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Do you care what month you conceive in?

114 replies

faithfulbird20 · 19/01/2022 20:34

I hear a lot of people saying they don't want September babies or August babies because the either start late or are the youngest in the class. Do people really care or would you just be happy with a baby?

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Yebbie · 20/01/2022 13:55

July and August babies here.. I do hope it isn't too hard school wise for them

Chlo1995 · 20/01/2022 13:58

I just never wanted to be heavily pregnant in the summer😂 but now it’s taking so long to actually get pregnant, I’ll be happy with anything😂😂

Isonthecase · 20/01/2022 13:58

@faithfulbird20 yes, born a week in to lockdown which was not ideal but thank goodness before that heatwave!!

Footnote · 20/01/2022 14:02

As any parent of a premie will tell you, you can influence the due date you will be given at the start of the pregnancy, but you can’t necessarily influence the date the baby actually arrives. My two had the same due date, but not the same birthday month.

Dubgirl1212 · 20/01/2022 14:06

I always wanted a Spring early Summer babies I have children born in March, May and two in late January that were due early February. Avoided September to December as weather is too damp and generally don't like Autumn Hmm

notacooldad · 20/01/2022 14:11

No i didnt.
Of course you can think there's an optimum month but knowing g how hard it is for some people to conceive and some never actually manage it I am very happy for anything!
As it was I had an end of August one and an end of September one.
As it happens, they were fine did well at school and I've had no worries about them. They are young adults now and everything is good.

Bakewelltart987 · 20/01/2022 14:14

At the time I didn't give it a thought but then we weren't trying.my dd is in (late August baby) school now. Most of the children are now 7 she's 6 some of them turning 7 literally 2 weeks after she was 6 so if I was to try for more I would deffo think about this.

Glitterygreen · 20/01/2022 14:15

Yes, really wanted to avoid Dec/Jan due to Christmas and multiple existing family birthdays.

May/June/July would be ideal for us I think if it was a case of being able to choose :)

TurquoiseDress · 20/01/2022 14:16

I never gave it a second thought with both my babies!

Genuinely would not have 'planned' to avoid certain months of the year for various reasons

Twizbe · 20/01/2022 14:18

When starting TTC I didn't want an august baby or a January baby... after several years of trying I stopped caring and got a January baby.

I liked having a baby in January so much that I did it again 2 years later (but she clung on until February)

fruitsaladyummyummy · 20/01/2022 14:26

Wanted to actively avoid a December baby, my dad has a December birthday and hates it, didn't want a baby close to Christmas. 1st was born in October. 2nd was a surprise and was due on Christmas Day, came a little early but I still feel a little pang of guilt about birthday parties etc when he gets to school.

JanuaryPinks · 20/01/2022 14:29

First baby didn’t give it much thought and ended up with May which was nice - good weather but not too hot for a few months. Second baby we wanted around a 2 year gap but by the time we were ready it would have meant a June/July/august baby so we held off to avoid the summer to avoid them being youngest in the year. Started trying for a sept baby and it took 2 cycles so was born early Nov.

In hindsight it was a horrible time to have a baby - I feel like the first 5 months of her life were in the dark (not helped by lockdown!).

If I was doing it again I would choose Feb/March - middle of the school year and you get an extra term of 30 hours funding as compared to April/May babies, plus you’re not heavily pregnant in the summer, and don’t have the newborn days in the depths of winter. Perfect!

Tdcp · 20/01/2022 14:30

I don't want a september or later baby because I already have a DD, nephew, 2nieces, dp, sil, 2 brothers, nan, grandad all with September / October and December birthdays so it's expensive just before xmas😂 but that's literally my only reason.

Bellesjp · 20/01/2022 14:31

Honestly ttc is so hard anyway, I would be grateful whatever month my baby would be born in

Goldbar · 20/01/2022 14:52

Didn't think about it for DC1.

After TTC DC2 for 2 years, one MC and no luck, I'd take any month.

Glitterspy · 20/01/2022 14:55

We gave it no thoughts at all and have had 2 winter babies. Apart from having indoor parties (which are always fine btw) there’s no issue at all, one is very close to Christmas and that doesn’t bother them or us.

I have a very “organised” (narcissistic) family member who purposefully planned her firstborn to be as close to the start of the school year as possible in order to cream the supposed “advantages” of being the biggest and oldest in the year. The child is loud, obnoxious and a real prig, and not noticeably cleverer or more advanced than her younger peers. Whether that’s down to birth timing or the arrogance of knowing she has such “advantages” I don’t know.

roarfeckingroarr · 20/01/2022 14:56

Yup, wanted an autumn baby and DS arrived mid October. My best friend did similar and has a September baby. We want them to be one of the older kids in the class, hoping it might give a bit of an advantage, that will then increase their confidence and give them the best start that way. There's obviously no guarantees and I wouldn't put off ttc to wait for an ideal month.

rhowton · 20/01/2022 15:01

I purposely waited for my December period to finish before I tried to conceive and I have a September baby. With my second, I tried in August thinking a June baby would be nice and DD came a few days early so ended up being a May baby. I actively didn't want a July/August/Nov/Dec/Jan baby and I was luckily enough to fall pregnant first time with each.

I fully understand that for some women it doesn't happen this way.

miltonj · 20/01/2022 15:01

I have a September born and my next is due in august. I can't imagine it mattering much in the grand scheme of things.

EgSk · 20/01/2022 15:01

Before trying to conceive I cared . I had plans to avoid having a December baby. However after a miscarriage I was so heartbroken that I didn’t care when baby was born and kept trying every month regardless.

HopingForMyRainbowBaby · 20/01/2022 15:10

Couldn't give a hoot what month I conceived in. I'd just be happy to fall Pregnant and stay Pregnant

SquigglePigs · 20/01/2022 15:13

I didn't want an August baby but we'd been trying for long enough that when it came to the point where we'd have had to stop trying for a month or so to avoid it I decided I didn't care so much after all. As it is I have a December baby. I was also aware that even if you plan, baby can have other ideas (friends with babies 1-3 months early) so it's not always up to you anyway.

Katela18 · 20/01/2022 15:31

I planned for a spring baby as my brother has a christmas birthday and always hated it.

I was due early March, baby arrived Dec 28th. Unfortunately you can't always plan even if you think you have!

JulesRimetStillGleaming · 20/01/2022 15:33

I've been trying to conceive for years now so whilst I did think about it initially, now just having a baby at any time would be amazing and no longer expected/ taken for granted.

JanuaryPinks · 20/01/2022 15:48

@Glitterspy

We gave it no thoughts at all and have had 2 winter babies. Apart from having indoor parties (which are always fine btw) there’s no issue at all, one is very close to Christmas and that doesn’t bother them or us.

I have a very “organised” (narcissistic) family member who purposefully planned her firstborn to be as close to the start of the school year as possible in order to cream the supposed “advantages” of being the biggest and oldest in the year. The child is loud, obnoxious and a real prig, and not noticeably cleverer or more advanced than her younger peers. Whether that’s down to birth timing or the arrogance of knowing she has such “advantages” I don’t know.

Sounds like you don’t like your family member or her child, but either way birth date is completely irrelevant. Being older doesn’t make you a dick.

It’s a fact though that, statistically speaking, being older in the school year confers an advantage which persists throughout the school years. There’s nothing inherently wrong with wanting that advantage for your child if it’s something you can control. And no better or worse than choosing to avoid Christmas or a month when lots of people in the family have birthdays.