TTC Thread 14 ... Santa knows what we want for Christmas

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Here we go! Thread 14 for the nicest bunch of women on Mumsnet

Thread 13 was very joyful and very painful for me, but what it has shown me is that even old warhorses like me can get lucky, so there's no excuse for all you nubile young honies not to deliver the goods! Come on now, Mama Hester expects you to do your duty by your fellow ttc-ers

Get ready now, 1 - 2 - 3, GO!!!

I would rather be cold. The only things i like about summer is DS can play outside (if its not too hot) the BBQ's and drinks with friends on a warm summer night thats what we did tonight and ds just played outside till 10pm just loved it. Just hate it when its too hot to go outside cause you burn to a crisp and there is no releaf from the heat eg NO BLOODY AIRCON!!!
Jeddah you really have done everything havent you iam soo envious I have never traveled havent even been to Queensland What aussie hasnt been to QLD
Moschops pls dont feel lonley as jed said we are here

Where is everyone its nearly 12:30am here iam up watching a late night movie and keep popping in to see if anyone is about
Just had a big cry have only just realized that this will be my first xmas without my grandfather (whom was more like my father) Just really feel for my grandmother cant even imagine what she will be going through on xmas day.
Sorry for the sad note just needed to talk to someone about it.

Hi Tania, I lost my grandad last November and my Nanna this May. I miss them both very much, so I understand how you feel.

hey Tania. have a hug (((tania)))

i know how you feel. my grandad died 13 years ago and sometimes i still cry. the smallest thing will set me off, and i suddenly feel like i need him here. to be honest one of the worst christmases i had without him was my first one with dp when i suddenly really understood what my grandmother had lost.

hope it comforts you to know that right at this very moment in time, all the way on the other side of the world i am thinking of you xx

i am keeping myself occupied by tidying. doing all those niggly jobs that i never do (you know, the laundry right at the bottom that never gets done!!)

hug for you too becki ((becki))

Thanks BeckiF and moschops i must be really tired iam really having a good cry tonight been watching Hope Floats and her mum has just died and now iam balling. feel so silly.

hi all

(((hugs))) to all feeling low and especially to your DP moschops. It's so hard when people just don't think about what they're saying. I've heard sooo many people say "oh, I don't really know how it happened, it was a complete surprise" that I just don't believe them anymore. How cynical is that?

fingers crossed for you becki - sounds like the most positive news you've had for a while. I really hope there's more good news for you soon.

don't envy you all that DIY munnzie! We had a bit of a late night and one too many bottles of wine so I'm off for a nap whilst DS is sleeping. DH agreed this morning that we will aim to bd every day for the next 10 days so I need to get some rest!

thanks for the babydust moschops.

((((tania)))) thinking of you. I bawl my eyes out every time I watch a film where someone dies Christmas is such a wonderful time but such a difficult time as it is bursting with reminders of people you love but can't be with. Will you be with your grandmother?

BeckiF thinking of you it must be hard coming up to the one yr mark my grandfather past in March he was very sick but never really thought that he would pass i miss him so much.

Thanks RudyDudy, Yes we will be having lunch together.
we lived with my grandparents when i was 2 till about 9 when my mum left my dad and i never saw my dad since so my grandfather was my dad iykwim.

Tania - I'm glad that you will be together to support each other through what will undoubtedly be such a difficult time. My thoughts are with you.

Thanks for your thoughts re. my possibility, I am aware that there is a very teeny-weeny chance, but there IS a chance, so I'll cling to that until af turns up to slap me in the face.

Christmas is always a time for relection and for missing those that have gone before us. Remember them with love in your heart and a smile on your face, our tears are for our own pain and feeling of loss. I like to project the feeling that although I miss those departed I am happy to think of them in a happy and wonderful place.

Take heart all xxx

Tania we have similar backgrounds on that one. my dad left when i was a baby and mum and i moved back in with grandma and grandad, lived with them till i was three. grandad was always softer with me than any of the other grandchildren, and my grandma still calls me her special one.

never seen my dad since, but as far as i'm concerned my dad is the man my mum married when i was four.........

