Do you care what month you conceive in?

[faithfulbird20]

I hear a lot of people saying they don't want September babies or August babies because the either start late or are the youngest in the class. Do people really care or would you just be happy with a baby?

My DH is a Christmas Day baby and loves it, has always done, but I guess others may feel differently. I wouldn't be against a December baby but it's a bloody expensive month as it is so wouldn't be my first choice!

December is actually quite a nice time to have a birthday as everyone is feeling festive and up for a celebration...far better than January in that respect!

But both my SCs have birthdays within 2 weeks of Christmas and it is just so, so hard to afford alongside their Christmas presents and everybody else's. Also means they get a load of gifts within a couple of weeks and then nothing for the rest of the year, which is a bit rubbish.

I suppose for school dates it depends where you live. In Scotland the year group runs from 1st March to 28/29 Feb. So 1st March babies are the oldest and Feb babies are the youngest.

Dec/Jan/Feb can automatically defer entry to P1 and keep their nursery place. Sep/Oct/Nov babies have to apply to defer and may lose their nursery place.

I didn't mind the month, just went with the flow.

We have discussed this and will try for a baby that is born Q4 of the year due to academic reasons (hope it will be an advantage!) but we fully appreciate that a baby at any time is a blessing

I gave it no thought with DC 1. Then going to my ante natal class a lot of people were hoping their babies were late. I was a bit about that until they said it was because they wanted them to be September babies and thus oldest in the school year. I had never even thought of this. (Most didn't get their wish so we all have August babies)
Having a summer birthday is great in some respects - outdoor parties, no school etc it often means DD can't celebrate with friends because people are away on holiday.
DS had autumn birthday and I think he would have really struggled starting school at the same age DD was, but obviously all children are different. DD hasn't had any problems at school, but I'm aware as she gets older she'll be last to learn to drive, legally go to pubs/clubs etc.

When we started out on this journey I was thinking I’d avoid a July/August birthdate.

Now that conception is proving much more elusive than we thought, we just want a child and wouldn’t care when their birthday was.

Being pregnant in a uk heatwave (30 degrees for most of the last month of pregnancy) was not ideal but on the plus side I had about 4 outfits on rotation that dried about 10 minutes after hanging them on the line.

It’s taking us long this time. We do have a preference and I’m not sure what I’ll do in a few months as really don’t want an early Jan baby. But I doubt I’ll keep waiting considering it hasn’t happened yet!

Don't want November - February.

Too many things going on at that time without adding another birthday

I’m pretty regular so worked out my next due dates (if fall pregnant) are basically big family birthday, just before Christmas, crappy point in Jan. Not ideal!

Avoided December at all costs, anybody I know with a birthday round then absolutely hates it.

I didn’t give it any thought with my two children but having one winter (Dec) and one late spring (April) I much preferred the winter baby for breastfeeding/all the carrying... breastfeeding and winding DS when it was a very hot and sunny May/June was HORRIFIC and I spent most of my time in just my knickers in front of a fan whilst trying to get him to nap

I was also an August baby and in the top set for everything at school and absolutely loved having my birthday in the summer holidays. The only annoyance was the year I was waiting to turn 18 but it didn't really matter too much.

I had an august baby and this time I avoided ttc as wanted to avoid it again simply because I suffered horrendously with the heat but also on the postnatal ward as it was boiling and I was severely dehydrated and all my iv lines kept coming out as I was drenched in sweat and the tape wouldn’t hold etc it was hell

@StampOnTheGround

I was also an August baby and in the top set for everything at school and absolutely loved having my birthday in the summer holidays. The only annoyance was the year I was waiting to turn 18 but it didn't really matter too much.

Yes, 2 of my best friends are July & August and were always in the top set for everything. I am September and there was never a difference between us at all, except they had to wait to drive!