TTC Thread 14 ... Santa knows what we want for Christmas

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Here we go! Thread 14 for the nicest bunch of women on Mumsnet

Thread 13 was very joyful and very painful for me, but what it has shown me is that even old warhorses like me can get lucky, so there's no excuse for all you nubile young honies not to deliver the goods! Come on now, Mama Hester expects you to do your duty by your fellow ttc-ers

Get ready now, 1 - 2 - 3, GO!!!

Well a bit of bad news for me....
Had a meeting with GP and all my tests results... she now thinks it is pre-menopause.... but she is writing to consultant gynae to see if there is more we can do/discover.
She did say that I coud still ovulate but who knows when.
She also said that pre-menopause is still quite mysterious/misundersood. I mean I just turned 37 !

On the positive I have 2 lovely kids and until recently that's all that I wanted so really should not feel bad. I am very lucky !

I had someone do a womb massage on me this AM (it can help in some cases)... it will be intersting if it brings results... quite interestingly I had a reflexology treatment later on and the reflexologist found my uterus very very different/unusual and I hadn't told her about the womb massage .I told her afterwards.... weird !

Sorry to hear your news velcrobott.
Thanks for the info jeddah.

sorry about your news Velcrobott.

right then, evening ladies,

here goes,

Hula/marinda sorry about AF ((hugs)) heres to next month, on the + side, at least u can now get completely wasted at xmas/new years!

Hester - OMG! how do u know ur OV? got everything crossed for you, and we're all hear for u either way, but it would be nice to hear a BFP from u shortly!

Tania - Could you not bleed & bd or is that not ur thing as it were (it's not mine either but in the event of OV being during this peroid?)

Welcome to Cockenzie, Yingers, Nasa and greenbug. hope you have a strong stomach! the topics here can be quite rude somethings witht eh cervix and CM!

Jeddah - Don't be too disheartened hon if u don't get the big 'O' as it were, they say for some women it doesn't happen for the first few months with persona, Fingers crossed thou incase. Oh and it's not nice to take a shot gun to the drs with u he he he, thou if he has any tips on concieving v v quickly please let us know!

think that's about it, this thread moves so fast these days.

Oh and Hiya Tania. hope DS has calmed down after his b/d and the weather is not too hot for you

velcobott - bit odd that isn't it, but again fingers crossed for u.

have we got any more testers coming up soon?

Hi Nasa and Hula, know how you feel, I'm waiting for AF and have symptons and also wish she would get on with it so I can be relaesed from my misery ! Everything is *t at the moment as my DS is poorly still with virus from hell and too ill to go to nursery so keep having to get granny to look after him ! At least if AF arrived, I could think new month new challenge - who an I kidding! Anyway enough of my misery hugs to everyone!

marinda. Hope your DS gets better soon.

hello everyone,

what does your dh/dp think about baby sex? I think my poor dh dreads it! All in a good cause so I don't mind!

Managed so far to not really let on to DH when the "right" time is, whilst also trying to make sure that we do BD around the right time more than normal.

oooh DH is (was) enjoying the extra bd! lol, I told him when it was my days etc... as he double checked everything! lol, he did make a comment once about me only wanting him for his spearm, but it was said jokingly so he's ok.

my poor dh, even when he comes back late from work and is tired, I am like ' ready for baby sex', yes very sexy

He thinks its great, but we haven't been trying for all that long. He doesn't want anything to do with anything that monitors ovulation yet, as he feels that would turn him into a baby machine, but if we have no luck after awhile, then he is open to trying that. That really frustrates me, though, as I was told that I would have difficulty TTC long ago, but on the other hand DS was concieved while I was on birth control. He thinks that we will have no problems, and I am left wondering if that is so, or is DS my "miracle" baby.

CM, could you do it discreetly? Eg register on fertility friend and monitor your temperature (OK, if he doesn't get up before you this could be a little tricky), then just make sure you get him in the mood at the right time of the month? Not used OPK sticks, but again I think you could monitor discreetly without being in his face about it being the "right time". Just a thought.

On second thoughts maybe you would feel it was dishonest...think before you post, Miaou

is it just me, or do men last a lot long when they know your ovulating. my dh is really finding it difficult.... lol i shouldnt laugh but we are finding it hard to do it and concentrate and end up laughing. it is only first month TTC...

sorry to but into conversation. i ovulated sat i think by my working out. so dh knows its past and guess what!!! hes as horny as ever today.... typical male right??

Yingers74: my dh dreads it too! So much pressure!

kizzy, DH seems to be able to 'hit the spot' as it were when he know's i'm OV, i think he uses the term 'it's like knocking at the door!) to be crude, but at least it's in the right area!

Miaou. If he wasn't such a nice, reasonable guy, that is exactly what I might do, but since he's so nice about it . . .

I just worry it will take a long time and by then he will change his mind. He has no problems using one later if we can't concieve. Maybe what I need to do is go back to my ob/gyn and see what she has to say about my situation and if she has any advice. In fact, I'll go call now.

Kizzy, your post has made me laugh.

lmao. i know what can i do?

we are having trouble finding time as i work nights. so the minute hes home i start to get fruity. he is reading me like a book. i have to be at work for 9pm. younger son (7) not in bed till 7.30... 8pm when finally asleep. by then husband is sitting on seatee will full belly of food. i cant win.

i hope im on days next month!!

what am im i on about hopefully i will be preganant this time in two weeks. i wont be sad and write the excatly time and mins till i test.

lmao

I know what you mean about DH and being tired. This time of year he works 12+ hours a day and is very tired. However he only works about 2 min from home, and comes home for lunch. Fortunately, it is DS naptime, so I make sure lunch is ready when he comes home, so he has time to do other things during lunch. or should it be ?

LUCKY FOR YOU!

WE HAVE FAMILY BUISNESS AND HE STILL DOESNT COME HOME FOR LUNCH. I HAVE EVEN OFFERED ALL SORTS OF STUFF LADIES SHOULDNT OFFER UNLESS HAVING TWO BOTTLES OF WINE, AND STILL NO JOY.

I THINK I AM MAKING THE WRONG DECISION IN INVOLVING HIM IN THE OVULATION AND TIMING. IF NOT POSTIVE IN 1 1/2 WEEKS THEN I AINT GONA TELL HIM AND TRY TO MAKE IT LESS OVBIOUS. WHAT YOU RECKON???

anything's worth a shot kizzy.

well i thinks thats what im gonna do?

It wouldn't hurt to try.