Moschops iam glad you got to have a daddy
Think its time for me to go to bed iam really tired and if i dont go to bed soon i will run out of tears its 1:12am here i must be nuts ds will wake me a 7am.
Good night girls and thanks for being here for me when i needed a good sook. xx

night night Tania.......sweet dreams..xx

cd 24 here. HPK says BFN.

Stupid game.

Still, at least I'll be able to eat a christmas meal without throwing it up. Although we have planned a quiet xmas because we thought I might be pg.

Do you tell your DH's about early HPTs? I don't because I feel like I don't want him to be going mad as well...

afternoon all, we'll i'm having a quick cuppa and though i'd stop in. after all if I don't do the DIY to won't get done! lol.

((hugs tania and moschops)) thinking of both of you. Tania - we're all here to ahve a good weep to each other don't worry about it hon, we all get down. the key is picking urself back up, dusting down and keeping busy. (hugs)

((hugs)) morningpaper as well, sorry about the BFN, until AF shows thou, it could well just be too early for testing. (rays of hope flickers thru)

morningpaper so sorry to hear about af!!!! still, maybe too early??????

No I don't always tell dh about hpt(when you get to 6 in one week!!!!!!! you feel a bit silly....well I think the word is despirate not silly.

(((((HUGS))))) To all of you who have lost. My dad died years ago....but we weren't close...its funny though cos sometimes I do think of him.

Just got back from the village school fate.....with the mother-in-law.........won a big teddy by guessing his name!

Becki where in Liverpool are you (hope you don't mind me asking)its just that, I was born there!

Its very quiet here
I'm off for a bath we are out at a dinner party tonight. Have a good night everyone

mp, i don't tell dh cos it'd just piss him off. I'll let him know if/when I get a bfp, tho' seems a long way off now. started off this ttc buisiness full of confidence & bravado, but now 8 or so days late, no af only bfn. If af doesn't start in next day or 2 it will delay by at least couple of months being able to start using persona, which I will not be pleased about. there is no way I could discuss this dh - that's what you lot are here for!

what was his name btw jeddah?

Francis

Hi everyone, sorry I haven't been around for a while, I've been in the boring first 2 weeks of my cycle and trying not to think about ttc obsessively! no doubt you'll hear more from me over the next 2 weeks! Congratulations to the BFPS!! Thank goodness we have some, it went quiet for so long. Great news.

Ernest, I'm the same, I establish from dh whether he wants another one, and then it is my little project. I dont tell him when we should be bding, don't tell him when I test, don't tell him about af... just tell him when I get a bfp! Less stressful that way I think, and less pressure on everyone. And avoids the silly questions I'd get resulting from his complete lack of understanding of biology (along the "don't you get af when you are pregnant then?" lines)

Not too fussed about getting pg this week as I think end august is the worst time - feeling fat and hot and knackered through the summer, can't go abroad in the summer holidays, have a baby who is the youngest in his class, can't be fully engaged for the others at the beginning of their school year, etc etc etc. Can you tell I've done that once already?! End Sept would be MUCH nicer. So feeling pretty relaxed about it all this month!
Ernest, I'm sure we'll both fall with no 4 at the same time, that would be fun

mp - I tell DH all about it, after all y should he not suffer the hormonal things and the can't eat anything or drink anything cos AF is due the day later. (besides he's my double checker as it were) for teh two lines on the OV kits. He's brilliant at it all with the BFN's i've had he's been really supportive, and bought me big bars of Dairy milk! lol. Now overseas he still gets to hear about all of it! he he. (might well ba only this time thou as it's our first, so i'm making the most of including him with everything! lol.

Jeddah - Congrats on the teddy

Hi Jeddah - at the moment we live near to Knowsley.

Morning all. Feel better today
Hope you are all having a great weekend. XX