would you just be happy with a baby?

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ladygindiva · 19/01/2022 21:38

@APerfectSky

At the time I didn't care, I was just concerned about actually conceiving! But now having had 2 (one June, one end of November), I wouldn't choose the end of Nov date, only because bdays are a pain (nothing's open, or is freezing) and it's only 4 weeks before Xmas, so he has pretty much a whole year to wait until his bday, whereas the June child has a nice break halfway through the year.

But that's in hindsight, obviously at the time, I didn't really think about it. I know a lot of teachers have September babies because it works well with maternity leave (got whole of the summer hols at the end of the 9 months before needing to go back to work).

I agree. Dc2 and 3, twins, were born early December. The long wintery rainy dark days with newborns didn't help my pnd, those first 3 months were hard. Plus its always shit weather for their birthday. Dc 1 was late May, so at the start of summer, and it was a good summer that year. Completely different being able to get out in the sunshine every day with a newborn. If I was trying for a 4th ( I'm not) I would be trying to engineer it for April to June time.

Mamascoven · 19/01/2022 21:40

I have June , July , December & due this March. June pregnancy was the best weather wise. July far too hot as was a heatwave in 2014. Dont really notice that my Son born in July is youngest in the class, he definitely isn't behind everyone else. My dd was born December 28th and that wasnt as stressful as I imagined although not ideal having a birthday 3 days after Christmas.. I suppose I will see how it is having a baby in March!

canbage · 19/01/2022 21:41

Didn't put any thought into it but could have planned it as I've been lucky enough to conceive all my dc the first time.

MsSquiz · 19/01/2022 21:42

When we were TTC DD1, it was a running joke that we wanted to avoid a December baby as all 3 of our nephews and niece have birthdays within 10 days before Christmas! It was even joked that I would make DH sleep in the spare room so we weren't tempted. Of course DD was due 19th December and arrived on the 18th!

With DD2 I wasn't sure we would conceive at all so hadn't considered "avoiding" certain times, and she is due in April 2022

OnceUponAThread · 19/01/2022 21:42

I'm due July.

If I could choose, it's not the month I'd go for. Worried about them being young in school and therefore behind and also about being pregnant when it's so hot and keeping them cool in summer months when born.

But my first pregnancy was (by chance) due in Autumn which I think is ideal. sadly I miscarried.

With all the fear about whether it would happen again, it didn't cross my mind to try and time it.

AnAnnouncement · 19/01/2022 21:52

God, no. Couldn't have cared less - plus, babies seem to arrive on their own schedules anyway. Being 'due' in March won't stop a baby being born in January if that's how things pan out and I wasn't going to worry about something so totally out of my control.

I also think that because it took a year each time for me to get pregnant anyway, by the time it happened I was just so thrilled that it didn't occur to me to care when the baby would be born - I was just very glad to be pregnant at all.

TheCraicDealer · 19/01/2022 22:00

I was pleased with DD being due in September, I love autumn and my DT, DMum and DNeice all have birthdays around then so it felt like it was continuing a theme we have going. Obviously her being one of the eldest in the school year is nice, but she's too little to see the benefit of that now. It wasn't deliberate, I just conceived shortly after we started trying after our last-hurrah holiday.

With TTC no.2 I've had a MMC, a chemical and an ectopic since April 2020. TBH I couldn't care less now about due dates. If I was told I was having an ELCS on Christmas Day I'd be ecstatic it was even a possibility.

BritInAus · 19/01/2022 22:08

@saywhatwhatnow

After 6 years of infertility I literally couldn't have cared less what month he was born in.

Yes, this!!!!

Trinacham · 19/01/2022 22:10

Purposefully wanted to avoid a christmas/December baby, mainly for baby's sake. We were aiming for a February baby at the very earliest, ideally would've liked May sort of time. We'll we cocieved first try, which we didn't think would work.. so I'm due 29th Jan! 🤭

mrsnw · 19/01/2022 22:13

I gave it no thought and ended up with an early December baby and an early January baby. I have two birthdays and Christmas within four weeks. I wouldn't recommend it!

Rno3gfr · 19/01/2022 22:13

My child was born mid December. If possible I’d like another in the spring/summer. I can’t handle birthdays too close to Christmas. Too much planning.

DramaAlpaca · 19/01/2022 22:15

I didn't care wirh my first two DC. It took ages to conceive the first and I caught immediately with the second so I was just happy it had happened.

I didn't really want a summer baby with DC3 so after three months of trying we took a break for October and November. A September baby felt like a good plan, I conceived in late December and got my September baby.

I know how lucky I was to be able to in some way plan it.

PrincessSpanky · 19/01/2022 22:16

No thought to which month. Doesn't matter to us.

thenewduchessoflapland · 19/01/2022 22:16

We didn't really plan this but 3 of 4 of children had due dates all in the same month with 2 of them having the same due date and the other one having a due date that as exactly a week before them so it looks like I was good at conceiving in the same week of the year 😂😂😂

GiantSpider · 19/01/2022 22:17

I aimed for (and got!) autumn babies, because of the educational advantage.

Yutes · 19/01/2022 22:19

I did care initially, as I didn’t really want a January baby.
But then I had a miscarriage so now I just want to be able to get pregnant and stay pregnant.

MondeoFan · 19/01/2022 22:20

No thought regarding it and as a consequence i ended up with both a January baby and an August baby. The January baby was meant to be December though.

MrsTimRiggins · 20/01/2022 08:35

Ha, when we started trying for our son, we wanted autumn so knowing it probably wouldn’t happen immediately the earliest we could’ve been due would’ve been August. We had our boy in November… the following year, conceived on the verge of starting fertility treatments!
Ideal time of year. My husband works a job that means he isn’t around much (at all!) in the summer months so it meant he was around for me and DS.
We’ll probably start trying for DC2 similar time of year… but when we actually end up being due will be anyone’s guess! It’s not that easy to plan.

Salamander91 · 20/01/2022 08:43

We've been trying for number 4 for 2.5 years now so I really don't care about a due date at this point as long as I get pregnant lol but my other three childrens birthdays are jan and march and obviously with christmas in December it makes for a few expensive months so a summer baby would be ideal just for spreading costs a little bit.

TheBirdintheCave · 20/01/2022 08:44

I cared when we started TTC but after six months it no longer bothered me, I just wanted a baby.

Re the question about November babies getting sick. My son was born November 2020 and didn't catch his first cold until he went to his childminders in September 2021.

ttcstinks · 20/01/2022 08:47

If I could choose I would definitely want a baby not born in summer or December.

I used to avoid sex in the months where it would fall like that.

However now two years into TTC and miscarriages I couldn't give a shit when it's born. It could be Christmas Day, I just want to have the baby!

So, my point is - these things are irrelevant really - having a baby can be so difficult for some that the month of conception is the last worry on my mind

kirinm · 20/01/2022 09:31

I think being able to choose the month is basically a massively fortunate position to be in. Plenty of people will take any month if it means managing to conceive.

I had a baby due in September but born very very late august. She will be the youngest in her school year but do I regret having her or her having an august birthday? Nope.

Nillynally · 20/01/2022 13:27

Actively avoided TTC the month that would have resulted in a Christmas baby but if it had taken us longer then we wouldn't have been picky.

Whereland · 20/01/2022 13:29

I didn't care less I just wanted to conceive. The Dec 28th birthday my DS ended up with is less than ideal though 😂

cafedesreves · 20/01/2022 13:44

I planned for September! Perfect for teacher as you can get 12 months maternity for the price of 10 and being the oldest at school can help them academically.

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